An opinion on older women who try too hard?

THFC1

Hi girls,
My name is Sarah, i'm 28 and i work in Penny's in a well-know shopping centre in Dublin which shall remain nameless.

My question is why do some older women try too hard to look 'sexy'?. There's two women who live in the same area i do, they frequent Penny's every Friday or Saturday and they always look the same?

The first woman, a neighbour of mine, is about 45, quite busty, but she has men leering at her all of the time. Her hair is dyed redddish, she goes for the black heels, tight black trousers and tops that show all clevage on display.

The second woman, is about 50, not great looking, but again quite busty (they look fake), she again wears tight trousers, and again goes for low-cut tops. Men drool all over her in Pennys also.

My questions are...what do you think of women like this? And, if you are inclined to dress this way, are you really craving attention?:o

Thanks.;)

Pyr0

Seems to me that they're trying to hold on to the past years and make the most of what they've got (or haven't, which ever way you look at it).

brianthebard

Maybe they weren't able to dress like that when they were young and want to enjoy themselves now? You could always ask them? :P

kizzyr

Their age really shouldn't influence your opinion on this matter. Whether they were 80 or 18 and letting it all hang out people will look at them. If they want to wear those clothes, feel comfortable wearing them and like the attention they get who are they harming?

Dudess

THFC1 wrote: »

Hi girls,
My name is Sarah, i'm 28 and i work in Penny's in a well-know shopping centre in Dublin which shall remain nameless.

My question is why do some older women try too hard to look 'sexy'?. There's two women who live in the same area i do, they frequent Penny's every Friday or Saturday and they always look the same?

The first woman, a neighbour of mine, is about 45, quite busty, but she has men leering at her all of the time. Her hair is dyed redddish, she goes for the black heels, tight black trousers and tops that show all clevage on display.

The second woman, is about 50, not great looking, but again quite busty (they look fake), she again wears tight trousers, and again goes for low-cut tops. Men drool all over her in Pennys also.

My questions are...what do you think of women like this? And, if you are inclined to dress this way, are you really craving attention?:o

Thanks.;)

They're happy, they're obviously looking good to some people - what's the issue here? Oh yeah, their age... what difference does the year they were born/number of years they're alive make? Surely they can dress how they want to dress and not have to dress in a way others think they should, purely based on their age? Seems like they've got the bods for it so more power to them. It affects nobody else.

What do you propose they should wear?

I find even people - sorry women, it's always just women - in their 40s and 50s who look absolutely fantastic dressed in short skirts or whatever still get judged because they have the "audacity" to do it at their age... usually by other women.
Wow, if they like looking good and they DO look good it's kinda nuts that they shouldn't. And attention seeking? Just by looking good?

I bet if ages didn't exist there wouldn't be half as much judging of women's appearance...

fits

Why do you care?

I have clevage. I get comments from people if I were medium-low cut tops.
But they aren't all hanging out. Nowhere near.
As a percentage of the total flesh on show I'm not showing more than others.

I refrain from making negative comments on peoples clothing choices, unless I am directly asked to.

stovelid

They're dressing in a way that they like; it seems to be having the effect that they are looking for, so I would say more power to them.

You may feel differently in 15-20 years when wearing anything other than frumpy gear draws nasty comments from younger women.

And eh what is slutty and attention seeking about reddish hair?

LolaLuv

I agree with the majority--so what? They're comfortable, apparently, they aren't asking you to do the same, let them enjoy themselves and their bodies. Frankly, I hope I still look good enough to rock out with my tits out when I'm in my 50s. Women tear each other down enough, let's get off of this.

KrazeeEyezKilla

Maybe they have a better appreciation of their appearance when they're older and have to try harder than they would in their 20's. I can think of one example of a woman who still wears short skirts and gets funny comments and while I wouldn't say she's that great looking, I've seen much worse looking teenagers.

stovelid

Every guy in the 16-40 age bracket reading the OP is just having dirty, Mrs Robinson thoughts, tbh.

LadyE

Was waiting for your reply dudess, afetr the last thread we had on this.:D

Am now ini dudess way of thinking, women are constantly critisized by women, people should wear what they want, if they look good then why comment?

Oryx

fits wrote: »

Why do you care?

Exactly what i was wondering. If i want to walk through penneys in hotpants and wellington boots its my business. Why are we so obsessed with how everyone else looks?

Quality

OP
I hope when I hit the 40-50 mark that men are still leering at me!!:D

Fair play to them!!

Quality

Quality wrote: »

I hope when I hit the 40-50 mark that men are still leering at me!!:D

Ouh I do pity the teenage sons of MILF's though.

CDfm

Sounds fine to me- a woman who takes care of herself and can still strut is alright:cool:

Quality

Moonbaby wrote: »

Ouh I do pity the teenage sons of MILF's though.

A friend of mine is 37 and she is a granny!!!

We call her the GILF!! She is gorgeous though!!!

CDfm

I cant believe your not sisters- the wan with that worn and haggart and been up all night with the sick baby is my daughter -me Im just back ftrom the Gym:p

St Bill

OP I think that you've got...just too much time on your hands.
They're just women who look after themselves for christsakes.:rolleyes:

CDfm

Come to think of it all women should try harder to please men.

Every Sunday morning they should satisfy yer every need- light you a ciggerette and bring you a crispy bacon sandwich and coffee.And while your relaxin enjoyen that draw a bath pick up yer Sunday paper - lay out yer robe and give ya a rub down.

Make you a nice lunch while ya watch the telly.

NOW THATS TRYING HARD.

Zaph

CDfm wrote: »

Come to think of it all women should try harder to please men.

Every Sunday morning they should satisfy yer every need- light you a ciggerette and bring you a crispy bacon sandwich and coffee.And while your relaxin enjoyen that draw a bath pick up yer Sunday paper - lay out yer robe and give ya a rub down.

Make you a nice lunch while ya watch the telly.

NOW THATS TRYING HARD.

How come you don't post in BGRH? Eh, I mean that's shocking talk and won't be tolerated on this forum.

GirlInterrupted

My mother is in her fifties and still beautiful.

I hope she never feels that she should become old and frumpy before her time, or suffer the harsh criticism of younger women who would prefer her to be 'past it'.

Whatever 'it' is....

CDfm

Amazing how critical -women can be of other women.

Was out with a friend tonite - a lady of a certain age but older than your mother - but she is witty and has scandalous conversation and a filthy laugh.

My date last week was dismal company by comparison.

wickedwino

I think cleavage is great. If you've got it flaunt it!! Once they are not wearing belly tops with rolls of flesh hanging over the tight trousers they're ok !And PLEASE wear the right underwear!!!:D

Dudess

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

My mother is in her fifties and still beautiful.

I hope she never feels that she should become old and frumpy before her time, or suffer the harsh criticism of younger women who would prefer her to be 'past it'.

Whatever 'it' is....

My mum is 61 and looks amazing.

wickedwino wrote: »

I think cleavage is great. If you've got it flaunt it!! Once they are not wearing belly tops with rolls of flesh hanging over the tight trousers they're ok !And PLEASE wear the right underwear!!!:D

The muffin-top - more of a teenage/early 20s thing.

mickdw

Maybe op should be trying harder and have the men looking at her instead of a 50 year old woman.

Zaph

mickdw wrote: »

Maybe op should be trying harder and have the men looking at her instead of a 50 year old woman.

And maybe you should do your trolling and shít stirring elsewhere.

allabouteve

I don't really understand what the problem is with an older woman looking after herself and celebrating her attractiveness...

I don't understand the language the op uses either - what does 'too hard' mean exactly? And who decides how hard a woman should try? Is there a cutoff point at which women should wear support tights and cardigans to prevent younger women from feeling threatened by mature sexuality?

I hope when I'm fifty I'll be happy enough with my body to enjoy a little flaunting...

The Sweeper

Trying: tailored, boot-cut trousers in a pale colour with a front pleat over a high wedge sandal, with painted, pedicured toes, along with a fitted silk blouse with a plunging neckline.

Trying too hard: skin tight lycra leggings with an obvious g-string, high heel platforms with a transparent heel and sole combo, a translucent leopardskin print top with a plunging neckline over a black wonderbra, visible through the blouse.

This is Penny's of course, international house of high fashion...

Curvy Vixen

+1 on the "fair play to them" comment tbh!

Why shouldn't women over 25 (or under for that fact!) dress and act any way they want as long as they don't hurt anyone? Once you pass 30 your confidence (or lack of caring about others opinions maybe) seems to build and you can multiply that 10 fold when you pass 40 and I'm sure when you pass 50 too!

Go on ladeez!!!

Dragan

I see plenty of young girls/women running around trying to hard, or at least trying the wrong things.

LouOB

They sound like the dont know how to dress for their size - skin tight and boobs hanging out. Other than that its not your fault they have bad dress sense.
I really hope I can be like them - albet better dress sense - at that age. Going shopping every week, able to turn some mens heads

CDfm

Minesajackdaniels wrote: »

Trying: tailored, boot-cut trousers in a pale colour with a front pleat over a high wedge sandal, with painted, pedicured toes, along with a fitted silk blouse with a plunging neckline.

Trying too hard: skin tight lycra leggings with an obvious g-string, high heel platforms with a transparent heel and sole combo, a translucent leopardskin print top with a plunging neckline over a black wonderbra, visible through the blouse.

This is Penny's of course, international house of high fashion...

and you remembered all that and know the label

You need to edit in a big AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH after neckline - it did sound really nice.

Curious on how you are so up on Penneys Haute Couture ?

Nevyn

Different people have different standards and taste in dresses.
What one person loves to go swaning around in others would not dream of putting on.

Dragan

Dragan wrote: »

I see plenty of young girls/women running around trying to hard, or at least trying the wrong things.

Your a boy......your not supposed to notice these thing. It isn't fair.

CDfm

CDfm wrote: »

and you remembered all that and know the label

You need to edit in a big AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH after neckline - it did sound really nice.

Curious on how you are so up on Penneys Haute Couture ?

However she has done she is bang up to date.
That top was my last pennys purchase. I couldn't help it....it was in the one euro bin.

CDfm

Moonbaby wrote: »

Your a boy......your not supposed to notice these thing. It isn't fair.

real boys are supposed to notice.............and thats what makes them nice.

And all special when someone dresses up,

Sniff sniff .... gonna have to stop reading girlie threads

CDfm

Moonbaby wrote: »

However she has done she is bang up to date.
That top was my last pennys purchase. I couldn't help it....it was in the one euro bin.

Ha ha - ya miss the leggings they were only 2 euro and I know I had to pick assorted colours up for a friend

brown*eyed*girl

I blame it all on the Staceys Mom video - made us all think we were hotter than teenagers If :pac:I count as an older woman (just turned 33) I actually try less nowadays & keep getting the attention of teenage boys!

xbox36016

yap the woman in her 30s but his to be sexy for a 17 dream made in havan

Zaph

xbox36016 wrote: »

yap the woman in her 30s but his to be sexy for a 17 dream made in havan

I have a vague idea what you're trying to say, but to avoid me having to use my occipital lobe more than is absolutely necessary in the future, kindly use all the letters on your keyboard for your next post.

Thank you.

xbox36016

no i will not do that

brown*eyed*girl

Zaph wrote: »

I have a vague idea what you're trying to say, but to avoid me having to use my occipital lobe more than is absolutely necessary in the future, kindly use all the letters on your keyboard for your next post.

Thank you.

LOL me too I was somewhat bemused as to what that reply meant!

Zaph

xbox36016 wrote: »

no i will not do that

Thank you, that wasn't so hard now, was it?

xbox36016

no it was not ok than

Zaph

Excellent. I suppose asking for proper capitalisation and punctuation would be pushing it a bit, would it?

xbox36016

ok than

Zaph

Wonderful.

Apologies for the slight detour there folks, we're now back on topic. As you were.

CDfm

xbox36016 wrote: »

yap the woman in her 30s but his to be sexy for a 17 dream made in havan

am i missing something or has this anything to do with Navan

xbox36016

no we are not ba ia ta ca ha