A relationship break????

justsomebloke

Erica-smiley wrote: »

Its not like that!:mad:

not from where everyone else is standing.

I hate to do it but I have to put it down to your age that you are actually to young to be in a responsible relationship. If you don't see a problem with breaking up with your partner cause you don't think you can trust them then there is a major problem.

Truthfully I think probably best just to break up with him now cause chances are that once yous move on to the next stage in your life be it college or full time employment you will be in a positions where once again you probably won't be able to trust each other and will have to take a break every so often

Maple

Good God have you never watched an episode of Friends? (apologies for facetious remark)

Seriously OP, no to the break suggestion. Its a total cop out. You're either in the relationship or you're not.

Rozabeez

You get locked and have the opportunity to do stupid things at home too, being in another country doesn't make a difference.

Sounds like you want the freedom to experience new guys but without losing the relationship you have, problem is, doesn't work that way. It's one or the other.

SarahSassy

Whose idea was the 'holiday break'??????

Eviledna

In fairness, the OP may not be having sex, so it could be possible to "be" with someone else whilst maintaining knickerage.

OP, your post reads as flippant and a little immature, but you are 17/18 so thats entirely possible. I'm guessing that this fella isn't to be your husband. Break up with him if you are even entertaining the notion of being with someone else on holidays, or think that he may be entertaining that notion. If it is even an option that you may allow "silly things that happen on holidays" to happen, then it is already over in your head.
Don't cheat. It is nasty and ultimately self-destructive.

Dimitri

eviledna wrote: »

In fairness, the OP may not be having sex, so it could be possible to "be" with someone else whilst maintaining knickerage.

OP, your post reads as flippant and a little immature, but you are 17/18 so thats entirely possible. I'm guessing that this fella isn't to be your husband. Break up with him if you are even entertaining the notion of being with someone else on holidays, or think that he may be entertaining that notion. If it is even an option that you may allow "silly things that happen on holidays" to happen, then it is already over in your head.
Don't cheat. It is nasty and ultimately self-destructive.

I disagree, they are young, too young prehaps to share all the trappings of a proper relationship but if they are both sure that the feelings they share are mutual though not all that strong there is no reason that they cant have a short break while away on hols and upon their return agree to return to their exclusive arrangement. What you say is true about cheating being self destrucitive in a serious relationship but the op's doesn't really sound like its true love.

watna

Unfortunately you can't turn your emotions off because your brain knows you were on a break. It just doesn't work like that.

Either you want to be together or not. You are really young so I understand you wanting to go off with your mates and have a good time. If you don't you'll regret it.

However, if you feel you need to score random men to have fun (and it is loads of fun!) then you probably shouldn't be going out with someone for that long. Being in a relationship means commitment which means neither of you "should accidently get off with someone". Either your bf is worth keeping your tongue to yourself for 2 weeks or you decide you want to have fun more than a bf. You can't turn it off for a week for the laugh.

I'm sorry you didn't hear what you want to hear but let me tell you, I don't think I've ever seen a LL thread where everyone agreed, (even Irishbird!) so I really think that should tell you something. It's not a good idea.

Erica-smiley

watna wrote: »

Unfortunately you can't turn your emotions off because your brain knows you were on a break. It just doesn't work like that.

Either you want to be together or not. You are really young so I understand you wanting to go off with your mates and have a good time. If you don't you'll regret it.

However, if you feel you need to score random men to have fun (and it is loads of fun!) then you probably shouldn't be going out with someone for that long. Being in a relationship means commitment which means neither of you "should accidently get off with someone". Either your bf is worth keeping your tongue to yourself for 2 weeks or you decide you want to have fun more than a bf. You can't turn it off for a week for the laugh.

I'm sorry you didn't hear what you want to hear but let me tell you, I don't think I've ever seen a LL thread where everyone agreed, (even Irishbird!) so I really think that should tell you something. It's not a good idea.

I think you're probably right about that last bit :D

mollybird

well the people that you are going on hols with. are they all single or is there anyone else going on the hols that is with someone they are not taking?? if all your mates are single is that why you want this break and you don't want to be the odd one out?

Jules

maple wrote: »

Good God have you never watched an episode of Friends? (apologies for facetious remark)

Seriously OP, no to the break suggestion. Its a total cop out. You're either in the relationship or you're not.

My thoughts exactly Maple... all i can hear is Ross screaming " We were on a break".

I do think that if you are secure in your relationship there is no need for a break. You can go out with your friends have a few and have a good time. Unless there is someone in your group your already eyeing up. If there are lads in the group your going with that is. I'm not suggesting girl/girl action.

So, if your happy and confident don't go on a break. But if you have any doubts... break up.