What do you single people do with all your spare time?

SarahSassy

So what do you do to fill time when all of your friends are off with their significant other?

I find the weekends can be long and tend to plan well ahead... I go out a lot (prob too much ) and watch a lot of dvd's.. In fact I dont really know what I do with my time and am just curious what other people do especially over the weekends.

SS

irlrobins

I mod

sidneykidney

Post on boards

johny28

I'm on trhe same boat as yours when my freinds are away or busy with their better half..

One thing I do hough is that I try to find new things to try...

May be you any I should get together for a chat sometime this weekend

ztoical

work - I work as a freelance artist so I set my own hours which can be good but deadlines are usually tight so often have all nighters. Also I don't have weekdays and weekends I just have days.

SarahSassy

johny28 wrote: »

May be you any I should get together for a chat sometime this weekend

Haha thanks for the offer but I have a face like a bag of hammers so you would not want to be seen in public with me

monkeyfudge

SarahSassy wrote: »

Haha thanks for the offer but I have a face like a bag of hammers so you would not want to be seen in public with me

Well maybe he has a face like a bag of nails.

Could be the perfect match.

ChewChew

SarahSassy & MonkeyFudge.. .

Thats very cool of you both to do that!! I'm the same. I work monday to Friday so the weekends are my own, and can be hard to occupy ones mind. . So I do alot of shopping, and waste money on clothes I dont need. but hey. . . Whats a single girl to do who has nothing else to do with her time??

MizzLolly

Geez!! Any baby faces here???

I spend my time in college, then work, then college, then more work. Almost all of my friends are in relationships so I go out the odd time when my few single buddies are around.

I try not to go out with couples anymore. I always end up on my own (well with random freaks trying it on) when they're off schmoozing! After a spiking incident last year I've learned to never go out with just a couple

ChewChew

wow mizzlolly, thats a bit mad alright. hope your ok after it??

Its very hard to get comfortable in the company of a couple. and hard to have a conversation without it referring back to the couple.

SarahSassy

ChewChew wrote: »

Its very hard to get comfortable in the company of a couple. and hard to have a conversation without it referring back to the couple.

Thats a whole other thread

monkeyfudge

Oh and to answer the question... I don't have too much spare time, so unfortunately it's not that big an issue for me.

I like to spend as much time as possible sleeping on the weekend... mmm... lovely sleep.

ChewChew

your soooo right SS. . . lets not go there. .

MizzLolly

ChewChew wrote: »

wow mizzlolly, thats a bit mad alright. hope your ok after it??

Yeah I'm fine thanks. The lovely bouncers stepped in and saved me. I think I was hitting them though, I can't remember. I don't know what the hell happened. Have to say, they were great though! They noticed what was happening before I did (coz I didn't really even know my name at the time )


Pr*ck! :mad:

fits

ChewChew wrote: »

I work monday to Friday so the weekends are my own, and can be hard to occupy ones mind. . So I do alot of shopping, and waste money on clothes I dont need. but hey. . . Whats a single girl to do who has nothing else to do with her time??

If I had money, I could think of loadsa things I'd get up to on the weekend. Unfortunately, I've been on the breadline for something like 200 million years now so all I can do is dream. I'd spend my weekends mucking about with horses and dogs and travelling and eating otherwise I reckon. And I want to do a photography course (I dont even have a camera), and yoga, and go to more gigs.
Being single with a bit of money sounds perfectly dreamy to me at the moment tbh.

tk123

For the last while I've been spending my weekends studying for mcps to get a better job - borrrrrring. In between that I buy myself presents (for studying), sleep , post on boards, read other peoples posts on boards, play some games, and generally potter around.

eclectictrek

MizzLolly wrote: »

I spend my time in college, then work, then college, then more work. Almost all of my friends are in relationships so I go out the odd time when my few single buddies are around.

Yeah sounds familiar MizzLolly, i do the exact same with my time, college..work..college..work.. And yeah my friends are all (apart from a couple) in relationships!! Do you find it to be as much of a pain as i do sometimes?

Dragan

The gym a few times a week. Read, write, do photography, learn about Photoshop ( the last two have been taking a lot of my time lately ), trying to get back painting and drawing again as well. Surf the web of course, listen to music a lot while i am doing all that, head to the cinema, meet friends for drinks and meals, go to gigs quite a bit, normally every two weeks or so, lots of club nights, wander around town and see stuff like museums and galleries, practice poi, hang out with friends.

By and large what everyone else does but a lot of it because i don't sleep.

MizzLolly

eclectictrek wrote: »

Yeah sounds familiar MizzLolly, i do the exact same with my time, college..work..college..work.. And yeah my friends are all (apart from a couple) in relationships!! Do you find it to be as much of a pain as i do sometimes?

Yeah, it's an absolute bitch. Repetitive and exhausting!!!!
Then when you have assignments due its so hard to keep your job going and get all the college work done too.

Then when its all over and you just wana kick back and relax, there's always that time when all your coupled friends are with their partners in the cinema or walking around the park or something (even though they invite you along too) you always refuse coz you feel like a third wheel.(I did even when I was in relationships and my partner wasn't around) So then you work and work and work .... and at the end of it all you can look forward to... going to work!! lol Aint it fun!

eclectictrek

MizzLolly wrote: »

you always refuse coz you feel like a third wheel.(I did even when I was in relationships and my partner wasn't around) So then you work and work and work .... and at the end of it all you can look forward to... going to work!! lol Aint it fun!

I here ya!! :)Iv noticed since breaking up with my ex 5 months ago, iv even been asked out along with the coupled friend with the boyfriend on a night out alot...Come on now!! N then setting me up with the bf's not so hot friend ...Im in work tomorrow, give me a break ay lol

Gyalist

SarahSassy wrote: »

So what do you do to fill time when all of your friends are off with their significant other?

SS

I very rarely come to this forum but a quick scan of the recent threads finds you banging on about relationships in all of them. What gives?

cuckoo

The weekends? Hmmm, mostly animal sacrifices and rituals - then on Sunday night i surf the net looking for the best way to get animal blood out of ceremonial robes.*

*this is the anwer i give people on a Monday when i'm feeling a little grouchy and not-yet-fully awake.

MizzLolly

eclectictrek wrote: »

I here ya!! :)Iv noticed since breaking up with my ex 5 months ago, iv even been asked out along with the coupled friend with the boyfriend on a night out alot...Come on now!! N then setting me up with the bf's not so hot friend ...Im in work tomorrow, give me a break ay lol

lol yeah exactly!

Gyalist wrote: »

I very rarely come to this forum but a quick scan of the recent threads finds you banging on about relationships in all of them. What gives?

coz we're not in relationships and we're tryna make a point that if all threads in here MUST be relationship related then we can start talking about being single!!

Gyalist

MizzLolly wrote: »

lol yeah exactly!



coz we're not in relationships and we're tryna make a point that if all threads in here MUST be relationship related then we can start talking about being single!!

OK, cool. Just seemed a tad obsessive.

MizzLolly

MizzLolly wrote: »

lol yeah exactly!



coz we're not in relationships and we're tryna make a point that if all threads in here MUST be relationship related then we can start talking about being single!!

As a single sister....I can't help feeling that logic is petty, and smacks of insecurity.

MizzLolly

Gyalist wrote: »

OK, cool. Just seemed a tad obsessive.

No.. more frantic tbh. Having been insulted endlessly, it is only fair!

Moonbaby wrote: »

As a single sister....I can't help feeling that logic is petty, and smacks of insecurity.

Having been called an old spinster by a mod here... yes!

WindSock

If these threads are being created purely 'just to makes a point' then I see them as baiting. i don't really understand what has been happening but I am going to close this one until I hear a more logical argument.

MizzLolly

And back off, I didn't make the thread!


I answered for Sarah. I imagine they are her reasons in any case!

WindSock

Thread re-opened as per SarahS's request. Please no more derailing and keep it on topic.

Nevyn

Tbh I would be worried where I would fit dating into my life right now never mind a new relationship, my life is pretty full between my kids, family, friends and doing thinks I want and like to do.
My weekend get booked up pretty fast.

aye

weekends are spent with gym, study, going out, meeting friends, calling down to my dad, watching a film maybe, washing the car etc.

i find they arent long enough to be honest, always running around.
have college tomorrow so gonna be shorter this weekend!!!

John Mason

Spend my weekends the exactly same now as i did when i was single


Sleeping, eating, drinking, working on my house, seeing friends. I am not sure why it would be different because you are in a relationship.

fits

irishbird wrote: »

I am not sure why it would be different because you are in a relationship.

I'm not sure either

campervan

Hey OP, how about volunteering for something? It could be just every once in a while, or it could be a regular thing. Whether its animals, senior citizens, children, teenagers, sports etc theres bound to be something out there that could suit you if you are interested in that kind of thing. There's always a need for volunteers in todays society. Or if you are sporty or any way athletic you could take up a team sport which is also a great outlet for a social life. I'm not actually single myself but I do find time for all these things and if I had more time I would probably be getting stuck into something else. Its very bad, I have to learn how to say no anyway theres so much out there to get involved in, courses, evening classes, etc . focus on your main interests and discover how you could turn that into an activity!

watna

fits wrote: »

I'm not sure either

Me neither.

OP, are you saying single people sit in at home waiting for the phone to ring.

I did far more when I was single then I do now.

mumof2

I go to the movies (on my own). I love travelling and looking to go away again soon. spend time on the computer like now on boards etc. I recently did a painting course and am hooked with painting so thats what I do when the kids are away. And I love to go shopping when theres money!

Other than that, visit my parents, and look after the kids when theyre with me!

Don't have that much spare time despite being single actually!!:)

Dudess

MizzLolly wrote: »

Having been called an old spinster by a mod here... yes!

:eek: Surely it was in jest...? "Here" as in the Ladies' Lounge?

To be honest, I really do think some of you girls are making too much of a big deal about being single - despite protestations to the contrary. Do you honestly have all that free time just because you're single? If you were in a relationship, "free time" wouldn't just magically vanish you know - unless you decided to spend every spare moment with your partner, but people like that are pains in the bum. What if you were in a long-distance relationship? Then you'd have a fair bit of free time to kill. But that would be ok because you're in a relationship... Do you see where I'm coming from?
I only spend long periods with himself at the weekends. On week nights I call to mates (including married/engaged ones/parents of small children), Friday night I go to his but not always, sometimes I go to a friend's for an Indian and a bottle of wine. Then Saturday night I head out with a group of mates and meet him too. I go exercising every evening, I go to the cinema (often alone as I'm not gonna be talking to another person there anyway and I'm a cinephile), I read and listen to music feverishly, I watch TV, I go round the shops.
To me, that kinda seems no different to the life of a single person.

Despite objecting to the pressure there is to be in a relationship, by being down in the dumps about your singledom you're actually kinda pandering to said pressure...

LadyE

Im single and I find the weeknights more lonley than the weekend.

I have a three year old child and when himself is in bed and you have the mammy stuff done I sit there thinking "what now!?"...so depressing:(

Last night was awful actually, weekends are fine for me, activities with son int he day then at ngiht I can either go out (when dad has son) or a friend can call over - or the days shopping/day in the park I would be glad of a sit down with a glass of vino and chill-ax..

I have started seeing someone, but would still condsider myself single-ish (complicated!) so would maybe see him once a week to break the week up.

Its the week nights that are a killer for me!

metaoblivia

I clean my apartment, watch dvds, visit surrounding towns, meet up with friends for drinks and dancing, read, go to the gym, make collages, work on my novel, visit art galleries and museums. It's grand! I don't know how I'd make time for a man. I guess he could do things with me... but it's kind of fun being out on your own.

johny28

monkeyfudge wrote: »

Well maybe he has a face like a bag of nails.

Could be the perfect match.

lol... good one.


May be we could all orgainze something this weekened!

Let's how people on this thread feel about it!

Dragan

johny28 wrote: »

Let's how people on this thread feel about it!

Eh, there is a big meet up planned already for later today! Just check the stickies!!!

citytillidie

Over the weekends if i am not out or away i would just be watching TV or some DVD's not very exciting

ChewChew

johny28 wrote: »

lol... good one.


May be we could all orgainze something this weekened!

Let's how people on this thread feel about it!

you should try organize this for a few weekends time? let people get the beers from tonight out of the system

jellie

single people are claiming theyre being discriminated against by all the OH threads so they try to discriminate against the non-single people? its all a bit childish. Why could this thread not be "what do you do with your spare time?". Instead it come across like "us poor single people have lots of spare time".

I say this because in terms of spare time i might as well be single because my relationship is long distance so I have just as much spare time as a single person. Just because someones in a relationship doesnt mean they spend every waking minute with their OH. even if i lived closer to my bf i certainly want to keep a fair amount of spare time to do things myself.

What do i do? nothing mostly meet up with friends, cinema/dvds/tv, read, go for walks, go online. nothing too exciting. i think i need a hobby in fact. will be learning to drive soon so that should give me something new to do.

pretty*monster

I really don't think being single gives me much more free time. I don't find myself home of an evening organising my ribbon drawer.
I work, I go to college, I study, I read, I shop, I spend a helluvalot of time down the pub with my friends who are (shocker) quite mixed between single and not-single.

ztoical

pretty*monster wrote: »

I really don't think being single gives me much more free time. I don't find myself home of an evening organising my ribbon drawer.

+1 I find I've the same amount of free time [ie none] single as I had in my last relationship.

SarahSassy

I dont agree ladies... I have more free time than when I was in a relationship..

ztoical

SarahSassy wrote: »

I dont agree ladies... I have more free time than when I was in a relationship..

everyone is different - it depends on what other commitments you have, your job, your hobbies/interests/your family also their job, hobbies/interests/family etc and also what type of relationship you have - some people are very gung ho when they get into a relationship and devote alot of time to it, some people are very relaxed and not so pushy and some are in the middle.

My job stays the same wither I'm single or in a relationship and its very time consuming. The last guy I was seeing worked in the same animation studio as me so worked the same insane hours and he understood the amount of time that had to go into it. I'd actually find it hard to date someone who isn't an animator or illustrator cus they wouldn't understand what I do for living and the amount of effort that goes into. I have that issue with friends who work in banks and the like, they get pissed when they ring me to go out on a saturday night and I tell them I can't as I've a deadline due.

Also any holidays that I take are working holidays - going to comic book festivals, art festivals, animation festivals, book fairs etc etc and I had a friend come with me once to a show in London and she thought we'd be spending two, three hours tops at it and then spending the rest of the weekend shopping and drinking and no matter how much I tired to explain to her that I'd be spending the whole weekend at the show as you go not just for the show but also the after meet ups cus you have to network and shake hands and swap business cards. she didn't get it and it ended up being very a crap weekend in London for both of us.

SarahSassy

sar84 wrote: »

Why could this thread not be "what do you do with your spare time?".

Because the answers would be ' I spend it with my SO/ OH'.....

SarahSassy

MizzLolly wrote: »

coz we're not in relationships and we're tryna make a point that if all threads in here MUST be relationship related then we can start talking about being single!!

No we are not MizzLolly... I am curious..

twinkle77

Some asked how would it be different if they were with some one well here is how it went for me…….. up to 2 months ago my weekend was centred around spending time with my bf as we only got to see each other for a couple of hours during the week. He would arrive on Sat and I would have a lovely dinner cooked (i love to cook and took pleasure in seeing him enjoy it) then we would go to the theatre or the cinema. Sunday was spent together going for a scenic drive and a nice long walk and the home for dinner. This was my weekend and I loved every minute of it. I should also explain that while we were see each other I got my own place( the point of this will become clear in a bit)

My weekend now on the other hand is as follows……..I come home from work on a Friday evening close my front door and well that’s it. I have been off work the last 2 days and not one person has rang or called in…….I study by night so for the next month or so I a tied up with that ( getting sick of it now thought) but what scares me is that what happens when I finish college. I will be here ALL weekend ON MY OWN!!!! I don’t mean to be horrible but I know what you all are going to say why don’t I join something…….trust me I have looked…….First I am down the country so I am not exactly spoiled for choice. I have joined a hill walking club and am really enjoying it but they are all an awful lot older that me (now I am no spring chicken either!) As for doing other classes NOTHING runs for the summer months…. I am dreading the long evenings!

I do have friends but like the other singletons here they are off doing their couple things…..i.e. married with kids, getting married etc. Some times I don’t hear from them for weeks on end. I know that is selfish cos they have their own lives to lead too. I have NO single friends that’s what happens when you get to my age. I am so unbelievably lonely I cant put into words. I feel sooooo ungrateful to cos for years all I wanted was I own home I have that now and hate being here cos if I am not here I am in work or college!!!


Sorry for rambling on sooooo much but I have no one else to talk to

What else can I say but its 11.30 on a sat night and I am writing this…………

P.s I am heart broken too!!!!!