Porn

jezza

Girls-
Would you mind/be upset if you found out yor other half was watching porn?
Having talked about this with a couple of my mates, most would seem to mind. But I honestly wouldn't mind at all.
Hell as long as it wasn't two men (no offence to any gay men) going at it, I'd watch it too.

So yeah, fine women of LL. How would ye feel??

ztoical

I actually got one bf porn while on holidays in spain one year so I couldn't really throw a fit if I'd caught him watching lol.

Honestly wouldn't bother me as long as it wasn't anything illegal [no kiddies, animals, etc etc].

dr.bollocko

It's probably a much better idea to buy your boyfriend porn than to buy him video games. Less boring, you can join in, and he can't play it all night and ignore you. Unless he is really determined.

jezza

Speaking of which, I was in an "adult shop" and i have never been as unnerved in my life!
It was full of eastern europeans and had movie booths. And the movie booths had like 2 boxes of tissues in em. AHHH!
Some of the DVDs were like.. Woah!.. too...

ztoical

have to say we had a really good laugh watching the porn I'd picked up - it was american but dubbed into spainish really badly - couldn't stop laughing. We did end up having sex after watching, both us trying to do our best porno moans and grunts - I don't think I've laughed so much during sex in my life.

I encourage it

MrJoeSoap

jezza wrote: »

Speaking of which, I was in an "adult shop" and i have never been as unnerved in my life!
It was full of eastern europeans and had movie booths. And the movie booths had like 2 boxes of tissues in em. AHHH!
Some of the DVDs were like.. Woah!.. too...

The tissues were for the incredibly soppy storylines, I assure you.

Jules

Tbh, i always said that it never bothered me, but thinking about it more these days im very self conscience and have a fairly low opinion of my self image and well the idea of him looking at some pretty girl and, pardon the term, cracking one off, it does upset me a little. But its my own problem, i know guys do it and thats just a fact, but if i am to be 100% honest ..... I'm not 100% happy with it.

But such is life.

MrJoeSoap

Jules wrote: »

Tbh, i always said that it never bothered me, but thinking about it more these days

Best typo EVER!

jezza

Jules wrote: »

Tbh, i always said that it never bothered me, but thinking about it more these days im very self conscience and have a fairly low opinion of my self image and well the idea of him looking at some pretty girl and, pardon the term, cracking one off, it does upset me a little. But its my own problem, i know guys do it and thats just a fact, but if i am to be 100% honest ..... I'm not 100% happy with it.

But such is life.

Having seen you, i can say you are beautiful.
You can be my porn queen any day

Jules

Oh Jezz, thats so sweet!

Don't tell Anti he might wanna take you up on that offer

MrJoeSoap

Censorship, boo-urns!

jezza

Jules wrote: »

Oh Jezz, thats so sweet!

Don't tell Anti he might wanna take you up on that offer

He is not invited. I dont like sharing!!!

Chinafoot

No problem with porn at all. We've watched it together.

I don't like very rough stuff as it always seems to be quite degrading, but anything else legal is fine

randylonghorn

dr.bollocko wrote: »

It's probably a much better idea to buy your boyfriend porn than to buy him video games. Less boring, you can join in, and he can't play it all night and ignore you. Unless he is really determined.

Hear this man, ladies, he speaks words of wisdom ... for once!

jezza wrote: »

Speaking of which, I was in an "adult shop" and i have never been as unnerved in my life!
It was full of eastern europeans and had movie booths. And the movie booths had like 2 boxes of tissues in em. AHHH!

OK, Jez ... the strap-ons, the whips, the footlongs which would have no place in Subway ... these didn't disturb you, but a couple of box of Kleenex unnerved you?!

And believe me, the alternative would have been a hell of a lot more disturbing ...

Jules wrote: »

... well the idea of him looking at some pretty girl and, pardon the term, cracking one off, it does upset me a little.

Seriously, Jules, what many women find difficult to understand is to just what extent guys can watch porn and think only with the lower head ... it really has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with RL or relationships.

Truthfully, some of those women, and what they get up to, would scare the living shit out of us if they appeared in our bedroom some night.

Apparently, this is especially true of Welsh men, for some reason ... >_>

Crumble Froo

ha, i love adult shops, i have no idea why, never buy anything there, but still find them fascinating and entertaining, for some reason.

i wouldn't care about the b/f watching porn, though i would have my days where, like jules, i would feel extra self conscious or something, but... my b/f doesnt watch porn, so no problems there.

either way, as long as i still get to watch this i'm happy

Xavi6

Crumble Froo wrote: »

ha, i love adult shops, i have no idea why, never buy anything there, but still find them fascinating and entertaining, for some reason.

i wouldn't care about the b/f watching porn, though i would have my days where, like jules, i would feel extra self conscious or something, but... my b/f doesnt watch porn, so no problems there.

either way, as long as i still get to watch this i'm happy

Ha so he says. You've just never caught him.

Crumble Froo

believe me, the dude has very little sex drive most of the tiem, and finds porn just really fake. i love how any time something like this gets mentioned (or fancying celebs, etc), im always told that that's just what i think and he probably does behind my back...

Xavi6

Crumble Froo wrote: »

believe me, the dude has very little sex drive most of the tiem, and finds porn just really fake. i love how any time something like this gets mentioned (or fancying celebs, etc), im always told that that's just what i think and he probably does behind my back...

To be fair 99% percent of guys DO look at porn and fancy celebs. It's a natural thing we do. It's not a big deal (well it shouldn't be anyway).

The other 1% are liars by the way.

Crumble Froo

meh, it's just not for him. he's well old enough at this stage to know what he wants/likes and doesnt.

gcgirl

i have no prob with porn, its just when it replaces sex that it really pissed me off! with the ex he use to log on to my pc when i went training and guess you know the rest ! i think even if i was a guy i would prefer to actually F**k someone as oppose to doing it my self ! Porn is i think for some people who are affaid of intimacy with there other halves !!

Black Swan

Unbeknown to me, my flatmate's (now ex) b/f took liberties with my laptop last year and visited one too many of "those" sites and got my computer infected! If he hadn't left in a hurry after I found out, there would have been b/f sushi on the menu girls!

Xavi6

gcgirl wrote: »

i have no prob with porn, its just when it replaces sex that it really pissed me off! with the ex he use to log on to my pc when i went training and guess you know the rest ! i think even if i was a guy i would prefer to actually F**k someone as oppose to doing it my self ! Porn is i think for some people who are affaid of intimacy with there other halves !!

Unfortunately women aren't always up for it, guys are. Would you rather he looked at a bit of porn or cheated? (More of a point than a question cause I know the answer is obvious.)

Spud83

:eek: I'm so disappointed by this thread its unreal.

P.S this will quickly become the most viewed thread in boards histroy.

jcoote

i don't think women mind porn that much in my experience its just when u have so much that u forgot that u had a particular film that they get worried lol

gcgirl

Xavi6 wrote: »

Unfortunately women aren't always up for it, guys are. Would you rather he looked at a bit of porn or cheated? (More of a point than a question cause I know the answer is obvious.)

he done both ! and it was not as if i was not up for it! i was more up for it that he was !

justsomebloke

Jules wrote: »

Tbh, i always said that it never bothered me, but thinking about it more these days im very self conscience and have a fairly low opinion of my self image and well the idea of him looking at some pretty girl and, pardon the term, cracking one off, it does upset me a little. But its my own problem, i know guys do it and thats just a fact, but if i am to be 100% honest ..... I'm not 100% happy with it.

But such is life.

Ok as I haven't met you yet I can't comment on you looks but I would like to put it this way, and that is chances are brad pitt still looks at porn.

Xavi6

gcgirl wrote: »

he done both ! and it was not as if i was not up for it! i was more up for it that he was !

Well in that case I can no longer defend him! You're better off without if that's the case!

Lockstep

Meh. NEarly every guy watches porn to varying degrees.

THat said, I've known a fair few girls who were into it.

justsomebloke

kickoutthejams wrote: »

THat said, I've known a fair few girls who were into it.

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055192287 ;)

Cathmandooo

Wouldnt mind a bf looking at all, I've bought it for an ex before, no harm in it, as someone said before, it's better than him cheating. It would be naive to think one person can fulfil every sexual need of another person.

jezza

jezza wrote: »

Girls-
Would you mind/be upset if you found out yor other half was watching porn?
Having talked about this with a couple of my mates, most would seem to mind. But I honestly wouldn't mind at all.
Hell as long as it wasn't two men (no offence to any gay men) going at it, I'd watch it too.

So yeah, fine women of LL. How would ye feel??

tbh from my experience from speaking to my friends , the girls that mind their boyfriend watching pron and having fantasys about women in dirty vids etc are self conscious/unhappy about their own body and or performance in bed

Oryx

I sometimes watch it with him. Ive no problem with porn at all, as long as its not paedophila, bestiality or abusive to women. I see masturbation as a little separate from sex anyway, like potnoodle as opposed to a cooked meal. Quick and easy if not quite as satisfying.

aye

as a guy i can honestly say i dont really watch alot of porn.
i have more interest in the real thing.

i'm not saying i've never watched it, but wouldnt even have any at home or anything.
i know mates of mine who would watch it daily.
personally i can find better things to do.

gcgirl

KtK wrote: »

I sometimes watch it with him. Ive no problem with porn at all, as long as its not paedophila, bestiality or abusive to women. I see masturbation as a little separate from sex anyway, like potnoodle as opposed to a cooked meal. Quick and easy if not quite as satisfying.

well said!

the dee

I have no problem with porn but I'd have a problem with my boyfriend watching it. I'm not too sure why. But he had a problem with my vibrator so I've stopped using so I'm sure he'd stop watching porn if I asked him to.

It's harmless fun but you can live without if it makes your partner happy.

John Mason

i watch porn myself, so i wouldnt have any problem with my OH watching it:)

Xavi6

Xavi6 wrote: »

Unfortunately women aren't always up for it, guys are.

The notion that men can't have a lower sex drive than their mate is complete nonsense.

Xavi6 wrote: »

Would you rather he looked at a bit of porn or cheated? (More of a point than a question cause I know the answer is obvious.)

I think the link between the two is tenuious, sexual frustration is not in of itself motivation to cheat.

Porn is fine, I would worry about a porn fetish though. I also worry about the unrealistic expectations it gives young people, who seem to be getting their sex eduaction via internet porn these days.
I'm shocked by some of the things I hear from teenage women these days, and I can't help feeling that these things just distract from their persuit of sexual satisfaction.

Anti

Wouldnt bother me if i found herself looking at porn, or even flicking the kipper while watching it.

Anti

Anti wrote: »

Wouldnt bother me if i found herself looking at porn, or even flicking the kipper while watching it.

I vote the boss lady bans you for unpleasant use of a synonym.
Kipper indeed!

macbarbie

i have to say i like porn.... i like girl on girl even though im straight and have a boyfriend... my only issue is that it can sometimes make me selfconscious if the girls are gorgeous and im watchin it with my bf... im like.... yeah well state of her hair....lol...

jezza

Yeah I like girl on girl but anal does absolutely nothing for me

Crumble Froo

Xavi6 wrote: »

Unfortunately women aren't always up for it, guys are. Would you rather he looked at a bit of porn or cheated? (More of a point than a question cause I know the answer is obvious.)

o_O

sooooo not true.

*looks at current relationship*

sooooo not true.

randylonghorn

Blue_Lagoon wrote: »

... my flatmate's (now ex) b/f took liberties with my laptop last year ...

O_o

the dee wrote: »

I have no problem with porn but I'd have a problem with my boyfriend watching it. I'm not too sure why. But he had a problem with my vibrator so I've stopped using so I'm sure he'd stop watching porn if I asked him to.

It's harmless fun but you can live without if it makes your partner happy.

Actually, you bring up a good point ... I have never understood why guys would have a problem with a girl having a vibrator. Hell, I've bought them for girls!

Moonbaby wrote: »

I also worry about the unrealistic expectations it gives young people, who seem to be getting their sex eduaction via internet porn these days.

Now, I would agree that that is far from good. Porn should be taken about as seriously as an American Pie film, at best ... silly, light-hearted, unrealistic, mindless entertainment.

Gillybean72

jezza wrote: »

Girls-
Would you mind/be upset if you found out yor other half was watching porn?
Having talked about this with a couple of my mates, most would seem to mind. But I honestly wouldn't mind at all.
Hell as long as it wasn't two men (no offence to any gay men) going at it, I'd watch it too.

So yeah, fine women of LL. How would ye feel??

I totally agree with you, I have no probs with porn at all, but I would die if I caught my SO watching two fellas... thats just sick! (no offence to gay men either) I would prob sit and have a wee watch

jellie

I know my bf watches porn, i accept it. cant say i love that he does but im not against it either. thered only be a problem if he was choosing the porn over me.

Moonbaby wrote: »

Porn is fine, I would worry about a porn fetish though. I also worry about the unrealistic expectations it gives young people

some men seem to see things in porn & think its what women must like. or see things & go wahey i could do that! sometimes they need reminding theyre not pornstars themselves

jezza

jezza wrote: »

Girls-
Would you mind/be upset if you found out yor other half was watching porn?
Having talked about this with a couple of my mates, most would seem to mind. But I honestly wouldn't mind at all.
Hell as long as it wasn't two men (no offence to any gay men) going at it, I'd watch it too.

So yeah, fine women of LL. How would ye feel??

considering we dont see each other too often, i should almost hope he is watching it...
so do i, i dont see an issue here

Would you rather he looked at a bit of porn or cheated?

No wonder some women think there's a problem with guys watching pron when people come out with complete rubbish like this
watching pron and cheating are two entirely completely seperate things, this kind of question is ridiculous

DetectivFoxtrot

macbarbie wrote: »

i have to say i like porn.... i like girl on girl even though im straight and have a boyfriend... my only issue is that it can sometimes make me selfconscious if the girls are gorgeous and im watchin it with my bf... im like.... yeah well state of her hair....lol...

+1 :p:p

I like porn so does my o/h. Never watched it together tho. I like the whole role play thing in porn like slutty secretary with boss, or nurse and patient..... don't know why.... but jaysus it gets me going.......;)

I think it's a healthy outlet but in moderation. I know a guy and ALL he thinks about and talks about is porn - it wrecks my head. He's engaged and I totally pity his fiancé and would understand why her head woud be wrecked about it - the balance is way off

Donegal Lass

I cant see any real harm in it tbh, but, as was said earlier as long as there was nothing "illegal" about it! I think if brought into a couples sex life, it can spice things up a bit, for both parties. As long as he doesnt watch it all day every day then it doesnt really bother me, apart from the odd twinge of jealousy of the girls with the insanely hot bods!

BEAT

In the beginning it didnt bother me, we even watched it together..
then we decided to make our own and thats what he watches now so I love it, when Im not home he can still have me.. sorta

steps_3314

gcgirl wrote: »

i have no prob with porn, its just when it replaces sex that it really pissed me off! with the ex he use to log on to my pc when i went training and guess you know the rest ! i think even if i was a guy i would prefer to actually F**k someone as oppose to doing it my self ! Porn is i think for some people who are affaid of intimacy with there other halves !!

"Porn is i think for some people who are affaid of intimacy with there other halves

"b**l****....denial all over this"