holly_johnson wrote: »
Well done on persisting and getting the answers you deserve. It took a lot of work, but it's worth it to know you have done all you can. I hope the Adoption Board act in a reasonable amount of time and that you get a reply one way or the other. For me, the not knowing was the hardest part.
angelbabyk wrote: »
If anyone would like contact details for around the country for HSE office's that deal specifically with Adoption i will post them....
smccarrick wrote: »
Please do post them to the Useful Links section of this forum- they will be very helpful for others.
always&forever wrote: »
Hi im new to this but i suppose i'll just start.
Im 17 and i was adopted at the age of 2months! I found out i was adopted at the young age of 8 years old. I had to bring my birth certificate into school in order to make my first holy communion. We were all sitting at our desks with our certs and one by one we went up to our teacher with them. I remember sitting there and started to read mine. I saw the word "ADOPTED" and froze. I went up to my teacher and asked her what exactly that meant. she didnt know what to say. she brought me to the principles office, who contacted my adoptive parents and they picked me up and took me home and explained everything to me.
Ok so im only 17, i dont have tragic birth parent finding stories that all you have. but in 4 weeks and 6 days im 18! and i dont know how to do this or where to go? i live in dublin. can someone tell me where to start and where to go from there? My adoptive parents dont like to talk about it and i dont want to ask them in case i hurt them. because they are great parents. but i just know i need to do this.
I've always felt, different. Like a part of me was missing. I think this is what i need to do.
redcar wrote: »
Been on boards for a bit but only saw this forum a few days ago and thought I must post. Well I am 20 and was given up for adoption a few weeks after birth.
I was given up because my biological father decided I wasn't his and my mother was just not able to keep me so she decided adoption was the only way as she was unable to support me, although it turned out when I was 4 my father decided I was his and proceeded with court proceedings to stop my adoption being finalised, while at the same time my dad (when I say that I mean my real dad, not my biological father) was dying of cancer.
There was complications with my adoptiong, it was one of the first cases where a child was given up for adoption while the parents were still married, my dad was dying at the same time, but even with all this it is not something that has effected me at all.
It is like a painting on the wall, it is just there, doing nothing, not bothering me, but just there. But I have started to feel like I would like to hear something from someone. I found out I have a brother and half brother. I don't know its hard to explain, I have no interest in forming any sort of relationship with any of these people but it would be nice to know that you were not just forgotton about. Suddenly became a nobody.
Sorry for that kind of ramble, it prob makes no sense... it has been a long day. So yea hi!:)
smccarrick wrote: »
I'll start the ball rolling.....
I'm adopted and 32 years of age. I grew up in a large family, who mean the world to me. I sought my birthmum a few years ago and after a long and difficult search finally found her. I have several siblings who I have never met, but would love to.
emma11811 wrote: »
hi I too was adopted but when I contacted the health borad I was told my mother had died but she had three other children she gave up for adoption I have there dates of birth and the names she gave them so where do I go from here
Probably the best thing you can do is contact the health board and say that you want to conduct a trace for your siblings, assuming that you do. They should be able to point you in the right direction as regards what agencies may have dealt with your siblingsAs your birthmother is dead this should actually reduce one layer of complexity as they won't need to inform her that you are trying to trace your siblings. If you were interested you cpuld also get copies of their original birth records given that you have their original name, date of birth and presumably mothers surname. Even if you don't have the surname you can cross reference the three records to point you to the right ones. The birth records can be researched at the General Registry Office in the Irish Life Mall (I don't believe they're back in their usual home of Joyce house yet).
It's a very exciting thought for most people to search for a sibling especially as it doesn't seem to carry the same "baggage" as searching for birthparents. I have met three of my seven siblings so far and it has been great. best of luck with your search.