Cheating On Girlfreiend/Boyfriend???

Kingp35

Would any of you consider cheating on your girlfriend/boyfriend if you knew they would never find out?? Like if you were on holidays or something??

I hate all people that cheat. I dunno why they bother do go out with that person in the first place if they are just gonna cheat. Ok everybody gets the temptation to do it but you need self control if you really love that person.

Anyway would you cheat if you could get away with it???

Kingp35

Post up your reasons too

Dave

Personally I wouldn't. But what other people do in their own time is their own business, aslong as it doesn't effect me it's their choice.

Lainey

ehhh. kinda afraid to in case get attacked

i didn't vote on it cos i have done it before but am pretty certain i wouldnt do it again cos i felt so ****ty.. didn't get caught but still felt crap..

Johnny Versace

I have cheated.

The reasons are complicated, ranging from "emotional" reasons to simply being a drunken male.

...

Unpossible

I had the chance back in October when my then g/f was away in college and after one night of drinking a friend of mine (I knew she liked me for ages) basically offered me sex, no strings.

I turned her down, I hate cheaters

tribble

If you're going to cheat what's the point of having a girlfriend/boyfriend (in the conventional sense)?

Why not just have multiple sex partners?

I understand it can be a hormonal issue for girls to have boyfriends but, guys, if ya want to play the field then the least you can do is quit tying up the other team...

tribble

Mossy Monk

cheating makes satan do his happy dance

Lainey

Originally posted by Mossy Monk
cheating makes satan do his happy dance

judgemental people makes satan do the walls of limerick and a happy dance

Johnny Versace

I think it depends on what kind of person you are.

I'm a caring boyfriend, but I'm also a very sexual person, so I have slipped up a few times.

I never go out *trying* to cheat, but if there's enough alcohol, if the girls hot enough, and if... I guess... I'm in the mood, it has happened.

Although, the majority of cases where I've cheated, it's been with an ex.

Or, one time a very good looking friend of mine wanted to have a threesome with me and another girl. I simply couldn't turn it down, even though I had a girlfriend at the time.

SheroN

Or, one time a very good looking friend of mine wanted to have a threesome with me and another girl. I simply couldn't turn it down, even though I had a girlfriend at the time.

the dude.

Lainey

johnny........... he's yr only man

UnrealQueen

If you're in a relationship with someone you should do everything in your power to protect it. And if you're really in love, you won't notice anyone else. Cheaters will burn in hell.

Lainey

so you cheat on someone one drunken night..

somehow i doubt very much your name be one the front of the list to get into hell... now i may be wrong there... don't quote me at the gate

Johnny Versace

If you're in a relationship with someone you should do everything in your power to protect it. And if you're really in love, you won't notice anyone else. Cheaters will burn in hell.

I disagree. You can be in love and... sometimes... cheat.

For example, an ex of mine, I still love her (although like a sister now), yet I cheated on her a few times. The reason was generally because she simply didn't like sex (it's a long story.) I tried my best to stay faithful, but after 6 months of no sex I was going to explode.

It really depends on your situation, and your opinion of sex.

ravenhead

Originally posted by Johnny Versace
I think it depends on what kind of person you are.

I'm a caring boyfriend, but I'm also a very sexual person, so I have slipped up a few times.

I never go out *trying* to cheat, but if there's enough alcohol, if the girls hot enough, and if... I guess... I'm in the mood, it has happened.

Don't you feel bad about it? I mean - I have cheated before as I'm sure most people have at some time in a relationship & I have to say that I felt terrible .... so I told my b/f .... he was upset but he forgave me ... so I did it again!! & Yes before any of you say It was a terrible thing to do... But by that point I'd gotten away with it once so why not?????? Thats is of course until the shoe was on the other foot!!!
I didn't realise how much it hurt ...... I split with my then b/f after that but I haven't cheated since..... It's not worth it for a couple of mins of pleasure......

Kingp35

Basically man if you love her you wont cheat coz u dont wanna hurt her. no body wants to hurt the person they love so that will stop you cheating. if you do cheat you dont love her.you might really like her but it aint love.

If you just want sex then be mates with the girl but dont pretend you love them.

Lainey

Originally posted by ravenhead
I have cheated before as I'm sure most people have at some time in a relationship & I have to say that I felt terrible .... so I told my b/f .... he was upset but he forgave me ... so I did it again

oh my god.. run, run to the archbishop or somewhere else that has the right to forgive you such things.. aaarrrrgggghhhhhhh..

seriously.. you made the mistake, you pay for it.. finished.. noones elses deal but yours..

Johnny Versace

Yes I do regret it and I always feel guilty.

But I'd never tell my girlfriend about it - I think that's a bit selfish. She did nothing wrong so she doesn't need to be hurt by knowing I cheated.

If that makes any sense...

...

I do not like cheating though. All I'm saying is... I'm human. I've slipped up a few times.

Also... and I know people are going to go mad now...

I think when a man cheats it's different than when a woman cheats (:D)

But that's a discussion for another thread!

Dr. Loon

Bunch of cheating scum bags. I wish I was Satan so I could kick your arsés when you get to hell.

Johnny Versace

Why do I always get the feeling the people who despise cheating/one night stands/any discussion about sex/STD's/pregnancy/abortion on boards.ie are not very sexually experienced?

mrs. bucket

Cheaters are scumbags!!!

Johnny Versace

Originally posted by mrs. bucket
Cheaters are scumbags!!!

So the majority of the world are scumbags?

Actually, I agree with you on that one

ravenhead

Originally posted by Johnny Versace

Also... and I know people are going to go mad now...

I think when a man cheats it's different than when a woman cheats (:D)

But that's a discussion for another thread!

Being a woman - I would have to agree with Johnny on this one - Woman think things through a bit more when it comes to this kind of thing & woman can be a lot more clever about it too....;)

Kingp35

ok fair enough some people are weaker than others coz we are all human but not everyone cheats my man.

Dont see point in goin out with someone if your gonna do that but hey thats just me.

If my girlfriend cheated on me there would never be any forgiveness. If you dont got trust ya dont got much

tman

i wouldn't cheat myself, mainly because i don't want to go down the same road as my father.
then again, i haven't really been in the situation to test my moral fortitiude recently:dunno:

Kingp35

Why do I always get the feeling the people who despise cheating/one night stands/any discussion about sex/STD's/pregnancy/abortion on boards.ie are not very sexually experienced?

Haha man would you stop.me and my girlfriend are very experienced that dont make the slightest bit of difference.

KlodaX

Originally posted by tribble
If you're going to cheat what's the point of having a girlfriend/boyfriend (in the conventional sense)?

Why not just have multiple sex partners?

I understand it can be a hormonal issue for girls to have boyfriends but, guys, if ya want to play the field then the least you can do is quit tying up the other team...

tribble

I agree with this ... having a healthy sex life isn't a bad thing... being a liar is.

I wouldn't bother with a relationship if I thought I would act on other interests.
I would like to be respected in return and know what the others honest intentions are.

Alot of guys seem to think that they have to be bf/gf in order for the other person to have sexual relations with them. This isn't always the case...
I'd prefare an honest man over a 'boyfriend' any day.

Johnny Versace

I do actually dislike cheating, and if my girlfriend cheated on me I would be very upset. But I do believe humans are human, and people can make mistakes.

Some people make more mistakes than others. Some people have issues...

I don't think it's black and white.

Johnny Versace

Originally posted by Kingp35
Haha man would you stop.me and my girlfriend are very experienced that dont make the slightest bit of difference.

Not you in particular... but the majority of guys here.

Lainey

Originally posted by Kingp35
ok fair enough some people are weaker than others coz we are all human but not everyone cheats my man.

Dont see point in goin out with someone if your gonna do that but hey thats just me.

If my girlfriend cheated on me there would never be any forgiveness. If you dont got trust ya dont got much

i agree with you here kingp35.. but to go to the level of calling a people whores and scumbags because of it... well, that shows immaturity.. **** happens.. i was cheated on and although it broke me up at the time, i did it to someone myself after.. not proud of it but ****ed if i owe the world anything for my mistake.. :dunno: :dunno:

Imposter

Can anybody be 100% sure that they wouldn't cheat on their partner? I don't think you can.

ravenhead

Do you think you'll do it again???

Johnny Versace

Originally posted by ravenhead
Do you think you'll do it again???

Personally, I'd be happy if I never cheated again.

I do know when I get married I will defo not cheat. Especially if I have children.

Lainey

Originally posted by ravenhead
Do you think you'll do it again???

no, i don't think so. .i didn't love my bf at the time and i suppose i wanted it as a way out.. i don't know, i'm not much into thinking actions out.. whats done is done and all that.. but i'd like to think i wouldn't.. i have no plans too

Kingp35

yeah i agree too that you cant call people scumbags but imo i just dont like what they have done.

i didn't love my bf at the time and i suppose i wanted it as a way out

This just goes to prove my point that if you really do love someone you wont cheat. If you wanna play the field then go ahead and do it i have no problem with that but dont string someone along while your at it. Some people are meant for relationships and some people arent

ravenhead

Originally posted by Johnny Versace
Personally, I'd be happy if I never cheated again.

I do know when I get married I will defo not cheat. Especially if I have children.

But how do you know that you're not going to after you're married - what will be different then??

Kalina

I thibk it's pretty clear cut- at least in my mind. If you're happy in a relationship and in love with the person then you won't feel the need to be with anyone else. If you do cheat then it's saying something about the state of your relationship- imo!!

Johnny Versace

Originally posted by ravenhead
But how do you know that you're not going to after you're married - what will be different then??

I have a lot more to lose, and I could seriously damage someone's life, so I'll be more mature and responsible.

Also, I don't think I could forgive myself.

Dr. Loon

Originally posted by Johnny Versace
Why do I always get the feeling the people who despise cheating/one night stands/any discussion about sex/STD's/pregnancy/abortion on boards.ie are not very sexually experienced?

Hmmm.... I dunno, cos you're immature!?

Good troll, but I'll refrain from stepping down to your level you untrustworthy swine.

Johnny Versace

Originally posted by Dr. Loon
Hmmm.... I dunno, cos you're immature!?

Good troll, but I'll refrain from stepping down to your level you untrustworthy swine.

Nah, you know I'm right on this one...

Dr. Loon

Yes, because I disagree with cheating I am sexually inexperienced. That's spot on.

Your powers of deduction amaze me.

KlodaX

Originally posted by Imposter
Can anybody be 100% sure that they wouldn't cheat on their partner? I don't think you can.

yes I could. Hense the reason I don't have a partner. Hopefully someday I will have a partner that I know I wouldn't cheat on, and who I'd trust not to cheat on me....

untill that day. I won't be in a relationship. I've more respect for myself and others than to be at that ****.

Kalina

Originally posted by KlodaX
yes I could. Hense the reason I don't have a partner. Hopefully someday I will have a partner that I know I wouldn't cheat on, and who I'd trust not to cheat on me....

untill that day. I won't be in a relationship. I've more respect for myself and others than to be at that ****.

That sums it up pretty well.

Johnny Versace

Originally posted by Dr. Loon
Yes, because I disagree with cheating I am sexually inexperienced. That's spot on.

Your powers of deduction amaze me.

In general. Read any posts on this forum about being single/having sex.

The majority of boards members are not sexually experienced.

Kingp35

ok johnny maybe the people who arent experienced dont like talking bout sex because they feel embarrassed or something but because someone is experienced doesnt mean that they will cheat.

I see what your gettin obviously the more into sex you are the more you wanna do it so the more likely your gonna cheat which is a fair enough point. i still think that the majority of people dont cheat. well the people that really love their partners anyway.

If you dont love your partner than yeah its possible to cheat but if u feel like cheating dont just break up with that person then you can be with as many people as you like

Dr. Loon

Originally posted by Johnny Versace
In general. Read any posts on this forum about being single/having sex.

The majority of boards members are not sexually experienced.

Listen all of boards to the sexmaster speak. For his is the word. The word of utter stupidity.

Johnny Versace

Originally posted by Dr. Loon
Listen all of boards to the sexmaster speak. For his is the word. The word of utter stupidity.

Why are you getting personal? And angry?

This is just a discussion forum. Relax.

Imposter

Originally posted by KlodaX
yes I could. Hense the reason I don't have a partner. Hopefully someday I will have a partner that I know I wouldn't cheat on, and who I'd trust not to cheat on me....

untill that day. I won't be in a relationship. I've more respect for myself and others than to be at that ****.

You might think you'd never cheat on them but your life can change, as can your views and whats to say that 2 years down the line that you might be having troubles with your partner, or other troubles in your life and if an oppurtunity presents itself you can't be sure now what you'd do then.

I agree with Kalina that if you cheat it's a sign that something is generally wrong in your relationship but I really don't think anybody can say for sure that they would never cheat on someone. The more honest answer for me at least is that I'd hope I'd never cheat on anyone.

Johnny Versace

Yup imposter, I agree with what you're saying.

ravenhead

Originally posted by Dr. Loon
Listen all of boards to the sexmaster speak. For his is the word. The word of utter stupidity.

I have to agree with Johnny on this one - a lot of the members (not all) are still in school/collage & are really only getting to know themselves - so therfore you can't exactly call them experienced can you?? If only I had half the experience I have now when I was 17-22,23!!!!!!!!;)