Asking work colleague for money for giving lift to work

petes · 12-06-2020 10:02am

Kylta wrote: »

My opinion is this anybody who is not put out and is looking for petrol money is just a miserable ¢unt

Same could be said for the person saving money on getting a free lift in to work and not offering something towards the cost.

Doctors room ghost · 12-06-2020 10:02am

Tell them you were killed in a freak accident where the car ran out of fuel and momentarily distracted you and you rolled in under a truck.
When they see you,tell them it is the ghost of you and your dead car they see and wave really slow with a sad ghost face on you.get some of your non stinge colleagues to roll with the idea.
Mess with stinges head that way

road_high · 12-06-2020 10:03am

Kylta wrote: »

Since its not costing you anything and your not going out of your way. I wouldn't even bring it up as a subject. I've often gone out of my way to pick friends up going to work.
My opinion is this anybody who is not put out and is looking for petrol money is just a miserable ¢unt

It costs a packet to run a car...fuel, road tax, repayments, NCT, depreciation. If you want to be a soft lemon giving away your cash for nothing off you go.

Kylta · 12-06-2020 10:08am

road_high wrote: »

It costs a packet to run a car...fuel, road tax, repayments, NCT, depreciation. If you want to be a soft lemon giving away your cash for nothing off you go.

I run a car, but if your looking money of him why give a lift. Or mabye you should become a taxi service. But then again a hungry ¢unt is a hungry ¢unt. I suppose you count your teabags too

Kylta · 12-06-2020 10:09am

petes wrote: »

Same could be said for the person saving money on getting a free lift in to work and not offering something towards the cost.

If your offering lift you shouldn't looking for anything. Its different if he asking for lift

mojesius · 12-06-2020 10:09am

Leaving the stinginess/money aspect aside, this arrangement would be my worst nightmare. I love the 'me time' on the commute to and from work. Having to make small talk about work or whatever else first thing in the morning and straight after work would do my head in.

Alf Veedersane · 12-06-2020 10:10am

Kylta wrote: »

I run a car, but if your looking money of him why give a lift. Or mabye you should become a taxi service. But then again a hungry ¢unt is a hungry ¢unt. I suppose you count your teabags too

The passenger isn't a hungry ¢unt?

Getting a free lift, saving themselves a packet and not offering anything in return?

You don't think not offering anything is shítty?

Doctors room ghost · 12-06-2020 10:12am

mojesius wrote: »

Leaving the stinginess/money aspect aside, this arrangement would be my worst nightmare. I love the 'me time' on the commute to and from work. Having to make small talk about work or whatever else first thing in the morning and straight after work would do my head in.

Dead right.talking work to and from work would leave me feeling like I did a double shift in work.
Fcuk that.

Doctors room ghost · 12-06-2020 10:16am

Kylta wrote: »

Since its not costing you anything and your not going out of your way. I wouldn't even bring it up as a subject. I've often gone out of my way to pick friends up going to work.
My opinion is this anybody who is not put out and is looking for petrol money is just a miserable ¢unt

There’s a huge difference between giving a friend a lift and the daily collecting and dropping off of a money hungry,spend shy leech who refuses to contribute anything.
A busy fool is what you would be

Icsics · 12-06-2020 10:19am

Get out of this arrangement ASAP, like others said you’re annoyed already, it won’t end well. Make up an excuse, coved/insurance/going early or late. You’re paying for that car, you’re entitled to a stress free trip to work

Kylta · 12-06-2020 10:21am

Alf Veedersane wrote: »

The passenger isn't a hungry ¢unt?

Getting a free lift, saving themselves a packet and not offering anything in return?

You don't think not offering anything is shítty?

My opinion if he offered I would decline it. Because once you take money your under a compliment to that person. I suppose its up to the individual owner of the car the way they look upon their view point. But if its costing up nothing why would be moaning about fuel money. And if the money is an issue with the driver don't give the person a lift. Again I say if your not being put out its not costing you anything. The person accepting the lift should offer but thats up to his principles. Anybody looking for money giving somebody a lift to work and not going out of there way, is just a tight arse ¢unt.

road_high · 12-06-2020 10:23am

Kylta wrote: »

I run a car, but if your looking money of him why give a lift. Or mabye you should become a taxi service. But then again a hungry ¢unt is a hungry ¢unt. I suppose you count your teabags too

No I’m just not a pushover that bends over for everyone to please them and I don’t give a ****e what people think of me. That’s for weak self conscious people

fits · 12-06-2020 10:24am

ChikiChiki wrote: »

Trust me a lot of people would take this the wrong way.

It's a bit like when you beep the horn at someone. In Ireland you would swear you made an assassination attempt on their granny judging by most of the reactions.

Tough shi if they do tbh.

Kylta · 12-06-2020 10:24am

Doctors room ghost wrote: »

There’s a huge difference between giving a friend a lift and the daily collecting and dropping off of a money hungry,spend shy leech who refuses to contribute anything.
A busy fool is what you would be

Again we're talking about giving a person a lift to work. Nothing else your not taking them shopping and picking them up from pub

sallyanne12 · 12-06-2020 10:26am

tedpan wrote: »

I disagree with it being miserly.

The OP has the following costs.(I'm sure there are others)
1. Car
2. Fuel
3. Tax
4. Insurance
5. Wear and tear
6. The additional weight of the person will add up over a year and the costs are pretty significant when calculated.

The passenger has no costs, doesn't have to sit with random people on public transport and gets brought directly to the office door.

How is that fair? In my opinion, the colleague should be paying for half the fuel.

Yes but it will cost the OP the same whether he gives your man a lift or not. I can’t believe how money minded a lot of people are. I once had a boyfriend who used to ask me for petrol money whenever we’d go out in his car. It’s just so greedy.
Either bring the guy or say no, stop building resentment towards the poor fella

Just to add, I do think the guy should offer a few quid every now and again considering he knows you’re struggling but you can’t expect it. But as others have said, I would only give him a lift when it’s not going out of your way. I wouldn’t wait for him if you want to leave early or leave early for him if you want to stay late. I’d go whatever time suits you and if it suits him then grand

dinneenp · 12-06-2020 10:27am

Could have been covered already but does he have a car, how did he get to work before you?

12-06-2020 10:27am

I had an arrangement like that years ago, you'd be amazed how quickly they take it for granted. You have to make contact with them if you are going to be off or late. They can be late and you end up sitting waiting for them. They may be off and either never bothered or forgot to tell you.

I will never get into a situation like that again.

Alf Veedersane · 12-06-2020 10:40am

Kylta wrote: »

My opinion if he offered I would decline it. Because once you take money your under a compliment to that person. I suppose its up to the individual owner of the car the way they look upon their view point. But if its costing up nothing why would be moaning about fuel money. And if the money is an issue with the driver don't give the person a lift. Again I say if your not being put out its not costing you anything. The person accepting the lift should offer but thats up to his principles. Anybody looking for money giving somebody a lift to work and not going out of there way, is just a tight arse ¢unt.

The OP was annoyed about being taken for granted as opposed to being out of pocket. He's facilitating the passenger saving a significant amount of money without so much as offering anything in return. It appears that the lack of a offer of anything for being given a lift every day for 4 months is what grates with the OP rather than being out of pocket.

Like you said, the person should offer out of courtesy. They haven't and hence the OP feels taken for granted.

Lurching · 12-06-2020 10:41am

I'm blown away by the amount of people who think the OP should just continue collecting this person with no contributions.

This isn't a situation where the OP is a greedy sod, its a situation where the person taking the lift is massively taking advantage.

The OP may not save any money if he chose not to collect the passenger, but considering he's sharing his car, it would be nice to know the other person is contributing something to the arrangement.

the_syco · 12-06-2020 10:43am

nails1 wrote: »

4 months I’ve been collecting him

Giving him a lift once or twice is being nice. 4 months without him offering payment means he's a leech. Getting rid of him will benefit you.

frozenfrozen · 12-06-2020 10:47am

yeah just end the arrangement. What's anyone going to say? You don't even need a reason (covid could be one if you're allergic to being impolite)

He can hardly go to someone and say ah that fella is some bastard he gave me free lifts for 4 months and then stopped!

Signore Fancy Pants · 12-06-2020 10:53am

Kylta wrote: »

I run a car, but if your looking money of him why give a lift. Or mabye you should become a taxi service. But then again a hungry ¢unt is a hungry ¢unt. I suppose you count your teabags too

There's a difference between being sound and being taken advantage of.

If you have no problem spending thousands a year so someone else doesnt have to...then eh great I guess.

Have you been in the same situation for a prolonged period of time?

Kylta · 12-06-2020 10:54am

Alf Veedersane wrote: »

The OP was annoyed about being taken for granted as opposed to being out of pocket. He's facilitating the passenger saving a significant amount of money without so much as offering anything in return. It appears that the lack of a offer of anything for being given a lift every day for 4 months is what grates with the OP rather than being out of pocket.

Like you said, the person should offer out of courtesy. They haven't and hence the OP feels taken for granted.

I'm curious to know the passenger who gets a lift of the OP, has the passenger done him any favours over the last four months. Its the passenger repaying him for his generosity in kind. Maybe buying him his lunch, a few pints if his in the local etc?

jrosen · 12-06-2020 10:56am

If you feel you are being taken advantage off then speak up and talk to the colleague about it.

Kylta · 12-06-2020 11:03am

Signore Fancy Pants wrote: »

There's a difference between being sound and being taken advantage of.

If you have no problem spending thousands a year so someone else doesnt have to...then eh great I guess.

Have you been in the same situation for a prolonged period of time?

Again the OP is not being put out, he's going to work he is not detouring to collect passenger, the OPs cost are going to be the same whether he gives he's passenger a liftor not. In regards to the passenger if didn't offer his a miserable fu¢k. But for the OP the journey will always cost the same whether their is one in his car or ten

road_high · 12-06-2020 11:04am

Lurching wrote: »

I'm blown away by the amount of people who think the OP should just continue collecting this person with no contributions.

This isn't a situation where the OP is a greedy sod, its a situation where the person taking the lift is massively taking advantage.

The OP may not save any money if he chose not to collect the passenger, but considering he's sharing his car, it would be nice to know the other person is contributing something to the arrangement.

Many Irish people are soft like that, more worried about pleasing people and “not looking stingy”- they’d sooner be a doormat and be rode senseless

road_high · 12-06-2020 11:06am

Kylta wrote: »

Again the OP is not being put out, he's going to work he is not detouring to collect passenger, the OPs cost are going to be the same whether he gives he's passenger a liftor not. In regards to the passenger if didn't offer his a miserable fu¢k. But for the OP the journey will always cost the same whether their is one in his car or ten

Added weight burns more fuel and wear and tear on a car. Fairly obvious I would have thought

Kylta · 12-06-2020 11:09am

For the OP I can't see this situation ending well. I think if the passenger pays or doesn't or the OP doesn't give him A lift. I think its all going to end up in resentment from one or both sides.

12-06-2020 11:11am

I avoid these regular arrangements at all costs, hate having someone in the car on a trip like that and having to make small talk rather than listening to the radio and just having the time to myself. Also you are tied to deciding on a schedule for going to/from work which if your work is flexible and like me you decide to sleep in for an extra 30 mins or work later etc it doesn’t work if you have committed to giving a lift.

I have occasionally given lifts in situations where I know it wouldn’t be an overly regular things like the time of the bus strike or a time I was going a long drive regularly and I was giving someone on temporary placement a lift. I was always offered money or a bottle of whiskey or something (which I always accepted) though and while I wouldn’t have asked I expected to be offered something since I was saving the person hassle and money.

Kylta · 12-06-2020 11:11am

road_high wrote: »

Added weight burns more fuel and wear and tear on a car. Fairly obvious I would have thought

How heavy is his one passenger

Rodney Bathgate · 12-06-2020 11:14am

road_high wrote: »

Added weight burns more fuel and wear and tear on a car. Fairly obvious I would have thought

The extra wear and tear on the door handle, hinges, seat and seat belt, carpet (or floor mat) should not be under estimated.

the_syco · 12-06-2020 11:17am

Kylta wrote: »

Again the OP is not being put out, he's going to work he is not detouring to collect passenger, the OPs cost are going to be the same whether he gives he's passenger a liftor not. In regards to the passenger if didn't offer his a miserable fu¢k. But for the OP the journey will always cost the same whether their is one in his car or ten

Have found that when you're going by someone else clock, you can't take your time on a task as you have to be out for them, and you can't leave too early to avoid traffic, as you have to collect them.

frozenfrozen · 12-06-2020 11:18am

Kylta wrote: »

How heavy is his one passenger

there's still going to be extra cost involved even just in having to slow down and pull in to the side of the road and drive off again, as well as having to clean the interior of the car 2x as much there will be tangible costs. And it doesn't take no time, and the hassle of also having to contact someone else to say you'll be late or early.

tedpan · 12-06-2020 11:20am

Kylta wrote:

How heavy is his one passenger

Depends on how much they weigh. The cost in carrying that weight is not insignificant when calculated on a monthly or annual basis.

Kylta · 12-06-2020 11:20am

the_syco wrote: »

Have found that when you're going by someone else clock, you can't take your time on a task as you have to be out for them, and you can't leave too early to avoid traffic, as you have to collect them.

And that is why I'd never ask a person for money going to work (ill stress this again the OP is not going out of his way).

Homelander · 12-06-2020 11:26am

While I most definitely wouldn't ask for money, it's really scabby of him not to even offer anything in return.

I mean, it's just about a small gesture, even an 8-pack of cans every now and again, a bottle of wine, even just buying you lunch the odd time. Costs essentially nothing and means a lot.

I mean recently a friend went considerably out of his way to collect and return me to an event. Later that week we went to the cinema, I insisted on buying his ticket - it cost me €8. Him going out of his way earlier that week literally saved me €30.

AndyBoBandy · 12-06-2020 11:42am

Kylta wrote: »

I think its all going to end up in resentment from one or both sides.

That's already happened, hence the thread we are all reading.....

kingstevii · 12-06-2020 11:55am

Kylta wrote: »

How heavy is his one passenger

Do you know the op? Sounds like you're the passenger!

the_syco · 12-06-2020 11:59am

Kylta wrote: »

And that is why I'd never ask a person for money going to work (ill stress this again the OP is not going out of his way).

The OP may not be going out of his way, but the OP has to drop them home each day. The OP can't, on a whim, decide to goto a shop in the opposite direction; they have to drop off the person first. And by then, they're probably already home.

Or decide to leave the car at work so that they can go for a few pints.

Edgware · 12-06-2020 11:59am

Wait till you have a crash and his insurance claim comes in, that will be fun.
He's a mean bastard if he doesnt throw you twenty every week at least for the petrol and an occasional Lotto quick pick as a bonus.

Signore Fancy Pants · 12-06-2020 12:29pm

Kylta wrote: »

Again the OP is not being put out, he's going to work he is not detouring to collect passenger, the OPs cost are going to be the same whether he gives he's passenger a liftor not. In regards to the passenger if didn't offer his a miserable fu¢k. But for the OP the journey will always cost the same whether their is one in his car or ten

Youre calling us miserable c$unts, so I'm asking about you, not the OP.

Pistachio19 · 12-06-2020 12:44pm

Health and safety on work sites are known to turn contractors away if they arrive in the same vehicle now. The danger of covid spread is your excuse to end this arrangement today - not that you need an excuse. You can simply tell him you wont be available for lifts from today. If he asks why just mention the virus and the fact you should not have been giving lifts all this time, or just repeat 'I'm not available'.

Kylta · 12-06-2020 12:55pm

Signore Fancy Pants wrote: »

Youre calling us miserable c$unts, so I'm asking about you, not the OP.

In regards to me, if im going to work and I pick you up, if im going in a straight line we say and not out of my way happy days I don't want anything off you. If im put out on my journey well something will have to happen.
I have collected people on my way to work, (ie say at corner or a bus stop because I haven't detour from my route). And if i'm truly honest they would offer something or other. But there's is no way I'd take money for not being put out. Now in fairness to the passenger if he doesn't offer money could maybe he is afraid offering money could offend. Or maybe he genuinely is a miserble ¢unt. But I would offer money if I was getting a lift over a prolonged period of time. But thats me. Now I wonder would all the car owners that are bitching about the passenger would they be queuing up to pay if they were vetting a lift for nothing.
Now I know we'll disagree on this but if your going from A to B on a journey and its costing you the same whether you have a passenger or not I think its wrong to look for money.
I think I have riled some posters by calling the miserable ¢unts and to set the record straight they are miserable ¢unts.
Happy days

12-06-2020 1:00pm

Giving someone a lift too and from work everyday is a serious pain in the hole.

Kylta · 12-06-2020 1:02pm

nails1 wrote: »

Is it acceptable to ask a colleague for cash for picking him up and giving lift to work. His house is on my direct route to work so I’m not going out of way or spending extra cash to give him a lift in and dropping him home.

Hey OP sorry I haven't read most of the posts, besides the issue of fuel money. Is there other reasons why you don't want him in the car? And why do you feel obliged to give him a lift

Kylta · 12-06-2020 1:06pm

kingstevii wrote: »

Do you know the op? Sounds like you're the passenger!

I actually don't like being a passenger. I love to drive.

12-06-2020 1:09pm

In my summer job I needed a lift to work especially when weather was shyte. No money asked for.

If I was in a permanent job, I would offer "something".
Drivers car will use more fuel with extra body on board.

road_high · 12-06-2020 1:14pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

In my summer job I needed a lift to work especially when weather was shyte. No money asked for.

If I was in a permanent job, I would offer "something".
Drivers car will use more fuel with extra body on board.

Just because it wasn’t asked for doesn’t mean you shouldn’t offer. It’s common decency to pay your way especially if a regular thing

road_high · 12-06-2020 1:16pm

Rodney Bathgate wrote: »

The extra wear and tear on the door handle, hinges, seat and seat belt, carpet (or floor mat) should not be under estimated.

Yes they do and all adds to depreciation especially on a new car. If there wasn’t wear and tear all cars would look new forever

12-06-2020 1:20pm

Deleted User wrote: »

In my summer job I needed a lift to work especially when weather was shyte. No money asked for...............

Was any offered?

Asking work colleague for money for giving lift to work

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