Crooked teeth

Daisy78 wrote: »

For gods sake don't say anything to the poor girl about it. She may very well be aware of this herself and is self conscious about it already. She doesn't need you pointing out her flaws. You might want to reassess your standards before you start dating again though.

Infairness to the OP he didn't suggest saying anything to her, he asked "can I get over this". Fair play to him for realising it is an issue on him and not on her

Lia_lia wrote: »

Poor girl! I had crooked teeth, my parents couldn't afford to get me braces. Was very self conscious about them never smiled in photos etc... No one ever mentioned them to me though! Also hate when people call crooked teeth "bad teeth". They could be perfectly healthy, healthier than many people with straight teeth. Some people can't afford to get them fixed, it's a luxury!

It's just a particularly nauseating side effect of American TV and films that proliferate our world, I'm afraid. If your teeth aren't artificially straight and "white", then your a mutant of some sort and not worthy of a snog, let alone going out with.

Unfortunately, a lot of people these days are more prone to be influenced by some shallow, empty, Californian, cunt than they are their own common sense and opinion.

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

If you practice good dental hygiene and have a couple of cleaning sessions with a dental hygienist in the year it shouldn't be an issue. I find many Irish people have a lackadaisical approach to their oral health and can go years without visiting a dentist.

Ara brush and floss your teeth and you'll be fine. This idea of visiting a dentist when you aren't in pain is rubbish.

I finally bite the bullet last week and went for a checkup and clean after 10 years, sure the dentist said my teeth were perfect.

Dial Hard wrote: »

Actually crooked teeth can cause major issues with bite, jaw alignment, cleaning issues etc. It's not just aesthetics.

Anyway, OP, if it's a dealbreaker for you, it's a dealbreaker. I certainly don't find people with really crooked teeth attractive. But I am kind of puzzled as to why you've stayed with her so long if it bothers you this much.

Exactly. Won't somebody please think of the children.

How perfect are you, OP? Testosterone levels ok?

Since this is AH, pics of you or GTFO. Are you good enough for her?

Speaking as a girl who has fairly crooked teeth... if my boyfriend wasn't attracted to me as a result of my smile, I would honestly rather he just broke up with me than if he tried to get me to 'fix' them.

It sounds bizarre but for me, it's something which I cannot currently afford to change, so all I can do is just try to accept them, and it's something I'm really insecure about. Knowing that someone I really cared about disliked my smile so much that they didn't like looking at my face would be such a painful thing to hear and to try to comprehend (knowing I can't do anything to change it right now) ... being dumped and not knowing the reason would actually be preferable!

Whatever you do, just try to do it sensitively.

somuj wrote: »

Oh yes. Never smiles with her mouth open tho and puts her hand up when she laughs.

The fact she's a neo-Nazi is more of a turn-off.

@ One Eyed Jack:
I have a 'wet Wednesday in november' test that can be applied to most things.

I'd rather spend a 'wet Wednesday in November' in the company of a funny/interesting person with physical flaws than someone who was 'perfect' (whatever that means) but who also was boring/had no personality...

Ahh, right, I'm still not quite getting the point of it but I know what you mean, and as you say indeed a person's mileage may vary. For example I'm in a long term relationship, and to me looks are just as important as personality.

If the OP has an issue with this girls physical appearance now, that's not going to lend itself to a long term relationship either way, no matter how fantastic her personality.

One of my friends who had an issue with her teeth and was very self-conscious of the fact, no amount of telling her that the more she was focussed on it, the more other people would focus on it, and even when she spent €2k on braces to fix the issue, she was still self-conscious of the issue and would constantly roll her tongue in front of her teeth, ask did they look ok, etc, she was even worse than she was before.

Eventually her personality and her behaviour had changed to a point where it was just a pain in the arse to spend any length of time in her company.

Sounds like he's been going out with the girl for awhile. Maybe he's a teenager and another girl has turned his head?

Now I'm confused. On the one hand, looks are equal to personality in your opinion. Then you cite a girl who got so obsessed with her appearance that her personality changed and she 'changed to a point where it was just a pain in the arse to spend any length of time in her company'.

In long term relationships, lets not forget farting, snoring, toilet seat up/down, toothpaste cap on/off, butter in fridge or not, etc etc.... Nobody's perfect!

Dubwat wrote: »

@ One Eyed Jack:
I have a 'wet Wednesday in november' test that can be applied to most things.

I'd rather spend a 'wet Wednesday in November' in the company of a funny/interesting person with physical flaws than someone who was 'perfect' (whatever that means) but who also was boring/had no personality...

It's easy know what perfect means - someone whom you find physically irresistible. As you said earlier - each person's mileage is going to vary in that respect, and I have an even simpler test - if I can't bear to look at the person, I'm not going to be too interested in finding out anything else about their personality. Shallow as a puddle me, and no shame in admitting that fact

Thankfully, I've never come across either extreme where someone was physically irresistible and had no personality, or vice versa - physically repellant with a cracking personality. I'm somewhat lucky in that regard in that many of my friends are physically irresistible, with cracking personalities.

Sounds like he's been going out with the girl for awhile. Maybe he's a teenager and another girl has turned his head?

Dunno tbh, he seems like the silent type himself, having not really contributed to the thread himself since

Now I'm confused. On the one hand, looks are equal to personality in your opinion. Then you cite a girl who got so obsessed with her appearance that her personality changed and she 'changed to a point where it was just a pain in the arse to spend any length of time in her company'.

Yes, she was self-conscious about her appearance before, but it was bearable, I hadn't thought anything of her teeth before she pointed out that one of her front teeth was out of alignment, but you literally had to look at it sideways and really, really closely to see it. After the treatment with braces to rectify the issue, she became unbearably obsessive about it. I simply couldn't take it any more, having said it to her numerous times already. There's only so many times anyone should have to reassure someone.

In long term relationships, lets not forget farting, snoring, toilet seat up/down, toothpaste cap on/off, butter in fridge or not, etc etc.... Nobody's perfect!

Which quite frankly would get on my tits an awful lot more were my wife not physically irresistible with a cracking personality. I make allowances for putting up with the trivial times when I'm annoyed by her lack of consideration. I don't know what her explanation for the reasons she's still with me are, but I dare not draw her attention to that question in case she starts wondering the same question herself! :pac:

myshirt wrote: »

On a scale of 1 to like that girl on Jeremy Kyle, how bad are we talking op?

Jeez that's bad, those teeth could do serious damage.