Crooked teeth

somuj

Been seeing this girl for ages. Get on so well. Enjoy all the same things. Have never had a row. Very attracted to her.

Only one thing irks me. A mouth full of crooked teeth and an extra one, in front on the bottom. I try not to look at them while we chat or think about them in general. But when I do it just turns me off.

Call me shallow if you will. But I dont think I could look at them for a few decades.

Cant afford to get them fixed or I dont really want to knock them out as I sense a few replies will say.

Is it possible to get over this?

Lucifer MorningStar

It depends, is she hot besides that ?

jonon9

Were not all perfect a few bent teeth shouldn't be the deal breaker.

kneemos

Well Shallow,difference adds character.

Omackeral

Brace yourself.



That's what you should say to her.

BlaasForRafa

somuj wrote: »

Is it possible to get over this?

Just stare at her tits instead.

Subcomandante Marcos

Crooked teeth don't bother me but stained teeth make me wretch.

Smokers are the worst, often a mouthful of rotten, stained teeth and taste like an ashtray, such a turn off. Nothing worse than seeing a really hot girl who then goes and ruins it by sticking a burning stick of tar in her mouth.

Fleawuss

Why would you be looking at her teeth for decades? Is this some fetish?

Very Bored

Only you can decide whether or not its a deal breaker as different people will have different limits. I couldn't be with a girl who was stick thin, just turns me off completely, though I probably couldn't be with a girl who was obese either. There will be plenty of men who would be happy with one or the other though.

somuj

Lucifer MorningStar wrote: »

It depends, is she hot besides that ?

Oh yes. Never smiles with her mouth open tho and puts her hand up when she laughs.

I dunno. Feel like a douche for thinking like this. But could it ever really work if I dnt want to look at her with her mouth open?

_Brian

If it's a thing that's going to last decades something like this won't bother you.

If it's already a problem then I'd say it's not the relationship for you.

Everyone deserves someone who likes them the way they are. Buck teeth and all.

Fine if she wants to get them done for herself. But she'd be mad to get them done for your benifet or anyone else either.

NomadicGray

Would they stop you putting your dick in there?

Sky King

This girl sounds like she bit off more than she could chew when she met you OP.

DEFTLEFTHAND

Subcomandante Marcos wrote: »

Crooked teeth don't bother me but stained teeth make me wretch.

Smorker are the worst, often a mouthful of rotten, stained teeth and taste like an ashtry, such a turn off. Nothing seeing a really hot girl who then goes and ruins it by sticking a burning stick of tar in her mouth.

If you practice good dental hygiene and have a couple of cleaning sessions with a dental hygienist in the year it shouldn't be an issue. I find many Irish people have a lackadaisical approach to their oral health and can go years without visiting a dentist.

Hammar

somuj wrote: »

Oh yes. Never smiles with her mouth open tho and puts her hand up when she laughs.

I dunno. Feel like a douche for thinking like this. But could it ever really work if I dnt want to loo at her with her mouth open?

She's obviously self conscious about them,so she will probably look at getting them straightened when she gets the money to.
OP if it bothers you that much, this relationship probably isn't for you.
We are all shallow in one way or another anyway,so don't worry about being perceived as that.

riclad

if you love her you,ll get over this,
Theres dental clinics in europe that are much cheaper than irish dentists .
Maybe ask her nicely ,is she happy the way she is.
does she have any wish to get dental work done.
maybe she thinks its a minor thing.
People go away for a week, get all the teeth done ,
its like going on holiday.
IF you bring this up ,just try and be polite about it.
Maybe she has no wish to get them fixed,
or does not think its a big dal.

Tony EH

I like a face with a little flaw.

There's nothing as sexless as a "perfect", bland face.

c_man

somuj wrote: »

Call me shallow if you will.

I wouldn't. Everyone's got some preferences they look for in a partner. If it's bothering ya now, well that's hardly gonna change is it?

Subcomandante Marcos

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

If you practice good dental hygiene and have a couple of cleaning sessions with a dental hygienist in the year it shouldn't be an issue. I find many Irish people have a lackadaisical approach to their oral health and can go years without visiting a dentist.

Man I've lived on four continents in countries, in regions ranging from the highest to the lowest standards of living on earth and it's not just Irish people it's everywhere. Smokers tend to not look after their teeth anywhere.

magentis

Era walk away.....best of luck to you on your search for perfection.
Some lads not happy with their birds gooters stump up for a boob job,why not stump up for some braces?

Caovyn Lineah

Is she from Limerick

Sky King

magentis wrote: »

Era walk away.....best of luck to you on your search for perfection.
Some lads not happy with their birds gooters stump up for a boob job,why not stump up for some braces?

He is finding that her teeth make it hard for him to 'stump up' that's the problem.

doulikeit

somuj wrote:

Only one thing irks me. A mouth full of crooked teeth and an EXTRA ONE, in front on the bottom. I try not to look at them while we chat or think about them in general. But when I do it just turns me off.

Extra teeth, brilliant compliant, do you know what she is going to say to you when you are both old geezers and she eating curley worleys and you banana sandwiches, up ur bollix gummy

Pink Lemons

Just make sure she's careful when doing oral activities. Crooked teeth mean extra dangers, nobody likes being scraped.

whatdoicare

There's women in Japan paying to get crooked teeth as they think it looks sexy - so tbh I think you should get over it or send her to Japan where she'll be appreciated:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2271585/Japanese-women-paying-hundreds-pounds-crooked-fang-like-teeth-latest-cosmetic-craze.html

Capt'n Midnight

she's defo one of the lizard people. Unlike mammals lizards grow extra teeth.

Menas

Would not bother me in the slightest, but if it bothers you OP then bail out. It will just annoy you more and more as time goes on!

davo10

From a dentist's point of view, we see this all the time. She is acutely aware of the issue if she smiles with her mouth closed, this actually takes a lot more effort than a normal smile.

Most people who put off having ortho (braces) treatment, do so for a multiple of reasons, financial, time constraints, fear of going to a dentist, fear that a dentist will tell them that their teeth are "awful" and nothing can be done etc.

If you want to say something to her to encourage her to seek treatment, you must do it tactfully. Try saying to her that she is beautiful, confident and you love her to bits but you have noticed that she seems concious of her smile, and ask her if she ever considered getting an opinion from a dentist on what can be done to make her more confident about smiling. Do not say "did you ever think of getting your teeth straightened"

Ste-

somuj wrote: »

Oh yes. Never smiles with her mouth open tho and puts her hand up when she laughs.

I dunno. Feel like a douche for thinking like this. But could it ever really work if I dnt want to look at her with her mouth open?

Is it possible she feels the same way as you. To me she sounds conscience of them already. You saying something about them might make matters worse.
Realistically, once she keeps them clean if she goes to a dentist reguarly he should be able to keep on top of them and maybe suggest a brace or some other way to straighten them out.

Really tho it's not something that if you are thinking of being with this girl long term that should bother you. If you get along great and you enjoy her company and likewise her with you this isn't something you should let hold you back from being with this girl.

Would you rather a dull boring girl you don't get on with that has a great set of teeth ?


This answer was far too serious for AH.

beks101

Bad teeth are a dealbreaker for me.
I wouldn't want to kiss them or be close to their mouth, ever.
Nothing wrong with feeling that way, we all have our preferences.
Just don't give the girl a complex any worse than she already has.
Which you will do if you stay with her.

Daisy78

For gods sake don't say anything to the poor girl about it. She may very well be aware of this herself and is self conscious about it already. She doesn't need you pointing out her flaws. You might want to reassess your standards before you start dating again though.

OhDearyMe

Her teeth are crooked, which I wouldn't class as "bad teeth" myself i.e. she probably takes care of them, brushes them and flosses them etc. but as you say, can't afford to get them straightened. I've gone out with a few guys with crooked, but clean, teeth and it didn't bother me personally but then I've never looked for perfection in someone as long as it looked as if they were taking care of themselves generally. It's funny how you grow to love the imperfections of those you love over time and the very fact that they are imperfect makes you love them more.


Not a very AH answer. Up to you, I suppose, OP. Physical attraction is superficial and we all have our preferences. Just make you don't say this to her as she's obviously completely aware of it already.

Lia_lia

Poor girl! I had crooked teeth, my parents couldn't afford to get me braces. Was very self conscious about them never smiled in photos etc... No one ever mentioned them to me though! Also hate when people call crooked teeth "bad teeth". They could be perfectly healthy, healthier than many people with straight teeth. Some people can't afford to get them fixed, it's a luxury!

Anyway, I got braces in my 20's and they are straight now. Not too difficult to pay for once you get a payment plan. Just like paying off a car loan.

wp_rathead

Daisy78 wrote: »

For gods sake don't say anything to the poor girl about it. She may very well be aware of this herself and is self conscious about it already. She doesn't need you pointing out her flaws. You might want to reassess your standards before you start dating again though.

Infairness to the OP he didn't suggest saying anything to her, he asked "can I get over this". Fair play to him for realising it is an issue on him and not on her

Pac1Man

riclad wrote: »

Maybe ask her nicely ,is she happy the way she is.
does she have any wish to get dental work done.

DO NOT ask her this op. FFS.

beks101

I guess it depends on how crooked too. It doesn't sound from the OP as though it's a minor slightly-misaligned imperfect-smile kinda thing. That can be quite endearing if they're well maintained. Sounds to me like a more serious case.

Canadel

Anyone know a shop where you can buy those toothbrush head covers for travelling?

Tony EH

Lia_lia wrote: »

Poor girl! I had crooked teeth, my parents couldn't afford to get me braces. Was very self conscious about them never smiled in photos etc... No one ever mentioned them to me though! Also hate when people call crooked teeth "bad teeth". They could be perfectly healthy, healthier than many people with straight teeth. Some people can't afford to get them fixed, it's a luxury!

It's just a particularly nauseating side effect of American TV and films that proliferate our world, I'm afraid. If your teeth aren't artificially straight and "white", then your a mutant of some sort and not worthy of a snog, let alone going out with.

Unfortunately, a lot of people these days are more prone to be influenced by some shallow, empty, Californian, cunt than they are their own common sense and opinion.

myshirt

On a scale of 1 to like that girl on Jeremy Kyle, how bad are we talking op?

FrStone

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

If you practice good dental hygiene and have a couple of cleaning sessions with a dental hygienist in the year it shouldn't be an issue. I find many Irish people have a lackadaisical approach to their oral health and can go years without visiting a dentist.

Ara brush and floss your teeth and you'll be fine. This idea of visiting a dentist when you aren't in pain is rubbish.

I finally bite the bullet last week and went for a checkup and clean after 10 years, sure the dentist said my teeth were perfect.

Dial Hard

Tony EH wrote:

It's just a particularly nauseating side effect of American TV and films that proliferate our world, I'm afraid. If your teeth aren't artificially straight and "white", then your a mutant of some sort and not worthy of a snog, let alone going out with.

Actually crooked teeth can cause major issues with bite, jaw alignment, cleaning issues etc. It's not just aesthetics.

Anyway, OP, if it's a dealbreaker for you, it's a dealbreaker. I certainly don't find people with really crooked teeth attractive. But I am kind of puzzled as to why you've stayed with her so long if it bothers you this much.

ALiasEX

Dial Hard wrote: »

Actually crooked teeth can cause major issues with bite, jaw alignment, cleaning issues etc. It's not just aesthetics.

Anyway, OP, if it's a dealbreaker for you, it's a dealbreaker. I certainly don't find people with really crooked teeth attractive. But I am kind of puzzled as to why you've stayed with her so long if it bothers you this much.

Exactly. Won't somebody please think of the children.

Capt'n Midnight

FrStone wrote: »

Ara brush and floss your teeth and you'll be fine. This idea of visiting a dentist when you aren't in pain is rubbish.

I finally bite the bullet last week and went for a checkup and clean after 10 years, sure the dentist said my teeth were perfect.

Protip
Save time on flossing by only doing the ones you want to keep.

If you've a problem lies in the gums below the area you can brush or floss then visiting the dentist could save a tooth or too.

the groutch

Lisa needs braces.

mfceiling

You "jesus i just got a letter from my dentist about my annual check up - can't believe it's a year from I was there. I wonder if there is a better dentist than the one I go to. Who do you go to"?
That's the dentist conversation started...off you go.

Dubwat

How perfect are you, OP? Testosterone levels ok?

Since this is AH, pics of you or GTFO. Are you good enough for her?

One eyed Jack

Dubwat wrote: »

How perfect are you, OP? Testosterone levels ok?

Since this is AH, pics of you or GTFO. Are you good enough for her?

I'm not being smart, I just never understood nor understand the point of making that statement or pointing that out to someone, particularly if your point is that the OP shouldn't be so judgemental of another person's appearance. Is that not what you're challenging them to upload pictures for? So that they themselves can be judged? How does that help a person? How does that help anyone?

All it seems to do to me anyway is perpetuate the superficial judgment of other people. I'm open to being corrected though, if you wouldn't mind? I'm willing to accept I may be misreading or misinterpreting the idea of the question or the challenge.

deex

Speaking as a girl who has fairly crooked teeth... if my boyfriend wasn't attracted to me as a result of my smile, I would honestly rather he just broke up with me than if he tried to get me to 'fix' them.

It sounds bizarre but for me, it's something which I cannot currently afford to change, so all I can do is just try to accept them, and it's something I'm really insecure about. Knowing that someone I really cared about disliked my smile so much that they didn't like looking at my face would be such a painful thing to hear and to try to comprehend (knowing I can't do anything to change it right now) ... being dumped and not knowing the reason would actually be preferable!

Whatever you do, just try to do it sensitively.

Dubwat

@ One Eyed Jack:

Of course I don't want the OP to post photos of himself on the internet. That's why I added the 'pics or GTFO' comment.

I hope the OP realises that nobody is perfect, including himself (& myself).
I hope the OP realises that the judgement of 100+ strangers on the internet is not the solution.

In a long term relationship, personality is more important than looks. YMMV

Hammer89

somuj wrote: »

Oh yes. Never smiles with her mouth open tho and puts her hand up when she laughs.

The fact she's a neo-Nazi is more of a turn-off.

One eyed Jack

Dubwat wrote: »

@ One Eyed Jack:

Of course I don't want the OP to post photos of himself on the internet. That's why I added the 'pics or GTFO' comment.

I hope the OP realises that nobody is perfect, including himself (& myself).
I hope the OP realises that the judgement of 100+ strangers on the internet is not the solution.

In a long term relationship, personality is more important than looks. YMMV

Ahh, right, I'm still not quite getting the point of it but I know what you mean, and as you say indeed a person's mileage may vary. For example I'm in a long term relationship, and to me looks are just as important as personality.

If the OP has an issue with this girls physical appearance now, that's not going to lend itself to a long term relationship either way, no matter how fantastic her personality.

One of my friends who had an issue with her teeth and was very self-conscious of the fact, no amount of telling her that the more she was focussed on it, the more other people would focus on it, and even when she spent €2k on braces to fix the issue, she was still self-conscious of the issue and would constantly roll her tongue in front of her teeth, ask did they look ok, etc, she was even worse than she was before.

Eventually her personality and her behaviour had changed to a point where it was just a pain in the arse to spend any length of time in her company.