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Strangers calling you 'my friend'?

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    #32
    breezy1985
    Registered Users Posts: 24,370 ✭✭✭✭breezy1985


    ablelocks wrote: »
    until it is, and then you get a full account of how it is, in fact, going for them - and usually, it's not a good story.

    "How are things" and "how are you" are phrases that should never be used round the literal minded English.

    I used say it as a barman over and the reply would be pan account of their day followed by silence as they stare patiently as they wait for you to ask what drink they would like.
    They couldn't understand the concept that the barman didn't actually care how things were.


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    #33
    kravmaga
    Registered Users Posts: 1,945 ✭✭✭kravmaga


    That's like real Dubs saying, ah right Pal, Buddy, Bud, Lad, Dude(D4 Head types) and Mate (UK mainly).

    Its a way to try and break the ice with a stranger, I would not read too much into it OP.

    Could be worse, All right My Friend, Ya Bollix :-)


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    #34
    Church on Tuesday
    Registered Users Posts: 3,858 ✭✭✭Church on Tuesday


    Alright chuck.


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    #35
    WesternZulu
    Registered Users Posts: 1,924 ✭✭✭WesternZulu


    Probably better than being called 'scan' or 'sham' depending on what part of North Galway you find yourself.


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    #36
    Interested Bystander
    Registered Users Posts: 34 ✭Interested Bystander


    I used to live in South Carolina, once you get called 'hot rod' by a middle aged man, anything is an improvement.

    People being fake is one thing but if someone is being friendly and doesn't know what to call you, i'm everyone's buddy, pal, friend, mate or lad
    Just don't call me dotey pet :)


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    #37
    Sardonicat
    Registered Users Posts: 12,378 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    Interested Bystander wrote: »
    Just don't call me dotey pet :)

    Who calls you that!?


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    #38
    440Hertz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 651 ✭✭✭440Hertz


    People just gave crutch words.

    I know someone who calls me “Me ould segotia!”


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    #39
    Interested Bystander
    Registered Users Posts: 34 ✭Interested Bystander


    Sardonicat wrote: »
    Who calls you that!?

    No-one thankfully, but i've heard it going around. *shootmyself in the face emoji*


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    #40
    Sardonicat
    Registered Users Posts: 12,378 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    Interested Bystander wrote: »
    No-one thankfully, but i've heard it going around. *shootmyself in the face emoji*

    I thought you might have an older female friend with a soft spot for you. I was going to suggest doubling down on the boundaries!


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    #41
    John Frank Wilson
    Registered Users Posts: 105 ✭✭John Frank Wilson


    I don't particularly like this either, but I'm sure it's often meant in a friendly way. If someone says it to me, online we'll say... - I will reluctantly return it with a 'bud' or 'buddy', I couldn't bring myself to return with 'my friend', but I do understand they are just using 'my friend' the same way I am using 'buddy', in other words - to simply convey a bit of warmth in the conversation!

    Conversely - I don't think I could utter the word 'buddy' out loud! Unless I was taking off Keith Duffy or something... I think I could however utter the word 'friend', but certainly not with the word 'my' attached, not to a stranger.


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    #42
    Autosport
    Registered Users Posts: 22,230 ✭✭✭✭Autosport


    440Hertz wrote: »
    People just gave crutch words.

    I know someone who calls me “Me ould segotia!”

    I use that phrase :D only for special people ;)


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    #43
    breezy1985
    Registered Users Posts: 24,370 ✭✭✭✭breezy1985


    Speak friend and enter


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    #44
    John Frank Wilson
    Registered Users Posts: 105 ✭✭John Frank Wilson


    440Hertz wrote: »
    People just gave crutch words.

    I know someone who calls me “Me ould segotia!”

    I have a jumper I've worn so much that I call it 'Me auld Pal'. And it is just that, warm - friendly... warm - never lets you down, always there for me.

    My auld pal the Jumper!


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    #45
    Hyperbollix
    Registered Users Posts: 923 ✭✭✭Hyperbollix


    John Frank Wilson wrote: »
    I have a jumper I've worn so much that I call it 'Me auld Pal'. And it is just that, warm - friendly... warm - never lets you down, always there for me.

    My auld pal the Jumper!

    U ok................


    Hun?


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    #46
    John Frank Wilson
    Registered Users Posts: 105 ✭✭John Frank Wilson


    Hyperbollix wrote: »
    U ok................


    Hun?

    I'm fine chick.


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    #47
    IAMAMORON
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,078 ✭✭✭IAMAMORON


    Listen Bud.


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    #48
    Sardonicat
    Registered Users Posts: 12,378 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    IAMAMORON wrote: »
    Listen Bud.

    You leave my dotey pet alone, chum!


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    #49
    Deub
    Registered Users Posts: 1,281 ✭✭✭Deub


    It is the same friend that some people have on Facebook. People that you met once and never saw or spoke again.


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    #50
    The Tetrarch
    Registered Users Posts: 2,092 ✭✭✭The Tetrarch


    We have not been formally introduced.


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    #51
    Nodster
    Registered Users Posts: 949 ✭✭✭Nodster


    .........don't 'bro' me if ya don't know me


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    #52
    Aongus Von Bismarck
    Registered Users Posts: 1,794 ✭✭✭Aongus Von Bismarck


    I hate when you go to a more causal restaurant in Ireland or the UK and the waiter/waitress calls you 'mate' or tells you to 'come this way folks'. It's far too relaxed for its own good, and I will often pull them up on it, or simply not leave a tip. Sir and Madam is the only way a waiter/waitress should refer to a customer.


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    #53
    chosen1
    Registered Users Posts: 412 ✭✭chosen1


    People who call you Friend, Pal, Bud or Buddy are rarely trying to be friendly in my experience.


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    #54
    Mister Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 6,040 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    Aongus Von Bismarck wrote: »
    I hate when you go to a more causal restaurant in Ireland or the UK and the waiter/waitress calls you 'mate' or tells you to 'come this way folks'. It's far too relaxed for its own good, and I will often pull them up on it, or simply not leave a tip. Sir and Madam is the only way a waiter/waitress should refer to a customer.
    Well maybe if you're dining in the 50's. Who the hell says Madam?


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    #55
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 26,052 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Those kind of things can be used passive-aggressively, but if it's meant kindly then I'll take it that way. There's nothing wrong with being warm and friendly in your dealings with others.


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    #56
    Alejandro68
    Closed Accounts Posts: 412 ✭✭Alejandro68


    I am guilty of using it when I have a connection with who I am conversating to. It is a form of endearment to me, I'm just confused why so many seem to take offense to it.


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    #57
    [Deleted User]
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    suicide_circus wrote: »
    I don't agree. It's usually done in a manner to disguise (poorly) a certain level of aggression.

    From your Barber?


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    #58
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 26,052 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Steady on there petal, that door won't close itself.

    Naughty step, ten minutes. :(


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    #59
    [Deleted User]
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    Aongus Von Bismarck wrote: »
    I hate when you go to a more causal restaurant in Ireland or the UK and the waiter/waitress calls you 'mate' or tells you to 'come this way folks'. It's far too relaxed for its own good, and I will often pull them up on it, or simply not leave a tip. Sir and Madam is the only way a waiter/waitress should refer to a customer.

    Jesus Christ!

    You won't leave a tip because a waiter didn't grovel? And then pull them up on it because they dared not recognize your knighthood?

    I have news for you, your food is regularly spat in.


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    #60
    Aongus Von Bismarck
    Registered Users Posts: 1,794 ✭✭✭Aongus Von Bismarck


    Mister Vain wrote: »
    Well maybe if you're dining in the 50's. Who the hell says Madam?

    Waiters working in restaurants where you aren't expected to sit at a bench with complete strangers or use a roll of kitchen towel to wipe your hands as you eat. If you've made a reservation then I've no issues with being referred to by my first name. It's this overly familiar mate/folks/guys that I have an issue with. It gets the meal off to a very bad start.


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    #61
    John Frank Wilson
    Registered Users Posts: 105 ✭✭John Frank Wilson


    Language is not black and white, gang. It's a nuanced shade of grey.


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