Things you want to say to husband/boyf/ex's/friends/family/people MOD NOTE POST #1

ciagr297 · 22-11-2010 4:28pm

Dear _____,
I'm not entirely sure why our friendship ended but I always remember you.
I'm still your friend if you want to be mine
x
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Dear _____,
I get a shock every time I think about you. For a second it doesn't seem real but then I remember you're no longer with us.
I keep thinking we'll see you at Christmas. But we won't, not ever again.
Sleep well
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Dear ______,
You treated me like crap - partially my fault for letting you do that to me.
In spite of everything, I still have faith that if you sorted your issues out, you'd be the person I know you can be.
That said, this nonsense has gone on long enough, I'm not even sure I even want to be friends with you.
Tell your other girlfriend the truth, I suspect she already knows anyway
I'm done

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Dear ____,
I underestimated your influence. You made me the non-stick girl I am today. Bravo.
I hope karma sucks for you
Love and cuddles

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Dear M&D,
I know I make you both cry sometimes with the things I do. I'm a pain in the a** and yous annoy the bejebus out of me at times but I need you to be around. Please don't go anywhere - I'm trying

Asphyxia · 22-11-2010 7:35pm

Dear E.

Whatever happened you? You were meant to be my friend but those horrible things you said about my sister were uncalled for and yes J did show me those mails you wrote. You would say one thing to me and then run to your other friends and twist everything I said to make me sound horrible and that's why I cut you out of my life and I have never been happier

Dear N, B and K

Your so selfish you never thought of others just yourselves. I never did a thing to you EVER! you tried making a my life hard and you succeeded for a short while and caused me to lose out on a big opportunity. Well Karma is a bitch and that's why the three of you are sitting at home doing F**k all minding your babies while your fellas are out riding anything with a heart beat and I'm here making my amazing plans for my future.

Dear M.

You mean so much to me thank you for being amazing, thank you for doing everything I needed you to do when I wasn't sure and for putting up with my crying when I needed to let everything out. I know things were hard when we started out but you have proved to me first hand that I can rely on you for anything. The talks we have are incredible and you make me feel so safe afterwards and it's the best feeling in the world to be with you. You make me feel pretty just when I need to and I love how you can do it without saying a word. I love you so much.

Dear P.

You used to be someone I could count on when things went bad in my life. You used to be my best friend, I am sorry that you wanted more from me and sorry I couldn't give it to you. When I introduced you to my boyfriend I could see the anger in your eyes so you decided to move away without telling me that's when I lost respect for you. You killed our friendship not me.

Dear Dunnes Stores Girl

You don't know me I don't know you! I don't see why you must always throw the money back at me after I pay and for some reason try to charge me extra every time I get you on the till. I have never had any problems with you so I don't see why you are always rude to me but I am beginning to get annoyed after the 6th time of this happening. Careful hunny I am friends with your manager :rolleyes:

Novella · 22-11-2010 8:19pm

Dear granny,

I always want to tell you that I'm so sorry for not visiting you more often. The truth is, it makes me really sad to see you now. I worry that you're scared - 'cause you don't remember who any of us are. I hope you don't think that you're lost somewhere, trapped with strangers. Sometimes it does look like you're frightened, and I can't just sit there watching that, knowing that there is nothing I can do to help you. We all love you so much, and we miss you. I think that's the worst bit - missing someone who is technically still right there. You are so wonderful, please be okay.

Love, Sarah.

LegacyUser · 22-11-2010 8:40pm

Dearest XXXXXXX,

You broke my heart. I can't even begin to expand on that statement, it says it all for me. You broke my heart and I don't know if I will ever be whole again. Even now, all these years later, there are days when the pain of it can be too much to bear. There are days when the rawness, the all consuming grief threatens to swallow me whole. All I did was love you. I didn't mean to get pregnant. It was an accident. It was an accident. It was a sad, sorry accident. I didn't mean it. I don't understand how a person can be so cruel to someone they profess to love the most in the world ever. I don't know how you left me to cope with all of it, I don't understand any of it. I don't understand how this happened to me. All I did was fall in love with a boy and give my heart to him. Why did this happen? I didn't want a termination. But I couldn't give that baby the life he deserved. I didn't want to bring a child into that world, I'd grown up in that world. And when I woke, in that horrible soulless place, I knew I would never feel whole again. And I don't. Not even all these years later. Part of me died that day. I tried to take my own life you know? Couldn't cope with the grief, with the guilt and the shame. But they found me. Made me live again. Even now, I have to watch the grief, mind it doesn't become all encompassing.

I know how wonderful our life could have been, I know you love me still, but I know you are not man enough to have been my husband and our baby's father. I grieve for you both every day. My heart is frozen. I am a shell of a human being. I will never be whole again, never. I will never forgive myself. I will carry this shame forever. I will miss you and miss our child forever. It haunts me still. It will haunt me forever.

All my love,

XXXX

LegacyUser · 22-11-2010 11:09pm

Dear Boardies,

Thank you for helping me through the worse few days of my life when I decided to quit drinking and got the shock of my life realising how difficult it would be. Thank you for all yer words of encouragement and compassion, you will never know what it meant to someone who couldnt tell the outside world what a bad fix I had gotten myself into.

Thank you Karen, who knows my username and offered help with such readiness and kind arse kicking for helping me to keep a grip on it.

Over a year sober, not ashamed and degraded by my addiction and never looking back!

Jenneke87 · 22-11-2010 11:12pm

dead inside wrote: »

Dearest XXXXXXX,

I didn't want a termination. But I couldn't give that baby the life he deserved. I didn't want to bring a child into that world, I'd grown up in that world. And when I woke, in that horrible soulless place, I knew I would never feel whole again.

For what it's worth, I know how you feel, because I went through the same thing.I know that gut wrenching ,soul destroying pain you're going through after. At one point I was in the bathroom, holding my hands over my belly, knowing this was the last moment I would have with my baby alive inside me.. And although you feel now as though the pain will never ever leave, eventually it will get better. The pain will always be there, but bearable. Allow yourself to grieve properly for as long as needed, if you can, talk to other people about it, please don't struggle with this alone. You are in my heart and I am thinking of you.

It will get better, I promise...

LegacyUser · 22-11-2010 11:55pm

V,

I love you. There, I said it. Not to your face...maybe someday.
Maybe someday, if the time is right. Maybe after college, so that you dont have to see me once I say it.
I know that you dont, and never will, feel the way for me, as I do about you.
Thats fine I guess. Maybe someday I'll be able to see you with other guys without getting sad. It cuts me up to hear how badly you have been treated by some people in the past. Whoever would cheat on you didn't ever deserve you in the first place.

I'm sure you know how I feel about you. I don't think it could be more obvious some of the time. 3 other people have picked up on it.
And thats why I cant understand why you went off with him right in front of my face. Twice.
Was it to hurt me? To give me a message? Or were you just drunk. Your (semi) apology helped, a little. But it hurt.

I'm sorry I feel this way. The last thing I want to do is ruin a friendship. But I might have to. Sooner or later, for the good of my own sanity. Though sometimes I wonder whether you even see me as a friend or just as a class mate who you happen to get along with.
Whenever I'm feeling down, and you ask whats bothering me I always say college or something like that. But its you. Always.
I'm sorry.

M.

I needed that. Thanks for this thread

I know that my issue isn't a patch on what some of you guys have, and are going through. But it's good to vent sometimes.

All the best.

Wibbs · 23-11-2010 12:06am

My things I want to say to people?

Thank you for all your contributions to this thread. It has made for sometimes sobering reading, sometimes sad reading, but most of all pretty inspiring reading. Kudos.

Kablamo! · 23-11-2010 12:28am

Novella wrote: »

Dear granny,

I always want to tell you that I'm so sorry for not visiting you more often. The truth is, it makes me really sad to see you now. I worry that you're scared - 'cause you don't remember who any of us are. I hope you don't think that you're lost somewhere, trapped with strangers. Sometimes it does look like you're frightened, and I can't just sit there watching that, knowing that there is nothing I can do to help you. We all love you so much, and we miss you. I think that's the worst bit - missing someone who is technically still right there. You are so wonderful, please be okay.

Love, Sarah.

I'd like to think that in her head maybe she isn't lost. That maybe she's lost to you, but safe and happy with different memories in a different place.
I can only imagine how difficult this is for you and your family, and my heart and best wishes are with you all.

Faith · 23-11-2010 12:57am

Dear you,

I can't get you out of my head right now. All day and all night, thoughts of you are swirling around, demanding attention. Some happy, some ... not happy. I want to see you. But you just hurt me time and time again. Every time I'm exposed to you I seem to get hurt. And it's gotten to the point where the wound will never heal. It's too deeply scarred from being repeatedly reopened. I didn't even like you that much often, but I loved you so much. I still Facebook stalk you at least once a week, even though I no longer have access to your page. I just like to see if your profile picture has changed.

Sooner or later, I'm going to give in. Like every time. I wish that just once you'd give in. It would make me feel so much less pathetic. I hate the way you have all the power; you have since the minute I realised I loved you. It kills me that you just don't seem to care. You'll never know how much your actions crippled my self-esteem. And still temporarily knock it, when I think of the many ways in which you rejected me. It's beyond me how a simple action can still hurt me as much now as it did during the height of our relationship.

If I was a better, stronger person, I'd have forgotten all about you by now. But I'm not that person, at least not when it comes to you. I'm just me - weak, pathetic me. So I'm going to text you and ask you to catch up some time, and there'll be a teeny tiny part of me that hopes we'll end up in bed together, just for old times' sake - but most of me will be prepared for you rejecting me in one way or another yet again.

For such a nice guy, you really are an asshole.

Dear X,

You'll never know how much you did for me. One simple sentence helped me move on more than anyone could imagine. We didn't spend much time together, but I was a new person afterwards. I've never had so much self-confidence as I do since that night. I don't know what you think of me any more, but it doesn't matter hugely. I just wanted to say thanks, because I'll never do it in real life

.

Dear hot boy,

Look, I still fancy you. Let's just have sex and get it out of the way.

Hermione* · 23-11-2010 1:44am

Mum,

You're amazing. Absolutely amazing. No matter how often I said it to you, it wasn't enough. It couldn't ever be enough. I'm so sorry for everything that happened to you. I'm sorry that you worked your whole life for us and never got to enjoy the retirement you'd so carefully planned. I'm sorry you were sick. I'm sorry that you were so young. I'm sorry that you were in such pain. I'm sorry we never talked about what would happen afterwards. I'm really, really sorry I don't know how you wanted me to be without you. But mostly, I'm sorry you're not here. I'll never stop wishing that you were.

Grá mór,
D xx

Jemmy · 23-11-2010 1:44am

Just had a quick read love this thread, great idea OP.

Plenty to say in here!

darsar · 23-11-2010 1:18pm

Dear father,

You are a fat slimey mess. You left your wife, daughter and son for one person. And she's in bits! Lol!

I know by the way you tried to talk to me at nannys funeral this week that you are very guilty. You saw my son (your grandson) for the first time. It's kills you inside. I can tell and I am delighted for you.

Your supposed to by my father. My guidance. But I'll give you a lesson in life - The grass isn't greener on the other side.

I think about you everyday the last 6 years but I don't miss you. You left my mother in a complete mess. Mortgage, bills etc and still try and live life. I hate you even more writing this now.

Slán leat

cdaly_ · 23-11-2010 2:56pm

theMusicHelps wrote: »

I love you. There, I said it. Not to your face...maybe someday.

Go on. Tell her...

Lizard Queen · 24-11-2010 12:13am

dear bullies

you tormented me in school calling me ugly and stupid , making me hate myself because i wasn't a scumbag and i wanted to get a good education. Well almost all of you had kids as soon as you left school , married the first guy who you could find and found meaningless jobs. I hope that somebody treats you or your children the way you treated me as you made me feel worthless. I have found the best fiancée in the world and im saving for a nice house. All i can thank you for is making me as strong willed , over opinionated and confident because you were all self conscious you picked on the quiet girl who wouldn't talk back.

LegacyUser · 24-11-2010 4:34am

Dear Y

We met on the internet
we talked for 3 weeks
we met and kissed the first night
We professed our love after 3 days
I asked you to marry me the next
You said yes
No one believed we could really be in love so soon
everyone said it was a mistake
you cant trust a foreign girl you met on the interntet
well **** them, I know my heart and you know yours
10 years on and we are stronger then ever

our love grows each day
10 years we have been through everything but we never lost sight of our love
we met and agreed to marry after 4 days and 10 years later were the picture of happyness
and who says that there is no such thing as love at first sight
i love you Y
Always and forever
we proved the world wrong
you proved my heart right
you make everything beautiful
I love you endlessly as you love me
x

amy21 · 24-11-2010 11:02am

HI im new here, things i wanna say hmmmmmmm
Yes you are getting fat and your crap at sex:D

squeakyduck · 24-11-2010 11:38am

Happy anon wrote: »

Dear Y

We met on the internet
we talked for 3 weeks
we met and kissed the first night
We professed our love after 3 days
I asked you to marry me the next
You said yes
No one believed we could really be in love so soon
everyone said it was a mistake
you cant trust a foreign girl you met on the interntet
well **** them, I know my heart and you know yours
10 years on and we are stronger then ever our love grows each day
10 years we have been through everything but we never lost sight of our love
we met and agreed to marry after 4 days and 10 years later were the picture of happyness
and who says that there is no such thing as love at first sight
i love you Y
Always and forever
we proved the world wrong
you proved my heart right
you make everything beautiful
I love you endlessly as you love me
x

It brought tears to my eyes. It reads like a poem! Well written happiness and love to you both!

Princess Peach · 24-11-2010 11:45am

Faith wrote: »

Dear you,

I can't get you out of my head right now. All day and all night, thoughts of you are swirling around, demanding attention. Some happy, some ... not happy. I want to see you. But you just hurt me time and time again. Every time I'm exposed to you I seem to get hurt. And it's gotten to the point where the wound will never heal. It's too deeply scarred from being repeatedly reopened. I didn't even like you that much often, but I loved you so much. I still Facebook stalk you at least once a week, even though I no longer have access to your page. I just like to see if your profile picture has changed.

Sooner or later, I'm going to give in. Like every time. I wish that just once you'd give in. It would make me feel so much less pathetic. I hate the way you have all the power; you have since the minute I realised I loved you. It kills me that you just don't seem to care. You'll never know how much your actions crippled my self-esteem. And still temporarily knock it, when I think of the many ways in which you rejected me. It's beyond me how a simple action can still hurt me as much now as it did during the height of our relationship.

If I was a better, stronger person, I'd have forgotten all about you by now. But I'm not that person, at least not when it comes to you. I'm just me - weak, pathetic me. So I'm going to text you and ask you to catch up some time, and there'll be a teeny tiny part of me that hopes we'll end up in bed together, just for old times' sake - but most of me will be prepared for you rejecting me in one way or another yet again.

For such a nice guy, you really are an asshole.

I'm glad I'm not the only one with this exact problem!

I gave in the other day. It really weird cause I know it will end with me getting hurt again but I just can't stop myself! I'm defying my own logic.

dublingal80 · 24-11-2010 2:41pm

I miss you so so much dad
People say it gets easier but it really doesnt. When i look at photos of you, it feels like i only saw you yesterday. I miss all the advice you gave me

What i wouldnt give to spend just 1 more hour with you

dammitjanet · 24-11-2010 10:09pm

Dear big sis,

With our 9 years age difference, you were always my second mom. You raised me when Mom was sick and dad was away. You taught me how to be street wise and made your friends mine. When you went travelling you called me every day and although I missed you so much, I have never looked forward to a day so much as the day you came home. You found a man who you said you wouldn't date unless he passed my test (which he did), you married him and you both made me part of your new family. Being your head bridesmaid at only 15 was the most fun I ever had, especially being snuck into the clubs for the hen night.
I became Godmother to your first child and I love him more than anything. I try to give him the childhood you gave me.
You are my best friend and even now take care of me so much.

Thank you for everything, I love you always xxx

25-11-2010 8:02pm

Princess Peach wrote: »

I'm glad I'm not the only one with this exact problem!

I gave in the other day. It really weird cause I know it will end with me getting hurt again but I just can't stop myself! I'm defying my own logic.

It seems like we always want the people that could potentially hurt us the most. When heart and hormones are involved, logic always loses. As long as you remained fractionally headstrong and realise when things are getting bad, you'll somewhat know how to get out of them.

To stay relatively on topic;

Dear my closest friends

You have been with me during some of the worst days of my life. No matter what I did, said or went through, you stood beside me. Without you, without your help, without your kind words, I doubt I'll be the person I am today. So to you, from the depths of my heart and every inch of what makes me me, I thank you. I hope someday I will be able to pay you back, but I don't think anything will ever be enough or even satisfactory.

Princess Peach · 25-11-2010 8:08pm

Deleted User wrote: »

It seems like we always want the people that could potentially hurt us the most. When heart and hormones are involved, logic always loses. As long as you remained fractionally headstrong and realise when things are getting bad, you'll somewhat know how to get out of them.

Nope, I've gotten myself in too deep again:o I'm a lost cause.

25-11-2010 8:11pm

Princess Peach wrote: »

Nope, I've gotten myself in too deep again:o I'm a lost cause.

Nobody is ever a lost cause. There is no such thing. As long as you are living and breathing, can think for yourself then you are not. You have realised that this is not a good situation to be in, it is the first step. You have admitted it to yourself. You are far from a lost cause.

squeakyduck · 25-11-2010 11:05pm

Sis,

I know there is 14 years between us but sometimes I wish we hung out more, went for lunch or went shopping, I hate the way you can be so dismissive of me sometimes, especially as your best friend from college is just a month older than me. It's frustrating! I know at the moment things aren't the easiest for you with all the **** going down with you know who, but you are the better woman here and that sow is just trying to cause pain to you all all around you.

I like the heart to hearts we have (even though they are rare) and sometimes is makes me sad that we only like 20 minutes away from each other, but neither of us have the time to properly meet up. Anyway, I love you. You're the best sister anyone could ask for, you deserve all the happiness in the world after all thats happened.

SD

Dear you know who ye are,

Uncaring shower of pricks, today I thought of ye. I don't know why. After I told one of ye the background of my then worries which caused depression you went off and told everyone who would hear about my brother. I told you in confidence, and one of ye had the cheek to call him a cripple TO MY FACE. Well, if you could see him now he'd walk over to ye and throttle ye for all your worth. A boot up the hole from him is only the start of what he could do to you. Rumours and **** ye started could have destroyed him, good to know we are all made of stronger stuff.

I'd like to see ye do what he did after his accident. Depression would devour you.

SD

LegacyUser · 25-11-2010 11:34pm

My Dearest E,

I have no idea what I did to deserve someone like you, you are the most amazing, loving, special, beautiful and perfect girl on the planet in my eyes, you make me happier than i ever thought was even possible to feel. Just the thought of you gives me butterflies. I adore every single thing about you, the way you act, the way you talk, the way you laugh, the way you look, the way you smell, the way you smile, just everything. Having you as a friend would be amazing enough, but being able to call you my girlfriend and future wife, just wow.

Saying "I Love You" doesnt even come close to doing justice as to what you mean to me, all I want from life is to spend every second of it with you. I will do everything i can to make sure you're always smiling and i promise you you will have the perfect, happy life you deserve.

Thanks for being you. All my love, forever and ever,
M xxx

Naos · 26-11-2010 1:58am

Dear Grandad,

I'm sorry that everytime we spoke on the phone and you asked when I was coming down, I responded with "Soon, I'm just really busy right now but soon".

The day I walked in from work and my Dad told me you had died, I was dumbfounded. All I could mutter was a "How?" and an "Okay, I'll be back in a bit."

I cannot even finish this.
Brian.

margarite · 26-11-2010 3:06am

darsar wrote: »

Dear father,

You are a fat slimey mess. You left your wife, daughter and son for one person. And she's in bits! Lol!

I know by the way you tried to talk to me at nannys funeral this week that you are very guilty. You saw my son (your grandson) for the first time. It's kills you inside. I can tell and I am delighted for you.

Your supposed to by my father. My guidance. But I'll give you a lesson in life - The grass isn't greener on the other side.

I think about you everyday the last 6 years but I don't miss you. You left my mother in a complete mess. Mortgage, bills etc and still try and live life. I hate you even more writing this now.

Slán leat

Writing this could not have being easy, it made me so unhappy to read it, I really do hope it helped to get down on paper, and hopefully both for your son and yourself you start to put it behind you, ask yourself who is the loser I hope your answer is your father, he does not deserve to be called dad. Please try move on it will not be easy, but please try. Not all men are the same thank god, take one day at a time, forget him, enjoy your life and especially your son. I am thinking of you, it will get easier if you can learn to put it behind you, if you cannot he will have won and I for one do not want that. Best of luck:)

Maple · 26-11-2010 12:58pm

Naos wrote: »

Dear Grandad,

I'm sorry that everytime we spoke on the phone and you asked when I was coming down, I responded with "Soon, I'm just really busy right now but soon".

The day I walked in from work and my Dad told me you had died, I was dumbfounded. All I could mutter was a "How?" and an "Okay, I'll be back in a bit."

I cannot even finish this.
Brian.

***hugs***

That is such a touching post, your grief is palpable. I'm so sorry for your loss.

rylie · 26-11-2010 4:20pm

Dear _______

Thanks for the kicks in my belly, the hiccups and the heartburn. I knew you were going to change my life but the reality is just amazing. I am fascinated by you, your innocence is intoxicating. I'm so honoured to care for you and help you grow. I love your chubby little hands and your cheeky grin. You make me a better person and you make life full of fun and wonder despite the doom and gloom.

All my love darling boy
Mammy xxx

LegacyUser · 26-11-2010 5:31pm

Dear ........

Why did you try that? It was never going to work between us. I still haven't told my parents about her, years later. I don't like going up to see her, but I do it so she see's her Dad. I think about it every day, the day we went to the UK. I've been unhappy ever since.

OP: Great thread.

margarite · 26-11-2010 7:30pm

This is the most hear felt plea for help and so beautifully put, it will be a long year, and it will only by facing each family event that you say goodbye to all of your family that was taken from you before their time that you will get through this awful time, that you will feel yourself getting stronger and more able to deal with anything that comes your way. That is the way for me, when I lost my beloved Gran dad, and shortly after my loving aunt, and even shortly after that my two nephews aged 15 and 22 through a means that I hope no one has to go through ever again. Five years on I deliberately honor their memory with the memories of the times I have spend with them, it is only in time their memory becomes easier to bear but you have to work at it. I m sorry if I not coming forward in helping you as today is the day that one of them died, and instead I m doing what my parents suggested I do and knowing them as I do I now toast today in different ways that I had done while they were alive. I do hope that the message that I am trying to say time heals - it really does through the help of your real friends and mostly your family. Thinking of you and wishing sincerely the best of luck - work through the anger and eventually you will get to where I am now - Just accepting their loss and moving on. I hope this works for you as it did for me. Thinking of you.

stupidusername · 26-11-2010 8:35pm

Mam

I miss you. All those times I jokingly brushed you off when you were looking for a hug, and I'd just love one from you now.

I know things would be terribly hard for me if you were still here, but I can't help but wish for it anyway.

I know it'd make you sad to see but we have no family anymore without you. all the things you strived for for us all, it's never going to happen. Dad isn't enough of a parent to make it happen.

It's so weird being in your house still surrounded by all your things, but at the same time I don't know that any one could manage to do anything with them. Though dad doesn't seem to have a problem with moving on.

You messed us all up so much and still we all miss you lots.

26-11-2010 9:24pm

stupidusername wrote: »

Mam

I miss you. All those times I jokingly brushed you off when you were looking for a hug, and I'd just love one from you now.

Your post opened up my eyes- this is exactly what I do. I intend to change now though.

stepbar · 26-11-2010 9:40pm

Real life stories all on one thread..... It's pretty amazing folks and I thank you with every bone in my body for it... You stay classy folks

verywell · 26-11-2010 9:53pm

Dear Ex:
Thanks for dragging me out of my own bed while I was sleeping in the middle of the night and kicking me out of my own home.
Thanks for leaving me in London on my own
Thanks for pretending to leave me in Belfast
Thanks for saying to me that I had better watch out for myself late at night
Thanks for making me ring the guards on you when you stole from me
Thanks for taking my money
Thanks for blocking my car in the drive so I could not use it
Thanks for constantly making me feel like an ejit
Thanks for all the hurtful comments that you said to me
Thanks for nearly hitting me one night
Thanks for scaring the sh*t out of me in our relationship
And finally, thanks to me for the courage to finally get rid of you. I have finally forgiven myself for being such a fool.

Dear Dad,
Age is coming against us now. I really want you to see me married with children before you leave. I really want you to be able to walk me down the aisle. I love our weekly meetings but sometimes I wish that we had more to say to one another. Thank you for being a great Dad to me. I am going to be completely lost without you when ever it is your time to go. I am dreading the day that something happens to you or to mam. Please stay around long enough that I can see your smiling face when I hold out my child to you.

I will always love you. xx

stepbar · 26-11-2010 10:27pm

stepbar wrote: »

Real life stories all on one thread..... It's pretty amazing folks and I thank you with every bone in my body for it... You stay classy folks

I'm afraid to write my own story... I've never been poverty stricken... I've never wanted for anything... On the same note all I wanted was a sence of place... A proper circle of friends (and i thank the ones i have).... To feel loved... No pretences no bull****e... I put on a good face... Love the craic, drink and smoke too much and manage to get away with it... I'm not an alco but I'd find it hard to give it up.... Thankfully through lifes ups and downs I've become a stronger person but I know I've a bit more to go... All I want to be is content in life... I'm not looking for fame or fortune (mind you if fortune came my way I wouldn't refuse it!). I know I'm a complex person, at times I wonder about things... I perhaps dwell on things too much... Over analyse... But at the end of the day I wouldn't want to be anyone else

Asphyxia · 26-11-2010 10:50pm

Dear ??????

Thank you! Without you always interfering in my life I wouldn't get this much of a laugh, you're like a bad American sitcom

While I wouldn't choose to pick you out of my other channels, I would still put it on in the back round when there's nothing on while I do something just to watch the hilarious things happen to you. I'm sorry your life isn't entertaining enough for you but hey it could be if you spent more time living it than trying to live in mine

I never stopped you from being friends with me I never understood why things had to be this way.. I'm sure you have you reasons :rolleyes:

Anyway I must be getting back to my life you know paying bills, college, work... After all what kind of person would I be if I didn't give you something to give out about with your friends :rolleyes:

Pocketfizz

LegacyUser · 27-11-2010 12:21am

Dear xxx,

I have so many regrets that all i wish for is that i could turn back time and change everything. I was never honest with you when you wanted, i was shy and held myself back always avoiding the questions you asked and never discussing my feelings or been open with you. I pushed you away in the end and it is only after that i realised how much you ment to me, how much i cared but i was a fool and didn't see i was hurting you. I knew i was in love but it was too late to tell you in the end, i'm still in love with you now and it hurts every day but its what i deserve, you are an amazing person, you made me so happy through all my hard times we made each other smile and laugh. The times i spent with you were amazing and i will always remember them. The day you told me that it was over, i felt num, sick, i was speechless, the life was sucked out of me. I bottled up my feelings once again for days and spent hours drinking thinking it was just a bad dream. Even now when you text or e-mail me you make me smile, you'll always me laugh. I still think about you every day, the good times but also the bad and how i wish for a second chance, somedays i think you'll be waiting for me at home or surprise me but i know its me day dreaming and i messed up, i knew at time how special you where but i took it for granted, you say you have accepted my apologie, but i still haven't forgiven myself. I love you then and i still love you, always and forever ames. I hope he treats you better then i, i hope your happy because you deserve the best. I miss you every single day, your smile, your voice and the made you made me smile and laugh through all the good and bad times.

Love always.....

metrovelvet · 27-11-2010 12:23am

Pocketfizz wrote: »

Dear ??????

Thank you! Without you always interfering in my life I wouldn't get this much of a laugh, you're like a bad American sitcom While I wouldn't choose to pick you out of my other channels, I would still put it on in the back round when there's nothing on while I do something just to watch the hilarious things happen to you. I'm sorry your life isn't entertaining enough for you but hey it could be if you spent more time living it than trying to live in mine I never stopped you from being friends with me I never understood why things had to be this way.. I'm sure you have you reasons :rolleyes:

Anyway I must be getting back to my life you know paying bills, college, work... After all what kind of person would I be if I didn't give you something to give out about with your friends :rolleyes:

Pocketfizz

One of my favourites so far. I want to put this on letterhead and distribute like a mid town flier.

blue5000 · 27-11-2010 3:32pm

Dear

If you ever read this hopefully we'll get it right in the next life, I want you to know that I forgive you and I hope some day you will forgive me for the pain I caused you.

It's a cold november morn
I'm wishing I was never born,
the woman I love won't talk to me,
the one I'm with can't ever see
just what the big problemo is.

As the last few leaves fall
should I give you
just one last call.
My love, I chose my son over you,
there's not a day goes by that
I wonder, did I,
make the right choice?
I wish just once you'd told me,
honestly,
what you really, really want, and
put an end to this painful limbo.

I'll leave it alone now,
who knows what'll rise
with the sap in
springtime, when snow
has gone, perhaps you'll
stumble on my rhyme
and call me.......;)

illiop · 27-11-2010 5:59pm

Dear S.

Thank you so much for being you. You are an utterly fantastic human being and I am blessed to have you as a friend. She doesn't deserve you, I wish I could tell you some of the stuff she says about you when you're not around but she's one of my best friends...and I know it would crush you. She even said she's only with you for sex, it was half in jest but I know her well enough at this stage to know when she's being sincere.
I really owe you one after last night too.

Love, me.

P.s. I wish I'd meet you first.

Dear G.

I really wish you weren't so boring, 'cause you're beautiful.

Love, me.

mariebeth · 27-11-2010 6:26pm

Dear R,

I love you. I've loved you since May 2007 when we were together for just a few short weeks before I went travelling for 9 months. I pined for you the whole time travelling. When I came back we hooked up, but then you weren't man enough to face up to your own feelings for me so you messed me around.

I loved you the whole 18 months I was going out with some other guy, even though I didn't realise it at the time. What made me finally break up with him after being unhappy for the last few months of the relationship was the realisation that if you turned up in the pub some night with another girl I'd want to claw her eyes out and if the other guy had done the same thing, it wouldn't have bothered me.

Now we're back to square one, except you sent me a text in the middle of the night saying I was hot. I can't deal with this head wrecking anymore, all I want is for you to man up and face your feelings for me. If you can't do this then you don't deserve me.

Love
M x

27-11-2010 6:48pm

Tell R. In all likelihood he won't man up, so you have to take definitive action and tell him straight.

LegacyUser · 27-11-2010 9:32pm

Dear

I can't believe I'm doing this. I've avoided doing this since this thread started, now, I've crumbled. I'm so sorry, I never gave us a fair chance and I don't think I've ever regretted anything as much as I do that. I didn't realise what an incredible guy you are until it was too late. Even after 3 months I still miss chatting to you, still miss those little kisses, still miss lying in your arms watching movies. I only wish I'd realised how I felt about you while I had you instead of not realising it until I'd lost you. When I think of all the times I pretty much just shoved you away when you tried to show emotion. My complete and utter fear of commitment, intimacy and my inability to show emotion was an utter downfall here.

I know I told you jokingly that it was your fault when you brought it up a few weeks ago, I know I brushed you away, yet again, and missed my one chance to tell you that I didn't blame you. To tell you I'm sorry. I'm sorry I never gave you a proper chance. I'm sorry I never let you in. I'm sorry you never knew where you stood with me. I got scared. I never hit it off with people the way I did with you the day we met. Things moved so quickly that first week and from then I got scared and pulled off even though I wanted to be with you I just looked for your flaws and used them to stop myself from falling for you. I don't let people into my life easily and I've tried to convince myself that I shouldn't have let you in but it never sticks. I am glad I let you in, I'm just sorry I didn't have the common sense to hold on. I use that last weekend we were together to convince myself I got a lucky escape, but other things pop into my head and then I realise how much I didn't appreciate you and the things you did just for me. You are pretty much everything I should look for in a guy, the only good thing to happen to me in a long time and I just threw it away.

The more I tried to find things to make it seem right that we split, the more I saw things I like about you. The more I saw things that didn't add up when you seemed so convinced you'd made the right decision, I just kept thinking about why you seemed so keen two weeks beforehand that we go away alone together, you seemed to be planning for a future with us then nothing. Even some of your actions since don't add up to the words where you seemed so convinced you made the right decision.

There is a chance you'll read this and if you do you'll have a fair idea that it's aimed at you and who I am. Take my apologies, take my compliments. I do mean them and we both know I don't throw them around easily.

I really am sorry.

Signing off as,

Still cofused, can't understand why.
********************************

Pops,

Bloody hell. Nearly two weeks on I still can't believe you've done it again. I've been going over and over this in my head and I STILL can't believe you've done it again. How can you make the same mistake over and over and over and over and over again? Seriously? When have you got it right? I find it so hard to resent you because I know you've always tried. I know you've always tried really hard. You've worked so hard and keep coming up with nothing, but you keep letting us down. You've never treated any of us badly, but you've broken our hearts time and time again. I'm not sure how much more any of us can take. I can only hug everyone and tell them that everything will be ok so many times. I'm running out of ideas. I'm running out of words. I don't think I can settle everyone if you f*ck up again.

I really hope you know how lucky you are to still have us. I know you haven't done all this on purpose. I'll never abandon you, I'll look after you and give you every spare penny I have if I have to work myself into the ground. I'm not sure if we can take another shock though.

27-11-2010 10:52pm

I'm hiding wrote: »

I can only hug everyone and tell them that everything will be ok so many times. I'm running out of ideas. I'm running out of words. I don't think I can settle everyone if you f*ck up again.
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Sometimes a hug and telling them things can be OK is all that is needed to make someone feel better. I'm unsure if my snippets of advice are in breach of the general rules of this thread so I'll add something else now:

To me:
Learn to relax a little sometimes. Most, if not all, of your anxieties exist in your head.

Maple · 27-11-2010 11:03pm

Deleted User wrote: »

I'm unsure if my snippets of advice are in breach of the general rules of this thread so I'll add something else now:

it's ok, we'll let you know if you're out of line.

it's good advice, constructive.

don't sweat it.

Asphyxia · 27-11-2010 11:25pm

Dear ????

Copy Cat much

Faith · 28-11-2010 12:25am

Dear me,

Get a grip, you stupid woman. Cop the fúck on and stop messing yourself around. It'll never happen, so stop secretly hoping for it to. Even if it did happen, it wouldn't make you happy. Remember that. It might be nice for a day, a week, a month, but sooner or later you'd be back to square one and just as unhappy, and you'd have to go through the hurt all over again. There's no future for you here, so put your head down, cop the hell on with your studies, and make sure you get a good degree so that you can be out of here, and away from these toxic situations asap.

Love (grudgingly),

Me.

Princess Peach · 28-11-2010 12:37am

Faith wrote: »

Dear me,

Get a grip, you stupid woman. Cop the fúck on and stop messing yourself around. It'll never happen, so stop secretly hoping for it to. Even if it did happen, it wouldn't make you happy. Remember that. It might be nice for a day, a week, a month, but sooner or later you'd be back to square one and just as unhappy, and you'd have to go through the hurt all over again. There's no future for you here, so put your head down, cop the hell on with your studies, and make sure you get a good degree so that you can be out of here, and away from these toxic situations asap.

Love (grudgingly),

Me.

May I just add my own name to this letter also

I like your way with words!

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