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Things you want to say to husband/boyf/ex's/friends/family/people *MOD NOTE POST #1*

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,289 ✭✭✭Howard the Duck


    This is a really great thread but reading it is like watching Bambi's mother getting shot over and over again ..some really heart breaking letters.
    Anyway here's mine.


    Dear Family,

    You're all fantastic people and i love you all. I don't know why i can't open up to any of you about things that happen in my life, Maybe it's because i take after Dad and we all know he doesn't share his feelings but we know he loves us all.
    I hope you know i don't take any of you for granted and my biggest fear is something will happen to one of you. You've all looked after and cared for me when i've been sick and i couldn't have asked for a better family.

    Love
    Your Son/Brother

    Dear J,

    You're my best mate and have been my best mate my whole life. We have very little in common but we talk every other day and go for drinks and talk about crap for hours. I know i can count on you if anything goes wrong in my life and i'm very grateful for that.You're getting married this year to a fantastic girl, i know the two of you will have a very happy life. I probably don't need to write this because new years eve years ago we both took some e (drugs are bad) and opened up hearts like two fecking complete eejits! So thanks for being there for me and i'm looking forward to being your best man.

    Love
    p

    Dear Some girls

    Sorry i was a dick. i don't know why i was and i'm working on being less of a dick.

    Regards,
    p

    Dear Casual Friday,

    You're my favourite of all the weekdays. Sometimes i get so excited Thursday night i can't sleep because i'm trying to think of what t-shirt i'm gonna wear. Tomorrow i think maybe my monkees t-shirt.

    Love
    p


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,235 ✭✭✭Dave147


    Kablamo! wrote: »
    ...My Dearest Daddy...

    God dammit why did I have to read that? Besides it being one of the nicest things I've ever read I'm after welling up big time and there are people around.. I'm sure your dad knew what he meant to you and it's obvious to all of us from reading that beautiful post.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I'm losing you, I can see you drowning as the water fills your lungs and you disappear beneath the waves. I see you gasp for air and call my name, and I reach to you, I reach as far as I can. But it's not far enough. I cannot save you on my own.

    I know you can see the shore, and I see you struggle, and try so hard to fight your way back to dry land; to me. But it's not enough, you cannot do it on your own.

    Each time you move forward, a wave comes crashing down - to pull you back even further than where you first began. You're going back so far that I can barely see you anymore. You're sinking right in front of me. And, I cannot save you.

    Sometimes I want to jump in with you; I want to be with you no matter what the consequence. It doesn't matter if you pull me down, I don't matter, you're all that matters. Maybe if I give up and sink with you life will be easier.

    I could throw you a life buoy, but I know you wouldn't get to it. I know you wouldn't even try. You've given up on life; you've given up on us. I love you, god I love you, and I want you to come back to me. Please come back to me.

    But cannot save you, because I need to save myself.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Why do I have to keep dreaming about you? You were never that kind in real life. I wish I could make you go away and stop bothering me, I wish I could forget your name ever existed.


  • Registered Users Posts: 430 ✭✭margarite


    JillyQ wrote: »
    @ Margarite hopefully it will. Some ppl have amazed me with there kindness and another one with his cruelty.
    Time and being with good friends will eventually help you back to what a good life you will have. I apologise for asking you to send me a private message to me it was inappropriate. All that I wish for you now that your real friends will rally around you and help you get what life has in store for you which I know will be happiness, you deserve it all. Take care.:)


  • Registered Users Posts: 430 ✭✭margarite


    I'm losing you, I can see you drowning as the water fills your lungs and you disappear beneath the waves. I see you gasp for air and call my name, and I reach to you, I reach as far as I can. But it's not far enough. I cannot save you on my own.

    I know you can see the shore, and I see you struggle, and try so hard to fight your way back to dry land; to me. But it's not enough, you cannot do it on your own.

    Each time you move forward, a wave comes crashing down - to pull you back even further than where you first began. You're going back so far that I can barely see you anymore. You're sinking right in front of me. And, I cannot save you.

    Sometimes I want to jump in with you; I want to be with you no matter what the consequence. It doesn't matter if you pull me down, I don't matter, you're all that matters. Maybe if I give up and sink with you life will be easier.

    I could throw you a life buoy, but I know you wouldn't get to it. I know you wouldn't even try. You've given up on life; you've given up on us. I love you, god I love you, and I want you to come back to me. Please come back to me.

    But cannot save you, because I need to save myself.
    I could feel the unhappiness and helplessness that you are going through and it made me rethink a lot things. Sometimes we do all we can for our loved ones and they do not help us in helping them, and we havea to make the hardest decision of our life and help only ourselves. My heart goes out to you, but all I can say time is a great healer. Best of luck. Thinking of you.


  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,657 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    J,

    I love you. There are times when you irritate the snot out of me, and times you can be very cruel, but you're the best friend I could ask for. I love the way we can talk shít for hours and never run out of things to say. I love the excitement of seeing you every few months. I hate that we live in different countries because we can't hang out in person, but we have the most awesome fun when we are together. You are a legendary wingman! You really are the other half of me, and I'm eternally grateful that you're my friend :).

    Loves ya bestie.


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Dear A
    God I want to be help you feel happy in so many ways and it saddens me when I see you struggle to get through a day because you miss your dad so much, its made me apreaciate how great it is having my Dad around but I never say that to anyone except my boyfriend and cousin. He sounds like he was a great man and I'm sorry I never got to meet him but its been 2 years and I feel bad sometimes not being able to comfort you still over your grief.


    Dear K
    In your age i know you sometimes dont mean to be the way you are and I feel sorry sometimes that I let you down (even though you are a demanding little cow I am not here to serve you nor are our parents) I know we dont always talk to each other as often as we should. Ill do my best to help guide you and also take your advice because your a wise little youngone! I look at you sometimes and know your going to do so bloody well in life but just do me one favor and dont emigrate.I couldnt handle being sisterless!

    Dear ... I wish you had picked your partner better but I love my neice so much and I feel so happy that Mam says shes a clone of me and you as a baby . If we can make her happy with that at least in all the stuff that she gives out to us about then we'll be alright and god your daughter is soo like us I look at her sometimes and she could be mine ...makes me broody but then she destroys somethings or screams at me and then I realise maybe a few more years then I'll be ready


    Dear my handsome BF
    I love you so so much, I know in our relationship we made made each other better people were not married (yet) but already I feel our realationship is so close and intimate that I want to spend the rest of my life with you. When we talk about the future I never believe it will happen (as it seems too perfect) and I always worry about getting cancer (due to family history) and worry it will all just be taken away :(


    Dear Parents You are the best and compliment each other so much, You are my aspiration to have a good relationship and an everlasting marraige!

    Dear work colleagues.
    I'm soo glad I love my job while its challenging sometimes Its good to have a worthwhile job, (well I think so) It so weird how sometimes I see us all as a dysfuctional family somewhat! but I don't ever regret getting up in the morning as I see how hard some of you work I wish one day I'll be as knowlegable of some of you!

    Just feeling stressed and frustrated at the moment and I read thorugh this thread
    It brought tears but I know this kind of thing can be threpeutic.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Dear Parents

    I wish I could tell you this to your face but I can't. Not now, maybe never but you should know how much you messed up my life.
    You didn't do it on purpose you are probably not even aware how damaged I am but that doesn't make it any better.
    When I was 9 we went away for a holiday and I ended up beeing raped. You didn't notice and I, not knowing what just happend to me, did everything to act normal. I thought I was normal for years but as a grown up I know something died that day. My trust, my childhood my innocence was taken away and I will never get it back. Never.

    Are you honestly going to tell me you didn't notice? Your smart daughter suddenly having learning difficulties, that I cried myself to sleep every night, that I stopped washing myself, that I took to eating in order to get comfort, that I lost my playmates cause they couldn't stand the smell of me? That I was bullied every ****ing day. That I just wanted to dissapear forever? Where have you been?????
    I am 28 years of age now and can't remember a hug from either of you, can't remember the words "I love you". I suppose you never heard those words from your parents and I bet that bothered you too so why did you not break that circle?
    Growing older I worked myself to the bone trying to be good, trying to succeed in order to get your approval but it never came.
    Mother why did you always make me feel like I am stupid and ugly and worthless? Do you know that I carry these thoughts around with me up to this day? I don't think so because you don't care, you pretend you do but hey you don't even know what my exact job is, not that you ever really asked.
    Father why didn't you support me. I can't even find the words to tell you what goes on in my head when I think about you. 28 years and the closest contact with you is a handshake.
    I am lonely, so lonely that it hurts. I don't trust people easily, I always had to fight on my own and it is hard to change. When we are in the same room we make small talk, I pretend that my teenage years never existed and you deny I ever had any trouble...easy solution right? Well I should be prefectly honest I can't forgive you because you have failed me and I had to pay the price. Yes I never admitted that before but my miserable childhood was the main reason why I left your country. Beeing here, with all the miles between me and my past I found the space and time to start healing, I had to leave in order to be me. It's a lonely me but the closest thing to happiness I know.


  • Registered Users Posts: 136 ✭✭dubbie82


    To my beautiful Niece and Nephew.

    I miss you both so much, words can't describe it.

    My nephew, I held you in my arms when you were only 3 hours old, and the bond we have can't be broken. I love you so much. I have seen you taking your first steps, heard your first attempts to speak and have seen you growing from this handfull of life to a beautiful and smart boy. I miss you very much and can't wait to the day when you learn how to write and read.
    You are a smart, fine boy. Learn, grow and I hope you will never be afraid to follow your dreams. I hope your future will be bright and happy.

    My niece
    You are only 3 years of age but already you have your own personality, you are strong, happy and beautiful. I missed the first months of your life and this will alway be a great regret of mine. Like your brother, be wise strong and optimistic and I hope your life will be full of joy and happiness. The world is full of wonders and they only wait for you to dicover them.

    To both of you, everytime I see you there is a little bit of sadness in my heart because I know that I will have to say goodbye to you again. You both are far away.
    I had to leave this place because I was very unhappy and bad things happened there to me. I hope one day you both will understand that I had to go in order to be happy. Leaving the two of you behind was the price I had to pay for happyness.
    I love you both so much and I can not wait you see you soon. I promise i will never ever let you down and I am always there for you no matter how many miles lie between us.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Dear S,

    I met you on April 22nd, 2010. I fell for you on the 23rd. I am still amazed that a girl like you would look at me. Those big brown Indian eyes... Perfect. It was one of the saddest days I ever put down, when your Dad passed away. I can't imagine how you felt so far from your family. I am glad I was there for you. I know you want to be with your family in Canada. But I can't leave Ireland, I would miss my family and friends to much. My mates think there is something up with me. I have lost interest in chatting to women.

    Just want her to know I didnt reject her. I'm in limbo. If she comes back, Id probably marry her. Dunno what to do with myself.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 294 ✭✭LadyW


    Dear Mr. Right

    Where are you? I have to believe you are out there but I have been alone for so long that I sometimes think I will never meet you.

    LadyW


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Dear S

    I don’t know what happened to us, it was all so perfect, yes the distance was hard and I hated not being with you as much as you hated not being with me, but I was willing to wait to be with you and I thought you felt the same.

    I loved you with all of my being and would have waited til the end of time to be with you, even with all the cr*p that you started to go through I was willing to wait.

    You came back so many times and each time I welcomed you with open arms and I always believed that you loved me, but this time it has changed. You said that you loved me, you wanted to be with me you missed me and then the next day you changed your mind. You have pushed me away every day since and I can’t handle the pain anymore. You’re not even willing to try.

    You have broken my heart beyond belief but I still love you, and no matter how hard I try to let go I have this deep feeling that we are not done (and I hate it), but if you come back it be so easy, I WON’T let you hurt me again.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,953 ✭✭✭Vinta81


    hairy chested chubby chaser


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Dear me,

    If that tool ever rings you again or texts, do not under any circumstances answer the phone. Even if you think you can handle it, you cant. Even if your in great form and think I want him to know how great I am doing, don't reply. Keep remembering all the bad times. He is not your problem to fix. Look at how insecure and paanoid you felt.You are doing okay, so much better than last month. Everybody feels lonely at times but your gonna be fantastic. Time is a healer. Look how much you have achieved already. I love you. Trust me!

    Your Gut Instinct

    Dear Tool,

    Please **** Off

    E.


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Dear C

    my heart aches for you but things have to change. You need help...help I can't give, but can support you in. For the past 3 weeks I have cried myself to sleep every night. We haven't been apart for more than a day in the past 4 years. We both know it had to be done. Hurtful things were said but we can move on from that. I adore you with every fibre of my being. You are my soulmate, my one and only, the one that holds me together when it all goes to ****. I'll be there for you, but get help. Please.

    All my love,

    J


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 682 ✭✭✭illiop


    Dear T,

    You don't get to treat me like that. I don't want your sympathy either. But, come on! Just grow a pair.

    Me


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,713 ✭✭✭✭Novella


    Dear... World,

    Thank you for giving me all of this. I actually feel like the luckiest person ever sometimes, when I'm not too busy trying to find fault. I know this is ridiculous, but I'm all kinds of happy lately and I guess I've only just realised how much there is out there - the possibilities are endless. Sorry for being so cheesy, but I can't exactly talk to you and I need to put this out there. I know how great this is, I know. Thanks to many, many people for making me see this.

    All of my sideways ice cream*,

    S (:


    * <3


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I wish I had the chance to hug you one last time, to look in your eyes and tell you I'll always love you, to have the chance to say goodbye.

    I love you so much it hurts, and it's been so so hard to admit to myself that loving you just wasn't making me happy, but I'm getting there.

    You were right, we had no choice, you can't help the way you are and I can't help the way I am. And together..well together I guess we just don't work. I wanted to help you so so much, I did everything I could and I tried so hard, god I tried! But I've had to realise that it isn't my responsiblity to make you better, that your feelings aren't my responsiblity, and that your life isn't my responsiblity. And it's so hard to let go of that, because I'm terrified that you won't be ok, and that someday it's all going to build up to the point where you can't take it anymore. And I couldn't bear that, I couldn't bear to know you went through that kind of pain and that you felt so alone, when all the time I was here - just from a distance.

    I want to text you, I want to tell you that I'll always be here, and that I love you. But I have things I need to deal with too, I have to face up to my codependency and stop needing you to need me. And I'm trying to do that now that you're gone, I'm trying to create boundaries where I've never had them before; so that I can still be me, and I can still care, but look after myself at the same time.

    I know we said we'd keep in touch, and maybe someday be friends, but for now I just can't talk to you. I need to be on my own til I figure all of this out, because I'm just about coping with my head about water, and if I talk to you I'm scared I'll start to sink. I'm glad we're still on facebook though, at least that way I know that you're ok..well as ok as you can be.

    I wish you weren't sick, I wish we could have had forever instead of the short time we had, and I wish everything hadn't hurt so much.

    I have to move on now, I have to do it for me, although it's breaking my heart. Everyday I tell myself that I wasn't happy, that it wasn't a relationship anymore, and that I could never have made you better. It's what keeps me going, trying to be logical. And it was working ok, until today. But tomorrow I'll wake up, and tomorrow I'll try to go back to being ok. Because 'ok' is all I can muster for now.

    Everyone wants to know what happened, but I can't tell anyone. And I won't, I promise you I won't. But it's just so hard having it all inside my head, and trying to deal with it on my own, writing seems to be the only release I have right now.

    I'll love you always, you're the most amazing person who's ever come into my life, and dsespite everything I don't regret one minute of our time together. I promise you that.

    Please get help, please get better, for you - not for me. I know we'll never be together now, we had our time and it was tainted; we'll never get it back. But your life is so so important to so many people, please please don't take it away.

    Please live.

    xxx


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    A bumped thread, because it's wonderful and heartbreaking.

    The last post made me cry. So in the nature of this thread, I'm going to write one of my own.

    J,

    I love you so much.So much. We've been so happy. That thing that happened a few weeks ago - it wasn't good, but it wasn't the most awful thing ever. I want so badly to get past it, but I'm struggling a bit at the moment. I feel so guilty about feeling like this, because you're my best friend in the world, and you support me in everything. I can see the love shining out of your eyes everytime you look at me. I'm hoping this counsellor can help me sort my brain out - I want more than anything to feel so happy, when you get down on one knee and ask me to be your wife.I want to see your smile when I walk up the aisle, knowing that I'm about to become all yours.....and loving my dress (like you do!!). I know everybody has doubts, but I want mine to stop taking up so much of my head. It's not your fault, and in a way it's a godsend, because it's made me realise there are things in my life I need to face up to.

    I don't want to ever lose you, you mean so much to me.I keep telling you this, but I wonder sometimes do you really know how much.You're my rock, you keep me sane, you're the constant, safe place in my life, that I can talk to about anything. Please know that I love you, no matter what.....with or without the lightning bolt!

    S


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    dear ex
    i was crazy about you. i thought you were crazy about me. suddenly you just decided you werent that into me and did'nt have the decency to tell me and just strung me along. i was foolish enough to fall for it when you slipped back into how things used be between us. you ripped my heart out over christmas and new year with how you made me feel. its the little things, seeing your name , hearing your voice used be happy moments , now its heartbreak, i never thought you would treat anybody like you treated me. i thought i deserved honesty after what we'd been through. worst thing is my heart still misses a beat when i think of what we once had, but remembering how you made me feel just makes me think like i dont know you or never really did maybe.

    i dont know how or if ill ever really get over you, but one things for sure i could never be with you again. dont regret it. only mistake i made was likeing you . its mistake im glad i made but im not going to be repeating. never thought things would end like this, always thought you could be honest about anything with me.


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,678 ✭✭✭LambsEye


    Dear ______

    The saddest thing is that I still love you, I'll always love you but it had to be let go. It wouldn't work even though every fibre of me wants it. Thanks for being happy just loving me. Thanks for showing me how boys are supposed to treat girls. Thanks for putting me back together again and I'm sorry for every crappy fight and I'm sorry I'm not strong enough to be friends.

    If I'd have known it would come to this I would have spent every second appreciating you. I hope you know how happy you made me.

    I still fancy the arse off you.

    My love always,

    LE


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 590 ✭✭✭SparkyTech


    Dear D,

    Im sorry for being such a crappy friend to you lately. All the excuses, all the mood swings, the lack of effort on my part. Im glad to have you in my life, even if im not great at showing it sometimes and if we weren't so far apart I'd ask you out in a heartbeat. Know your not in a great place right now and hope fate throws you some good luck soon

    C x


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 51 ✭✭missmoo


    to my brother

    you're an a$$hole. why no one in this family isn't good enough for you we'll never know, i just hope one day you'll realise how much you've hurt us all and by then it won't be too late. i hope your wife and her family are enough for you, but maybe one day you'll remember our parents and all they've done for you, it's them that you're hurting the most, i can see it every day.

    to my mam

    i'm sorry i was such a selfish bi*ch for so many years. that letter you sent me, and the events that happened in 2009 made me realise life is too short, you can't change the past, but i want you there for my future, every step of the way, so please don't let me leave again.

    to my dad

    you're my hero x


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Dear Ex,

    I still miss & love you. Meeting you the other day was so weird I felt so nervous I was shaking and my heart was racing, and damn you are looking good! It's been almost a year. I felt sick walking away I wanted to just grab you and kiss you. It kills me the way things are now, you were my best friend and lover all in one. We had great chemistry. We can still talk for hours but goodbyes kill me. The constant reminders of you are really not helping mend the heartache, I wish I could just disappear sometimes have even considered getting away. I really thought you were the one, I had serious considered a future with you and wanted to tell you so bad but when we got back you slowly changed. Its going to be hard to move on, life at the moment in general isn't great so no distraction to even help!

    Take care,

    Audrey xXx


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 673 ✭✭✭merlie


    Dear C (Ex bf)

    Your a fool to have let me go and there are times when I think you know it. You haven't got anyone and your other ex's left you but I didn't and yet you left me. I would have given you the world, and you know it. Well I just want to say you are missing lots and, you don't know what you got till its gone!!

    M.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I still wonder about you, every single day. I wonder if you're doing ok; if maybe today was the day you managed to see even a glimmer of light in the road ahead; if maybe today you woke up and realised just how amazing you are and how much you have to look forward too... If maybe today you smiled, from memories of us.

    I miss you, I miss you so much it hurts, but I know we've done the right thing. I've tried to move on with things, and sometimes I feel bits of happiness, and I tell myself they're just the start of more to come. That it won't always be like this, that it won't always hurt so much.

    I'm trying to tell myself that moving on doesn't mean I love you any less, but today I'm just finding that a bit harder to do. I'm not the kind of person who wallows, my way of dealing with pain has always been just to move on and get on with things. And that's what I'm doing this time, but it's still leaving me with this horrible guilt from knowing that you can't move on - that you're stuck. So why should I be allowed to? Why should I be happy when I couldn't make you happy? Why couldn't I just make you better? Why couldn't we have had it all instead of the little bits we had, the little bits of the jigsaw that was missing a million parts....

    It seems I can't just read a book and get better from this, maybe I do need to see someone again, and talk it all out. I don't want to carry this guilt, I love you but I don't want to love you forever - not when it hurts me this much.

    I'll be alright though, I'm just having a bad day, and I know that rationally I shouldn't feel this way. I know that rationally things weren't working out, and I know that rationally we'd never have made each other happy.

    But it's just hard to be rational when it comes to love.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Dear L (masquerades as a good friend),

    I've been in love with you forever and a day but you don't know it. So in love that I try not to think about it because it hurts. I know you have a heart of gold. I know you've put up with a lot of unintentional crap from me and never turned your back on me.

    I wish what happened between us had never happened. It was one night of amazingness that is costing me months of heart ache. I didn't want it to change the relationship we had, for the worse anyway. I never thought you would treat me this way and it breaks my heart, almost as much as wanting you but never being able to have you continues to do. I love you too much to hate you for it. I just wish I had the strength to tell you but I don't.

    Lots of love,
    F


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    to B

    you unintentionally changed my life, without knowing you I would never have met T, and get my hope back.
    you broke my heart into pieces the day you left, and again that day I saw you. I still miss you and wonder what would have been, if you had the courage to do what I did.

    you showed me what love was supposed to be, and Ill never forget that.

    I still miss you and wonder ever day, are you thinking of me.
    the pain is easing, and finally you were right, (ill admit grudgingly) I do deserve better and I will eventually forget you completely.

    I will stop comparing everyone to you, I will stop wondering what if, and finally will accept how you liked me, but just not enough.
    you are a decent man, and i hope you are happy now and never doubt yourself again.

    m


  • Registered Users Posts: 53 ✭✭AmyMaria


    Dear Dad,
    I want to let you know that no matter how normal I act around you that does not mean I don't remember the times you kicked me out, emotionally abused me or my mother, manipulated my sisters against me, made me feel worthless or made me hate myself. But all in all, as I should, I love you very much. I hope some day you can admit you have a problem and can go and get help for it.

    Dear G (Boyfriend)
    I love you very much and I want to thank you for making me feel special and making me happy again. You're kind, generous, sweet and patient. I know I'm a complete pain sometimes but all I want is for you and me to be happy.

    Dear Mum,
    I want to let you know that none of it is your fault. That you're amazing and you can't help the way life turned out for everybody. You tried your best and it was good enough for me. Your the best mum I could have asked for.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 101 ✭✭awesom_o


    Dear boyfriend;

    I'm sorry I make myself sick after every meal. I'm sorry when you hug me you can feel my bones jutting out. I'm sorry you had to carry me when I fainted. I'm sorry I stole your birthday cake and purged it. I'm sorry that even my panties are too big for me. I'm sorry I screamed at you. I'm sorry I ruined your birthday and Christmas. I'm sorry I threw away the dinner you cooked. I'm sorry I made you cry.

    I'm sorry I told you this was your fault.

    I love you.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,708 ✭✭✭curlzy


    Dear M,

    I'm so sorry for what I did when we were 14, I'm sorry I let myself be carried along with the crowd and for spreading those rumours about you. I feel so guilty that your life would have turned out better if I had had the courage to stand up to the bitches and tell them what we were doing was wrong. I knew what we were doing was wrong but I went along with it anyway. I know I apologised to you but I feel like you had your baby so very young to prove what we were saying wasn't true. I'll never know if what we did made your life hard and painful but I've a feeling that it did. For that I'm truly sorry, it's the thing that I regret most in my life and I still feel guilty to this day, 15 years later. I'm truly and genuinely sorry.

    M.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,073 ✭✭✭Rubberlegs


    Dear "friend", or can I call you that anymore? I don't think so. You know how ill my Dad was, how stressed and gutted I was for months. I text you the day he was dying and rang you 20mins after he passed away. Ffs we know each other 15yrs, yet you don't even ask my Dad's funeral arrangements, you simply don't show up. I know you don't drive, but there were several people you could have got a lift with. At the most awful time of my life you weren't there for me. Ironic, when you always like to brag how supportive you are to anyone going through a hard time. I met you on the bus a few weeks ago and I could barely make eye contact with you, because no excuse will ever be good enough for this one. Yet you didn't even offer an excuse, didn't even mention the fact you weren't there. You know I don't have many close friends, that you're being there would have meant so much to me and my family. I could confront you but right now I'm still raw with grief and don't have the energy. The cynical part of me wonders is it because you know my family aren't big drinkers, that there wouldn't be a mad session with drink flowing, after the funeral. Maybe you would have been bored? I can't be in a room with you right now, make excuses not to meet up. I really don't know if this will ever change. I would never have done this to you....


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,589 ✭✭✭shakencat


    Dear Mam,

    Cant believe it took me thousands of miles away to realise your my best friend.

    Can't wait to come home to hug you.

    X


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,073 ✭✭✭sam34


    dear m

    i wasnt expecting to meet you yesterday. i wasnt ready or prepared. what are the bloody chances that we would both be in dublin on the same day and that we would meet on the street.

    dammit, i have so much to say to you but was so taken aback yesterday that i couldnt say half of what i wanted to say.

    the loaded silences and tender smiles yesterday said a lot i suppose but we both know why neither of us will take that step of picking up the phone.

    so we'll keep going as we are, with the elephant in the room whenever we meet.

    and we'll have to be content with that.


    ps i told you 2 years ago that going grey would make you sexier, you disagreed but yesterday i saw i was right ;)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,130 ✭✭✭Azureus


    Dear Dad,
    I hope despite my crappy teenage years I turned out to be the girl you hoped I'd be. It's all for you. I miss you and think of you every day, and twice as much every time I buy a magnum ice cream ;) Love you always.

    Dear C,
    Why? You knew was I was going through and you fed off it to your advantage. You spread rumours and lies and made me barely able to look people in the face. You made me run away. Now I see what you've become, and compare it to the life Ive made for myself and realise karma definately exists. I wish all the best for you, and I hope for your sake you have changed. Give your mother my love (saracasm!)

    Dear friends,
    Thank you.
    :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Dear A

    I met you 2 years ago and we were just supposed to work together for one week but when I had to say goodbye to you I felt really sad and I felt like I knew you so much longer.
    We kept in touch and slowly we became good friends, really good friends.
    Last year we had to work together again and there was so much I wanted to tell you and I was waiting for you to show me or give me signs that you felt more than friendship.
    What did you tell the lads? Why do they make comments and mention your name to me all the time?
    I had such a good day last saturday, just you and me and lots to talk about and I felt so comfortable in your company, this doesn't happen to me often, you know I don't trust people easily, always afraid of getting hurt again. With you it's different. I wanted to tell you that I fell for you, that I want more than just friendship, but you made it clear long time ago that you want the quiet life, no woman, no relationship no kids but my gut feeling tells me you are not so sure about that, maybe you have been hurt just like myself.
    When we were waiting for your bus on saturday I just wanted to be in your arms and telling you how I really felt but I am afraid I am making a fool of myself and risking a friendship that is close to my heart.
    I didn't hear from you since, you don't reply to my txt either. I don't know but it hurts me and saddens me.
    I miss you but I can't wait for you to make up your mind because I am afraid it's me that will get hurt and I can't keep doing this to myself. All I want is a move from you and I could tell you all of this. I can't make you love me but I can accept whatever you decide because I am and will always be your friend.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,000 ✭✭✭spinandscribble


    dear person,

    You make me mad. You make stupid insensitive remarks all the time. You know full well you're doing it. You can't just let people be and give out about how they work and what they work as. Its important to them so why knock it? Yes you work differently, nobody thinks less of you for it or even mentions it, hell i didn't even think about it until you brought it up. stop being so scared and insecure. The worst part is I see right through you and can't decide whether to pity or greatly dislike you. yesterday I said something that i know hit a note, I could see it in your face how scared you were when you realised I know what you really are. So from now now I'll ignore you and walk away as soon as you speak your bull.

    (quite vague but have to be careful)


  • Registered Users Posts: 807 ✭✭✭Jenneke87


    I did not cheat on you.

    Next time you break into my inbox, dont make it so bloody obvious....

    I do not appreciate you passing my emails on to other people. This is precisely the reason why I did not tell you anything about the investigation I was asked to take part in, you see ghosts when there are none and you jump to conclusions.


  • Registered Users Posts: 121 ✭✭KiLLeR CoUCh


    Dear Mam,

    I've been trying to understand you for years now. I don't think I'm ever going to. Don't forget you've got a daughter to be proud of, and you should be because God knows I more or less raised myself. I don't mind any more though, I'm here whenever you need help.



    Dear Dad,

    You're a hero and an absolute chancer at the same time. Don't worry, I've got your back


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  • Registered Users Posts: 689 ✭✭✭Khyra24


    Dear cone butt,

    I would have sacrificed everything I had for you but you never gave me the time of day nor did you care to. I fecking love you and hate your avoidance/passive nature at the same time and it frustrates me to insanity. You say you'll always love me and that you care but you lie. It's all a bunch of lies and I've lost everything because of you. My self-esteem has gone down the drain because of you. You're probably laughing at my anguish yet I still love you to death. I'm such an idiot! *smacks myself*


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,766 ✭✭✭squeakyduck


    Dear H,

    You are like a sister to me and and I love you so much. I just read your email to say you are leaving for Switzerland in 2 weeks. I'm really happy for you, sad because I feel like I'm loosing you a little, and a little jealous as you are off to pastures new but I'll be off on my travels soon myself! :)

    We are gonna make our little school one day. Pink Cat and Purple Ducks school of english! :) I'm so happy you have J he is someone that likes you as much as you do, ye are smitten with each other, you deserve that after all you have been through.

    I love you H, always will! I'm so proud of you!

    Love always PurpleDuck aka SqeakyDuck xxxx


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,660 ✭✭✭G86


    To me...

    Sometimes time just sneaks past you, so quietly that you don't even realise it, and it's only when you stop to look back that you see how far you've come.

    For a while, my every 2 steps forward were followed by 3 steps back. It felt like I was walking on quicksand, nothing was stable, everything had to be held on to in the fear that I could lose it all in any one moment. But then I realised that letting go doesn't mean giving up, it isn't a sign of weakness, and it doesn't make you any less of a person - in fact, it makes you a stronger person. Not every situation can be controlled, not every emotion can be anticipated, and that's ok - because that's life. Life isn't meant to be a storybook with each chapter leading on to the next, the outcome isn't meant to be predetermined, and the happy ever after doesn't always turn out as you expected. But, that's the thrill of the ride, that's what makes it both exhilarating and terrifying at the same time.

    Don't live in fear of what comes next, embrace it - because who knows what it may be.

    From the person who knows you best.


  • Registered Users Posts: 342 ✭✭Goldenlady


    Dear dad,
    the world owes u nothing and I blame u for our family not being a close unit. U should have been the glue wen mom got sick initially, instead u acted like u were the only one it affected, but what about us. U have now gone off and gad an affair for the last 4 years while mom knows none of this. Thank u, for showing me just how selfish u are.



    Dear mom,
    love u to bits, despite sometimes feeling like I put my life on hold for u but that's what u do wen u love someone. Ur the best xxxxx

    dear my bf,
    feel like we are drifting lately, 6 years together probably goes thru those phases. I would love to have a child with u but I know u don't want them, is that why I'm being distant! I do love u deeply. Sometimes I wish I was ur number 1, but u have other responsibilities and I know they will always share that number 1 spot wit me

    xxxxxxxxxxxx

    just noticed I sound like such a moaner!!!!! Ha


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,166 ✭✭✭Edgedinblue


    Dear auntie c,

    I wrote a rant about you just now, its nearly 1000 words. but you know what i can sum it up in 12 words....

    you're a self centred childish lying gossip whore and everyone knows it


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,817 ✭✭✭Stevie Dakota


    Dear women of the world,

    I am from Mars, you are from Venus. But I come in peace.

    Yours sincerely,

    Stevie


  • Registered Users Posts: 55 ✭✭iluvcake


    Dear Cake,

    I just wanted to say, I still love you and I always will.
    I miss you every day, still, after nearly 3 years now,
    when you went back for the kids.
    I hope I can move on eventually, but for the moment,
    I still wish I was her, but I never will be. I hope it's worth it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    G.,

    You still live in your own world and part of me will always hate you for how you have acted.

    That's why I'm so disappointed in myself that you still turn me on so damn much. (Durty, durty things....)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,048 ✭✭✭partyndbs


    2 vj

    ye i defo wud ;)


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,928 ✭✭✭✭rainbow kirby


    Partyndbs - please use your full keyboard, txtspk is not allowed on boards.ie.


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