Am I overreacting?

Zak Flaps wrote: »

should i give out to her when i see her tomorrow?

No, tell her to self isolate for 14 days as the damage is done. Giving out is futile at this stage.

Zak Flaps wrote: »

ie, just stay in her bedroom?

Yes. Or avoid others as much as she can. She can't go into work. I presume if she is going into work at this stage she is working with the public.

At the very least she has to avoid contact with your other flatmate.

1 sheep2 wrote: »

How long do you expect her to hold off from romantic engagements?

For as long as everyone else has to. She is not special.

We are all in the same boat. She isn't being asked to give up anything we all are not being asked to.

Zak Flaps wrote: »

Believe it or not, she's a nurse!
A research nurse so she's not on the front line as such treating bed bound patients. At the moment she's only in once a week, sometimes twice, but wears a mask etc if a patient comes in to see her.

That's a nightmare. I would report her. But at the same time she could lose her job or something ...i dunno what to tell you.

What has housemate 4 to say about all this?

snoopboggybog wrote: »

Stop trying to control your friends life.

This is a childish reaction. When you live with people you HAVE to let them have control of some aspects of your life. Just as sharing with a family you have to make adjustments.

If the housemate who went out wants to do as she please ..she can move out. Oh wait no she is still not meant to be doing that according to the lockdown set out by the govt.

You're not overreacting ...
But you house share so what can you do? (Apart from get your own space)

Here's a thing I learned: people will do what suits and benefits them. She don't give a sh*t about you or the other house mate. You're just acquaintances by circumstances.

Here's the kicker: if you started to do the same she'd probably kick up a stink. Such is life.

What part of "You're not allowed into other people's houses" are people not getting about the current rules??? If I had a housemate who was overnighting elsewhere at the moment I wouldn't be a bit impressed either. Realistically, I'm not sure there's a whole lot the OP can do about it other than try to talk to her, but anyone trying to paint him as the asshole here is being obtuse at best and a bit of an asshole themselves at worst.

What the housemate is doing is dick behaviour, end of.

This is the second time I've seen that horse manure claiming that "It's OK to ride away if they live within 5km" posted here in the past week. It isn't and it never was. The current regulation for meeting somebody outside one's own household is now "friends or family within 5 kilometres in groups of no more than 4, adhering to 2 metre social distancing".

As for what to do, there isn't a lot. This housemate knows exactly what the regulations are and she's ignoring them. Unless she happened to visit this guy's house twice and sat 2m away from him Even if somebody or everybody in the house has a word with her, it is not going to end well. She knows she's in the wrong but is more likely to double down and tell everyone to fck off than to admit she's wrong.
It is inconsiderate and irresponsible but some people are asshats. It's an absolute bummer that you're sharing a house with somebody like this. It opens up questions about how careful she is being in the rest of the house too. Is she changing out of her work clothes as soon as she gets home, for example? Is she washing her hands and observing good hygiene? Although your asthmatic housemate is the one at the most obvious risk from Covid-19, it could make any one of you very ill indeed. It would be prudent for all of you to be extra careful in the shared areas. Maybe get yourselves a spray bottle of household cleaner and kitchen roll and wipe down any surfaces you'll be using, just in case. Stay away from her when she is in the house and spend more time in your room. It is a crappy situation to be in but short of asking her to leave, I don't know what else you can do.

Mod: 99nsr125 - read the forum charter before posting in PI/RI again. Your previous lost is well below the standards expected here.

I haven't seen the OP once say the person with asthma has a problem with her leaving the house?

Seems as if the OP is outraged on their behalf rather than the asthmatic saying they aren't happy.

weldoninhio wrote: »

Why is it any of your business??

Ignorant behaviour that spreads a deadly disease is everyone's business.

Yes, there is something she can do about it, she can follow the bloody rules.