Trying to conceive/Planned parenthood/Assisted Reproduction Chat thread.

spingler · 12-02-2011 6:46pm

to dublin lady, its so hard when you see that first sign, its so distressing and lonely, we wil have our special month when that shagging brown cm does not show up, this month the progestrone gel seemed to hold back on mine for a day playing with my mind that i was late and there was a posssibility of it beng a positive, but no this wasnt my month either and you are not alone... second cycle of injections starting tomorrow...good luck to all of us xx

Neyite · 13-02-2011 4:36pm

dublinlady wrote: »

Brown cm today... That means I'm out for this month. Gutted really, there's no more right I can do, it just isn't happening. Feel so down... I know I'll be fine again in a day or two... But will it ever be my turn..? No selfworth today.

(((Hugs)))
I know exactly how you feel, and yeah, you will be grand in a day or two, but for the moment, let yourself wallow a bit -better than letting it all build up inside. How is the acupuncture going, how many sessions have you had?

I know the frustration you have - the amount of times I have gotten angry at my Useless Uterus for not working. It seems like its only function is to cause pain, both physically and emotionally.

Neyite · 13-02-2011 4:48pm

spingler wrote: »

one so called friend whom i confided in that i was trying etc... rang me up a couple of months later to thank me that she was now pregnant because i had put the idea i her head that she and her hubby should try for their fourth child, and that it was because of me that they were pregnant, she proceeded to meet me for coffee a few months later wearing her I (LOVE) MY BABY BUMP tee shirt and any time i asked how she was she relied " ah you know how it is, im blooming"

Now, that is just a really horrible, evil person. She really rubbed your face in it didnt she? Seriously Spingler, you should ask her if she took lessons in how to be a b!tch, because she would get an A+ with her eyes shut. That would have seriously crushed me.

spingler · 13-02-2011 5:49pm

yes neyite i was crushed but like that im getting more selective now on the type of people i confide in.. there are people who really will never understand the whole picture of what we go through. This weekend i allowed myself some time out from this and really enjoyed spending time with my husband and having a laugh because lately its being in my every waking and sleeping thought and it can be so exausting..especially when i dream i have a baby and when i wake up its not there... i needed another focus to so i joined weight watchers this week again for the millionth time. Think if i lose a little of my faghita it mite help! but yes ignorance raised its ugly head again.. the leader said the exact same thing to me as the last time i joined.."ohh we didnt know where you were over the last few months we thought you were off having a baby", girl sitting beside me whom i didnt even know said " cheeky bitch, does she think were in bed 24/7 eating and having sex", ha it made me laugh... i thought mayby that girl was in the same position as me... who knows ps.. HAPPY VALENTINES TO ALL:)

applesock · 13-02-2011 6:23pm

hi all, ive started the countdown to ovulation now, i used a fertility calendar so i hope its accurate. Been of the pill for a year & four months,so my cycle only back to normal now.although very frustrating every month when i get my period, was convinced the minute i was of the the pill id be pregnant just hasnt happened like that, so fingers crossed for this month

dublinlady · 13-02-2011 7:24pm

Applesock - good luck - hope this is your month!!:)

Neyite - well i surprised myself this month, i was sad and hugely disappointed for a couple of hours - was at work so was difficult to hide it! Had my few tears (while hiding in the loo....classy!) and then suddenyl had a revelation! Its ok! Just like that, i wasnt upset anymore! It occured to me that its only one month im not pregnant, not forever....as in - i kinda just felt calm and even a bit positive about starting a new month, and realised that the true liklihood is that i will get pregnant in the next 2-3 months and so i dont need to be worrying.... Sounds weird, but genuinely i felt this wave of calm come over me - it has to be the accupuncture!! It was alot easier this month, alot! I cracked open a bottle of wine lastnite with the husband and we got tipsy and had a laugh! This is a far cry from what ive been like other months! This is what the accupuncture has done for me so far, and im delighted! Also instead of 2-3 days of brown cm then my period - my period started this morning, which means i only had 1 day brown cervical mucus, im taking this as a very positive sign that my cycle is returning to normal (7 months later...!) - again i attribute this to the accupuncture, as before this month it had only been getting worse! It does mean that i had a 27 day cycle this mont as opposed to the normal 29-30 for me, but sure im delighted with that, it means im getting a 2 day headstart on this cycle! Positivity positivity positivity! I feel like a new woman!
Mind you, obviously im still not pregnant and im still feeling the pain of it, but its just i suppose its not consuming me as much as it had done previously!
Im going to accupunture once a week, and so have had 4 sessions. I feel a difference for sure. Im going to give it 3 months, prob wont be able to afford much more than that, but maybe at that stage will just go once every few weeks or something! Myself and husband have a 3 month plan of sorts, its better than going month by month as it means theres less pressure to get pregnant straight away! Lord knows i dont know what happens when the 3 months are up tho....we'll get to that if we need to!!
So my plan for this month is - continue acupuncture - get smear test on week 2 - get results of day 21 bloods - get a transvaginal scan to check womb looking good. Ill continue to use preseed, and will just do the deed as often as i feel like , but at least every second day from day 7 to 18!
Thanks for listening ladies - really dont know where id be without this forum! i really needed to just be able to tell someone that i had brown mucus yesterday....i mean seriously...who else would listen to that!!

:D

Baby dust to all............keep the faith....Our babies will come when they're ready! Imagine how much love we'll be able to give them as a result of having to wait, our children will be the most wanted and happy children ireland has to offer!!!:D

applesock · 13-02-2011 11:22pm

wow DublinLady im loving the positive vibes from your post actually very uplifting

i love the only one month not pregnant but not forever

baby dust to all

Quins5 · 14-02-2011 1:16am

Well said Dublinlady! Positivity all the way

Fingers crossed for everyone x

May79 · 14-02-2011 4:47am

Hi girls - Just checking in to see how you are all getting on. I'm sorry to see some are still struggling. It's a long hard road. I myself was so delighted to have this thread as a wee outlet, there's great advise and it's helpful to know htat others feel the same things you do - you don't have to feel quite so alone in the journey. My husband and i didn't tell anyone about the difficulty we were having when trying to conceive and when we did manage it we didn't tell a soul until we were roughly 13/14 weeks along. Anyone who is negativew towards you - AVOID - It is hard enough to do what you are doing without that crap. Some people don't have sensitivity in their nature, others who can get pregnant at the drop of a hat just do not understand and anyone who says "chin up", "relax", or "maybe it's not meant to be" should really be muzzled! Some of us need a little more help than others and if there is no really obvious signs as to why it's not happening then medical intervention is the way to go. I wish you all best of luck. Baby dust as they say. I hope 2011 will work out for you all. x.

Cat Melodeon · 14-02-2011 3:05pm

Girls can you recommend a cheapy ovulation prediction kit? This just isn't working for me, cycle has gone completely mental, just 22 days these month, usually 29-31. Fried.

CathyMoran · 14-02-2011 3:37pm

The Tesco one is really cheap, did not realy use it though as we were lucky. The way that I look at it (maybe the wrong way), is that you should have fun as much as possible as at least with me my dates were not for the most part accuratly predicted by the tests...it kept me less stressed and the hubby was happier too!

DetectivFoxtrot · 14-02-2011 6:29pm

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cheap as chips. you'll get them in a week. discreet packaging

applesock · 14-02-2011 10:42pm

great link , i think ive learned alot from just reading the stuff on there site lol. great for pregnancy test as they are so expensive, i remember once i hadnt had a period for like 3 months and must have spent about 200e on test. Me and the other half had a great weekend we went away and had a good chat. now not as worried about conceiving just taking it one month at a time, although cant wait for ovulation this month teehee, but promising myself i wont be upset if doesnt happen

Cat Melodeon · 15-02-2011 12:24am

Cheers guys. We've been having lots of fun but my cycle has become totally unpredictable and it's getting me down. I think if I at least have some idea what's going on I'll be a bit more even-keeled. I like to know if it's practice fun or fun with a mission. I'll try those kits out although I don't think my local Tesco stocks the own brand one, they're pretty crap in how much stock they carry. The online one looks very reasonable.

Briar Rose · 15-02-2011 10:24am

Hi everyone. We're in the middle of ivf and I was told acupuncture is a good idea. But late in the day, but I'd appreciate a recommendation for someone who deals with fertility acupuncture. I'm in Bishopstown. Thanks!!

Das Kitty · 15-02-2011 11:00am

Just a reminder to all to check the announcements in the forum regarding using codes from other parenting sites (DS, DD, CM, BFP and so on and so forth). It is against the forum charter to use them here for the reason that it causes confusion and alienation in posters who do not understand them, posters who might otherwise have something helpful to add.

Also text speak (u, 2moro, etc) is against the site rules.

Please read the forum charter for more information on the rules

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spingler · 16-02-2011 12:01am

Did anyone listen to the fertility expert on 2fm today?, he was on the colm hayes show, this guy was on around 12.40 pm, listening to it i just sat in my car and balled. it was general, but it mostly focused on the difficulties faced by couples trying to conceive after the age of 35.. it was heartbreaking listening to some of the texts that were being sent in. There are so many people in our situation, i had being really strong all week until today, when i found listening to it just reminded me of whats going on for myself and my husband. Although it was nice to have it acknowledged.. that is, the trauma, the stress, the heartbreak, the grief for a family you want so bad and the strain it puts on your relationships and your normal life. But as hard as it was to listen he gave hope in saying that there will be 1oo's and 1000's of pregnancies all over the world this year and we will get there, even if we have an extra bit of help...:)

barbiegirl · 16-02-2011 1:34pm

Yesterday must have been a bad day for everyone. I started bleeding again at the weekend and was crippled with cramping on Sunday night and yesterday afternoon, and had a little cry at just the futility of the last 6 months since out first miscarriage. I just want to get back to normal, make love to my hubbie, and have a normal life. It's so hard when you want this little person to add to your life and for whatever reason it's just not happening. I since found some Difene at home, as Nurofen Plus and Paracetamol together were not working, and I'm a lot better. I have a check up tomorrow and hopefully we'll see an end in sight.
Baby dust to us all

dublinlady · 16-02-2011 3:11pm

Hope ye ok ladies... There must have been a full moon or something... I also spent a good half hour proper sobbing into my pillow with frustration and sadness..! Thank god back to acupuncture tomorrow! On 7th month now and just felt lastnight that it would never happen, can't even imagine being pregnant any mOre! Have to presume my mood is hormonal... Must go read my previous positive posts to try keep it in perspective!
Really hope you all ok tho... It is such a tough experience.

DetectivFoxtrot · 16-02-2011 6:08pm

Hi all, sorry to hear some of you are a bit down, I know that feeling! (((hugs)))

Today I had my 2nd consultation. I'm on my 6th Clomid cycle, and am two days past ovulation, the dreaded two week wait, gah! I've been booked in for a laparoscopy for mid April. Am a bit freaked out by that as I'll need a general anaesthetic. I asked him about a HSG and he said we could do that but it tells him much less than a lap and I may end up having to get the lap done anyway. A HSG will only confirm if the tubes are open but it won't identify any disease (e.g. endometriosis, lesions etc.). He said if he encounters problems during the surgery he will try and address them there and then, but he said if there are serious problems I'll need to be referred to a specialist.

Here's hoping that this cycle or the next has a positive outcome for me. I really don't want to get the lap done! :eek:
Anyone any experience re same? I only really know that it's keyhole surgery with small an incision in the belly button and one on each side of uterus. It's an out patient procedure but he said I'll need the rest of the week off work (surgery will be on a Tuesday)

spingler · 16-02-2011 9:43pm

hi detectivFoxtrot, i really hope your two week wait flies and that you get your positive. i didnt have the lap, but i had the hsg. Our Gynae said that if my brown bleeds are not sorted by the progestrone gel then i'd have to have further investigation... but this month thank God there was no brown bleed, hope that there will be no need for a lap for either of us. i hope all will go well for you. i am going for my follicle scan friday. Does anybody else get really tired ie fatigue on the week of the injectibles... im wrecked but have to say im a bit more relaxed and positive this month. c'mon feb/march be our months:pac: xx

Neyite · 16-02-2011 11:29pm

Briar Rose wrote: »

Hi everyone. We're in the middle of ivf and I was told acupuncture is a good idea. But late in the day, but I'd appreciate a recommendation for someone who deals with fertility acupuncture. I'm in Bishopstown. Thanks!!

Hi Briar Rose, I am not undergoing IVF nor in Cork, I am in Galway but just wanted to welcome you

I hope someone can recommend an acupuncture in Cork for you.

Neyite · 16-02-2011 11:37pm

DetectivFoxtrot wrote: »

Hi all, sorry to hear some of you are a bit down, I know that feeling! (((hugs)))

Today I had my 2nd consultation. I'm on my 6th Clomid cycle, and am two days past ovulation, the dreaded two week wait, gah! I've been booked in for a laparoscopy for mid April. Am a bit freaked out by that as I'll need a general anaesthetic. I asked him about a HSG and he said we could do that but it tells him much less than a lap and I may end up having to get the lap done anyway. A HSG will only confirm if the tubes are open but it won't identify any disease (e.g. endometriosis, lesions etc.). He said if he encounters problems during the surgery he will try and address them there and then, but he said if there are serious problems I'll need to be referred to a specialist.

Here's hoping that this cycle or the next has a positive outcome for me. I really don't want to get the lap done! :eek:
Anyone any experience re same? I only really know that it's keyhole surgery with small an incision in the belly button and one on each side of uterus. It's an out patient procedure but he said I'll need the rest of the week off work (surgery will be on a Tuesday)

DF, Ive my fingers crossed for ya that you get your positive and dont have to have the Lap. I havent had it done, but I think a cousin in the UK might have had that procedure - I'm afraid I cant ask her for you as I dont really know her that well - but I do know she conceived not long after it, and has a little girl now.

Me... I got my positive Ovulation Predictor Monday and Tuesday so we were busy

I'm getting a stronger response the last 2 months on the tests than I ever did - my LH surge is lasting for 2 days, and that has never happened. So maybe my drugs are working!

big Hugs all around.

barbiegirl · 17-02-2011 3:21pm

Hi guys
Everyone here's hoping everything works as you need it to.
I had my check-up today after a week of extremely sore cramps, and finally got some good news. All the stuff that was stuck has come unstuck, and is floating about in there, the cramping is trying to get rid of it. Plus the best news we could see an egg developing, I'm ovulating again :-)
So nice big high dosage pain killers, tablets to make passing stuff easier. I think that last baby was just as stubborn as me, and was determined to hang around as long as he could ;-) Unfortunately it's time for the last goodbye so I can carry on and we can get a little live baby.
Fingers crossed now, in two weeks we can have a completely fresh start. I think I will ring Merrion and make appointments to carry on IUI

Queen of Sheebs · 17-02-2011 3:49pm

Hi Dectivfoxtrot
I had a laparoscopy this time last year. I had it done as I was having abdominal pains, we weren't ttc at the time.
I have to say it was relatively painless. Tummy a bit sore bending over for a day or two and the usual side effects (constipation) after the anaesthetic. I've had a few different procedures done over the years for different reasons and this one is pretty mild by comparison to some other surgeries.
A friend had one performed due to cysts on her ovaries and she was told that it was doubtful that she would be able to have anymore children as a result of the condition of her ovaries....she was pregnant 2 months later!!! Baby boy now aged 3! Something about it stimulating the ovaries!
I know everyone is different after surgery but just wanted to let you know that it's really not too bad and definitely worth it when they find the cause of the pain/issues. Best of luck.

DetectivFoxtrot · 17-02-2011 8:08pm

Spingler - thanks a mil for your kind thoughts, I hope all goes well with your follie scan

Neyite - that's great that you got a strong ovulation. It's funny, I ovulated on Valentines day, so I'm only a day or two behind you this cycle!

It definitely sounds like the drugs are working for you. fingers crossed that this is your month!

Barbiegirl - you are so strong, stronger than I could ever be. This has really dragged on for you. Seems like your angel baby really wants to hang around. I'm truly delighted to hear that an egg is maturing, here's hoping you ovulate soon, in the meantime get busy!

Queen of Sheebs - thanks so much for sharing your experience. I made the mistake of searching a uterine laparoscopy video on YouTube (I know, I know, step away from the laptop!:p), so I now know exactly what goes on - in extreme detail. It looked like 3 long car antenna's were being inserted into the poor victim and the 3 docs were tossing her reproductive organs around like a salad :eek:, so no more youtube for me! It's interesting that you mention your friend got pregnant after the procedure. My doc said that even if he doesn't find any issues that the procedure will actually increase chances of conception as it flushes out any obstructive (albeit harmless) microscopic debris, so that's good news. I suppose it's like getting a car service and an oil change on your uterus!

I must correct my earlier post. I am getting the HSG done as well as the lap. Both will be done at the same time, whch is great as I've heard that a HSG can be painful - I won't feel a thing as I'll be in la-la-land dreaming sbout shoes!!

Neyite · 20-02-2011 7:01pm

So, I'm into the Two Week Wait at the moment and still thinking positive happy thoughts - I am not going to let another fruitless cycle make me stressed and upset if I can help it. To quote Dublinlady:

dublinlady wrote: »

suddeny l had a revelation! Its ok! Just like that, i wasnt upset anymore! It occured to me that its only one month im not pregnant, not forever....as in - i kinda just felt calm and even a bit positive about starting a new month, and realised that the true liklihood is that i will get pregnant in the next 2-3 months and so i dont need to be worrying

So this is my game plan for the next month. It will happen, someday.

dublinlady · 20-02-2011 8:04pm

Best of luck Neyite, it will happen, when we least expect it.....so i just need to stop expecting it!!:p
Ill have everything crossed for ya, x

spingler · 21-02-2011 11:54pm

spingler wrote: »

Does anybody else get really tired ie fatigue on the week of the injectibles... im wrecked but have to say im a bit more relaxed and positive this month. c'mon feb/march be our months:pac: xx

Well im just gonna have to jump onto that positive train with ye girls... i had my scan on fri and they told me i had only two small follicles brewing, 9 and 10, but to their surprise they could see a dull cyst which proved after a blood test and a five hour wait (for the nurse to ring) that i had already ovulated most likely on day 8, so got to it that night and next day, so im on an earlier two week wait.... see what happens cos its obviously out of my control... good luck to all xx

Tigeress · 22-02-2011 11:50am

Hi Ladies

I'm just back from a relaxing trip away which really helped with the frustration I'm feeling at the moment.. I'm just over ovulation so the dreaded 2 weeks has started

but on the upside I feel Alot more positive this month than I've felt in months

I know you can never really get over a m/c let alone 2 but here's hoping our third time lucky will come along real soon & be ok! Our 2 year mark of trying is July so I'm hoping we have luck before then or we'll seek medical help

but again I'm really positive so fingers crossed

DFT: thanks for your advise when I joined this chat

stuck too it this month

Baby dust to all

Tigeress · 22-02-2011 12:02pm

Barbiegirl: I hope you're doing well

I know how frustrating it can be.. Everymonth since mc I I think I'm ok everything will be fine until I get my period & I feel crap

but it will happen for us all

I'm still getting 1/2 days off brown before my period but it's getting less and less each month! Here's hoping to 9 months without another period for everyone

positive positive hehe

dublinlady · 22-02-2011 6:36pm

Glad to hear how positive everyone is feeling:D Its got to help!

Had smear today....eugh. But on day 10 so time to start lighting the candles etc!!:p
No idea when to expect ovulation this month as period came 2 days early last time, but reckon will start today and try keep it up til day 17/18.
Anyway, hope ur two week waits fly springler and tigress!
Babydust to all!!
x

Tigeress · 24-02-2011 12:08pm

Hi Ladies, I think my positive buzz is wearing off

had a rotten day yest

found out one of my friends is expecting, and got pregnant straight away.. I am really happy for her but at the same time it really got me down.. I feel like a terrible friend she had no idea why I rushed off.. I had a good cry with my partner and it helped a little but not a whole lot. It's all just getting to me these days & I know I shouldn't let it and try not too but it always creeps back in

I just need a little rant..

dublinlady · 24-02-2011 2:03pm

Tigeress wrote: »

Hi Ladies, I think my positive buzz is wearing off had a rotten day yest found out one of my friends is expecting, and got pregnant straight away.. I am really happy for her but at the same time it really got me down.. I feel like a terrible friend she had no idea why I rushed off.. I had a good cry with my partner and it helped a little but not a whole lot. It's all just getting to me these days & I know I shouldn't let it and try not too but it always creeps back in
I just need a little rant..

You poor thing, seriously anyone in Your situation would feel the same when told that news, its awful but we've all done it, your happy for them on one hand and devastated on the other! It doesnt make you a bad friend or a bad person....it makes you human! It very difficult to endure the pain of trying for months and months and having no success, especially when we see others find it so easy. Just remember that most people don't dind it that easy, alot just dont talk about their struggles. Your friend is probably in the very lucky minority!
There are always bad days amongst the good days, just let it all out and definitely have a good cry when you need to! In another day or two you'll be back to your positive self, safe in the knowledge that this WILL happen for us, the timing just has to be right

barbiegirl · 24-02-2011 2:57pm

Tigeress I know it's hard we've all been there. My best mate got pregnant on honeymoon, first month of trying and she was upset cause she didn't really want it to happen that quickly, as she was still getting her head around it!! Now though she has a gorgeous, much loved 6 month old, who when I saw on Monday I just wanted to eat up :-) I just keep telling myself that it's my baby I want not theirs.
For me harder last week was when our other best mate opened up about an abortion she had about 8 years ago. She had not been very supportive of me, seemed to lack understanding of why I was upset in the past 6 months, and this of course explains why. To her I didn't lose a baby, cause if she thought of mine as babies then she'd have to think of the one she let go as one.
I understand that, I really do but it was very hard to listen to her and be supportive, especially when I felt that she hadn't tried to be to the same for me, and never acknowledged that hearing her story would be hard for me.
I know it's a selfish way to look at things, but on this forum we can express those thoughts that we never would to others.

LegacyUser · 24-02-2011 7:26pm

Hi, long time follower but first time poster in this section of boards. My partner and I are trying to conceive and my hormones are haywire at the moment. My mother has just announced that I ''should really lose the weight I'm carrying before trying to conceive'' and ''How does ****** fancy you when you look like that.''

I'm 10st 7lbs. I'm sitting here bawling lol.

Everywhere I look, there are pregnant women, I work with kids, 2 of my best friends are pregnant...........sorry for the moan

caprilicious · 24-02-2011 7:45pm

You're not a terrible friend at all Tigeress, I think all of us trying to conceive have probably been there at one stage - I know I have.

Barbiegirl, I think I would have found that difficult also sympathising under the circumstances. At least its an explanation of sorts as to why your friend wasn't supportive.

I'm going to a local private clinic tomorrow have my first consultation & hopefully to get my Clomid prescription, fingers crossed it'll work I need some good news.

LegacyUser · 25-02-2011 12:03am

God love you Tigress, we've all been there..
I've had a similar experience to barbiegirl. One of my good friends has 2 kids & has also had 2 abortions. She seems to fall pregnant at the drop of a hat. She has no idea that we were trying, but every time I got a negative, it upset me when I thought of her falling so easy.
Thankfully I'm now 6 weeks pregnant after 20months trying, but it's been a long road & still early days.
Dreading telling one of my good friends as she's trying longer than me & really obsessed with it at this stage. She only told me the other day that she's going for a lap & dye in a few weeks & I felt terrible hiding the news from her, but want to keep it until I'm 12 weeks.

barbiegirl · 25-02-2011 11:35am

Hi Caprilicious, good luck for today and hope all goes well.

DetectivFoxtrot · 25-02-2011 8:15pm

Hi Ladies

just checking in with a wee bit of news, hope it's not insensitive of me for posting this here, as I know many of us are on a difficult journey. You've just all been such a great support to me over the months, I am dying to share this with ye. Today, 11 days past ovulation, I tested positive on a digital test. I am absolutely over the moon, finally it's my turn, I still can't believe it. I've dreamt so many times about getting positive tests that I believe I'm going to wake up any minute now, I really do.
There is a history of miscarriage in my family so I am praying for sticky vibes, I hope this little bean burrows deep. Due date is 5/11/11. We are telling no one (bar you guys

) until at least the first trimester is over.
God, that was 22 long months. but we did it! And on the last Clomid cycle too!! I am not remotely religious but I think my dad, who passed away two months ago, had a hand in this, as I know he's watching over me.

This is me, all day today -

:D:D

Tigeress · 25-02-2011 8:30pm

DFT

congratulations!!!!!!!! Wow that's amazing news

I'll have all my fingers and toes crossed for ya but I know you'll & baby will be fine

I'm so so happy for you! Your news cheered my day up

Thanks for all the support ladies, still a little blue but feeling Alot better after my rant..

Here's hoping we'll all have as good a news as Dectivefoxtrot real soon xxx

DetectivFoxtrot · 25-02-2011 8:33pm

thanks a mil Tigress, sorry you're feeling blue (((hugs)))

Lucyfur · 25-02-2011 8:39pm

That is such wonderful news DFT.

x

caprilicious · 25-02-2011 9:29pm

COngratulations DT!!!!!! I am absolutely delighted for you! And I mean that genuinely, you've had a really tough journey so far, you deserve every happiness!

Thanks Barbiegirl

I'm not sure how I feel about todays appointment. Naively, I thought I'd go in, maybe check my blood pressure, ask me a few questions then send me skipping off with my Clomid prescription - not so!

The gynae took my bloods & wants me to have them taken again on day 23 (currently day 2) & will give Clomid only after exhausting other options first.

She charted my cycle this month, told me the exact dates we need to 'become active'

& will work from there.

I think I just went in there with unrealistic expectations. I'm day 2 of my cycle & had read that normally Clomid is started from Day 5, so I thought I would be getting the prescription in good time to get started this month

On the upside, she was very positive & because I have had two pregnancies before & no invasive surgery/infection, she doesn't see any reason why ovulation should be permanently disrupted. She could see no reason why I shouldn't get pregnant soon.

I have been under a massive amount of stress & pressure since returning to work after maternity leave, also my mum in law passed away last week after a short illness.
I'm under strict doctors orders to have as stress free a month as possible (easier said than done!).

Think its time to try shelve my impatience for the time being!

The baby I lost would have been due this day next week, when I was in work today I had to help a woman today, she was heavily pregnant.
I had a bit of a wobbly moment where I thought 'that should have been me', but I do think its hurting that little bit less as time goes by.

Anyway, enough of my rambling, Hope ye all are keeping well

&Congrats again DT, it does a gals heart good to hear brilliant news like that!

dublinlady · 25-02-2011 10:29pm

CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Thats fantastic and amazing news DT!!!! So so delighted for you!! It makes me feel so happy and positive when i hear that it is happening for some of us on this forum!! It means it can happen for all of us!!:D:D I completely understand your nerves, but you really just need to be happy and enjoy the journey, dont waste time worrying about something that may never happen!! I know after my m/c whenever i get pregnant again (soon please god..!) that it will be a real challenge not to be negative and worrying, but really all that would do would create bad negative energy, what you and your baby need now is relaxation and happy thoughts!! You've crossed the biggest hurdle and i will have everything crossed for ya!! The very best of wishes!

Capri - I can only imagine how you felt walkin out of your appointment, as its so so difficult not to be impatient! We have spent so long waiting already the thought of another month is almost umbearable at the start of a cycle! But you just have to remember and focus on what they said to you which was so positive! Stress is a huge factor, which i think is cruel and ironic considering one of the biggest stresses is that we cant conceive in the first place!! But once your a few days into your cycle hopefully the optimism will come back and you'll be able to try and find ways to destress, not easy when events in your life are sometimes so difficult, so ill be hoping you have a very uneventful month

Fingers crossed for ya, and try not to worry too much!
This all coming from me who is a complete wreck most of the time!!:rolleyes:

Im on day 13, enjoying ovulation time and trying to plan ways to distract myself for the next two weeks!
I dont know what id do without this forum, its so great to hear all the positive stories like DT's and also to have people to listen who can really relate to the struggles im going through - noone else can really understand how emotionally draining this all is.
Thanks to you all - babydust!

barbiegirl · 25-02-2011 11:39pm

Detective foxtrot that is fantastic and great encouragement for the rest of us.
Caprilicious clomid can have issues like leaving folicles swollen, i saw this on one of my many recent scans. They look like black holes the doc called it the clomid affect. I think it's always good to have the tests first.
DublinLady, Lucifer and Tigeress we'll all get there.
Big hugs

crazy cat lady · 26-02-2011 6:23pm

Congratulations DFT!!! Excellent news

spingler · 27-02-2011 1:18am

DT that is fantastic news, that is so brilliant:D:D:D keep positive and smiling:D:D my friend rang me today to, she has being trying for her second for 3 years and she got her positive last week... hugs all round

spingler · 27-02-2011 1:32am

hi all. need some advice. i had to ring our clinic the other day re a rash that developed on my face, they said that it was probably due to the treatment, thankfully its going away... i mentioned to them that my job was seriously stressing me out at the moment, the nurse said that treatment may not work if im that stressed.. she sugested me taking a break for a month from our treatment but with me being 37 next month and not seeing work getting any less stressful what should i do?????????????

... i just want to be free from stress... i literly have a pain in my shoulders and head tonight thinking about it.

caprilicious · 27-02-2011 1:53am

Spingler, I'm kind of in the same boat. My doc doesn't want me to take treatment as they're putting my problem conceiving down to stress...which stresses me out more!

Probably a silly question, but is there anyway to reduce the stress more in your job?
If that's not possible, do you think you would be able to take a few days off, maybe get away for a break around the time of your ovulation so you would at least be relaxed then?
That's my plan anyway this month, well maybe not the going away, but trying to ensure that at least ovulation time will be stressless!

Dublinlady, Thanks its gas, obvious as it sounds I didn't realise stress could play such a big factor, or rather that it could have such an effect on my health

I'm down to a 3 day week in work now, hopefully less time in the place = less stress & more success with the baby making

Barbiegirl - I agree, I went in with the wrong attitude like the pills would be a magic solution but the side effects the gynae told me about are certainly food for thought & do make me now look at clomid as a last resort as opposed to a first option.

Babydust to all, hopefully we'll see a few more positives in this thread soon

Trying to conceive/Planned parenthood/Assisted Reproduction Chat thread.

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