Sluts/slappers/whores/homewreckers

A goodly part of the double standard comes from biology and how society views that biology. It's basically down to paternity. A woman knows the child she gives birth to is hers, a man doesn't. He may be fairly sure, but not completly sure. At least for 99% of our history. There are paternity tests now, but that hasn't reset the mechanism yet. This wasn't so much an issue in small tribal groups, but became one when we settled down in one place and property, social position and power got handed down to children. In those case paternity was very important. It was all about the "true" heir, hence many if not most societies in the past put a very high value on women's virginity and fidelity. Women became much more sexually restricted on the back of this and "bastard" was a highly insulting term.

Now as windsock points out it is much easier for a woman to get sex, so it's a sellers market in many ways. It's the woman who chooses the man she sleeps with. Not so much the other way around(though guys would love to think they had some say in the matter).

While it is a sellers market there does exist a smaller amount of men that more women want to sleep with. In our society a monetarily wealthy man will have far more options of sexual partners than a poor man. Around those high value males women are more competitive with each other. At a basic level a married or attached man is already ahead of his peers in value as at least one woman finds him of value. That tends to attract other women more at which point in extremis some women will ignore any thoughts of female solidarity.

Now beauty in women is valued by men and a beautiful woman will also have men competing for her, but if she's thought of as "easy" those same men will not be as interested. A man with a girlfriend will get more attention than a woman with a boyfriend. In general a woman finding out the guy she likes the look of has had a few conquests in the past is much less of a barrier than a man finding out a woman he likes has had the same amount of conquests.

Also in my experience at least, far more women will make a play for a friends man than men will with a male friend's woman. I can think of at least three times in my own past where this has happened with a "best friend" of a girlfriend of mine, or the "friend" will try to sabotage the relationship for reasons beyond concern for her friend. Among my male mates it would be a similar enough number. I can think of only 2 situations where it happened the other way around with men and in both cases they were completely ostracised. I would say in general women are more instantly suspicious of another woman around their boyfriend/husband(especially if she thinks she's prettier).

With this as a background I'm not that surprised that women may call another woman a slut or homewrecker. Throw in the fact that the wronged woman has more to lose. Also throw in that women know that too many men are dumb enough to fall for something shiny and new and I can see why. Men can be equally daft.

My 2 cents anyway.

Dragan wrote: »

When single i'll sleep with whoever i want. Doesn't bother me if they are married or engaged or what have you.

I will say that most of the one night stands I've had it turned out they had a boyfriend. In two cases they were actually engaged. In my defence in most cases I found this out afterward. In the cases where I knew beforehand, they had told me they weren't single, but acted quite differently. Have women never wondered why telling a bloke that you have a boyfriend doesn't stop him trying it on? Mostly it's because they're muppets, but sometimes it's because they have experience that tells them it doesn't always matter(that goes for men too of course).

Deleted User wrote:

I'm sorry Wibbs but female solidarity is a myth. Men tend towards social cohesion and women tend towards social differentiation, it is a simple sociological fact. Labov, studying language shifts in New York, observed this trend and numerous other sociologists and anthropologists have observed similar trends.

There is no such thing as female solidarity.

Oh no I agree in general, or at least female loyalty to friends is ofetn different to how men's loyalty works(bros before hoes kinda thing). Especially when it comes to a man two of them want. Chris rock has something along those lines as part of his routine, a man shows up to meet his mates with a new girfriend who is gorgeous and lovely and generally wonderful. As he leaves his mates go, he's a lucky bastard, how did he pull her? I'm gonna get a woman like that. A woman shows up to meet her mates with Mr handsome and rich and wonderful and as she leaves her mates go; she's a lucky bitch, how did she pull him? I'm gonna get that man.:D

I do think it is in general though. I've women mates who have never or would never try it on with a friends bloke eve if they fancied the arse of him. I've see that payed out too. Women are very supportive of each other in other ways too. It's just when the contents of the pants are involved some are utterly ruthless.