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Anyone else fed up of dating apps?

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    #92
    billyhead
    Registered Users Posts: 9,584 ✭✭✭billyhead


    Folks, What would you consider the best dating site (payed or otherwise) apart from Tinder.


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    #93
    S.G.M.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 331 ✭✭S.G.M.


    Try online dating in the North West of the country where we are forgotten about. Add all the normal issues to a severe lack of people.


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    #94
    gwalk
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,107 ✭✭✭gwalk


    S.G.M. wrote: »
    Try online dating in the North West of the country where we are forgotten about. Add all the normal issues to a severe lack of people.

    You have internet down there??


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    #95
    S.G.M.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 331 ✭✭S.G.M.


    gwalk wrote:
    You have internet down there??

    Just about.


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    #96
    Mister Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 6,041 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    billyhead wrote: »
    Folks, What would you consider the best dating site (payed or otherwise) apart from Tinder.
    Bumble is daycent. Girls have to message first, which means you don't have to be "original" and "witty." People on it seem to take it more seriously compared to Tinder.


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    #97
    S.G.M.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 331 ✭✭S.G.M.


    I'm 25 and not a bad looking fella but I'm not the type where a woman will take a second look and I find online dating quite poor. I'm in a rural enough area so not close to any of the major cities in Ireland. Ive personally never had any luck with matches or replies from the women I want to get to know but I know people that get on quite well. The best looking people get on the best (obviously) but I've firmly veered away from online dating sites now and am focusing on real world interactions.


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    #98
    Hithere246
    Registered Users Posts: 28 ✭Hithere246


    There are several types on internet dating.. people who want to hook up (dick pic within 3 messages), people who will never settle cos they're addicted to messaging 10 different people at a time, and those who are genuine and want to meet someone genuine. I'm sure there are more categories if anyone cares to enlighten me. What I do notice over a year on is that it's the same people still on the same sites


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    #99
    Ubbquittious
    Registered Users Posts: 6,188 ✭✭✭Ubbquittious


    Hithere246 wrote: »
    There are several types on internet dating.. people who want to hook up (dick pic within 3 messages), people who will never settle cos they're addicted to messaging 10 different people at a time, and those who are genuine and want to meet someone genuine. I'm sure there are more categories if anyone cares to enlighten me. What I do notice over a year on is that it's the same people still on the same sites

    Do they still send those despite them being known to be ineffective?


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    #100
    Elessar
    Registered Users Posts: 5,239 ✭✭✭Elessar


    I'm a guy and I found Tinder a good bit of fun. I'm mostly conditioned at this stage for most conversations to wither and die but there's always a few where they will meet you. I found it's important to ask them out quick, i.e. same day or within a couple of days and don't drag out the conversations. At least you both know where you stand. Try not to take it too seriously.

    Yeah most dates were once offs or you might meet the girl a few times but they sort of fade away then for various reasons.

    I did meet my last girlfriend thanks to Tinder (not Irish which might be a factor) when I wasn't even looking for a relationship and she was the real deal. Beautiful, smart, kind, loving, considerate, fun and she was such a breath of fresh air. We stayed together for 2.5 years and even lived together. I never would have met her if it wasn't for Tinder. It didn't work out in the end but I realise now what I lost - god I'd marry her now if I had the chance! Point is, there are genuine amazing people on it. I had been on countless dates before I met her. It's a numbers game really!

    I'm back on it now and it's not nearly as good as a few years ago. It was always a feast or a famine for me - I'd get nothing no matches or dates for months at a time and then BAM in one week I'd have 3 dates set. But now it's all different, maybe there's just more competition on it but I haven't had as much success. It's the only way I can meet the opposite sex so I'll keep persevering!

    So it's not all bad ladies and gents


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    #101
    S.G.M.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 331 ✭✭S.G.M.


    Elessar wrote:
    I did meet my last girlfriend thanks to Tinder (not Irish which might be a factor) when I wasn't even looking for a relationship and she was the real deal. Beautiful, smart, kind, loving, considerate, fun and she was such a breath of fresh air. We stayed together for 2.5 years and even lived together. I never would have met her if it wasn't for Tinder. It didn't work out in the end but I realise now what I lost - god I'd marry her now if I had the chance! Point is, there are genuine amazing people on it. I had been on countless dates before I met her. It's a numbers game really!

    I'm actually sad now after reading that. Thanks Elessar.


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    #102
    Elessar
    Registered Users Posts: 5,239 ✭✭✭Elessar


    S.G.M. wrote: »
    I'm actually sad now after reading that. Thanks Elessar.

    Why?


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    #103
    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,608 ✭✭✭Feisar


    voldejoie wrote: »
    I've been sick of the dating apps for years, but it's very hard to meet people without them.

    I'm a lesbian and the pool is very, very small to begin with. Every time I get fed up with the apps and delete them, I realise they really are the option in terms of meeting people, the best of a bad lot :(

    Mate of mine is a lesbian, says that the pool is really tiny and apps are the only way to go.

    First they came for the socialists...



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    #104
    Church on Tuesday
    Registered Users Posts: 3,858 ✭✭✭Church on Tuesday


    S.G.M. wrote: »
    Try online dating in the North West of the country where we are forgotten about. Add all the normal issues to a severe lack of people.

    I'm single sure, are you;

    A. A woman

    B. Hot

    North Whest based too :cool:


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    #105
    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,608 ✭✭✭Feisar


    It's just another string to the bow.

    The beauty is it works for you when yer on the couch watching telly or asleep. Also brilliant if one is in a new town or city. Was in Turkey with a friend last year and he hopped onto tinder and had two successful nights.

    First they came for the socialists...



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    #106
    waxmelts2000
    Registered Users Posts: 604 ✭✭✭waxmelts2000


    I'm single now 5 months having met my previous partners on POf ( one lasted 4 years, the other 1.5 years)

    Not sure I'm ready to join to join up based on some of the comments here !!! However at my age (48) I think it's my only option. All other buddies married, kids etc. I will need to have a thick skin I guess try to figure out is genuine versus who is not!.....Val


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    #107
    voldejoie
    Registered Users Posts: 225 ✭✭voldejoie


    Feisar wrote: »
    Mate of mine is a lesbian, says that the pool is really tiny and apps are the only way to go.

    I can go like 6 months without bothering to go on one of the apps, then log on, swipe through 10 people and run out of people altogether :o


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    #108
    S.G.M.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 331 ✭✭S.G.M.


    Church on Tuesday wrote:
    A. A woman
    Nope. A dude looking for the same as you.


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    #109
    OneArt
    Registered Users Posts: 1,910 ✭✭✭OneArt


    Dating apps are literally just a place to meet people. That's all.

    The problem isn't with the platform. It's with the users.


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    #110
    Church on Tuesday
    Registered Users Posts: 3,858 ✭✭✭Church on Tuesday


    S.G.M. wrote: »
    Nope. A dude looking for the same as you.

    Sigh. Back to POF I go.


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    #111
    Mister Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 6,041 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    Online dating has created an illusion of plentifulness. If you get frustrated with dating or trying to find a partner, it creates this ambivalence - should you keep pursuing something that makes you unhappy in the hope it might yield something someday?


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    #112
    skittles8710
    Registered Users Posts: 653 ✭✭✭skittles8710


    Genuine question - do people find POF better than Tinder ? I found alot of the same people were on both


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    #113
    NewMan1982
    Closed Accounts Posts: 568 ✭✭✭NewMan1982


    skittles8710 wrote: »
    Genuine question - do people find POF better than Tinder ? I found alot of the same people were on both

    I’m on tinder, bumble and POF.
    I think bumble is possibly the best. Women have to message first so it saves all the ignored messages being sent out.

    I probably have had more tinder dates though.

    POF I can’t seem to attract any decent looking women on. It’s without a doubt the app I get the worst results on.


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    #114
    skittles8710
    Registered Users Posts: 653 ✭✭✭skittles8710


    NewMan1982 wrote: »
    skittles8710 wrote: »
    Genuine question - do people find POF better than Tinder ? I found alot of the same people were on both

    I’m on tinder, bumble and POF.
    I think bumble is possibly the best. Women have to message first so it saves all the ignored messages being sent out.

    I probably have had more tinder dates though.

    POF I can’t seem to attract any decent looking women on. It’s without a doubt the app I get the worst results on.

    Probably my own hang up but not a fan of bumble and the ball always being in my court . But sure each to their own !


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    #115
    NewMan1982
    Closed Accounts Posts: 568 ✭✭✭NewMan1982


    skittles8710 wrote: »
    Probably my own hang up but not a fan of bumble and the ball always being in my court . But sure each to their own !

    All you have to do is say hello. I don’t think the first message is really gonna matter if the other person finds you physically attractive.


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    #116
    skittles8710
    Registered Users Posts: 653 ✭✭✭skittles8710


    NewMan1982 wrote: »
    skittles8710 wrote: »
    Probably my own hang up but not a fan of bumble and the ball always being in my court . But sure each to their own !

    All you have to do is say hello. I don’t think the first message is really gonna matter if the other person finds you physically attractive.

    If someone messaged me with just hello I'd think they couldn't be arsed. If you match on any app you obviously find each other physically attractive , otherwise you wouldn't have swiped that way. An opening message should give some kind of idea of your personality


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    #117
    Raconteuse
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,817 ✭✭✭Raconteuse


    NewMan1982 wrote: »
    POF I can’t seem to attract any decent looking women on. It’s without a doubt the app I get the worst results on.
    Can only imagine the reaction a woman would get if she posted this.


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    #118
    NewMan1982
    Closed Accounts Posts: 568 ✭✭✭NewMan1982


    skittles8710 wrote: »
    If someone messaged me with just hello I'd think they couldn't be arsed. If you match on any app you obviously find each other physically attractive , otherwise you wouldn't have swiped that way. An opening message should give some kind of idea of your personality

    The following conversation will give an idea of the persons personality. It can’t be determined by the initial greeting.


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    #119
    NewMan1982
    Closed Accounts Posts: 568 ✭✭✭NewMan1982


    Raconteuse wrote: »
    Can only imagine the reaction a woman would get if she posted this.

    Why? What’s wrong with honesty?


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    #120
    Raconteuse
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,817 ✭✭✭Raconteuse


    NewMan1982 wrote: »
    Why? What’s wrong with honesty?
    Oh I'm not saying there's anything wrong with what you said. It's just that these threads are always full of posts about how picky women are, and that men aren't fussy.


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    #121
    NewMan1982
    Closed Accounts Posts: 568 ✭✭✭NewMan1982


    Raconteuse wrote: »
    Oh I'm not saying there's anything wrong with what you said. It's just that these threads are always full of posts about how picky women are, and that men aren't fussy.

    I’d go along with that line of thinking too. If a woman (or man) wants to be picky it’s their prerogative.


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