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    #62
    Defunkd
    Registered Users Posts: 408 ✭✭Defunkd


    devlinio wrote: »
    To an 8 year old. It says more about her, as my parents have her daughter 50 the year before.
    Do you know what a 'gift' is?


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    #63
    cocker5
    Registered Users Posts: 3,274 ✭✭✭cocker5


    IMO it depends on lots of things... how close you are / how much you can afford etc

    For my Nieces / nephews on my sisters side (all kids same family) whom I'm very close to I give them €150 each for both communion and confirmation.. they are my nieces / nephews on my side.. plus they aren't' close to their other aunts / uncles on theirs dads side

    for nieces / nephews on my other half's side who were aren't too close with we give €100 (again kids from same family) ...

    so really between us we only have 6 nieces and nephew's

    for all other kids its €20...

    There is no rule / give what you can give that's it... nothing should be expected!


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    #64
    jlm29
    Registered Users Posts: 3,818 ✭✭✭jlm29


    devlinio wrote: »
    PhilOssophy wrote: »
    Wow, maybe that was all she felt you deserved....I can see why

    To an 8 year old. It says more about her, as my parents have her daughter 50 the year before.

    Maybe that’s all she could afford? Would you rather she went to the credit union to borrow money to put in your card?


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    #65
    amcalester
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,121 ✭✭✭amcalester


    devlinio wrote: »
    To an 8 year old. It says more about her, as my parents have her daughter 50 the year before.

    Maybe she felt you were spoilt and that was enough for you? Were you dressed in Hollister from head to toe or something?


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    #66
    devlinio
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 172 ✭✭devlinio


    jlm29 wrote: »
    Maybe that’s all she could afford? Would you rather she went to the credit union to borrow money to put in your card?

    I know my family. None of them are poor. This was pre boom, and everyone in my family was loaded. I'd rather get nothing. She was loaded.

    She even sponsored me for a readathon back in school, and when I went to get the money (again a fiver), she said she never agreed to sponsor me.

    My parents were shocked.


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    #67
    Sunrise_Sunset
    Registered Users Posts: 1,211 ✭✭✭Sunrise_Sunset


    I'm an SAHM. E50 for each will be a lot for me to give. I think I'll stick with that.


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    #68
    PhilOssophy
    Registered Users Posts: 2,114 ✭✭✭PhilOssophy


    devlinio wrote: »
    To an 8 year old. It says more about her, as my parents have her daughter 50 the year before.

    Gift = a thing given willingly to someone without payment; a present.

    It might speak volumes for what your aunt thinks of you! I have nieces and nephews who I'd give a fiver to as well!


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    #69
    devlinio
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 172 ✭✭devlinio


    PhilOssophy wrote: »
    Gift = a thing given willingly to someone without payment; a present.

    It might speak volumes for what your aunt thinks of you! I have nieces and nephews who I'd give a fiver to as well!

    Again, this is to an 8-year-old. What could an 8-year-old possibly do to their aunt?


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    #70
    [Deleted User]
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    What in the name of jaysis would an 8 year old need so much money for?
    €50 in total would be more than enough, so if there's any amount of people giving money, then €10 is fine per person.


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    #71
    oLoonatic
    Registered Users Posts: 375 ✭✭oLoonatic


    A new prayer book or some religious bling.


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    #72
    mordeith
    Registered Users Posts: 5,278 ✭✭✭mordeith


    oLoonatic wrote: »
    A new prayer book or some religious bling.

    Ah here. What's any of that got to do with communion?


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    #73
    PhilOssophy
    Registered Users Posts: 2,114 ✭✭✭PhilOssophy


    devlinio wrote: »
    Again, this is to an 8-year-old. What could an 8-year-old possibly do to their aunt?

    Maybe she thinks you are a little (use your imagination!)


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    #74
    10fathoms
    Registered Users Posts: 100 ✭✭10fathoms


    It'll be a great day when kids are no longer dragged through all this nonsense..


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    #75
    BorneTobyWilde
    Registered Users Posts: 35,731 ✭✭✭✭BorneTobyWilde


    At least 200, 50 was more so the 80's.


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    #76
    PhilOssophy
    Registered Users Posts: 2,114 ✭✭✭PhilOssophy


    10fathoms wrote: »
    It'll be a great day when kids are no longer dragged through all this nonsense..

    They don't have to be you know!!


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    #77
    Defunkd
    Registered Users Posts: 408 ✭✭Defunkd


    10fathoms wrote: »
    It'll be a great day when kids are no longer dragged through all this nonsense..
    As long as people are willing to give €150 to a niece/nephew, the kids will want to do it. I would and so would you.


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    #78
    Sunrise_Sunset
    Registered Users Posts: 1,211 ✭✭✭Sunrise_Sunset


    BorneTobyWilde wrote: »
    At least 200, 50 was more so the 80's.

    Seriously?! :confused:


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    #79
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    The best lesson a parent can teach their children is that religious ceremonies are for religious beliefs not money making ventures. If the family aren’t regular church goers, then they shouldn’t be receiving these sacraments.
    I only give €20 to close churchgoing relatives. Giving anything to a child who doesn’t attend church regularly is giving the wrong message.


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    #80
    voldejoie
    Registered Users Posts: 225 ✭✭voldejoie


    My niece will be making her communion next May (I honestly don't understand where the time went!!) and I've already told my sister I'll contribute to the cost of the meal out with the family and get my niece a small gift in lieu of money. I just think it's madness for children that age to have that much money, even if it's being looked after by their parents!


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    #81
    c6ysaphjvqw41k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 466 ✭✭c6ysaphjvqw41k


    My parent's give all their nieces and nephews €100 for all communions/confirmations. I think they're mad.


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    #82
    Yourmama
    Registered Users Posts: 205 ✭✭Yourmama


    €200 communion, €300 confirmation, €500 wedding. Anything under is a pure sign of poor. Oh yeah, don't come to my birthday without a hundred note in your pocket.


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    #83
    Ginger83
    Registered Users Posts: 3,460 ✭✭✭Ginger83


    Yourmama wrote: »
    €200 communion, €300 confirmation, €500 wedding. Anything under is a pure sign of poor. Oh yeah, don't come to my birthday without a hundred note in your pocket.

    Are you Mr or Mrs Jones :rolleyes:


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    #84
    ceekay74
    Registered Users Posts: 634 ✭✭✭ceekay74


    My daughter is going to her friends Communion Party soon (I didn't know such a thing existed).

    Is €10 in a card appropriate?

    They play out on the road together and get on well but only know each other a few months. We aren't close to the family or anything, just exchange pleasantries and say hi etc.


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    #85
    Sunrise_Sunset
    Registered Users Posts: 1,211 ✭✭✭Sunrise_Sunset


    ceekay74 wrote: »
    My daughter is going to her friends Communion Party soon (I didn't know such a thing existed).

    Is €10 in a card appropriate?

    They play out on the road together and get on well but only know each other a few months. We aren't close to the family or anything, just exchange pleasantries and say hi etc.

    Yes I think so. I heard a neighbour before saying they were putting a tenner into a card. Personally I didn't for my neighbours kids.

    My partner's godchild had their confirmation the other day, we put 50 in the card. We have a communion next week, all of the family are invited, we've budgeted 50 for that, but I might put 70/80.


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    #86
    km991148
    Registered Users Posts: 4,275 ✭✭✭km991148


    enzo roco wrote: »
    €10 is plenty.

    Cant believe someone would give a 7year old €50 in a card. Doesnt matter if they are the uncle, aunt, grandparent whoever. It is too much for a child so young.

    But its not about what is good or bad for the child - its a status symbol "Can't do less than X as Y will put in at least X"

    Same shyte with Irish weddings.


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    #87
    freshpopcorn
    Registered Users Posts: 30,272 ✭✭✭✭freshpopcorn


    ceekay74 wrote: »
    My daughter is going to her friends Communion Party soon (I didn't know such a thing existed).

    Is €10 in a card appropriate?

    They play out on the road together and get on well but only know each other a few months. We aren't close to the family or anything, just exchange pleasantries and say hi etc.

    €10 is fine OP!
    That is what was given I got my Conformation from friends.
    We still had £ when I got my Communion.


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