COMMUNION MONEY

fioc

Any idea what is going rate to give for Communion?..I want to put a few bob in a card for a communion gift but have no clue...:cool:

Pink Fairy

fioc wrote: »

Any idea what is going rate to give for Communion?..I want to put a few bob in a card for a communion gift but have no clue...:cool:

Close friends €20 , family €50, .....your own child nothing as you'll be broke by the days end anyway

Lisha

Pink Fairy wrote: »

Close friends €20 , family €50, .....your own child nothing as you'll be broke by the days end anyway

For a neighbours child/classmate/ I see nothing wrong with €10.

€20 is a lot of money after all.

Pink Fairy

Lisha wrote: »

For a neighbours child/classmate/ I see nothing wrong with €10.

€20 is a lot of money after all.

That's why I said close friends

Moonbeam

10 or 20 for very close friends/relatives.

enzo roco

€10 is plenty.

Cant believe someone would give a 7year old €50 in a card. Doesnt matter if they are the uncle, aunt, grandparent whoever. It is too much for a child so young.

Lisha

Pink Fairy wrote: »

That's why I said close friends

Yes but they op didn't specify if they were very close or not.

aujopimur

Halfcrown, 10 bob if the're family.

My best friend's son is getting communion in may.
I've told them both I won't be giving him any money.
Probably won't even go to the ceremony.

Reason being that I'm not a hypocrite, parents are not religious, child doesn't go to mass. Was just christened because ' that's what you do'
If I do send him anything it will be a prayer book & rosary beads. Because that's what communion is about, right?

Pink Fairy

bubblypop wrote: »

My best friend's son is getting communion in may.
I've told them both I won't be giving him any money.
Probably won't even go to the ceremony.

Reason being that I'm not a hypocrite, parents are not religious, child doesn't go to mass. Was just christened because ' that's what you do'
If I do send him anything it will be a prayer book & rosary beads. Because that's what communion is about, right?

Prayer book and rosary beads are normally gifts from godparents.

Pink Fairy

Pink Fairy wrote: »

Prayer book and rosary beads are normally gifts from godparents.

Should be from everyone.
I made my communion in England & there's no such thing as giving children loads of money for a religious ceremony.

Pink Fairy

bubblypop wrote: »

Should be from everyone.
I made my communion in England & there's no such thing as giving children loads of money for a religious ceremony.

Good for you, no need to give money, buy if it's not for you don't give gifts normally given by godparents, that's all, make a donation to charity in the kids name perhaps

Hollister11

Parents/god parents €100.
Aunt/Uncle €50
anyone else €20

Elemonator

Agreeing with previous posts here. I'd say 20 squids for very close friends. 50 for family. In my case, my auntie/godmother gave me 100 all those years ago and the same with my granny, but that was very exceptional.

Joeseph Balls

For me,
God childers : 50e
Niece/nephew: 10/20e depending on how much I like them

Pink Fairy

Pink Fairy wrote: »

Good for you, no need to give money, buy if it's not for you don't give gifts normally given by godparents, that's all, make a donation to charity in the kids name perhaps

His godparents won't give rosary beads!!!! ( I know them)
It's just money all the way!

Hollister11

Hollister11 wrote: »

Parents/god parents €100.
Aunt/Uncle €50
anyone else €20

OMG!
I can't believe this is actually true!
Tell me godparents wouldn't give 100 euro!

Hollister11

bubblypop wrote: »

OMG!
I can't believe this is actually true!
Tell me godparents wouldn't give 100 euro!

That's what I got when I made mine. It's hardly that much tbf.

Hollister11

Hollister11 wrote: »

That's what I got when I made mine. It's hardly that much tbf.

What???
It's hardly that much for a 7 year old??
That's crazy.
Won't be getting it from me.
( how exactly is it related to the religious ceremony?)

Hollister11

bubblypop wrote: »

What???
It's hardly that much for a 7 year old??
That's crazy.
Won't be getting it from me.
( how exactly is it related to the religious ceremony?)

People don't really make it for the religious aspect anymore. They make it for the day out, new clothes, and of course the money.

I made €500+ at mine in 2004

LeinsterDub

Nothing like a couple of hundred euro to help bribe a other child into the 'faith'

Hollister11

Hollister11 wrote: »

People don't really make it for the religious aspect anymore. They make it for the day out, new clothes, and of course the money.

I made €500+ at mine in 2004

Exactly the problem.
And why I won't take part.
If you want your child to be religious/ take religious sacraments, then its a religious day.

This crap of making communion to make money? Muck. Feck off. You won't be getting my money.

pwurple

Didn't take long for the anti-religion zealots to show up... Good work on the conversions guys. Keep it up.

I agree people are going a bit far with the money. My kids won't be making their first communion at 8 with the dresses etc, though they are baptised. I think it's too materialistic.

For friends children, we usually go for 10 euro. Family, including godchildren, 20 plus something like a cross and chain.

ectoraige

There's nothing so vulgar as communion money. There's so many homeless shelters that could do with that money, instead we teach children to whore their beliefs.

Cabaal

bubblypop wrote: »

, parents are not religious, child doesn't go to mass. Was just christened because ' that's what you do'
If I do send him anything it will be a prayer book & rosary beads. Because that's what communion is about, right?

That will be most parents in Ireland, it's all about doing the "done thing" and next to nothing about Jesus and God.

nikkibikki

bubblypop wrote:

OMG! I can't believe this is actually true! Tell me godparents wouldn't give 100 euro!

No way! €50 max! If I have it to spare.

Hollister11

ectoraige wrote: »

There's nothing so vulgar as communion money. There's so many homeless shelters that could do with that money, instead we teach children to whore their beliefs.

Get off your high horse. How much of your communion money did you donate?

Neyite

Mod:

Can everyone calm down a bit and have a civilised discussion please?

Sunny Dayz

Our son made his communion a few years ago - I can't understand why people do it just for the day out or for the money. I wouldn't describe myself as being particularly religious but I try to go to mass when I can. But I elected to have my son baptised and I agreed then to raise my son in the catholic faith so I'm trying my best. I think we were one of the few families that went to the preparation masses they had during the school year, I know many parents didn't attend any of them.
Most people when giving a communion card put an amount of money in it, some were far more generous than they should have been. But what else do you give? The grannies got between them his prayer book and rosary beads. One person gave a lovely picture frame, another a plaque (little statue, not the dental version!), and one person gave a pen.

crusha101

My youngest brother made 1200 euro in 2011 from neighbours, friends and extremely kind god parents. He insisted on buying take away Chinese for the close family and god parentds , what he doesnt know is that my dad put the money back into his credit union.

ectoraige

Hollister11 wrote: »

Get off your high horse. How much of your communion money did you donate?

I don't have a horse, thanks for your concern. I probably donated two or three pounds, indirectly. I bought myself a glow-in-the-dark crucifix from the Carmelites on Whitefriar St. who operated a soup kitchen for the homeless back then. I think the rest was spent on Action Force figures.

The problem isn't what the seven-year-olds do with the money they are given, the problem is with the grown adults who deem it a good idea to give so much money to seven-year-old children.

When I made my communion, it was not expected that there would be financial reward from it, it was expected that I would grow spiritually through receipt of the sacrament.

I did receive some money from my granny and I think two aunts, but this wasn't expected as part of making my communion and certainly nobody was anxious over what the appropriate amount of cash to give a seven-year-old child. Of all the children I've known making their communion in the last few years, I can only think of two whose parents even go to mass, and they wouldn't even go weekly. I doubt any of them attend confession at all. It is hypocrisy of the highest order.

When my godson was baptised, I made a donation through Cool Earth as a gift, I shall do the same should he be forced through the other sacraments.

Moonbeam

Hollister11 wrote: »

Parents/god parents €100.
Aunt/Uncle €50
anyone else €20

That is crazy.
Why would you give your kids money for their communion? it costs you enough.
I thought godparents traditionally gave a present?

Moonbeam

I made mine along time ago and I got £86.
Neighbors gave about 50p
I do remember the beautiful jewellery I got from my auntie and the present from another.

challengemaster

Hollister11 wrote: »

People don't really make it for the religious aspect anymore. They make it for the day out, new clothes, and of course the money.

I made €500+ at mine in 2004

LeinsterDub wrote: »

Nothing like a couple of hundred euro to help bribe a other child into the 'faith'

Got >£1000 out of it back in the day. And now I'm atheist.



For anyone wondering, I put the majority in a savings account and spent the rest.

Ms2011

For an acquaintance I'd give €20, family or close friend I'd give €50

cruizer101

Jaysus some crazy amounts in here. I'm godfather to my niece who is making communion soon.
Tbh I wish I had declined being godfather at the time as I have no time for the church.
I think 20 and a pressie will be it and even that is just to conform I would rather not take part at all in any celebration for it, but at the end of the day I'll go along with it for the sake of child.

LordSutch

bubblypop wrote: »

Should be from everyone.
I made my communion in England & there's no such thing as giving children loads of money for a religious ceremony.

Same in Ireland too (outside the RC Church). We're C of I and weve never encountered money 'as a gift' for our young (14/15 year old) Communicants. It is after all a relgious ceremony as you say . . .

Tombo2001

bubblypop wrote: »

My best friend's son is getting communion in may.
I've told them both I won't be giving him any money.
Probably won't even go to the ceremony.

Reason being that I'm not a hypocrite, parents are not religious, child doesn't go to mass. Was just christened because ' that's what you do'
If I do send him anything it will be a prayer book & rosary beads. Because that's what communion is about, right?

So where do you (personally) stop with that?

Not give Christmas presents? Not eat Easter eggs? Not take days off from work because after all they are religious holidays and you don't recognise the religion.

Don't think people need to be slammed about being hypocrites. A lot of people enjoy a big day out, and the religious part they don't care about. A communion serves a lot of purposes that has nothing to do with Religion.....Its a big day out for the family. Its a time for parents to take stock of how much their child has grown. Its a chance for the child to take on a responsibility, and to be the centre of attention for a day.

Look, overall I agree with you. But I'm not going to call anyone a hypocrite about it. You just have to say you don't believe in it.

Tombo2001

Tombo2001 wrote: »

So where do you (personally) stop with that?

Not give Christmas presents? Not eat Easter eggs? Not take days off from work because after all they are religious holidays and you don't recognise the religion.

Don't think people need to be slammed about being hypocrites. A lot of people enjoy a big day out, and the religious part they don't care about. A communion serves a lot of purposes that has nothing to do with Religion.....Its a big day out for the family. Its a time for parents to take stock of how much their child has grown. Its a chance for the child to take on a responsibility, and to be the centre of attention for a day.

Look, overall I agree with you. But I'm not going to call anyone a hypocrite about it. You just have to say you don't believe in it.

Er no, it's not that I won't go because I don't practice the religion.
I go to weddings, funerals, and I have been to communions of other friends kids.
The parents in this case are being hypocrites.

Did you seriously say, communion serves a lot of purposes that has nothing to do with religion? It's a big day out for the family?
Seriously?
That's the whole issue, communion IS a religious ceremony, if people want a big day out where their child is centre of attention, then why not do it on the child's birthday?
And that religious ceremony shouldn't be about money either.

eviltwin

I wouldn't go to a communion personally. I do go to weddings and funerals because they are significant events. Communion is a minor day out imo, it's value for the majority is a party and a day out. Nothing wrong with that but I find it tacky.

ectoraige

Tombo2001 wrote: »

Don't think people need to be slammed about being hypocrites. A lot of people enjoy a big day out, and the religious part they don't care about. A communion serves a lot of purposes that has nothing to do with Religion.....Its a big day out for the family. Its a time for parents to take stock of how much their child has grown. Its a chance for the child to take on a responsibility, and to be the centre of attention for a day

The problem with communion is the children spend huge chunks of school time in preparation instead of learning other things, and the eventual lesson is it's easy to get retarded by going along with whatever you're told. There's far less hypocritical ways for parents to celebrate their child's development.

freshpopcorn

When I got my Communion we still had pounds.
Friends out my class gave £5 or £10.
Family friends gave £20.
Uncles and Aunts gave around £40.
We moved on to Euro's for my conformation.
School fiends have €10.
Parents friend/people who hears I got my conformation gave €20.
Aunts/Uncles gave €50.
From speaking to people and from family communions this seems to be the amount given.

Broken Hearted Road

I'm a carer/childminder and working for a family for some years now and would be very close. There's a child doing a communion this year. For such a young person she's been through so much and in and out of hospitals. I'd like to mark the day with something special and I found something lovely but I didn't buy it yet, if I do. It's such a beautiful and unique thing and would be kept for a long time. It comes with a bit of a hefty price tag though at 130 euro. Would this be acceptable for a gift or a no go area?

Moonbeam

It depends on your relationship with the family tbh
If the child has had a rough time and it is a keepsake and you are close then why not get it for their birthday?

Cabaal

ectoraige wrote: »

The problem with communion is the children spend huge chunks of school time in preparation instead of learning other things, and the eventual lesson is it's easy to get retarded by going along with whatever you're told. There's far less hypocritical ways for parents to celebrate their child's development.

10% of primary school time is spent on religion based on previous OECD numbers, that's as much time as students spent on english!

By all means if people want to have a day out then do, but valuable school time shouldn't be wasted on preoperative for that day, it would be far more beneficial to cut religion time in school down to 5/6% make it inclusive to all religions and not just catholic and then spend the remaining time on PE for the health of the child.

ectoraige

Cabaal wrote: »

10% of primary school time is spent on religion based on previous OECD numbers, that's as much time as students spent on english!

By all means if people want to have a day out then do, but valuable school time shouldn't be wasted on preoperative for that day, it would be far more beneficial to cut religion time in school down to 5/6% make it inclusive to all religions and not just catholic and then spend the remaining time on PE for the health of the child.

The minimum time set out in the curriculum is thirty minutes per day, but during communion year far more time than this is spent on preparation for the two sacraments.

deisemum

So much of the communion and confirmation school years are taken up with religion, art classes become religious themes, music is spent on hymns etc plus the regular religion classes daily. As it gets nearer the day hours are spent in the church rehearsing.

I got 50p when I made my communion back in 1970

Cabaal

ectoraige wrote: »

The minimum time set out in the curriculum is thirty minutes per day, but during communion year far more time than this is spent on preparation for the two sacraments.

Which averages at 10% of school time overall at primary level,
As pointed out by deisemum, religion doesn't just start and end with religion class. It leaks into music, art, english etc

Not to mention trips to the church and visits from the priest

At secondary level its far more defined with religion for the most part being limited to just the religion class in most cases.

Got a few hundred IR£ back in the day for my communion, I honestly see 8 years of age as too young to understand the ramifications of what you are doing and it would be better for communion to be done when kids are much older for example at 16 years of age. If religion is important to them at that age then they'll have no problem going to mass etc before hand.

I can honestly say I did my confirmation purely for the money as by that age I don't believe a word of the teachings.

ectoraige

ectoraige wrote: »

The problem with communion is the children spend huge chunks of school time in preparation instead of learning other things, and the eventual lesson is it's easy to get retarded by going along with whatever you're told. There's far less hypocritical ways for parents to celebrate their child's development.

Ahem. That should, of course, have read 'rewarded'. Freudian slip?

Sunrise_Sunset

How much for a godchild?
I'm invited out for a meal with them too, my hubby and kids are not.

Spanish Eyes

Sorry now but it is 50 squids minimum these days. More if you happen to be the godparent, etc, but that is an individual choice I think.

What the heck anyway, we all got money on our significant so called RELIGIOUS rites of passage back in the day. Otherwise why do people say of certain people of a certain age that "they still have their Communion Money" ha ha.

It is custom and go with it for now.