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Dad hiding alcohol in child's water bottle

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    #62
    Zarco
    Closed Accounts Posts: 112 ✭✭Zarco


    Schools don't do private chats now

    Once you speak to a teacher it's escalated to a social work department


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    #63
    tara73
    Registered Users Posts: 2,342 ✭✭✭tara73


    Zarco wrote: »
    Schools don't do private chats now

    Once you speak to a teacher it's escalated to a social work department


    phone???


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    #64
    L2020
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    I'm wondering should I just say he stupidly stored the remainder of his beer in the bottle and gave the wrong bottle by mistake? Technically that's what happened anyway. Say nothing about the bigger problem?


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    #65
    SnowyMay
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    L2020

    I understand your compassion for your ex, and the father of your children, but don’t let that get in the way of caring for your kids.

    Alcoholism is a horrific thing, but the time for you holding your ex’s hand is over.

    Your priority is your children. If that means keeping them away from him, then that’s what you should do. You don’t want one of them learning this behaviour (and it seems that they have seen some of this already), and ending up in a position where they are hiding alcohol in a child’s cup so that their partner doesn’t know that they are drinking.

    When you read that, do you see how sad it is?

    I have sympathy for your ex, but your duty is to your children. Please help them and, unfortunately, your ex is going to have to help himself.


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    #66
    JustAThought
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    Like many kids your children know what beer is
    They know adults only can drink it
    They kniw it shoiod not be in their childrens cup
    They are not ashamed or afraid to bring a ‘mistake’ to their teachers attention

    Most importantly they are not afraid of losing contact with their father by pointing out something that is wrong or ‘a mistake’ and are not involved in hiding things from one parent or taking sides. This is all very positive.


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    #67
    tara73
    Registered Users Posts: 2,342 ✭✭✭tara73


    L2020 wrote: »
    I'm wondering should I just say he stupidly stored the remainder of his beer in the bottle and gave the wrong bottle by mistake? Technically that's what happened anyway. Say nothing about the bigger problem?

    I don't think so. I think you defo should tell them the truth. But also what you told us here, what will be done about it, that this was a wake up call to him and he will seek help. If he will really do, you will see. It's something to doubt as yourself said, you heard it all before. But for now, I think the best thing with the school is not to make a big fuss about it. As said it will serve nobody. And you never know, he might really seek help this time. If not, you need to reconsider your actions.

    Teachers are not shocked about it I would say, alcoholism is so common, also with parents, they probably had worse incidents before. Not playing it down or saying teachers don't react on it, but I think they will be glad to hear the truth and most importantly, there's a caring mother and the problem will be adressed.


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    #68
    woodenwonder
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    I bet his girlfriend knows exactly what's going on.

    I can't believe the school hasn't contacted Tusla! Beer for you're own kids lunch is rock bottom you'd hope. I would document it some way, maybe send him an email so you have proof down the line if you need to go to court to protect your kids.

    Hopefully he'll get there soon.


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    #69
    ILoveYourVibes
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    It could be worse than you think ...he was trying to get your child drunk etc. Or he could have been.

    Who knows.

    Anyway ....you could let your son go around there anymore not now ..not until its sorted and out in the open.


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    #70
    ManOfMystery
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    ILoveYourVibes wrote: »
    It could be worse than you think ...he was trying to get your child drunk etc. Or he could have been.

    Who knows.

    Anyway ....you could let your son go around there anymore not now ..not until its sorted and out in the open.

    I'm not trying to defend the guy as he clearly has an alcohol problem and made a huge error of judgement - be it a case of mistaken bottle or just trying to hide his booze - and he should rightfully be hauled up on it.

    But deliberately trying to get a child drunk? That's a stretch.


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    #71
    ILoveYourVibes
    Registered Users Posts: 15,176 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    ManOfMystery wrote: »
    I'm not trying to defend the guy as he clearly has an alcohol problem and made a huge error of judgement - be it a case of mistaken bottle or just trying to hide his booze - and he should rightfully be hauled up on it.

    But deliberately trying to get a child drunk? That's a stretch.
    Really?

    Why hide your booze in a container the mother is at some point sure to check?

    Risky ..even if you wash it she might smell it.

    When you could just hide a bottle in the shed or ..around the house.

    Sounds odd to me.

    And its not as unusual as you think for parents to put diluted booze in a kids bottle ...sadly.


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