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johnny25clare · 31-01-2010 2:08am

john here im 25 and from clare i was fostered from birth and was adopted by my foster parents it took seven years to go through the courts as my adoptive parents were the first in ireland to try to adopt a child that they were fostering so yes im a little bit of history and paved a way for alot of happy families i started the search when i was twelve i was young i know but the curiousity started when i was seven finally foung my birth mother when eighteen but that went sour i got used cut a long story short if anyone wants any advice or is conducting a search and needs some advice from some one that has been there dont hesitate in contacting me i have been reading these forums for ages finally im ready to share my experiances ps dont start your search until you have a stable mindit really is tough and it really could go anyway i was told to not have high hopes but i did not listen i really wish i had listened

Exclamation Marc · 23-02-2010 5:20am

Hi I'm Marc. 24 and was adopted from birth. Never really been sure or 100% on whether to contact or attempt to contact my birth parents. Parents always been super supportive and open with me since birth of whatever I wanted to do. I guess my issue is whether I should contact her and let her know that life is great for me and that I appreciate what she did for me,against her possibly not wanting to hear from me (for whatever reason, which I don't think I'd be offended or hurt by) and also knowing my medical history can't be a bad thing.

So, im summation

I've never really come close to deciding on whether I'll do anything or not, I guess I should sit down and think about it sometime

MaryMagdalene · 23-02-2010 10:38am

Hi FireballPitcher, welcome. I am a natural mother and I am speaking purely from my own perspective. I don't believe that any Mother can ever forget, even those who want to. No matter what, our children are always within us; even for those that don't wish for contact for whatever reason.

I think that it would be nice to make the gesture provided you are comfortable with whatever this may or may not start. Some people are satisfied with just knowing everything turned out okay and some are not. I would not have been and thankfully my daughter is the same. In fact we are heading for our first meeting next month and I can't wait.

Perhaps a good place for you to start would be to join the National Contact Register to see if she has joined too. This will give you time to think too as its important that you are comfortable with your decisions.

rose1 · 23-02-2010 12:05pm

Hi marc,

i know how you feel i was all over the place wondering if i should or should'nt, like you mt parents were always honest and supportive of me, but i think that in the back of my my mind i was still worried that i might upset them if i pursued after all to them i was their daughter. Any way my son became ill and was admitted to hospital had to get loads of tests done just because i had no medical backround, this was what made me make the decision to search for my bm.

We meet in December and its been going great and there are medical conditions that i should have known about sooner.

at the end of the day it is entirely up to yourself, but I would advise it. It has to be better that constantly wondering.

I have contact details of a support group based in Cork, they are amazing. they found my bm within a month and contacted her on my behalf. If you want details let me know.

Best of luck:)

Le King · 16-03-2010 12:56am

Hi, my name is Gonzalo. My grandmother who is Spanish found out she was adopted 18 years ago(Yes at 55 at her adopted mother's deathbed!). She traced her routes to Ireland, met her original family and fell in love with the country. 16 years ago we all moved here from the States and haven't moved back since. Love this little country. Starting to get a proper Irish accent now too.

Pretty cool I think.

I consider myself Irish-Spanish now rather than Irish-American or American-Spanish. My dual nationality and Irish passport will prove this.

Just thought I'd share that.

MaryMagdalene · 17-03-2010 11:05am

Hi Gonzalo, welcome to this forum. Nice to hear a happy story. Irish-Spanish!! Now that is a fiery combination.....:D

Irishangel113 · 30-03-2010 6:22am

Hello, all-

I've known from the start of "me" that I was adopted, but it's just been in the past few years that I've really been looking for my birth parents. My adoptive mother finally, although somewhat reluctantly, gave her approval for me to search. At the time of my adoption, she refused pretty much all information regarding my birth parents thinking that I wouldn't be interested in knowing about them when I grew up. Sooo... the State of Colorado-USA-seals all their adoption records, until recently. In the past week I've received a copy of my original birth certificate and found my birth mother's maiden name and the part of Ireland that she's from! That information alone was exciting. I'm now waiting on my file to which I'm hopefully granted access- my request has to go before a Judge yet. I would love to actually find my birth mother's birth certificate and see what I can find on that end.
Sorry for rambling.... Glad to meet you all!

kathy finn · 30-03-2010 8:06am

hi irish angel,
if you know ur mothers name and about what age she was when she had u im sure someone over here will look up ur mothers birthcert for u.
give me a shout if ur stuck....kathy

Irishangel113 · 30-03-2010 3:54pm

Hi, Kathy-

I greatly appreciate any and all offers of help! I do know that she was 24 years old when she had me- her full name was Bridget Mary O'Connor- I was born in April of 1957 in Colorado. That would put her birth sometime in 1933. She was from County Cork. Outside of that, and not being familiar with "where" in County Cork that she was from, or even knowing how to find that out, I do seem to be stuck. I would love it if you could poke around in your spare time and see what you come up with!

Thank you so much!

Bridget

kathy finn · 30-03-2010 6:48pm

hi bridget,
i should be in the records room in dublin in the next couple of weeks and i will look up a birth record for ur mother. the name is quite popular so u could end up with more than one....kathy

Irishangel113 · 30-03-2010 8:20pm

Hi, Kathy-

I seriously wish I had more information to work with- I have absolutely no idea where in County Cork she was from- all my birth cert says is
County Cork Ireland. I realize this is going to be like looking for a needle in a haystack, and I'm looking in every nook and cranny I can find, but with such limited information, I'm afraid it's going to be a rather fruitless search. I do so appreciate all of your help! I feel as though I've just made a new friend!

Thanks so much,

Bridget

Heatherward · 31-03-2010 3:44am

Hi very nervous but feel I would love to talk and share thoughts and feelings with like minded people. Have just started my search for birth mother ... i am 42 with my own family who I adore but have always felt the need to find where I came from and who I came from. Have received non disclosing information from agency which although scant amazing I now know what hospital I was born in and what weight I was. Also received some information about my natural father is this unusual?? The agency said they would continue my search and I should hear back in about 4 weeks ... will I , wont I its emotions are like a roller coster anybody else out there is the same place or gone through the same thing? Love to hear from you. Thanks

Irishangel113 · 31-03-2010 4:41am

Hi, Heather!

Nice to meet you... I, too, am looking for my birth parents- here for my mother as she was born in Ireland. I've been looking off and on for several years with the "blessing" of my adoptive mother... she's always been a bit hesitant about it-at the time of my adoption 52 years ago, she chose not to take the birth parent information that was available, thinking that I wouldn't be interested in knowing "that stuff". Well, believe me, I'm interested! Like you, I want to know how much I weighed at birth, I want to know "do I look like mom or do I look like dad"... I realize that after so many years the chances of my finding either of them alive is slim to possibly none, but I've GOT to look. It's almost like I'm not complete- there's a bunch of pieces missing to the "Bridget puzzle". I was finally just recently able to get a copy of my original birth certificate- that was a little paper treasure chest!
I'd love to visit with you- I'm on the same roller-coaster!

Bridget

kathy finn · 31-03-2010 9:10am

hi bridget, i will have a look for u, my own birthmother came from cork and with a name like elizabeth murphy i had a hard time traceing her. but if we can find a birthcert for her u might have more luck in tracing her over in america....kathy

The_Conductor · 31-03-2010 9:53am

kathy finn wrote: »

hi bridget, i will have a look for u, my own birthmother came from cork and with a name like elizabeth murphy i had a hard time traceing her. but if we can find a birthcert for her u might have more luck in tracing her over in america....kathy

Anything is possible- I managed to find my mother- Mary Reilly, from Cavan........ It may take further investigation other than a birthcert hunt- I'd encourage Bridget to try and as much info from her adoption file as possible- even innocuous comments in it, might be the key to unlocking her search.

ma1read · 31-03-2010 8:38pm

Hi everyone,
My mum told me a year ago that I have an older brother that was given up for adoption. It came as a huge shock to me. I had no idea. I think she told me partly because she wants to find him and she's not quite sure how to do it. Shortly after this revelation, we had some difficult family problems to deal with and it wasn't the right time to initiate the trace. Not one day has passed since where i haven't thought about my brother.

I'm heading to Dublin tomorrow with my copy of the trace guide to begin my search. My parents weren't married at the time and were quite young. My dad's mum was extremely religious and very traditional views, which i suppose was the norm for the 1970s. The whole pregnancy was kept a major secret. Apart from my parents only a friend of my mum knew. They called him Brendan which was probably changed. He will be 36 this month and i can't help but wonder whether he is married and has his own children. My mum worries that he will find it difficult to deal with the fact that she married our dad and that he has four full siblings.
I hope he has had a good upbringing and that the decision my parents made at that time has worked out for him.

Do you think there is a chance that he doesn't know he is adopted? I have a psychic friend who gave me some information and told me that he doesn't know that he is adopted. My mum was told the same thing by a different medium. She told me that he will find out and that we will be united in the future. ( I know many of you will be sceptical - i useta be until i met this girl)

Anyway that's the gist of my tale.
No doubt i'll be in touch again for advice after i get some info.

Mairead

The_Conductor · 31-03-2010 9:05pm

ma1read wrote: »

Hi everyone,
My mum told me a year ago that I have an older brother that was given up for adoption. It came as a huge shock to me. I had no idea. I think she told me partly because she wants to find him and she's not quite sure how to do it. Shortly after this revelation, we had some difficult family problems to deal with and it wasn't the right time to initiate the trace. Not one day has passed since where i haven't thought about my brother.

I'm heading to Dublin tomorrow with my copy of the trace guide to begin my search. My parents weren't married at the time and were quite young. My dad's mum was extremely religious and very traditional views, which i suppose was the norm for the 1970s. The whole pregnancy was kept a major secret. Apart from my parents only a friend of my mum knew. They called him Brendan which was probably changed. He will be 36 this month and i can't help but wonder whether he is married and has his own children. My mum worries that he will find it difficult to deal with the fact that she married our dad and that he has four full siblings.
I hope he has had a good upbringing and that the decision my parents made at that time has worked out for him.

Do you think there is a chance that he doesn't know he is adopted? I have a psychic friend who gave me some information and told me that he doesn't know that he is adopted. My mum was told the same thing by a different medium. She told me that he will find out and that we will be united in the future. ( I know many of you will be sceptical - i useta be until i met this girl)

Anyway that's the gist of my tale.
No doubt i'll be in touch again for advice after i get some info.

Mairead

Hi Mairead,

Best of good luck tomorrow.
While its highly improbable that your brother does not know that hes adopted- with respect of psychics/mediums etc- I do not believe in them personally, and cannot see any reason that they would have any idea about whether or not he'd know.

The very best of good luck to you- and feel free to ask any questions you may have.

Shane

ma1read · 01-04-2010 8:46pm

Thanks Shane

Managed to identify 6 potential matches. Sent a letter to st patrick's guild for non identifying info and have filled in the form for copies of the entries in the adoption register. Hopefully all the pieces will fit together.

Has anyone had any experience of st. patricks guild? Are they generous with info. Does anyone have a rough idea how long their waiting list is for tracing? I'm in two minds whether to pursue this myself, or to use the adoption agency. I'll prob take each step as it comes.

Heatherward · 01-04-2010 9:38pm

Irishangel113 wrote: »

Hi, Heather!

Nice to meet you... I, too, am looking for my birth parents- here for my mother as she was born in Ireland. I've been looking off and on for several years with the "blessing" of my adoptive mother... she's always been a bit hesitant about it-at the time of my adoption 52 years ago, she chose not to take the birth parent information that was available, thinking that I wouldn't be interested in knowing "that stuff". Well, believe me, I'm interested! Like you, I want to know how much I weighed at birth, I want to know "do I look like mom or do I look like dad"... I realize that after so many years the chances of my finding either of them alive is slim to possibly none, but I've GOT to look. It's almost like I'm not complete- there's a bunch of pieces missing to the "Bridget puzzle". I was finally just recently able to get a copy of my original birth certificate- that was a little paper treasure chest!
I'd love to visit with you- I'm on the same roller-coaster!

Bridget

Hi Bridget,

Thanks for your reply well done for getting your original birth cert thats my next plan with the information I have got from agency ... I know they have said that they will look for this for me but I want it now !!! Although you may not find your birth parents you may have siblings, etc how exciting is that.

Good luck with your search I'll keep you up to date with mine.

Heather:)

shortstuff · 08-04-2010 9:16am

Hi, I'm Tanya, I'm 29 and was put up for adoption when i was a month old( i must have been a little terror

). I had contact with my birth mum about ten years ago but i but nothing since, have found out she's been looking for me again recently,so i'm debating internally. She currently live in Canada so it's not as if i can just pop round and surprise her seeing as she is looking for contact again. But sure how and ever. Nice to meet ya'll.:)

shortstuff · 08-04-2010 9:33am

Hi Mairead,

I was adopted through SPG, they are very friendly and they will give you as much information as they have. I'm not sure how long their waiting lists are at the moment but they do the trace as quick as they possibly can for and they are excellent as replying to any queries you have regarding your tracing process, i've always found them to be so anyway. Good Luck with your search.

Tan.

Heatherward · 09-04-2010 12:54am

Kolodny wrote: »

Hi

I'm not adopted myself but out there somewhere I have an older half-sister (my mum's first child) who was adopted who I've never met. My mum has not had any contact with her since the adoption and doesn't talk about it much as I think it's a very painful memory for her (I only found out when I was 15). I always been quite curious to know what my half-sister is like and have often wondered if she will ever try to find my mum. It would be nice to meet her one day.

Hi i am not long on this thread and look everyday to seek info and follow other peoples stories. I can understand your mothers pain and her difficulty to discuss this have you managed to further your search, or find any more info...hope you reach a happy ending

Honestbutevil · 09-04-2010 11:58am

Hi
I'm 24 and I was adopted in Dublin in 1986. I've only just started the tracing ball rolling. I've got a meeting in August with PACT so I'm interested to know what to expect from the meeting and how PACT handle tracing in general.
I've been thinking of trying to trace bio mum for a while but only very recently actually did something about it.

Heatherward · 09-04-2010 9:51pm

Hi honestbutevil ... great name!

My search is actually through Pact and I have had my initial meeting just a couple of weeks ago. Wow I received a report of non-identifying info which told me my mothers christian name my fathers christian name their ages, info on my mothers family i.e. how many siblings she had, what her father did for a living. The hospital I was born in what I weighed (which after 42 years was incredible). Info about how I went back to the home with my mother and stayed there with her for nearly two months (was there a bond?) the date she signed the final papers and that she seemed upset.

I found this meeting to be incredible the lady that I had it with was like talking to my mum very easy going. She has now gone away to do a search for my mothers birth cert they are not allowed to give you your original birth cert but from looking on other sites and this one that seems to be obtainable.

I wish you the best of luck and understand the excitment and the fear of this search.

Heather xx

Heatherward · 23-04-2010 11:48pm

Hi all,

Heard from PACT much quicker than I expected (message on answerphone cant believe i missed that call) message said that my mother is living in england they have a contact through social welfare (not sure is this is in ireland or england) and need my permission to forward a letter..not sure if this is to my mother or somebody here who has contact the saga continues ... heres hoping

shortstuff · 24-04-2010 2:49pm

Hey Heather,

I'm delighted for you, both that you heard back so soon and that they have an address and contact for you bm.
How are you feeling about it now that the ball is actually rolling and they have some info and contact details(even if the details are third party)?

Heatherward · 24-04-2010 9:30pm

Hi, not sure how im feeling excited, scared probably most of all fear of rejection. I have so many questions running through my head .. have I siblings, nieces, nephews etc. what if she doesnt like me or i dont like her!! and on and on. Cant wait till monday to ring pact and find out more .. will let you know
Heather

jmbkay · 28-04-2010 11:39pm

I had a baby at sixteen and I wanted to have him adopted but my parents persuaded me to let them adopt him because they thought I would have regretted it. But, for many reasons, I regret them adopting him. Their intentions were good, but if I had that time again, I wouldnt do it. Sometimes you are doing children favours by letting them go. He is totally loved by my family and always fitted in and I love him but always felt I shouldnt have had him. It would take hours to explain it.

Gummie · 03-05-2010 1:48am

Kolodny wrote: »

Hi

I'm not adopted myself but out there somewhere I have an older half-sister (my mum's first child) who was adopted who I've never met. My mum has not had any contact with her since the adoption and doesn't talk about it much as I think it's a very painful memory for her (I only found out when I was 15). I always been quite curious to know what my half-sister is like and have often wondered if she will ever try to find my mum. It would be nice to meet her one day.

Hi, I'm 35 and was adopted at about 6 weeks. I've always known I was adopted and had a very positive adoption story. I was never interested in tracing my birth roots as I would hate to intrude in other peoples lives. I had my first child nearly 8 yrs ago and it was only then I started having these feelings of 'I wonder'. I think they started actually in the labour ward. I was so confident in how I would cope that it was a big shock to feel the anguish of contractions. I started thinking of my birth mother and how it must have been for her. I had a loving husband by my side and a lovely baby boy to take home. She probably had nobody with her. Anyway, a year or two later I happened to be a referee for my friend who was adopting. I spoke to the social worker for the case and she really encouraged me to start a trace. I said I'd think about it and decided to register on the adoption board and see what happened. That was I think 5 yrs ago. Jump to 3 weeks ago and I got a phone call from a lovely woman from the adoption board in Dublin telling me that not only is my birth mother looking for me but that I also have a sister looking for contact. Needless to say it seemed like a bolt from the sky but I am delighted. I feel that it's a natural path to take. I'm just wondering how you all coped with the mixed feelings? I was actually doing fine till this weekend but feel a bit of a wreck at the moment. Sorry for rambling

kathy finn · 03-05-2010 9:18am

hi gummie, congrats on finding ur birthmum and sister u must be sooo excited. i know how nervous ur feeling i met with some of my birthfamily back in 2007 and remember how nervous i was. just be yourself and after a while it all settles into a pattern of phonecalls and meetings. it,s just like making new friends, some u have more contact than others. go with the flow and enjoy.....kathy

Gummie · 03-05-2010 9:54am

Hi Kathy,thanks for the encouraging words. I understand that these 'upset' feelings are normal and that I just have to go through them. Both parties registered about 5 years ago and have only now been contacted. I rang the contact register last week as they said they were sending the paperwork to Cork but hadn't. They said sorry and would do it this week. My file was actually on the guy's desk as we spoke. It's just so weird. How long would you say the next step will be?

kathy finn · 03-05-2010 11:04am

hi gummie, which adoption agency is the file being sent to or is the hse looking after it. i can,t believe it took 5 years. kathy

Gummie · 03-05-2010 11:58am

Hi Kathy, it's the HSE South. I think I registered about 4 years ago and they said the other party registered about 6 yrs ago. K

kathy finn · 03-05-2010 3:56pm

hi gummie, i know the waiting time for the cork hse is 2 years, i would refuse to wait that long u have waited enough allready.
contact the adoption board tomorrow and ask them why they took so long in contacting both parties involved also tell them u want the hse in cork to see u straight away. i found when i was doing my search a little push with these people goes a long way.....kathy

Heatherward · 04-05-2010 8:21pm

Hi thought you might be interested to here how I have been getting on with PACT. Got a phone call from PACT this morning omg they have found my birth mother she received the letter from social welfare on saturday and was on the phone to pact at 9.00 this morning. She wants any sort of contact that I want letter, talk, meet whatever. I have siblings a sister and brother .. who have always known about me .. neices, nephews aunts uncles cousins who all know about me. It has been suggested that we both send a note with an up to date photo before we talk. Oh god so excited cant believe it. Also pact are very supportive in all of this. It will be well worth the wait.

Heather

The_Conductor · 04-05-2010 8:24pm

I'm thrilled for you Heather- its heart warming to hear of things like this. The very best of good wishes to you. Shane

Gummie · 04-05-2010 11:10pm

Delighted for you Heather. Keep us posted. Who are pact?

Heatherward · 04-05-2010 11:29pm

PACT are an agency who hold records for a number of homes that are closed. I have found them fantastic .. obviously because of the outcome!! Thanks for good wishes will keep you up to date as i go along xx

MaryMagdalene · 05-05-2010 9:54am

Brilliant news Heather - good luck and let us know how you get on......... I am newly reunited with my daughter and it is a rollercoaster ride.

GeturGun · 05-05-2010 9:22pm

That is fantastic news Heather. I love the fact that she was on the phone first thing on Tuesday, she was probably willing the weekend to go faster so she could phone.

I got my non-identifying info last September and after the initial whirlwind of emotion, things kind of settled down again and I have not done any more about it. I think your post may have just given me the push I need to start thinking about the next step, so thanks

Definitely keep us posted.

MaryMagdalene · 06-05-2010 10:19am

Hi Poet,

Are you interested in tracing? If so your Mother was extremely forthcoming giving her name etc so it should be easy using the tracing guides on this site. I have not personally used these so there are others far better placed to help/advised here.

If you are looking at the guides and need help/guidance or just a big hug start a separate thread and we will all be there to help and support you in what ever way we can.

jandm · 11-05-2010 7:16pm

To make a long short I am an adopted adult - found my natural mother in the early noughties and with information from her I found my natural father. Sadly he had passed away by that time but his family have welcomed me.
I don't have as much contact with my mother and half siblings as I'd like - I find I have to do all the running - but I consider myself lucky.
The Christmas card list is on the long side now though having so many aunts, uncles and cousins, both natural and adoptive

ab fab · 12-05-2010 11:29pm

hi all, we all seem to have the same stories here, i am currently trying to trace my birth mother, i appear to have become obsessed with the whole adoption thing of late after 30 years of it never crossing my mind, process very slow though

ab fab · 12-05-2010 11:33pm

thats brill heather delighted for you,a dream story. i truely hope it all works out. just as a matter of interest did you ask your mother why she had not signed up to the contact persons register????

Heatherward · 14-05-2010 12:46am

hi guys .... the dream continues, i received a letter this morning via social worker from PACT from my birth mother which i am sure she found very difficult to write. She enlosed two photos one as she is now and one i guess when she was about 20 omg i can see so much of myself not fooling myself - partner and kids think the same (so not wishful thinking!!) unreal. She told me a little bit about herself propably nervous writing but has the most wonderful warm face. The rollercoaster continues was so delighted to receive what i did obviously a bit emotional when i saw the photo but the rest of the day was ok...tonight omg thats my mother. Lads every step is as big as the one you have just taken and as scary as the one you might be about to take. Good luck to you all and dont give up. I'll keep you posted xx

NGibbler · 19-05-2010 10:31am

Heatherward wrote: »

hi guys .... the dream continues, i received a letter this morning via social worker from PACT from my birth mother which i am sure she found very difficult to write. She enlosed two photos one as she is now and one i guess when she was about 20 omg i can see so much of myself not fooling myself - partner and kids think the same (so not wishful thinking!!) unreal. She told me a little bit about herself propably nervous writing but has the most wonderful warm face. The rollercoaster continues was so delighted to receive what i did obviously a bit emotional when i saw the photo but the rest of the day was ok...tonight omg thats my mother. Lads every step is as big as the one you have just taken and as scary as the one you might be about to take. Good luck to you all and dont give up. I'll keep you posted xx

Hey Heatherward

That is brilliant you have recieved a letter and photos, I would be a bucket of mixed emotions . If you dont mind me asking do you know what agency delt with your adoption at the start, I am in the middle of tracing and my agency are useless so i am thinking of going to PACT ?

Any advice would be hugely appreciated

N

Heatherward · 19-05-2010 7:55pm

Hi, i was originally adopted from the bethany home in rathgar when i googled this i came across pact who hold the records for this home and others i think. Hope this helps and good luck
heather

LadyH101 · 20-05-2010 8:50pm

Hi guys! I found out unexpectedly when I was 12 years old that my mum had given her baby up for adoption when she was 17! It was not her choice as it was my grandparents to save social humiliation. My mum does not like to talk about it and i haven't spoken to any other family members.
She had the baby in Dublin in a convent and they took the baby away when she so desperately wanted to keep him. It was a boy and she said she named him however his name may have changed you may pm me if you want to know the name my mother gave. I'm not sure what the birthday is I think its around the 22nd of either October November or December 1983.
None of my family know im looking for him, maybe i shouldnt i dont know , i just cnt stop thinking about it! Any advice???

The_Conductor · 21-05-2010 1:27pm

LadyH101 wrote: »

Hi guys! I found out unexpectedly when I was 12 years old that my mum had given her baby up for adoption when she was 17! It was not her choice as it was my grandparents to save social humiliation. My mum does not like to talk about it and i haven't spoken to any other family members.
She had the baby in Dublin in a convent and they took the baby away when she so desperately wanted to keep him. It was a boy and she said she named him however his name may have changed you may pm me if you want to know the name my mother gave. I'm not sure what the birthday is I think its around the 22nd of either October November or December 1983.
None of my family know im looking for him, maybe i shouldnt i dont know , i just cnt stop thinking about it! Any advice???

Hi LadyH101-

If you read the trace documents (link here) it should provide assistance to you.

Feel free to pop back and ask any questions you may have.

Best wishes,

Shane

sparkles2009 · 01-06-2010 1:27am

Hi allMy daughter was given up for adoption 21 years ago, a decision that was taken out of my hands & I have never gotten over it. Now that she is 21 I was told by a friend that if I contact the agency they must tell her of my interest to meet & after that it is her decision. The agency are not getting back to let me know about this & I appreciate they are also considering the adoptive parents view so I would really appreciate any advice on this.Thank you

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