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Have you ever been in love in the romantic sense?

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    #152
    dartboardio
    Registered Users Posts: 2,436 ✭✭✭dartboardio


    Yeah definitely

    When I met my boyfriend. We are together almost 5 years.

    Id never been in love beforehand but I truly feel its the real thing!

    The first few months it honestly felt like I was under the influence of something! As cringe as that sounds.


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    #153
    Wibbs
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    A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »
    I think this topic came up here, or on another thread, but I've never found love to be a particularly relaxing time. In many ways, you have now assumed all of your girlfriends worries and concerns, and are now worrying for two. But she has yours also, of course.
    Good point M and I'd agree. Though too often I've found myself being the one doing more of the worrying. Maybe it's down to who I've gone for in the past, but god there was always some small usually inconsequential fire or other that needed to be put out and yes it's anything but relaxing alright. It can be a bloody head melt.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



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    #154
    Earthhorse
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    A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »
    Yes, I notice this also in relationships where people keep a veritable ledger of compromises... "We did X for you, so the least you could do is do Y for me, now". I don't think that's love, that's a business transaction.

    Not saying that we should be walkovers either, and constantly acquiesce to things for the sake of love. But there is a middle ground where you can both approach, and solve problems as a couple. When it goes right, it's just wonderful.

    Relationships should be reciprocal rather than transactional.
    Leg End Reject wrote: »
    Anyone want to tell me what a plate is?

    It's sort of like a flat bowl. Very difficult to eat cereal out of though. No idea who invented them.


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    #155
    Hiitsme
    Registered Users Posts: 68 ✭✭Hiitsme


    Metroid diorteM wrote: »
    Yep. Its like... I dunno. It's hard to describe but definitely unmistakable.

    At peaks it was like having some kind of emotional orgasm and from day to day it was this kind of happy hazy silliness.

    This is a simple yet great description. I have been in love many times, including unrequited love which is ultimately heartbreaking but still great when you are in the throws of it. I love being in love. It's like a wonderful drug.

    Don't give up on finding love. You can find love at any age.


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    #156
    suicide_circus
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    Gruffalox wrote: »
    He was wearing cut up denim shorts, sandals, a short sleeved shirt open down the front- it was a warm place abroad. He worn a red bandana knotted around his neck and his hair was curly and shoulder length.

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    #157
    JoChervil
    Registered Users Posts: 2,003 ✭✭✭JoChervil


    A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »
    Yes, I notice this also in relationships where people keep a veritable ledger of compromises... "We did X for you, so the least you could do is do Y for me, now". I don't think that's love, that's a business transaction.

    Not saying that we should be walkovers either, and constantly acquiesce to things for the sake of love. But there is a middle ground where you can both approach, and solve problems as a couple. When it goes right, it's just wonderful.

    I think this topic came up here, or on another thread, but I've never found love to be a particularly relaxing time. In many ways, you have now assumed all of your girlfriends worries and concerns, and are now worrying for two. But she has yours also, of course. That inter-reliance is great training for how to behave in the world, it gets people out of that tendency towards self-involvement. But as you say, only when it is working properly.


    Worries belong to the future. I find that love keeps me in the present time. When I am in the arms of a person I love, the world stands still. Everything is perfect. I don’t need to worry about anything, I don’t need to rush to do anything. Just being here and now with that person is where I should and want to be and what I should and want to do. Such a perfect peace of mind an body. A bliss.

    And I can evoke that blissful feeling whenever I like, even when we are worlds apart and for a long period of time. It gives me a huge comfort and energy.


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