I don't know where we're going, but it can only be 5K away (Part whatever)

The staff from my Father's Day Centre have continued to offer outreach services during COVID, which is brilliant.I get a call once a week to give an update, they do shopping for people who need it and meals delivered. They have been classed as an essential service so can visit for limited periods in full PPE and social distancing. I arranged for them to visit Dad. This morning I had to go through the COVID checklist questionnaire over the phone before they could visit, fsir enough, even though I speak to the woman weekly and she knows neither if us interact with anybody or have been anywhere I still was asked if Dad or I had returned from overseas in the last 14 days, FFS. But, I thought, at least they are doing everything right and it's a small annoyance.they arrived, aproned and masked and insisted Dad and I were masked, absolutely on board with this. They also didn't want me in the room during the visit for social distancing purposes, again, I'm totally on board with this, but I sort of hovered between the kitchen and the sitting room door, because he's hard of hearing and sometimes I have to prompt visitors to raise their voices as I can tell when he's only pretending to have heard them. Well, guess what I saw from the living room door? One of them, sitting directly in front of him pulled her mask down! Are you fukking kidding me? 20 questions that you were so officious in asking and insist we are masked and you do this? I pulled her up on it straight away. I honestly despair at people, sometimes.

4Ad wrote: »

Thats fecking awful..You seem very calm, I'd be raging...
Putting your fathers health at serious risk...

I was raging, but the visit did him good and he needed it so didn't go off on one. I expected better, though. These are nurses! I won't be leaving the sitting room door next week. I should be able to toddle off elsewhere and feel he's safe in their care but I clearly can't even trust health professionals. I sometimes feel like I'm fighting a war to keep him safe. A war against stupid.

Sardonicat wrote: »

I was raging, but the visit did him good and he needed it so didn't go off on one. I expected better, though. These are nurses! I won't be leaving the sitting room door next week. I should be able to toddle off elsewhere and feel he's safe in their care but I clearly can't even trust health professionals. I sometimes feel like I'm fighting a war to keep him safe. A war against stupid.

That reminds me of a totally separate incident but similar.

When I was pregnant and getting bloods done, some of the midwives didn't wear gloves, this always bothered me (but lots of things bother me, so it's hard to judge when I'm being a basket case)

However this time a woman infront of me said to the midwife to put on gloves, so I got brave and asked for gloves too.

Well I had to return for further bloods an hour later (my pregnancy was fun) I got a different midwife and when she picked up my file there was a post it with "gloves" scrawled across it....she asks me what's that about. I'm absolutely mortified and explain I requested gloves be worn on the blood draw, she's flabbergasted that I even had to request it.

I don't know, I think maybe as it's everyday to them , they become desensitized to what we see as risks.

But yeah it's shocking that they even touched their mask nevermind lower it.

Princess Calla wrote: »

That reminds me of a totally separate incident but similar.

When I was pregnant and getting bloods done, some of the midwives didn't wear gloves, this always bothered me (but lots of things bother me, so it's hard to judge when I'm being a basket case)

However this time a woman infront of me said to the midwife to put on gloves, so I got brave and asked for gloves too.

Well I had to return for further bloods an hour later (my pregnancy was fun) I got a different midwife and when she picked up my file there was a post it with "gloves" scrawled across it....she asks me what's that about. I'm absolutely mortified and explain I requested gloves be worn on the blood draw, she's flabbergasted that I even had to request it.

I don't know, I think maybe as it's everyday to them , they become desensitized to what we see as risks.

But yeah it's shocking that they even touched their mask nevermind lower it.

I'd already discussed with them that they'd need to shout and to not be embarrassed as he usually lip reads. I think she just found it exasperating to have to shout and keep repeating herself. Try living with it love! 'Its so he can lip read' says she. 'That's nice, so he can know what you were saying to him when you infected him with a deadly virus? Put it back on, please' was my response. She threw me some look. They switched to visors but I won't allow that next time either. Visors are shown to actually increase the viral load transmitted from an infected person to someone sitting below them. I was happy enough with them when they were just sitting facing him but when they were leaving the stood over him to say goodbye. Its masks or nothing next week and I'll have no qualms at all about showing them the door if they wont adhere to safety protocols round my Dad. They do know better.

Morning all,
Kitchenside with toast and a big glass of OJ.
Grem, enjoy your days off and have a good day one and all:)

I'm tableside contemplating going out to shop for Christmas goodies and alcohol.

Mmmmm, alcohol. :pac:

[Deleted User] wrote: »

If you are in walking distance of a pub that's selling spiked coffees or mulled wine then you should get one of them

I'll be driving.

Deleted User wrote: »

Couchside ,I've a horrible headache caused by complete stress so trying to unwind. Work was grand but my gang are driving me crazy today, between looking for spins to work, making food for lunches, worrying if they're doing their college stuff or staying in bed when I'm not here, filling out fcuking forms and then getting letters back looking for more info and trying to source different documents, last minute searches for clothes and taking stuff out of the laundry basket ,pure fcuking laziness, I'm fit to be tied. Before anyone says they should look after themselves I know that but it's part of that age group imo and I don't mind doing it but this afternoon was a nightmare.
Loads to do but I might just sit here until bedtime, might have a drink too, I absolutely hate filling out forms so I think that's the stress, I usually ignore stuff ☺️ but can't this time, I genuinely think some departments just ask for more ****e hoping people will just give up and I'm almost at that point. FFFFSSS

I'm the worst agony aunt/uncle on the planet, because the only advice I can offer you is, have a drink and I don't mean tea or coffee.:D

Notwhosheseems wrote: »

There are local free to good home groups on Facebook, Grandeeod. If you use FB. People typically collect the items.


Sleepy and warm. Fireside

Cheers. I have it stored away and will only release it to some kind of charity or someone in need like you suggested. Thanks.

Sardonicat wrote: »

Bad day. B2tch sister us back, berating me for not letting her in. Because we are in Level 3. When reminded her house visits aren't allowed yet she complained she was the only person in Ireland 'not allowed' to see her own father. We might not see her for weeks on end. Sge never phones to enquire how he is or if he needs anything, and does nothing to help. Just talks endlessly about herself. My anxiety is ratcheting and got a really bad migraine. Currently listening to Nick Drake to calm down. Must feed my furry mammals their supper then prep the Lamb cutlets, carrots and onions and throw them into some stick in the slow cooker for Grumpy's dinner tomorrow. Not feeling good at all.

Send your lovely sister my way and I’ll sort her for you