Toys

fits · 20-11-2013 8:56am #1

Someone posted this ad on facebook and it reminded me that there really were no toys that I was interested in when I was a kid and things look even worse for girls now. I don't know much about girls toys now though. What's out there these days and is it possible to avoid pink? Do toys need to be gender segregated at all? I know some will attract boys more, some girls, but there are some that will have a good cross over.

http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/11/19/goldieblox_commercial_rewrites_the_beastie_boys_urges_young_girls_to_pursue.html

pwurple · 20-11-2013 11:15am

Pink-ification does bug me. I remember going to buy some lego for my daughter in smyths and being asked if I wanted Girl Lego, or Boy Lego. Grr.

In some ways, I do see how product personalisation and product differentiation is just marketers doing their job. We see it in shampoo for example... shampoo for blonde hair, shampoo for red hair.... as if there's any difference. But it does annoy me when the girl and boy versions of a product are as different as the lego ones.

Pink Lego Friends set... it's a pet salon. 'Help Joanna and Emma pamper the poodle with a rotating grooming table, bubble bath, purple hair accessories and lots to shop for!'
http://shop.lego.com/en-US/Heartlake-Pet-Salon-41007;jsessionid=3pieW6fsRsyPs5WBb6+G9g**.lego-ps-3-1

Barf.

Having said that, I've found it's easy enough to avoid. I was lucky enough that my parents kept a lot of my old wooden toys... trains, doll house, wooden farm animals etc. We add some footballs and she is fairly happy. I've gotten her dolls, but so far she has no interest, and has asked for a helicopter from santa. I just shop in the boys section as well, and don't exclude her from playing with toys she finds interesting, either pink or otherwise.

lazygal · 20-11-2013 11:19am

Everything is "gendered" these days, even down to pink Lego. I make a conscious effort to buy a range for my children that isn't specific for one gender but its difficult when we're given pink stuff. I've overheard children say things are only for boys/girls.

It annoys me that "girls" versions of things are available, its obviously making sure you buy more because while a girl might play with everything, boys mightn't play with pink versions.

I also know of dads who won't allow things like kitchens/buggies be bought for their sons. Says a lot about how they view such toys and doesn't bode well for the future!

RacoonQueen · 20-11-2013 1:39pm

I think boys and girls are inclined to go for boy and girl things regardless of whether it's pushed on them or not.

On facebook the other day I saw a post about someone who bought girl and boy toys for her daughter to play with and she put the cars into dolls cots and covered them up.

I've read about someone who refused to buy guns for her sons, the first thing they'd do when they got to a friends house was run straight for the guns and stuff.

It's natural. While boys and girls are interested in toys aimed towards the other, there does still seem to be a natural inclination to go towards things which are aimed at your gender.

I had access to my brothers lego as a kid, the 'boy' lego but I sill loved playing with my pink lego dollhouse. I loved playing cars and guns with my brother but loved my sullvanian families more. They seperate them for a reason, it doesn't mean you CAN'T buy a doll for you little boy or a car for your little girl but they will generally be more inclined to enjoy the toys that are aimed towards their gender.

My nephew was bought a doll and a buggy because he had an interest in dolls, he's not even 3 yet and doesn't mix much with other kids so his lack of interest in the doll and buggy now is completely his own. He likes his cars and planes and trains.

baby and crumble · 20-11-2013 2:28pm

Tbh the new pink and blue kinder eggs are driving me crazy every time I see them.

pwurple · 20-11-2013 3:02pm

RacoonQueen wrote: »

I think boys and girls are inclined to go for boy and girl things regardless of whether it's pushed on them or not.

Some are, some aren't I'd say. We are all individuals and all that. Really don't like these generalisations, as they lead to stereotypes, followed by sexism.

We've all heard things like 'What kind of a woman doesn't like shoes', 'What kind of man are you, not into football'. It's annoying.

meeeeh · 20-11-2013 3:35pm

My brother 'organised' fights among my barbie dolls on his Masters of the Universe castle. HI-Man and Skeletor were thrown somewhere into the corner. We both had the same Legos and played with them but I did prefer playing with the dolls and making dresses for them..

I have a nearly five years old boy who is obsessed with lego city series. His one year old sister doesn't give a damn about gender toys and is mostly occupied with trying to kill her brothers hat. I'm not that bothered about gender toys but it always amazes me how much crap (for both genders) toy stores sell. So mostly I'm just trying to avoid the totally brainless toys. V-tech with their counting, letters and naming shapes with annoying voice and blinking for one year olds drive me crazy. Personally I really dislike pink so just because of my own aesthetic I'm trying to limit pink in the house as much as possible.

Sala · 20-11-2013 4:49pm

http://www.change.org/petitions/hasbro-feature-boys-in-the-packaging-of-the-easy-bake-oven

I thought this was really sweet - a teenage girl petitioned for non-pink easy bake oven for her little brother.

I always find it incredible that with so many Dads staying at home and/or contributing equally to the housework, cooking, baby minding etc that there are still so many gendered household toys. If a little boy wants to copy his daddy hovering or minding the baby how is he going to feel If he is told they are "girls" toys??

I think people are speaking up about this issue. http://www.theguardian.com/money/2013/apr/30/boots-removes-gender-signs-toys
How foolish was it for a science based company to put science toys in the boys section??

rainbow kirby · 21-11-2013 12:06am

bluewolf wrote: »

I used to love the toy cars and remote control cars and collected loads of them
I had barbies probably at my grandmothers' insistence and they were grand, little polly pockets as well

Sounds like me when I was a child! I had loads of toy cars, my dolls were the patients for my play hospital, my brother's Action Men and my Barbies sometimes got into scuffles, and we both had loads of Lego. :cool:

Any child of mine, male or female, will get loads of Lego. it's great, really encourages creativity and they'll learn a bit about structure and spatial reasoning too.

Femme_Fatale · 21-11-2013 3:04am

Saw a film of baby chimps being brought to a room with toys and the males went for the toy cars etc, the females went for the dolls and played out "nurturing" them. I'd say it's innate in some people, but I know lots of little boys like dolls/little girls like "boys' toys".

I don't believe we're entirely blank canvases and our toy preferences are instilled in us via nurture though. Maybe later on, but not when we're babies/toddlers.

Frito · 21-11-2013 5:05am

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Saw a film of baby chimps being brought to a room with toys...the females went for the dolls and played out "nurturing" them.

Never had any interest in dolls. Books were my thing, and paper, pens etc. My favourite Christmas was the year I got a desk! Shamefully, I appear to have been out-parented by a baby chimp. It's probably a good thing I'm childless.

clairefontaine · 21-11-2013 7:56am

rainbow kirby wrote: »

Sounds like me when I was a child! I had loads of toy cars, my dolls were the patients for my play hospital, my brother's Action Men and my Barbies sometimes got into scuffles, and we both had loads of Lego. :cool:

Any child of mine, male or female, will get loads of Lego. it's great, really encourages creativity and they'll learn a bit about structure and spatial reasoning too.

I think I'm the only person on boards who hates lego.

Never was into dolls either. Way into dress up and pretend up, books, paints and clay, science experiments, gymnastics and water sports. And of course music. A lot of time was spent outside and not so much inside with toys.

I think boys like cars and planes and guns is because they like motion, they like to see how it moves through space. They have dolls too, they just call them action figures.

A toy is not the answer to the women in science disparity. Take a look at these figures from UNESCO.

http://www.uis.unesco.org/ScienceTechnology/Documents/sti-women-in-science-en.pdf

You have Bolivia where 65% are women. And then you have Luxembourg where 21% are and get this
Myanmar where 85% are women. Ans your belvedere Sweden, that socialist paradise where there's so much gender equality, 35% are women.

fits · 22-11-2013 9:14am

I wasn't really talking about the disparity in science although I know that's what the ad is geared towards.

Why cant they just make interesting toys without genderising them and putting them into special aisles? Its so ridiculous!

Let kids choose what they want to play with rather than making that choice for them!

22-11-2013 10:10am

I just put up 18 pics tonight of my toy iguanadon doing random things. I've owned it since I was 8. I think toys like animals, farm and zoo and dinos, lego, kennex, etc will never be gender specific, or at least, aren't anymore.

Malibu Stacy · 22-11-2013 3:37pm

fits wrote: »

Someone posted this ad on facebook and it reminded me that there really were no toys that I was interested in when I was a kid and things look even worse for girls now. I don't know much about girls toys now though. What's out there these days and is it possible to avoid pink? Do toys need to be gender segregated at all? I know some will attract boys more, some girls, but there are some that will have a good cross over.

http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/11/19/goldieblox_commercial_rewrites_the_beastie_boys_urges_young_girls_to_pursue.html

TBH, I don't really get all of the love for this ad. It seems like the toys they are selling play into the same gender stereotypes, especially with the color schemes.

I also don't get the whole 'this is how girls will become engineers' thing. While, given the rapturous reception on my Facebook feed by women with young daughters, it is clearly a brilliant marketing ploy, most of my friends who became engineers as adults were habitual 'tinkerers' as children: they were always trying to figure out how something worked by taking it apart, or building things. Their parents gave them the space to be creative and were tolerant of scattered legos and racing tracks, and later tools, random engine parts and screws all over their basement or dining room. This didn't require special blue and red (pr purple and pink) kits, it just required giving kids the space to fiddle around and the stuff to fiddle around with.

clairefontaine · 22-11-2013 4:21pm

fits wrote: »

I wasn't really talking about the disparity in science although I know that's what the ad is geared towards.

Why cant they just make interesting toys without genderising them and putting them into special aisles? Its so ridiculous!

Let kids choose what they want to play with rather than making that choice for them!

I dunno fits. All I know is I skip the pink aisle.

iguana · 22-11-2013 11:59pm

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Saw a film of baby chimps being brought to a room with toys and the males went for the toy cars etc, the females went for the dolls and played out "nurturing" them. I'd say it's innate in some people, but I know lots of little boys like dolls/little girls like "boys' toys".

While we have huge similarities in many ways to the other great ape species and watching how they live can at times offer insight into our own species, I'd suspect that this is not one of those times. Play in mammals exists as a learning tool and the bare bones of it involves imitating the adult behaviours of our species/society. As chimpanzees have not even invented the wheel, let alone cars, the young males choosing to play with cars wouldn't really have any bearing on human play. The social disparity between our species is too enormous for any conclusions to be drawn.

SparkySpitfire · 24-11-2013 5:18am

iguana wrote: »

While we have huge similarities in many ways to the other great ape species and watching how they live can at times offer insight into our own species, I'd suspect that this is not one of those times. Play in mammals exists as a learning tool and the bare bones of it involves imitating the adult behaviours of our species/society. As chimpanzees have not even invented the wheel, let alone cars, the young males choosing to play with cars wouldn't really have any bearing on human play. The social disparity between our species is too enormous for any conclusions to be drawn.

Interesting article. It also addresses the monkey study at the end and outlines some reasons why the monkeys may have picked the cars despite cars not being a part of a regular monkey's life.

http://www.parentingscience.com/girl-toys-and-parenting.html

_Whimsical_ · 25-11-2013 12:35am

Funnily I think Lego is one area where they did need to diversify the range to attract a wider audience of children. Don't get me wrong,as a child I LOVED Lego. I had a tub of pieces inherited from others and spent hours building houses and restaurants and hospitals etc. However I had no interest in the boxes of Lego I saw at the shop that made up cars with guns on the roof or space ships etc. I wanted something that spoke to my idea of play which always centered around little toy people and creating their social and living environments so they could have little adventures. I suppose I was playing out my own mini soap operas!

I don't think that I was taught to play like that,I have a video of myself opening a small Fisher Price dolls house I got for my first birthday and immediately with no prompting I was putting "little people" to bed,up and down stairs, sitting on chairs, identifying a mammy,daddy and baby. I don't think that's exclusively a girl trait, I'm sure there are boys that do it too naturally. However there are children who are geared towards that form of play,immitation of their environment and playing out what they wish their environment was. Personally I welcome more creative based toys like Legos that aim to cater to those children just because I think they're missing out on fun if they don't experience them. They shouldn't label it boys or girls though. I'd rather see lego school, hospital, restaurant kits that would be unisex in appeal but attract more socially wired kids.

IvyTheTerrible · 25-11-2013 1:54pm

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

Funnily I think Lego is one area where they did need to diversify the range to attract a wider audience of children. Don't get me wrong,as a child I LOVED Lego. I had a tub of pieces inherited from others and spent hours building houses and restaurants and hospitals etc. However I had no interest in the boxes of Lego I saw at the shop that made up cars with guns on the roof or space ships etc. I wanted something that spoke to my idea of play which always centered around little toy people and creating their social and living environments so they could have little adventures. I suppose I was playing out my own mini soap operas!

I don't think that I was taught to play like that,I have a video of myself opening a small Fisher Price dolls house I got for my first birthday and immediately with no prompting I was putting "little people" to bed,up and down stairs, sitting on chairs, identifying a mammy,daddy and baby. I don't think that's exclusively a girl trait, I'm sure there are boys that do it too naturally. However there are children who are geared towards that form of play,immitation of their environment and playing out what they wish their environment was. Personally I welcome more creative based toys like Legos that aim to cater to those children just because I think they're missing out on fun if they don't experience them. They shouldn't label it boys or girls though. I'd rather see lego school, hospital, restaurant kits that would be unisex in appeal but attract more socially wired kids.

I don't mind a social thing like you mention but it should just fit in with the rest of the range. In the Lego Friends series, the minifigs don't even fit with the "regular" lego, you can only use them in the Friends kits. So if you were interested in have a hair salon AND the pirate ship, you couldn't interchange the two.

lazygal · 25-11-2013 3:03pm

If there's one thing a pirate ship needs, its a hairdressers. A lot of bad hair days in Pirates of the Caribbean.

pwurple · 25-11-2013 3:30pm

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

I don't think that I was taught to play like that,I have a video of myself opening a small Fisher Price dolls house I got for my first birthday and immediately with no prompting I was putting "little people" to bed,up and down stairs, sitting on chairs, identifying a mammy,daddy and baby. I don't think that's exclusively a girl trait, I'm sure there are boys that do it too naturally. However there are children who are geared towards that form of play,immitation of their environment and playing out what they wish their environment was. Personally I welcome more creative based toys like Legos that aim to cater to those children just because I think they're missing out on fun if they don't experience them. They shouldn't label it boys or girls though. I'd rather see lego school, hospital, restaurant kits that would be unisex in appeal but attract more socially wired kids.

Imaginative play and role playing is something all children do. It's neither girl or boy specific. And Lego already has generic schools, hospitals, restaurants... and indeed a big box of mixed blocks which can be made into any of those things. Over the weekend my daughter built herself a Duplo shopping center (complete with multi-story carpark where the cars get catapulted in, rather than going up a ramp). That got dismantled, and she turned it into a flower garden, with paths for rabbits and a swing. Both of those had mammy, daddy and herself in lego form, exploring them and having little make-believe chats. All she has is this box of bricks x 2. http://www.johnlewis.com/lego-duplo-deluxe-brick-box/p230444013

The problem with the Lego Friends sets, is that you can only make one item out of it. The pieces are not generic, you make what's on the box and that's it. Plus, the bits are not interchangable with the other lego. It's just so restrictive, and unimaginative.

Like I said initially, I do understand that it's all just marketing to sell even more lego, and I can't really fault them. It just gets sad when the generic boxes of imaginative toys get ditched completely and the shops only stock the newer, less versatile versions... and then tell me that this is the section for my kid.

aknitter · 25-11-2013 5:41pm

i was looking for crafty things for my boy in Smyths and to my utter despair they are really geared to the girls - I like the idea of him making things (FYI I have an older girl aswell but there is a big age gap) all they had were friendship bracelets in pink etc. I was hoping for a model car to paint or a plane....

He's not into lego yet but i got him stickle bricks!!

always wanted them when I was small

Might change the topic a bit - I would have no bother with my daughter dressing up and going out dressed as spiderman or a fireman etc, would I let my son do the same if he wanted to be a disney princess??? Truth is I would get them for him but I may not let him outside. any opinions?

clairefontaine · 25-11-2013 8:34pm

This is more manufactured neurosis.

If you want your daughters to have an interest in science then get them interested in science at home, take them to museums, explore, experiment, make messes, take risks, that's what it's all about.

My mom was very good at science and as a result helped me, inspired me really with the wonder of the world, and I always had the best the project for the science fair and show and tell. It had nothing to do with painting the stuff pink or blaming the toy stores.

And as for crafts and boys, easy peasy, just make it about dinosaurs and they will have lots of fun.

SparkySpitfire · 25-11-2013 8:37pm

aknitter wrote: »

i was looking for crafty things for my boy in Smyths and to my utter despair they are really geared to the girls - I like the idea of him making things (FYI I have an older girl aswell but there is a big age gap) all they had were friendship bracelets in pink etc. I was hoping for a model car to paint or a plane....

He's not into lego yet but i got him stickle bricks!! always wanted them when I was small

Might change the topic a bit - I would have no bother with my daughter dressing up and going out dressed as spiderman or a fireman etc, would I let my son do the same if he wanted to be a disney princess??? Truth is I would get them for him but I may not let him outside. any opinions?

They have those kind of models in Hamleys, not sure if they're too old for him or not yet, but you could take a look around. I find they have completely different stock to the likes of smyths.

If you can't get there, I think you can shop online too.

aknitter · 25-11-2013 11:18pm

SparkySpitfire wrote: »

They have those kind of models in Hamleys, not sure if they're too old for him or not yet, but you could take a look around. I find they have completely different stock to the likes of smyths.

If you can't get there, I think you can shop online too.

Thanks, am in Cork, will have to be online!

_Whimsical_ · 25-11-2013 11:49pm

pwurple wrote: »

Imaginative play and role playing is something all children do. It's neither girl or boy specific. And Lego already has generic schools, hospitals, restaurants... and indeed a big box of mixed blocks which can be made into any of those things. Over the weekend my daughter built herself a Duplo shopping center (complete with multi-story carpark where the cars get catapulted in, rather than going up a ramp). That got dismantled, and she turned it into a flower garden, with paths for rabbits and a swing. Both of those had mammy, daddy and herself in lego form, exploring them and having little make-believe chats. All she has is this box of bricks x 2. http://www.johnlewis.com/lego-duplo-deluxe-brick-box/p230444013

The problem with the Lego Friends sets, is that you can only make one item out of it. The pieces are not generic, you make what's on the box and that's it. Plus, the bits are not interchangable with the other lego. It's just so restrictive, and unimaginative.

Like I said initially, I do understand that it's all just marketing to sell even more lego, and I can't really fault them. It just gets sad when the generic boxes of imaginative toys get ditched completely and the shops only stock the newer, less versatile versions... and then tell me that this is the section for my kid.

The problem with Lego Friends sets then is that they just want to ensure you buy other sets. That's not about pinking things up or the creation of specific sets for girls, it's about revenue creation and wringing small kids for profits

Generic boxes are great,in fact I think they are best and it's a huge pity if they are done away with. My point wasn't that sets are better than generic boxes, just that in the past all the marketing was aimed at a specific type of child who wanted to make cars and space ships, it needed to change to encourage other children, particularly girls, into the fold.

Of course where marketing fails parenting can fill the void. The best encouragement to enjoy lego or any other toy that requires a little imagination and perseverance to create something is when a parent gets down on the floor and shows the child that the limits are set by your imagination, not the picture on the box.

astrofool · 26-11-2013 12:09am

IvyTheTerrible wrote: »

I don't mind a social thing like you mention but it should just fit in with the rest of the range. In the Lego Friends series, the minifigs don't even fit with the "regular" lego, you can only use them in the Friends kits. So if you were interested in have a hair salon AND the pirate ship, you couldn't interchange the two.

That's just lack of imagination, GI Joe regular visited Lego town to fight the pirates, the Lego technic plane was just a Howard Hughes whim that coexisted with the minifigs.

meeeeh · 26-11-2013 1:36pm

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

The problem with Lego Friends sets then is that they just want to ensure you buy other sets. That's not about pinking things up or the creation of specific sets for girls, it's about revenue creation and wringing small kids for profits

Generic boxes are great,in fact I think they are best and it's a huge pity if they are done away with. My point wasn't that sets are better than generic boxes, just that in the past all the marketing was aimed at a specific type of child who wanted to make cars and space ships, it needed to change to encourage other children, particularly girls, into the fold.

Of course where marketing fails parenting can fill the void. The best encouragement to enjoy lego or any other toy that requires a little imagination and perseverance to create something is when a parent gets down on the floor and shows the child that the limits are set by your imagination, not the picture on the box.

Generic boxes are still around.
Lego are a toy company, they are not obliged to change how girls play. besides when they start tapping into the girls market they are pinking the Legos.

This is not about girls Legos being any worse than boys. It's a bout how society perceives female or male activities. Engineering and science is the buzz word of the day. Well did anybody actually see how a lot of the engineers function in sales and marketing. Accountancy? Most of the time they don't? So there actually is need for people with different skill sets.

Nobody is complaining why there are mostly pink doll houses. And yet they support creativity and so on but because there is a cooker in them they shouldn't played with. If a girl (or a boy) becomes passionate about hairdressing after they played with Lego friends, then good for them and good for me because there are not many good hairdressers around. Even if we all play with exactly the same Legos, we won't turn up the same. Some of our kids are not smart enough to be engineers, some have other talents, some are less talented.

Btw I'm perfectly capable, I had plenty of gender neutral Lego at home and yet I never had any desire to go into science.

Fukuyama · 26-11-2013 8:21pm

clairefontaine wrote: »

This is more manufactured neurosis.

If you want your daughters to have an interest in science then get them interested in science at home, take them to museums, explore, experiment, make messes, take risks, that's what it's all about.

My mom was very good at science and as a result helped me, inspired me really with the wonder of the world, and I always had the best the project for the science fair and show and tell. It had nothing to do with painting the stuff pink or blaming the toy stores.

And as for crafts and boys, easy peasy, just make it about dinosaurs and they will have lots of fun.

Whats with all the "I HAVE TO GET MY DAUGHTER INTERESTED IN SCIENCE!!" attitude around here... It's like a dad pushing his son into football or GAA when he doesn't want to.

Why not let your kid roam free.

When I was a kid I used to love to draw. I remember my mam buying me pencils, drawing pads etc... because I showed an interest. I hated team sports with a passion and never wanted to join any sports team.

But I also loved electrical things. Anytime there was a radio being thrown out I'd have it out in the shed in a million pieces, connected to the mains while poking around with a screwdriver :pac: :rolleyes: Not the greatest level of supervision but when my dad would get home from work he'd find me using his tools, give out to me and then start showing me how to take the motors out of the casset tape unit!

I think it's best to let a kid pick their own paths and help them along with their little hobbies, whatever they may be. As opposed to the ever-present helicopter parent looming overhead.

As for the little boys dressing up as fairies or whatever... meh. Kids will be kids and if I had one I'd let him outside wearing whatever he wanted. I'd say any man embarrassed by his kid needs to really take a long look at his own insecurities.

clairefontaine · 26-11-2013 8:29pm

Dean0088 wrote: »

Whats with all the "I HAVE TO GET MY DAUGHTER INTERESTED IN SCIENCE!!" attitude around here... It's like a dad pushing his son into football or GAA when he doesn't want to.

Why not let your kid roam free.

When I was a kid I used to love to draw. I remember my mam buying me pencils, drawing pads etc... because I showed an interest. I hated team sports with a passion and never wanted to join any sports team.

But I also loved electrical things. Anytime there was a radio being thrown out I'd have it out in the shed in a million pieces, connected to the mains while poking around with a screwdriver :pac: :rolleyes: Not the greatest level of supervision but when my dad would get home from work he'd find me using his tools, give out to me and then start showing me how to take the motors out of the casset tape unit!

I think it's best to let a kid pick their own paths and help them along with their little hobbies, whatever they may be. As opposed to the ever-present helicopter parent looming overhead.

As for the little boys dressing up as fairies or whatever... meh. Kids will be kids and if I had one I'd let him outside wearing whatever he wanted. I'd say any man embarrassed by his kid needs to really take a long look at his own insecurities.

Because engineering is fashionable or something. I agree it's a little weird.

clairefontaine · 26-11-2013 8:33pm

Goldieblox is pre emptively suiing the Beastie Boys.

Makes them assholes in my book.

Plus actual engineers rated the toy poorly.

fits · 26-11-2013 8:38pm

Dean0088 wrote: »

Whats with all the "I HAVE TO GET MY DAUGHTER INTERESTED IN SCIENCE!!" attitude around here... It's like a dad pushing his son into football or GAA when he doesn't want to.

Why not let your kid roam free.

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I agree.
That's why I don't like companys making selections for children by making a toy appear a certain way and calling that a boys' toy or a girls' toy. Let them play with what they want themselves.

clairefontaine · 26-11-2013 8:40pm

fits wrote: »

I agree.
That's why I don't like companys making selections for children by making a toy appear a certain way and calling that a boys' toy or a girls' toy. Let them play with what they want themselves.

Also Lego over complicated their toy with all these addendums for girls. If I had a daughter, I'd still by her normal Lego, because there is more imaginitive use in it rather than these Lego for girls versions which corral the imagination with pre-emptive choices made by the designers.

The simpler the better, for boy or girl.

meeeeh · 26-11-2013 9:17pm

Boys stuff is also a lot more elaborate. But they usually follow the instructions for a while and then it just all gets mixed up. Earlier a naughty toy (a fierman) was robbing chocolate from the police station build from different blocks and bits of stable and fire station sets. He was chased by two policemen (a pilot and a boy figure).

I actually dislike it how all the toys have to be educational. Children won't get phd in maths if their electronic rattle tells them numbers when they are six months old. Tbh at the moment I'm just grateful if the toy keeps them occupied for a while.

Fukuyama · 27-11-2013 11:01am

meeeeh wrote: »

Boys stuff is also a lot more elaborate. But they usually follow the instructions for a while and then it just all gets mixed up. Earlier a naughty toy (a fierman) was robbing chocolate from the police station build from different blocks and bits of stable and fire station sets. He was chased by two policemen (a pilot and a boy figure).

I actually dislike it how all the toys have to be educational. Children won't get phd in maths if their electronic rattle tells them numbers when they are six months old. Tbh at the moment I'm just grateful if the toy keeps them occupied for a while.

A lot of toys discussed here are aimed at kids under 8. Kids that age havn't a clue what they're playing with really.

A girl playing with a kitchen doesn't mean she'll grow up to be a house wife. Just like a boy playing with an Action Man doesn't mean he'll grow up to be soldier. Chances are, action man will end up in the oven as part of a quiche while Barbie swims around in her swimming pool (the sink).

If a kids going to be an engineer, chances are when they're 14 or so you'll find them sitting in front of a PC teaching themselves programming or fixing things around the house.

Educational toys make me cringe much the same way that parents forcing their kids to do piano lessons make me angry. The failures of the parents are visited upon the children. I also found the likes of Mechano to be incredibly boring as a kid. It looks complex but really it's just an overly elaborate set of instructions like an Ikea flatpack that doesn't allow for any creativity or problem solving. I much preferred following my dad around as he rewired a plug or fixed the sink.

Fukuyama · 27-11-2013 3:24pm

bluewolf wrote: »

I don't know, I was nearly "forced" into my cello lessons for years but when I got into early teens, I very much appreciated them and it turned into a passion. It's dull and boring playing something when you sound like you're killing a cat, just have to tough it out
I think music is wonderful and there could be worse than trying to stimulate their creative side that way. Needs to go hand in hand with an appreciation of listening to classical music as well though
(I'm not sure where there is a "failure" of the parent there either?)

I'd say you'd be the exception to the rule.

I grew up with three people (classmates / friends) who were pushed by their parents into stuff they didn't want to do.

One chap was put into drama classes from a young age. He got quite good and in his teens was on Fair City in extras roles, a few lines here and there. Yet he confided in myself and a few people over the years that he hated doing it. He genuinely despised acting but didn't want to let his parents down.

Another girl had thousands spent on piano lessons over a few years. She reached 15 and just refused to go anymore.

I think if a kid shows an interest then it should be nurtured. But there's loads of parents who push their kids into hobbies that make them look good in front of other parents / appear to be a model family.

Dolbert · 27-11-2013 3:35pm

Dean0088 wrote: »

I'd say you'd be the exception to the rule.

I grew up with three people (classmates / friends) who were pushed by their parents into stuff they didn't want to do.

One chap was put into drama classes from a young age. He got quite good and in his teens was on Fair City in extras roles, a few lines here and there. Yet he confided in myself and a few people over the years that he hated doing it. He genuinely despised acting but didn't want to let his parents down.

Another girl had thousands spent on piano lessons over a few years. She reached 15 and just refused to go anymore.

I think if a kid shows an interest then it should be nurtured. But there's loads of parents who push their kids into hobbies that make them look good in front of other parents / appear to be a model family.

Yeah tbf there's a big difference between encouraging kids who have interest/aptitude for a skill and forcing them to do it. I loved going to music classes as a child, but can still remember the frustration of the kids who obviously had no natural ability and hated it, but were forced to go week in/ week out.

pwurple · 27-11-2013 3:58pm

clairefontaine wrote: »

Because engineering is fashionable or something. I agree it's a little weird.

Holy majoley! I've never been fashionable before!

clairefontaine · 27-11-2013 4:00pm

pwurple wrote: »

Holy majoley! I've never been fashionable before!

Well you are now.

clairefontaine · 27-11-2013 4:03pm

bluewolf wrote: »

I don't know, I was nearly "forced" into my cello lessons for years but when I got into early teens, I very much appreciated them and it turned into a passion. It's dull and boring playing something when you sound like you're killing a cat, just have to tough it out
I think music is wonderful and there could be worse than trying to stimulate their creative side that way. Needs to go hand in hand with an appreciation of listening to classical music as well though
(I'm not sure where there is a "failure" of the parent there either?)

Yah I think that you might be an exception to the rule. I loved music from very very young, around five I started violin. My parents never had to force me to practise or to to lessons. I had an inner drive with it. I was drawn to it and we just clicked.

But music is also so good for you, it should be required in schools.

pwurple · 27-11-2013 4:06pm

meeeeh wrote: »

Nobody is complaining why there are mostly pink doll houses. And yet they support creativity and so on but because there is a cooker in them they shouldn't played with.

There are loads of non-pink dolls houses around too, to be fair.

Here's the one we have. It's awesome, and both boys and girls play with it when they visit! Check out the water butt, solar panel, wind turbine and segregated recycling. haw!

lazygal · 27-11-2013 9:07pm

I need this^^^. Screw the kids, its for me. Where did you get it?

pwurple · 27-11-2013 10:40pm

lazygal wrote: »

I need this^^^. Screw the kids, its for me. Where did you get it?

It was a gift, and I *think* they got it in a polish shop in cork. BUT, a google for eco dollhouse has located them on amazon.
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Voila-Wooden-Eco-Dolls-House-Furniture/dp/B003QXMV0K

iguana · 28-11-2013 12:41am

This came up in my newsfeed today and made me think of this thread.

pwurple · 30-11-2013 8:53am

Anyone watch the toy show? Boys given lego and robots to test and review, girls given hair salons and dollies.

There was one awesome moment though, where the two kids called Rhianna and Destiny reviewed their array of Pinkness, and declared the pink Nerf Guns to be the most fun on the table.

iguana · 30-11-2013 2:16pm

pwurple wrote: »

There was one awesome moment though, where the two kids called Rhianna and Destiny reviewed their array of Pinkness, and declared the pink Nerf Guns to be the most fun on the table.

That bit kind of disturbed me actually as Destiny said that before Nerf only made guns for boys but she was really glad they'd now started to make them for girls as they were such fun. It really made it clear that gender assignment of toys really does mean that some kids are missing out on toys they would enjoy because the are marketed to the other gender.

Cave Troll · 02-03-2014 4:23pm

The gender thing is annoying, this is for boys, this is for girls, my daughter loves camping, soldiers and nerf guns (without the pink) and so consequently all her toys are got in the boys section, same as her clothes, back to the original comment on what to get an 8 year old boy, paper mache is very popular with our kids, not that awful clumpy stuff we did at school either, they use watered down PVA glue and polyfilla, the last few layors are done with coloured tissue paper and sanded smooth, it gets a plastic/glazed look to it.

Gabrielle88 · 05-03-2021 10:51am

Very interesting thread and discussion, maybe I'll bring it to live again

I'm from the younger part of the millennial generation (born 1988) and I don't remember toys in my day being as clearly divided by gender as they are now. They weren't pink and blue, they didn't have "for girls" or "for boys" labels. Thanks to the fact that there were no labels, boys were not ashamed to play with us girls, Barbie or at home, e.g. washing, ironing, cooking dinner. We got social skills maybe, but there was not such pressure to treat toys as an educational help.

Toys are thankfully changing a lot lately and becoming more educational (although looking after the house and playing adult is also part of the education). Some time ago we were at a Lego workshop combined with a building exhibition and even for me, an adult, it was an amazing experience and fun. At the workshop you could rebuild your old sets (like a Lego car) into a bicycle or scooter according to Green Instructions, and at the same time listen to lectures on the environment adapted to children.

I played with blocks when I was 5-8 years old, but nobody ever suggested to me that this could be an introduction to something more, to an interest in engineering or technology. Girls at a certain stage of development were even discouraged from developing in these directions, as if it was reserved for one sex. I remember at school a teacher waving his hand when asking girls and giving them a grade of D or E. He didn't see the potential in us. I envy the kids now that they have such opportunities, that everyone is literally standing on their heads to show them that climate change (and any other too) is up to them, to push them to be active, to explore the world themselves. Back in my school days, teachers mainly cared about surviving until 3-4 PM, assigning tasks and going home.

fits · 05-03-2021 11:27am

I started this thread so it’s funny to see it going again.

I have two little boys now who play with tractors, dolls houses musical instruments, tea sets etc. One of them his favourite Pyjamas are a superman set and sky from paw patrol set ( both inherited). They have no concept of certain things and colours being ‘for girls’

The main thing that annoys me now is how male characters outnumber female in almost every book and cartoon. Even recent classics like the Gruffalo - all male characters. .

pwurple · 05-03-2021 4:07pm

Lol, it is funny to see it popping up again, and my assumption was something a little naughtier.

But, on the topic at hand, my children are now a bit older, so maybe there's more perspective. I've two girls, one is almost a teenager now.
For lego, (mainly because I wanted to go!) we went to the Lego House in Denmark a few years ago. It was absolutely brilliant, and did soften me a little on the lego friends slightly. Mostly because they have improved the range considerably. There is a hospital, and a very cool treehouse set in particular that my youngest was very taken with. So, we have a friends treehouse set added into the pile too. She mostly builds houses with extravagant roof gardens, balconys and everything for some reason contains multiple toilets.

When they were younger, it was more imaginative play, about the figures and what they did and said. As they got older it's more about the structure of the building itself, they got sucked into minecraft also. It's the nature of development I think.

I can highly recommend Snap Circuits toy by the way as a non-gender toy. My ten year old loves this. making things fly off, funny noises, lie detectors.

Board and card games came into a life of their own as well as they aged.

This is an absolute blast:
Unstable Unicorns
Not for very small children, I'd say 10-12 is about the youngest for it. but, I have taken this out of the box to play with grownups when the kids have gone to bed. It's great fun.

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