Anyone else fed up with being single right now?

Worksforyou · 24-04-2014 9:43pm

Pissy Missy wrote: »

Oh Look - A REAL MAN!:rolleyes:

Hop on board baby, I aint got all day.
Mammy has my tea waiting.

deise08 · 24-04-2014 9:44pm

Pissy Missy wrote: »

I know what you mean! We'll have our day! All we can do til then is aim to feel amazing inside and out and put ourselves out there!

we're fabulously brilliant

micar · 24-04-2014 9:44pm

I'm a lad and I've been single now for 5 years. Really pissing me off.

Am on a dating site. Been on a few dates. Out of all of them, I met one girl I'd be interested in. She had no interest in me

SCOOP 64 · 24-04-2014 9:44pm

deise08 wrote: »

Ha ha quite certain :-)

ya its not much fun watching everyone else having the going for walks hand in hand, meal, cinema together, just sitting in Park together. having all the coupley stuff.

That only happens on films, partners dont do that, AH, see now were your going wrong "hold my hand while we walk down the main street".

Renegade Mechanic · 24-04-2014 9:44pm

I.... know what a tracker mortgage is.:cool:

gillmelly · 24-04-2014 9:46pm

thecatspjs wrote: »

If your previous relationship meant that you couldn't do things when, how, and the way you want then it wasn't very healthy. There are compromises to be made for sure, but you shouldn't ever feel that your life is dictated by another person. You obviously know this since you got out of it, but it really doesn't have to be that way.

Unless you have kids, which probably means you can't really do what you want whenever you want!

That's not what I said or was talking about at all, but hey whatever floats your boat !

Pissy Missy · 24-04-2014 9:48pm

micar wrote: »

I'm a lad and I've been single now for 5 years. Really pissing me off.

Am on a dating site. Been on a few dates. Out of all of them, I met one girl I'd be interested in. She had no interest in me

Poo in a shoe dude! I have found been on the dating site that been spoilt for choice was evident however the choices weren't much to live up to either when they just want the ride.

Pissy Missy · 24-04-2014 9:48pm

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

That only happens on films, partners dont do that, AH, see now were your going wrong "hold my hand while we walk down the main street".

Damn you Disney! You ruined my life!

Lou.m · 24-04-2014 9:48pm

Artful_Badger wrote: »

At least you have options OP. Try being a guy with literally nothing at all to offer a woman. I'm in line behind the guys your dismissing waiting for a chance to get dismissed.

Of course you have something to offer.

You have you. That's all you need for the girl you click with.

You are loveable.

All kind decent people have A LOT to offer.

RED L4 0TH · 24-04-2014 9:49pm

No. Too busy watching LFC trying to win the PL.

Pissy Missy · 24-04-2014 9:49pm

gillmelly wrote: »

That's not what I said or was talking about at all, but hey whatever floats your boat !

This conversation did start off talking about a boat...

gillmelly · 24-04-2014 9:50pm

Pissy Missy wrote: »

This conversation did start off talking about a boat...

the luv boat

Pissy Missy · 24-04-2014 9:51pm

gillmelly wrote: »

the luv boat

HAHA! More like the lack of!

deise08 · 24-04-2014 9:51pm

ahoy sailor

tim3000 · 24-04-2014 9:51pm

I have had one 3ish month relationship with a girl in the past 7 years. It didn't lead anywhere. I wasn't particularly upset when it ended either. I am used to being single at this stage and I don't like or particularly want change. Like the OP I have tried dating sites and the like but never had any luck.

I have found that what you never had you never miss. I could probably live my life without marriage or any of that crack.

Daveysil15 · 24-04-2014 9:52pm

Pissy Missy wrote: »

Poo in a shoe dude! I have found been on the dating site that been spoilt for choice was evident however the choices weren't much to live up to either when they just want the ride.

That seems to be the case with the interweb dating. The girl can't find a fella who is daycent. The fella can't find a girl full stop.

Gran Hermano · 24-04-2014 9:52pm

Pissy Missy wrote: »

Sounds like an idea. I may look into some activities but I guess Portlaoise is so tiny, I'm sure there must be a few things out there. Thanks

ICA or Macra?

Worksforyou · 24-04-2014 9:53pm

Lou.m wrote: »

Of course you have something to offer.

You have you. That's all you need for the girl you click with.

You are loveable.

All kind decent people have A LOT to offer.

Make your move Badger, go on son.

gillmelly · 24-04-2014 9:54pm

Gran Hermano wrote: »

ICA or Macra?

Don't knock it, if you're a decent country boy or girl or would like one. Much better than people think.

Artful_Badger · 24-04-2014 9:54pm

Worksforyou wrote: »

Make your move Badger, go on son.

Be a shame to ruin the moment.

micar · 24-04-2014 9:54pm

Pissy Missy wrote: »

Poo in a shoe dude! I have found been on the dating site that been spoilt for choice was evident however the choices weren't much to live up to either when they just want the ride.

It;s evident that there are 3 types of people on sites.

1) people looking for the ride.
2) people just wanting to date.
3) people actually looking to meet someone.

I belong to the third section.

I think i need to re think my profile to make it more appealing. I need to add better photos.

Lou.m · 24-04-2014 9:55pm

Pissy Missy wrote: »

Anyone ever get a bit peed off with being single? Maybe I'm just bored but when it seems impossible to meet someone nice or someone that wants more than an easy ride over three years, it does kind of get to you a little.

I have tried dating sites and I'm not saying all guys are the same, but the guys I met were just looking for the one thing. I socialize and put myself out there but in vain it seems. I have lovely friends and family so I'm grateful for that. Before you say anything, I am focusing on myself, trying to keep myself busy but can't help feeling a bit lonely sometimes. Anyone in the same boat?

I am dating a nice guy right now. It's early days but we will see where it goes. But I really feel your pain. I was in the same boat. It seems like the world is full of jaded people and players but keep in there.

There are lovely guys who want more you just have to look beyond the flashy types and look for the real deal.

It's tough from the guys perspective too I guess.

Aidric · 24-04-2014 9:56pm

micar wrote: »

It;s evident that there are 3 types of people on sites.

1) people looking for the ride.
2) people just wanting to date.
3) people actually looking to meet someone.

I belong to the third section.

I think i need to re think my profile to make it more appealing. I need to add better photos.

Points 1 & 2 can't happen without point 3.

Lou.m · 24-04-2014 9:56pm

micar wrote: »

It;s evident that there are 3 types of people on sites.

1) people looking for the ride.
2) people just wanting to date.
3) people actually looking to meet someone.

I belong to the third section.

I think i need to re think my profile to make it more appealing. I need to add better photos.

I really don't believe in those sites.

You need to socialize as much as you can and meet people through friends etc.

Get out walking and chatting.

deise08 · 24-04-2014 9:56pm

Gran Hermano wrote: »

ICA or Macra?

I joined the macra two years ago. been to the rallys Mr personality a few different events and still can't get anyone. full of fellas and I can't get any offers. even the women in work are giving me a hard time over it.
however I would recommend to joining the macra. its a fantastic organization

great events

gillmelly · 24-04-2014 9:57pm

Lou.m wrote: »

I am dating a nice guy right now. It's early days but we will see where it goes. But I really feel your pain. I was in the same boat. It seems like the world is full of jaded people and players but keep in there.

There are lovely guys who want more you just have to look beyond the flashy types and look for the real deal.

It's tough from the guys perspective too I guess.

It really is about looking past the flashy types as you put it. High maintenance, male or female, is far more bother than it's worth.

Pissy Missy · 24-04-2014 9:57pm

tim3000 wrote: »

I have had one 3ish month relationship with a girl in the past 7 years. It didn't lead anywhere. I wasn't particularly upset when it ended either. I am used to being single at this stage and I don't like or particularly want change. Like the OP I have tried dating sites and the like but never had any luck.

I have found that what you never had you never miss. I could probably live my life without marriage or any of that crack.

All I can say is fair play to you for adapting to the situation. Perhaps I'm just meant to be single right now but I definitely want to be with someone special eventually.

micar · 24-04-2014 9:59pm

Aidric wrote: »

Points 1 & 2 can't happen without point 3.

I gotta disagree.

I work with a girl who was on POF. She was wanting to meet someone. But all the dates she went on, the guy was only looking for a ride. Pure and simple to the point that she walked away for the whole dating site thing,

CarrickMcJoe · 24-04-2014 9:59pm

Only one thing for it........Time to bring back the SLOW DANCE

Pissy Missy · 24-04-2014 9:59pm

Gran Hermano wrote: »

ICA or Macra?

ICA seems to be just for females but the second option seems to show no gender requirements, Thank you, I will look into it

Stavros Murphy · 24-04-2014 10:00pm

tim3000 wrote: »

I have had one 3ish month relationship with a girl in the past 7 years. It didn't lead anywhere. I wasn't particularly upset when it ended either. I am used to being single at this stage and I don't like or particularly want change. Like the OP I have tried dating sites and the like but never had any luck.

I have found that what you never had you never miss. I could probably live my life without marriage or any of that crack.

Ah here, keep it clean. She wants a lad who isn't after the one thing ffs. And you drop in that.

Gran Hermano · 24-04-2014 10:01pm

CarrickMcJoe wrote: »

Only one thing for it........Time to bring back the SLOW DANCE

AKA the erection section,.

mickydoomsux · 24-04-2014 10:01pm

tim3000 wrote: »

I have had one 3ish month relationship with a girl in the past 7 years. It didn't lead anywhere. I wasn't particularly upset when it ended either. I am used to being single at this stage and I don't like or particularly want change. Like the OP I have tried dating sites and the like but never had any luck.

I have found that what you never had you never miss. I could probably live my life without marriage or any of that crack.

I'm in pretty much the same boat as you. Just not too pushed any more. I'm well used to being single and not relying on someone or having to worry about anyone but yourself is kinda great.

Tried online dating as well and it is just a disaster zone. Either headcases, people just looking for attention or women with ridiculously lofty standards.

Daveysil15 · 24-04-2014 10:02pm

micar wrote: »

It;s evident that there are 3 types of people on sites.

1) people looking for the ride.
2) people just wanting to date.
3) people actually looking to meet someone.

Wrong. The 3 types are as follows:

1) The creepy guy trying to get laid.
2) The hot girl who is too good for the site and ignores emails.
3) The honest people who want to meet someone.

The third group is made up of both males and females and makes up about 10% of the site.

micar · 24-04-2014 10:02pm

Lou.m wrote: »

I really don't believe in those sites.

You need to socialize as much as you can and meet people through friends etc.

Get out walking and chatting.

Tell me about it.

I'm in a running club but train with the guys. All the girls train together and there are some very good looking girls there. We never mix.

I;m also in a tri club and we do have social events but I'm not interested in any of the girls there.

Pissy Missy · 24-04-2014 10:03pm

Lou.m wrote: »

I really don't believe in those sites.

You need to socialize as much as you can and meet people through friends etc.

Get out walking and chatting.

A few of my friends have meet their long term partner off dating sites which is great but My experience didn't have a similar result. Personally I think don't knock it til you try it but from my experience the majority of guys on their were just using it for their sex needs.

gillmelly · 24-04-2014 10:04pm

Pissy Missy wrote: »

ICA seems to be just for females but the second option seems to show no gender requirements, Thank you, I will look into it

Like anything else Macra can be hit or miss depending on the local group, but I know quite a few friends who met their partners for life there. Never tried it myself, but some people really do swear by it.

Aidric · 24-04-2014 10:05pm

micar wrote: »

I gotta disagree.

I work with a girl who was on POF. She was wanting to meet someone. But all the dates she went on, the guy was only looking for a ride. Pure and simple to the point that she walked away for the whole dating site thing,

What did she expect with POF tbf? If the ride was good it could have led to more..

Andrew_C · 24-04-2014 10:05pm

Stavros Murphy wrote: »

Buy a toaster -they're cheap. At least then you can offer toast. Girls love toast.

When I saw "buy a toaster" I was a bit alarmed. Fake ad in a internet parody newspaper (not The Onion, it was The Framley examiner) :

"For Sale. Toaster. Used once. Slight water damage"

RayM · 24-04-2014 10:06pm

No, I wouldn't say I'm 'fed up' with being single. It's not ideal, but I'm comfortable enough with my own company. I'm not a particularly good catch at the moment (bereavement, anxiety, depression), so I'd be very... erm... wary of 'inflicting' myself upon anyone.

I've got 99 problems, but attempting to feign a cheerful veneer for the sake of someone else's happiness ain't one. There are worse things than being single.

Sauve · 24-04-2014 10:07pm

I'd rather be single forever than caught up with the wrong person.
OP -it's easy to think you're missing out, but everything happens for a reason. One day you'll look back on this single spell and you'll see why it did you good at the time.
Know what you're worth and don't ever settle for less than you deserve

Daveysil15 · 24-04-2014 10:08pm

Pissy Missy wrote: »

from my experience the majority of guys on their were just using it for their sex needs.

I wonder how many guys are actually getting sex from it though. I'd imagine it would be quite low.

Stavros Murphy · 24-04-2014 10:08pm

Sauve wrote: »

I'd rather be single forever than caught up with the wrong person.
OP -it's easy to think you're missing out, but everything happens for a reason. One day you'll look back on this single spell and you'll see why it did you good at the time.
Know what you're worth and don't ever settle for less than you deserve

what happens if you don't deserve much??

Pissy Missy · 24-04-2014 10:09pm

Sauve wrote: »

I'd rather be single forever than caught up with the wrong person.
OP -it's easy to think you're missing out, but everything happens for a reason. One day you'll look back on this single spell and you'll see why it did you good at the time.
Know what you're worth and don't ever settle for less than you deserve

That's prob why I am single - I don't settle

Thanks Sauve

deise08 · 24-04-2014 10:10pm

Stavros Murphy wrote: »

what happens if you don't deserve much??

What is that supposed to mean?

Pissy Missy · 24-04-2014 10:10pm

Daveysil15 wrote: »

I wonder how many guys are actually getting sex from it though. I'd imagine it would be quite low.

I know guys on it that say they are looking for a relationship because they'll reel the vulnerable girls in, do their 'business' and get out. Sick really!

qwertyabcd · 24-04-2014 10:11pm

I have the problem that I am quite happy in my own company, I live with my sister and her fella and honestly its enough to put me off a relationship for a while

gillmelly · 24-04-2014 10:11pm

Pissy Missy wrote: »

That's prob why I am single - I don't settle Thanks Sauve

It's good to have high standards, but almost no one will tick off all the boxes. Decent, kind, and funny goes a long way.

Sauve · 24-04-2014 10:11pm

Stavros Murphy wrote: »

what happens if you don't deserve much??

It's all relative :P

maguic24 · 24-04-2014 10:12pm

I miss being single sometimes.

I think it works both ways.

Anyone else fed up with being single right now?

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