Adults living with their parents...

gara · 26-08-2012 11:10pm

Abi wrote: »

I would love my mother to be just that, a parent. A bit of sound advice and words of experience would be nice. What I have is a bully of mother is 'nice' to me when she wants something done for her. Other that, she'll insult me in every way possible, and is a hell of a lot to handle out in public. I'll refrain from calling her names, but I've several for her. If your parent parents rather than bullies, I envy you.

I'm really sorry that your Mum is like that Abi, it's not something anyone should have to contend with. I think popular culture images of mother/daughter Disney relationships don't help either, as they tend to be incredibly detached from reality and can make people feel isolated about what they're dealing with.

It might help to think of it like this: Anyone can paint a picture but an artist is more likely to produce a masterpiece. Being a mother is the same -some are artists, others just paint pictures. Either way, there's always something unique and beautiful at the end

27-08-2012 2:40pm

Macy Salmon Squeegee wrote: »

Its not really, my home house was built on our land 26 years ago i.e. my Dad got the site from my grandfather. There is about 3 or 4 neighbors who are all the same family and again all their houses are build on what would have been their parents lad and it was done 30+ years ago.

Thats only going half a mile from my house, I could give similar examples all over the place its very common down through the years to build a house on your own land.

It's an "only in Ireland" phenomenon, in most places the eldest got the homeplace and all the others moved elsewhere. But yes I agree it's been happening since the 1960s but accelerated during the boom times.
The point being, how many of the current generation will have land to pass on to their children to build on? Most of the farmland around here that could be built on has been built on (the planners have "sterilised" the remainder), to stay in the area these children will need to stay with the parents.

27-08-2012 3:41pm

Deleted User wrote: »

It's an "only in Ireland" phenomenon, in most places the eldest got the homeplace and all the others moved elsewhere. But yes I agree it's been happening since the 1960s but accelerated during the boom times.
The point being, how many of the current generation will have land to pass on to their children to build on? Most of the farmland around here that could be built on has been built on (the planners have "sterilised" the remainder), to stay in the area these children will need to stay with the parents.

Depends on how heavily an area has been developed I suppose. We would have plenty of space of a few generations of houses on our land at home with out much access work, probably some road improvements would be required but that would be the only thing really. Even around the area its mostly the land along the main road that's been build on and even already what people are doing is building their own roads through land to open up more places to build houses (mostly for their family as opposed to development of course in the current climate).

SuperInfinity · 27-08-2012 6:02pm

Deleted User wrote: »

In much of rural Ireland you now have children living on their parents land! Around here I can think of several families who have been given sites by their father and have built their own houses there, we live on my wife’s inheritance. This phenomenon is a one generation one time event courtesy of the celtic tiger.

What are you talking about??? This was always a common thing to do in all generations even back as far as under the feudal system, I don't know how you got that impression.

Kirby · 27-08-2012 6:26pm

Wow, this thread is some read. Some of you must have been abused as children or you are just being internet drama queens and exaggerating.

Either that or I think I'm one of the few people who actually like their parents. They are nice people. Yes, they have flaws that really annoy me sometimes but I'm sure I have plenty of flaws too. I'm not going to crucify them for it.

Don't get me wrong, I live at home because I have to. But if I didn't have to, I probably still would. Who else would have me?

I went golfing with my Dad yesterday and it was great. And me and my mother are very alike. They are retiring to Florida soon and when they are gone I will miss them.

phasers · 27-08-2012 6:39pm

Abi wrote: »

Was it an American article?

I only tolerate my mothers shít because she is my mother. Shes irrational, impatient, agest, racist, mean, insensitive, a user and a begrudger just to mention a few of her lovely traits. She stresses me out being any where near her for 2 minutes. Maybe not all, but I'd imagine quite a few Irish women can relate to me on this one.

My Mam is my best friend, we get on great together and I love spending time with her.

christmas2012 · 27-08-2012 6:43pm

Was it an American article?

I only tolerate my mothers shít because she is my mother. Shes irrational, impatient, agest, racist, mean, insensitive, a user and a begrudger just to mention a few of her lovely traits. She stresses me out being any where near her for 2 minutes. Maybe not all, but I'd imagine quite a few Irish women can relate to me on this one.

I know exactly where your coming from abi but at the same time you wouldnt change her at all,as she puts up with your sh!t too im sure,and like myself too not perfect,ive got me flaws too..

hattoncracker · 27-08-2012 6:57pm

girl in the striped socks wrote: »

I'd sooner live out of my car before I'd move back in with mammy & daddy.
They wouldn't be the easiest to get on with, have to know every detail of where you are, what you're doing, how just rang/ text the phone you own & pay for, stir frys or currys are "foreign" food so therefore shouldn't be trusted, having the odd glass of wine with dinner is a sure sign I'm a raging alcoholic, expensive clothes get discoloured & ruined because there's no point putting on a half load of their own clothes so they pick up a few of mine to get their money's worth out of the machine etc.
For my sanity it's better that we live in seperate houses that are not near each other.

You just described my mother.

later12 · 27-08-2012 7:03pm

I moved back in with my folks recently, I'm one of the children they get along well with so there's no problem. I do feel about 12 being 'called in for dinner', or hearing the old familiar knock on my bedroom door in the morning, but I can't say the move home has caused any tension. We all have our own jobs to be doing and keep ourselves to ourselves outside of meal times, so I'm sure that's part of the reason for the harmony too.

The only negative is when you want to have girls over, it's still very much "their house".

To that end OP, maybe you ought to try doing some work outside the house, like working on the garden or DIY outside the home; it will get you away from all of that hostility and maybe your Mum might understand the more salient positives of having you around.

hattoncracker · 27-08-2012 7:07pm

I could never move in with my mother again. She has to know where you're going, what you're doing, who you'll be with, etc. You have to eat her cooking, which is generally meat and potatoes. She loses the plot over stupid things, and is so paranoid she's convinced that if you won't/can't do something, it's because you're lazy, or if you break a plate it's done on purpose just to upset her. She will drag you out of the house by your hair to mass on a Saturday.

She drives me demented, and my sister is even worse. This is why I live on the opposite side of the country, and my visits are as infrequent as I can make them.

scamalert · 27-08-2012 7:20pm

some people speak here about building more houses while theres 200thousand empty houses and estates across Ireland rooting away empty :cool: there was a thread with a link few months back with pictures of housing estate with flats,nice back garden view into the river beside it,completely destroyed by druggies,looters and weather.point being developers rather let the houses burn down then sell them for what they did cost to build,and those who own houses will rent them out thus making money,So unless someone lives at home by choice i dont see how someone in their early twenties could afford to live on their own while affording all the bills,food,car,and decent place to live in to call home.

27-08-2012 7:30pm

phasers wrote: »

My Mam is my best friend, we get on great together and I love spending time with her.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=10jq35ctS-I

NegativeCreep · 27-08-2012 7:36pm

Can't wait to move out but have to get through 4 years of college yet

Then after that I'll have to get a job which might mean a move down to Cork (I want to work in pharmaceuticals) which could be even more torturous

It's not that my parents are over-bearing, it's just that they don't get on with each other. They are incapable of being civil and I'm sick of the arguments at this stage. The arguments always involve money (even though they have enough) and that get on my nerves constantly.
There's constant tension in the house and It's hard to live with!

SuperInfinity · 27-08-2012 7:49pm

Kirby wrote: »

Yes, they have flaws that really annoy me sometimes but I'm sure I have plenty of flaws too.

Just out of curiosity, what kind of flaws?

da_shivsta · 27-08-2012 7:56pm

I live at home with my Daddy.. I've just finished college there a couple months back and I don't see the point of renting at the moment. My boyfriend lives here too and Dad is only delighted to have us here doing up the house for him since he's in his 60's and getting tired & lazy.
If I were to get a job in the city then I'd move in a heartbeat, but tbh I'm happy here in my comfort zone for another while and am happy to come back and raise any children here too, that's what I plan to do.
My brother lives just down the road and is here a lot of the time; Of course they get on my tits at times but I know I annoy them and they don't really care, or so it seems. We manage to get enough space I think.
I see nothing wrong with it. This was my grandparents house; my Nana (who was widowed since a year after they had it built) did so much through the years to pay for it and keep it as a family home for cousins and all it would be an awful shame to let it go to ruin now. So we're doing it up and planning to stay.
Hopefully we will eventually get jobs around home even if we have to move to the city first for a while and work there.

Daveysil15 · 27-08-2012 8:38pm

I'm an adult... get me out of here!

Cee-Jay-Cee · 27-08-2012 8:38pm

I moved back in with my mum when I was 30 and stayed for 5yrs! I had only intended to move in for 6 months to a year to save for my own place but it was so easy living at home that I got stuck in a rut. I got on good with my mum although she did try to 'Mammy' me at times but she had her living room and I had mine so it worked well. I enentually decided it was time to go and bought my own place. I don't think I could move back in again.

seven_eleven · 27-08-2012 8:42pm

Abi wrote: »

Was it an American article?

I only tolerate my mothers shít because she is my mother. Shes irrational, impatient, agest, racist, mean, insensitive, a user and a begrudger just to mention a few of her lovely traits. She stresses me out being any where near her for 2 minutes. Maybe not all, but I'd imagine quite a few Irish women can relate to me on this one.

Im male and feel the same way. I was always jealous of my friends parents, who you could laugh with and have great craic with them. The pure thought of doing that with my mother and friends makes me cringe.

Muckit · 29-08-2012 9:23pm

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1bBe7EwydgA&feature=BFa&list=PL4831F9F9DF8BC1FC

Chloris · 03-09-2012 10:34pm

jimthemental wrote: »

I couldn't live with them again, christ sure the last time I was watching United play on the telly at home I drank 2 or 3 bottles of Miller and the oul fella started giving out about how much I drink. Said I had a problem and all.

I also f*cking hate this. I'd have a glass of wine with dinner and my mother nearly phones the hospital to have my stomach pumped. It actually makes me want to go out and come home after six pints to show her what drunk ACTUALLY means.

So then I do, but just go to bed when I get home, because I love her really and wouldn't want her to see me in that state. :P

On another note: found a house! Moving in on Wednesday. OH MY GOD I can't wait to have loads of loud sex and cook food all the time and drink tonnes and have somewhere to get my frickin' work done!!! This is the best week ever.

Carson10 · 04-09-2012 2:14am

Its that Irish'ness attitude that has this country f*cked up. What your and adult and you live at home. who cares. move out when you feel the time is right. For some people that could be 21 others 31. We all have a different connection to home.

Its that boring traditional Irish attitude that made all those young people go out and buy apartments for 400/500,000 euro that are now worth nothing, just to look like they were normal.

Stay at home forever, who cares. As long as you feel happy and secure in your bed at night thats all that counts.

If your having problems with other family members/parents its something that can be worked on. Just get a hobby and stay out of their way. If your unemployed, do a course, paint the house, head off on your bike or do other stuff.

Einhard · 04-09-2012 2:19am

marshbaboon wrote: »

I moved home & only my dad lives here.

Mightn't see/speak to him for weeks on end.

Broadband in his room so?

Rich11 · 04-09-2012 2:24am

i got out as soon as i could:pac:, moved out when i was 18, moved back for a year when i was 21, and then moved out again, id say thats the last time id move back for good......... i hope

GonzoPunch · 04-09-2012 2:27am

I'm in my early twenties and have moved in and out of my folks gaff a couple of times. It's been a few years since I've lived there and hope that I never have to again. But saying that I was recently quite ill and spent about 2 weeks at home. I get on well with my parents but I see living in their house as a last resort. I dont think its acceptable or appropriate for me to live in their house but I love the security of knowing that there is always somewhere to go when I need it.

scudzilla · 04-09-2012 2:29am

OP 1 Scudzilla 0 on the Mammy score

Whippersnapper · 04-09-2012 2:31am

I'm 28 and had to move home recently after the end of a relationship. It's surreal being here and quite claustrophobic but until I find somewhere else, it will do.

Kirby · 04-09-2012 2:38am

Kirby wrote: »

Wow, this thread is some read. Some of you must have been abused as children or you are just being internet drama queens and exaggerating.

Either that or I think I'm one of the few people who actually like their parents. They are nice people. Yes, they have flaws that really annoy me sometimes but I'm sure I have plenty of flaws too. I'm not going to crucify them for it.

Don't get me wrong, I live at home because I have to. But if I didn't have to, I probably still would. Who else would have me?

I went golfing with my Dad yesterday and it was great. And me and my mother are very alike. They are retiring to Florida soon and when they are gone I will miss them.

SuperInfinity wrote: »

Just out of curiosity, what kind of flaws?

My flaws or theirs? You didn't really make this clear.

Regarding theirs, I'm sure as hell not going to bash my folks on an internet forum. That seems bad form in my eyes even if they will never read it.

Regarding my own flaws.....how long do we have and where do I start?

Argumentative, lazy, anti-social, negative, loud. I'm sure a case could be made for me being all of these things. So they put up with my flaws, it seems only fair that I put up with theirs without bitching about it.

wintersolstice · 04-09-2012 9:28pm

my kids live out but come home at weekends.i can tolerate that but i love sunday afternoons when they are all gone again and peace descends for the week.if they all moved back fulltime i would have to go myself.i love them dearly but i dont want to live with them again!

Dickie10 · 28-10-2014 1:58am

ok just found this topic, it seems fairly relevant for me. just in the last 6 mths living at home had begun to become irritable for me. in the last 6 mths my best friend moved out to a nice house to rent a room , we usually did all the seminal life landmarks at the same time so I suppose it really hit me then.

im 31 and still at home with parents,a few years ago I was unemployed for 3 years, I was only getting an odd day on the buildings and helping the aul lad farming. in 2010 I made the descion to either go to Oz for a few years til construction came good again or pursue my real intrest in going to college. I checked out the college route and kinda fell in love with it. definitely the greatest descion I ever made.
Anyway I graduate next summer and maybe do a masters so that meant living at home with the parents, I commute 30 mins to uni. cant wait to get a job and move out even though they are out doing their own thing 5 of 7 nights. they still don't like me drinking in the house, so I never do, they also make me go to mass every week. if I wanted to be awkward I could refuse but I like to keep the peace so I just tip along even though I don't belive a bit of it.

another thing which does irritate me is my mother and her crazy ways. im pretty much a very easy person to live with and don't rock the boat in any way, but if I go out at weekends she is really pissed off she thinks im out to late and drinking to much , I never make any noise or have any friends in the house. if im out of a sunday evening she calls and texts to see do I want a lift home and if I get a cab she rants and raves at why I should have called her to pick me up. I cook dinners for her sometimes if shes away or late home and im there I put on dinner and have it ready, I wash my own clothes and iron them myself. my father is seriously easy to live with and we get on well.

One difference I have to other lads is that im taking over the farm when i graduate this summer, its all legally done this two years so everyone in the family knows the score, im also inheriting the family home at this time so in one fell swoop I will be responsible for my parents well being and security. all bills, as well as income will legally be mine to take care of with regard to the upkeep of the house and farm. now my thinking of this is that just give my parents the cheque book and debit card to continue running the house as they wish. for my part im running the farm on my own this last 3 years with minimal input from my father who really sees this as retiring from a business as any other person would, giving advice if I want it but leaving all descions to me.

My problem is they see absolulty nothing wrong with me living with them for ever if needs be. at the minute I have no girlfriend and have put it off til after I graduate because I wouldn't be able give the time at the minute, I know it sounds very clinical but I perhaps overthink these things with regard to having girlfriends, unfortunately theres a girl mad into me at the minute and I like her but am afraid to commit I don't want to mess her around either.

my mother can make life difficult for girls around our house, stuff like wanting to know where id be sleeping if I stay the night and this shiit! I went to a wedding a year ago and she told me not to go straight to the hotel after the church but come back to the house for tea because I might start drinking to early in the day! I find it a bit off putting to actually get a girlfriend and have this crap going on with the mother. thing is im still somewhat dependent on her because I live at home and my future will be interlinked and tied to the farm and the house because I own them.
I really need to get a job that can let me move out of home while keeping the farm going part time. I need advice as to my next step, my parents are 79 and 69 (mother). I do love my mother of course but I agree irish mammies that are corrupted by the catholic church over the years are not the nicest breed of people, sexist, racist,anti drink, anti young ones!, anti other faiths, and very explosive in mood swings.

kowloon · 28-10-2014 2:13am

Harpy wrote: »

Has she always been like this or is it a more recent thing? Could she be maybe going through the 'change'?

When's the next full moon?

McChubbin · 28-10-2014 4:07am

Feel I must weigh in here.
I'm 26 and to date have only lived outside of the family home once, during my last ill-fated relationship.
That didn't work out so well and whilst I've looked everywhere for a place to suit my needs, I feel more secure living at home as I am disabled in a number of ways-physically, mentally and intellectually- and thus have certain difficulties that make it hard for me to live a fully independent life. Okay, living with my parents is not ideal but I would rather be here at home comforted by the knowledge that my folks are around if I need them for anything then be left stuck in a glorified hamster cage in some crappy part of town paying too much money for the privelage.
I've been on the list for social housing for the last 5 years as it is the only viable way I can find suitable accommidation. Whilst I'm eligible for Rent Allowance, the majority of landlords in Dublin don't accept it and I refuse to share a flat with a group of total strangers for fear I might suffer a nervous breakdown and end up going insane from having to put up with them.
I've read the "I Hate My Housemate" thread and it's really turned me off the idea of sharing a house with outsiders.
And so, the wait for social housing continues.
It's a major drag sometimes and I can get why some people fly the nest at the first opportunity as I know all too well what it's like living with "D'mammy" and having to abide by the rules like coming home at a reasonable hour, no bitches after ten, etc.
Even so, at least I have a roof over my head and food in my belly.
Yes, I pay a nominal fee each week to help out with the housekeeping and I try to do my share but it's only fair.
Unless a sheer miracle occurs and someone actually responds to my desperate emails with a job offer, I've resigned myself to the fact that I'll be staying at home for the long haul.
No biggie- there are worse situations to be in.

crybaby · 28-10-2014 6:09am

I'm now 31 and looking back I really do have to wonder what in christ I was doing living with my parents until I was 24.

Uncle Ruckus · 28-10-2014 7:42am

None of my business what other people do as long as it doesn't effect me but I'd rather live on the streets than live with my parents.
Visiting for a couple of days is fine. Anything longer would drive me insane.

caustic 1 · 28-10-2014 8:52am

Way I see it you have three choices. No 1. Move out. No 2. Stay put but start living your life the way you want to live your life. You only get one shot at it, do you want to look back with regret thinking I should have done this that and the other. Your mother chose the way she lived hers. Your life is not her life. No.3. Stay put and plod on.

knucklehead6 · 28-10-2014 9:03am

I think we'll see a lot more young adults moving back in with their parents to get together their 20% deposit when the time to buy their own place comes around.

I moved back home at 30 to get my deposit together.

LuckyLloyd · 28-10-2014 9:09am

Every situation is different and - as the long thread bumping post above clearly illustrates - the issue can be a lot more complicated in rural areas.

Chunners · 28-10-2014 9:50am

Moved out when I was 17 and never went back, sure I haven't even seen them in the last 10 years and only talk to them about once every 6 months on the phone. Wild horses couldn't drag me back there lol

LuckyLloyd · 28-10-2014 9:53am

Chunners wrote: »

Moved out when I was 17 and never went back, sure I haven't even seen them in the last 10 years and only talk to them about once every 6 months on the phone. Wild horses couldn't drag me back there lol

lol indeed

rosedream · 28-10-2014 12:13pm

It's not that I hate my family or anything, but dear god, it is just not possible for me personally to live at home with my family (I am 21), because I grew up in the sticks, and I also don't drive, because it is not possible for me financially.
That, and the fact that my mother also has to drive me and my little sister everywhere when we come home from college because we are nearly on hour's walk from the local shops.
Alright to do on a sunny day during the holidays now and again, not great to do everyday, especially on a rainy wintery day.

It horrible to live like that, because it's sometimes ok on weekends when i come home from college, because it literally taking it in small doses. But try living like that during the summer holidays when you have no summer job, no transport of your own, living in the most isolating area possible, surrounded by a family that you argue with all the time, because you are seeing them everyday, so tension builds up, and you feel so unstimulated and blocked out from the outer world.

It's just mentally depressing living like that, and demeaning as well when it comes to the driving. I might be able to get away with it now, but I don't want to be living at home at 30 or 40 and still have a parent driving me to work everyday.
It's not that I am embarrassed of my parents, no way about that, but it would be embarrassing for me as an adult who has not become independent.

I sometimes feel mean having to get my point across about how I dislike where I grew up, but I feel like I have to get to get people to realize why I wanted to get away. It's not that I hate my family or anything, but it was not possible for me to progress any further as an adult if I stayed and I also don't want want to end up resenting my family.

LoganRice · 29-10-2014 12:17am

Well, some adults with kids live with their parents

Dickie10 · 29-10-2014 12:51am

yeah il probarbly just plod on for now, im not into making a big deal of petty stuff, dosent really bother me that much going to mass anyway just lie again the wall at the back with the rest of the lads/men that dont want to really be there. bit like run of the country, kinda routine. when i graduate il prob rent a room with whatever lads are renting in my local town, most lads in my area do this when the graduate or start earning bigger money.

only thing is im 31 while the lads renting together are all 24-34, dosent bother me too much as were all friends/clubmates but i suppose choosing to go back to college kinda freezes your life at university age, which dosent really have a number as such just a situation! i find myself having more in common with the 23 year olds in the town than former friends of 29-33 age group, basically cause im just not at that life stage of marriage/settling down relationship.
funny enough though i still run a 120 acre farm as a fully adult business so i suppose work related im my age but socially/relationships im 22/23. its that bad im still getting invited to 21sts instead of weddings. really want to start my life on my own terms soon, because i get the feeling most girls woudnt enjoy my current situation as a basis for a relationship. is this the scnario where rural irish batchelors are created, i thought that was a bygone social group.?!

Manc Red · 29-10-2014 12:54am

I can see this becoming a big issue in the next few years (if it isn't already). Domestic abuse is already on the rise and it's only going increase as more and more families have to go through it.

As people get older they need their own place that they can control themselves in order to have relationships, have friends over etc.

I can't imagine having to live in house as an adult with other siblings. It must be a nightmare and there really isn't any way that someone could have a proper "relationship" with someone without notifying the rest of the family. It must be hell.

Just out of curiosity, anyone here have to put up with "hearing" their siblings? I think I might want to floor to open up and swallow me if that ever happened to me.

lulu1 · 29-10-2014 1:03am

Chunners wrote: »

Moved out when I was 17 and never went back, sure I haven't even seen them in the last 10 years and only talk to them about once every 6 months on the phone. Wild horses couldn't drag me back there lol

Maybe they might feel the same about you going back

Filmer Paradise · 29-10-2014 1:12am

I moved out at 20. Emigrated.

Came back a couple of years later & moved in with the 'rents as a temporary measure.

Wound up there till I was 35!

I didn't get on good or bad with them, but I always had a job, social life, GF with her own place etc..

They hardly noticed I was there, because I wasn't usually.

Also, I gave them 50 yo-yos a week, which was okay money then (10+ years ago), took my mam to the supermarket to do the shopping & other bits & bobs.

All in all, it worked out okay.

I'm happily married now with my own house, kids & all that goes with it.

No harm in living in the family nest as long as you have some kind of life plan & don't think that life the way it stands now stays the same forever.

Taajsgpm · 29-10-2014 1:14am

guitarzero wrote: »

This post may(/must?) have been done but sure....

As someone in their late 20's living with their ma (and 2 siblings of late 20's), it's driving me up the wall. Unemployed and for the time being, dependent on her for a roof over my head. I give rent, daily job seek, get up around 9,10, do odds and ends around the house that need done and pretty much keep a bit of a low profile. Yet this does not curtail the underlying tension and arguments that spark out of nowhere. She's regularly stubborn, irrational and reactive which leads to needless arguments. Are all Irish mammy's like this? She's in her mid 50's and her behaviour is getting petty and ridiculous. These bouts are a feature now, myself as the regular target. There is no talking, its very much a defiant 'my way or the high way' kinda tripe.

I'm curious as to how other folks well into their 20's and upwards are managing living with their parents. Do they find themselves caught up in regular needless disputes? Of course theres 2 sides to every coin and I am not claiming to be an angel but these particular sparked reactions are the hall marks of a unbearable, irrational, petulant child.

I think with 3 kids in the house over 20 she is more disappointed than anything else and that leads to her frustration, Moms want their kids to be successful and independent andmarried and give em grandkids , she's feeling let down by all 3, just my thought

Filmer Paradise · 29-10-2014 1:32am

Dickie10 wrote: »

yeah il probarbly just plod on for now, im not into making a big deal of petty stuff, dosent really bother me that much going to mass anyway just lie again the wall at the back with the rest of the lads/men that dont want to really be there. bit like run of the country, kinda routine. when i graduate il prob rent a room with whatever lads are renting in my local town, most lads in my area do this when the graduate or start earning bigger money.

only thing is im 31 while the lads renting together are all 24-34, dosent bother me too much as were all friends/clubmates but i suppose choosing to go back to college kinda freezes your life at university age, which dosent really have a number as such just a situation! i find myself having more in common with the 23 year olds in the town than former friends of 29-33 age group, basically cause im just not at that life stage of marriage/settling down relationship.
funny enough though i still run a 120 acre farm as a fully adult business so i suppose work related im my age but socially/relationships im 22/23. its that bad im still getting invited to 21sts instead of weddings. really want to start my life on my own terms soon, because i get the feeling most girls woudnt enjoy my current situation as a basis for a relationship. is this the scnario where rural irish batchelors are created, i thought that was a bygone social group.?!

When I was your age, I wondered where I fitted into the scheme of things & where I was going in life.

Try to get something going outside of the situation you're in.

A part time job that might lead to something permanent, so if all plans go to pot, you have something else to fall back on.

I bought a house whilst still living at home. Rented it out room by room, but keeping one for myself in case there was a big argument at home.

Filmer's love palace.

BTW, I got caught with the Mass thing too. Jeez the memories!

shamrock55 · 29-10-2014 1:38am

Buddy of mine is nearly 38 and he lives at home with mammy, he always has and id say he has no intention of ever moving out:D

Pablodreamsofnew · 29-10-2014 8:04pm

I'd rather live in a box than my ma's house.

My two sisters still live at home and they are in their forties. They fight alot. I don't think it's healthy over the age of 18 to be honest! Too many cooks in the kitchen sort of thing.

Elessar · 29-10-2014 8:21pm

Still living at home at 29 and no intention of moving out. I've no siblings and its just two of us in the house. To be honest, even though my mam irritates me sometimes (and I her no doubt), I like it and have no intention of moving out. I have no desire to pay someone else's mortgage or buy my own house (this one will go to me). I'm able to save a good bit and lead a pretty good life by all accounts.

Pablodreamsofnew · 29-10-2014 8:25pm

Elessar wrote: »

Still living at home at 29 and no intention of moving out. I've no siblings and its just two of us in the house. To be honest, even though my mam irritates me sometimes (and I her no doubt), I like it and have no intention of moving out. I have no desire to pay someone else's mortgage or buy my own house (this one will go to me). I'm able to save a good bit and lead a pretty good life by all accounts.

What about if you get in a relationship or have kids?

Adults living with their parents...

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