Do dating 'leagues' exist?

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 12:43pm

Hyperbollix wrote: »

Maybe he makes up for it by being self deprecating and humble.

This is ..if you have charm ..you are humble etc... it will take a guy far

Arrogance is NOT attractive.

RacoonQueen · 24-01-2021 12:47pm

AdrianBalboa wrote: »

In my view they definitely exist. I was well out of my husband’s league when we met: I was incredibly beautiful back then and in amazing shape and he has always been a bit shlubby. He thought all his Christmasses had come at once when I asked him out.

I’m not the head turner I used to be (or I’m not perceived to be, that’s a topic for another day :rolleyes:) but I still look pretty good, and he’s not getting any better. So I’m still well out of my husband’s league and that’s despite the patriarchal consensus that women look worse as they get older (:rolleyes:) and men only get better. Not true!

Sounds like one of you is out of the others league alright, not sure in the way you think though.

FishOnABike · 24-01-2021 1:03pm

And there was I thinking a league was where you got to play at home and away with the rest of the league.

24-01-2021 1:05pm

AdrianBalboa wrote: »

In my view they definitely exist. I was well out of my husband’s league when we met: I was incredibly beautiful back then and in amazing shape and he has always been a bit shlubby. He thought all his Christmasses had come at once when I asked him out.

I’m not the head turner I used to be (or I’m not perceived to be, that’s a topic for another day :rolleyes:) but I still look pretty good, and he’s not getting any better. So I’m still well out of my husband’s league and that’s despite the patriarchal consensus that women look worse as they get older (:rolleyes:) and men only get better. Not true!

But what else did you bring to the table? What were your earnings? What were his?
How come you couldn't land someone in your own league?

Daisy78 · 24-01-2021 1:10pm

Vestiapx wrote: »

Is that an age thing, did they get together more recently. Men who stay healthy can be seen to get better looking as the get older while women with kids start looking rough if they don't concentrate of staying attractive. Happens from about 40 onwards. Is that the age range you are mixing with 40-50 ish

Most of these couples met in their twenties so your theory doesn’t apply. I know one couple who met in college, he is tall, dark complexion, a very attractive man. His wife is short, very overweight, would have no attractive features at all, and would be quite short tempered and insecure. So on paper no match but they are both smitten with each other and are still together in their now mid fifties. I remember meeting another couple years ago when I was travelling, the guy was absolutely gorgeous, great body, dark complexion, had a bit of a hard edged look to him but was actually very softly spoken. His girlfriend was short, overweight and wasn’t particularly pretty in the conventional sense and had a mouth on her like a sewer, you would never put the two of them together. But obviously it worked for both of them. They are just two examples I know of of.

I think the idea that the woman always has to be the better looking of the two doesn’t account for connection or chemistry between two people. The concept of dating leagues don’t take into account personal tastes or what people prioritise in a relationship.

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 1:11pm

RacoonQueen wrote: »

Sounds like one of you is out of the others league alright, not sure in the way you think though.

That is not very nice to say.

JeffKenna · 24-01-2021 1:12pm

AdrianBalboa wrote: »

In my view they definitely exist. I was well out of my husband’s league when we met: I was incredibly beautiful back then and in amazing shape and he has always been a bit shlubby. He thought all his Christmasses had come at once when I asked him out.

I’m not the head turner I used to be (or I’m not perceived to be, that’s a topic for another day :rolleyes:) but I still look pretty good, and he’s not getting any better. So I’m still well out of my husband’s league and that’s despite the patriarchal consensus that women look worse as they get older (:rolleyes:) and men only get better. Not true!

I think personality comes into it as well.

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 1:12pm

Augeo wrote: »

But what else did you bring to the table? What were your earnings? What were his?
How come you couldn't land someone in your own league?

I don't like where your conversation is going.

Wealth is not something someone brings to the table.

It doesn't mean anything.

It doesn't count for anything.

Unless you are that way...

Money doesn't make a man any better than he is alone himself ...AND he KNOWS it doesnt ..unless he is a snob! And a fool

Same for women.

suicide_circus · 24-01-2021 1:28pm

It would be strange if there werent leagues.

People usually gravitate towards others with similar attribures; interests, wealth, social status, education etc, why should attractiveness be different?

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 1:59pm

Surreptitious wrote: »

Maybe he cheers them up?

This is INVALUABLE.

Aongus Von Bismarck · 24-01-2021 3:36pm

Of course they exist. For example, I wouldn't have even considered dating the vast majority of the girls I went to secondary school with. Dating Josephine, a camogie player with huge thighs, wouldn't have even entered my mind. She wants a house just outside Ballygobackwards, a couple of freckle-faced children, and a solid job working in Galway in a medical device factory. My idea of hell. I'd also be far too good looking for her. Harsh, but true.

Beechwoodspark · 24-01-2021 3:38pm

Surreptitious wrote: »

Maybe he cheers them up?

Maybe he does but he also bad mouths/slags them with obscene comments about their smell etc once they’ve left the shop. I’ve witnessed this.

He takes the p1ss out of everyone to be honest.

corner of hells · 24-01-2021 3:45pm

Aongus Von Bismarck wrote: »

Of course they exist. For example, I wouldn't have even considered dating the vast majority of the girls I went to secondary school with. Dating Josephine, a camogie player with huge thighs, wouldn't have even entered my mind. She wants a house just outside Ballygobackwards, a couple of freckle-faced children, and a solid job working in Galway in a medical device factory. My idea of hell. I'd also be far too good looking for her. Harsh, but true.

Go away outta that you. You're from the "bog" , your options were limited to a knee trembler round the back of the community centre with a young one smelling of cow ****e while keeping one eye out for the lical priest and then if you got lucky a quick grope off young one attending a "Gaelteacht".

24-01-2021 3:55pm

corner of hells wrote: »

Go away outta that you. You're from the "bog" , your options were limited to a knee trembler round the back of the community centre with a young one smelling of cow ****e while keeping one eye out for the lical priest and then if you got lucky a quick grope off young one attending a "Gaelteacht".

Thread is polluted with conceited Walter Mitty types without a trace of humility, boasting about deeply unattractive traits. Dating leagues do not exist in the real world, only in the mind's eye of those at odds with it.

24-01-2021 4:08pm

AdrianBalboa wrote: »

In my view they definitely exist. I was well out of my husband’s league when we met: I was incredibly beautiful back then and in amazing shape and he has always been a bit shlubby. He thought all his Christmasses had come at once when I asked him out.

I’m not the head turner I used to be (or I’m not perceived to be, that’s a topic for another day :rolleyes:) but I still look pretty good, and he’s not getting any better. So I’m still well out of my husband’s league and that’s despite the patriarchal consensus that women look worse as they get older (:rolleyes:) and men only get better. Not true!

Augeo wrote: »

But what else did you bring to the table? What were your earnings? What were his?
How come you couldn't land someone in your own league?

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I don't like where your conversation is going.

Wealth is not something someone brings to the table.

It doesn't mean anything.

It doesn't count for anything.

Unless you are that way...

Money doesn't make a man any better than he is alone himself ...AND he KNOWS it doesnt ..unless he is a snob! And a fool

Same for women.

She reckons she's out of her husband's league..... And she reckons leagues exist. So what's the harm in asking why she didn't land someone in her league?

She's only mentioned looks.... Nothing else. I asked what else did she bring to the table. Earnings were a separate question.

If you go around claiming you are out if your partners league based on looks alone expect a few questions IMO.

Aongus Von Bismarck · 24-01-2021 5:56pm

I rarely do more than skim over threads on this site, but the levels of delusion on display on this one really are incredible. There are hierarchies/levels in dating, as there are in most things in life. The 'Nice Guys' might like to think otherwise, but there are loads of women who will always be out of their reach.

I'm never going to date anyone who isn't educated to at least Masters level; I'm never going to date anyone who makes significantly less money than me; I'm never going to date someone with a neck tattoo or a nose piercing; I'm never going to date someone who thinks wearing a tracksuit is an acceptable fashion choice.

And there are lots of women who aren't going to date dweebish, unambitious, and deeply ordinary men - no matter how nice these lads think they are.

AdrianBalboa · 24-01-2021 6:50pm

Augeo wrote: »

She reckons she's out of her husband's league..... And she reckons leagues exist. So what's the harm in asking why she didn't land someone in her league?

She's only mentioned looks.... Nothing else. I asked what else did she bring to the table. Earnings were a separate question.

If you go around claiming you are out if your partners league based on looks alone expect a few questions IMO.

My family is independently wealthy so I wasn’t after his money if that’s what you’re insinuating.

I was attracted to him because 1. we’re in a similar social strata 2. it was time for me to settle down after my hedonistic 20s.

I have a type A personality so obviously I hate to marry someone I could dominate. I make no apologies about that, that’s just my type.

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 6:52pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Thread is polluted with conceited Walter Mitty types without a trace of humility, boasting about deeply unattractive traits. Dating leagues do not exist in the real world, only in the mind's eye of those at odds with it.

our own self esteem too

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 6:54pm

AdrianBalboa wrote: »

My family is independently wealthy

yahoo he your sugar baby! good fer him!

He nailed a looker with her own gold!

(I AM KIDDING )

Everyone takes things so literally.

maccored · 24-01-2021 6:56pm

its all in the mind. you can attract who you want if you spend the time getting to know yourself

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 6:58pm

maccored wrote: »

its all in the mind. you can attract who you want if you spend the time getting to know yourself

I don't think you can control who you attract.

It just happens!

Greyfox · 24-01-2021 7:08pm

Aongus Von Bismarck wrote: »

I'm never going to date anyone who isn't educated to at least Masters level

Someone could have a masters and be at the bottom of the league due to been ignorant, ugly and socially arkward

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 7:09pm

i wanna date a russian guy

Beechwoodspark · 24-01-2021 7:25pm

Anghus you would be surprised what goes on in the real world

Leg End Reject · 24-01-2021 7:27pm

By all means have your clipboard ready to duly tick the boxes until all your criteria are met.

But, in reality, all you need is someone you find beguiling, who piques your interest and leaves you satisfied after you've knocked boots.

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 7:29pm

Leg End Reject wrote: »

But, in reality, all you need is someone you find beguiling, who piques your interest and leaves you satisfied after you've knocked boots.

How you doin!

Im not beguiling this is my issue.

24-01-2021 7:34pm

Greyfox wrote: »

Someone could have a masters and be at the bottom of the league due to been ignorant, ugly and socially arkward

I've all that except the masters

Samsonsmasher · 24-01-2021 7:38pm

None of you people are dating now because of the restrictions

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 7:39pm

Samsonsmasher wrote: »

None of you people are dating now because of the restrictions

Well ......no need to rub it in our faces.... :mad:

24-01-2021 7:42pm

AdrianBalboa wrote: »

My family is independently wealthy so I wasn’t after his money if that’s what you’re insinuating.

......

So he has a few quid.... Makes sense

Esho · 24-01-2021 7:45pm

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

i wanna date a russian guy

If an unreconstructed sexist.and racist isn't your type, choose one of the good ones!

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 7:47pm

Esho wrote: »

If an unreconstructed sexist.and racist isn't your type, choose one of the good ones!

Well OBV only one of the good ones! :pac:;)

Irish_rat · 24-01-2021 8:02pm

Samsonsmasher wrote: »

None of you people are dating now because of the restrictions

What restrictions

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 8:04pm

Irish_rat wrote: »

What restrictions

someone tell him!

Samsonsmasher · 24-01-2021 8:23pm

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Well ......no need to rub it in our faces.... :mad:

Don't get angry with me. Take it up with NPHET

Tig98 · 24-01-2021 8:31pm

Beechwoodspark wrote: »

That’s it. He flirts with every woman he meets in the shop. I’ve seen him flirting with women in their 80s for god sake. “How are you?” “All the better for seeing you gorgeous”

Ah I wouldn't consider that flirting to be honest. Im a lad who worked on tills and deli and we'd always chat up the regulars. It was amusing for staff and customers, just trying to make the day go quicker

RacoonQueen · 24-01-2021 8:34pm

Do people with 'types' and 'checklists' ever wonder why they are single?

Vestiapx · 24-01-2021 8:35pm

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

How do you think prince philip got the gig?

He was penniless.

AND NO HE WAS NEVER GOOD LOOKING !

Prince Philip legitimised the Windsor line. His mother was born in Windsor castle and was the great granddaughter of Victoria.

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 8:38pm

Vestiapx wrote: »

Prince Philip legitimised the Windsor line. His mother was born in Windsor castle and was the great granddaughter of Victoria.

Well you live and learn.

He was a kind of out of the loop broke noble tho

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 8:39pm

RacoonQueen wrote: »

Do people with 'types' and 'checklists' ever wonder why they are single?

if you are willing to date every tom ....you are going to end up with tom...or the female tom

Vestiapx · 24-01-2021 8:40pm

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Well you live and learn.

He was a kind of out of the loop broke noble tho

He has Victorias blood as well as direct royal lineage from Germany Denmark and Greece.

They were matched up like the horses they so admire

ILoveYourVibes · 24-01-2021 8:43pm

Vestiapx wrote: »

He has Victorias blood as well as direct royal lineage from Germany Denmark and Greece.

They were matched up like the horses they so admire

lol!

Leg End Reject · 24-01-2021 8:54pm

Prince Philip was very handsome in his heyday, a charismatic "bad-boy" who had experienced life beyond the sheltered walls of a palace. He must have seemed irresistible to the current queen when she was younger.

maccored · 24-01-2021 9:21pm

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I don't think you can control who you attract.

It just happens!

thats not really what I meant. thinking theres leagues and that someone couldnt be interested in you is probably why they mightnt be interested in you

Do dating 'leagues' exist?

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