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Do you think life is as fun for an introvert?

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    #32
    auspicious
    Registered Users Posts: 4,497 ✭✭✭auspicious


    completedit wrote: »
    Discuss

    BRB can't organise impromptu dates
    BRB find social interactions jarring even tho idea of them seems good
    BRB never really getting to know people

    Introversion is good but life seems funner as an extro

    Why is Be Right Back so controversial now?


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    #33
    Strumms
    Registered Users Posts: 24,807 ✭✭✭✭Strumms


    Spanish Eyes wrote: »
    Introverts like myself cope far better with lockdowns. But extros may find it difficult.

    A hell of a lot of people who post on discussion boards are loners and enjoy the interraction without having to physically do it.

    We are all diiferent, but I am happy.

    I’m in between. As in I’m genuinely extremely picky who I accept into my trusted circle or circle of friends, I gots burned by a couple of good friends in my teens... I don’t have a massive need for 24 hour human contact in fact I find anyone who does to be weird. My friends now may not number many but you could rely on them, bet the house on them not to fûck me or anybody over, they will watch my back as i theirs.

    I’ve coped grand with lockdown, my Dad, an outright extravert has not. His head is melted without his friends and family meetups. I don’t think that’s a great way to be.


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    #34
    bobbyy gee
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    They live sad introverted lives


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    #35
    mdwexford
    Registered Users Posts: 11,274 ✭✭✭✭mdwexford


    Social distancing and working from home are an introverts dream. Continue on like this forever please.


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    #36
    Stovepipe
    Registered Users Posts: 2,979 ✭✭✭Stovepipe


    Ah,I'll tell ya, as an introvert and former weak kid, I have several close friends who are absolute gold dust and they have got me out of my shell and I enjoy life much more. I'm married with two wonderful daughters and a fantastic wife but there are times when I want to be on my own and there are other times when I want to be surrounded. I went through a period when I was deeply alone, after a breakup and it was a corner of hell. I have also had other incidents in my life that shook me to the core and quite simply,good friends got me through. Company is ultimately better than solitude. Loneliness is a deep,deep ballache of the worst kind.


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    #37
    Stovepipe
    Registered Users Posts: 2,979 ✭✭✭Stovepipe


    some of that unwillingness to deal with people is snobbery and contempt. I knew a woman who worked in retail and she basically hated people and would treat the person walking in form the street in such a shabby fashion. She worked in one of the high end shops in Grafton street and people thought being treated in such an offhand manner was normal for G Street. She kept getting sacked from retail shops until her parents took her aside and made it clear that the money stream from home was going to run out...she, in fairness,made a strenuous effort to deal with customers properly but, fundamentally, she hated people.


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    #38
    zuhuraswa
    Registered Users Posts: 94 ✭✭zuhuraswa


    Stovepipe wrote:
    Ah,I'll tell ya, as an introvert and former weak kid, I have several close friends who are absolute gold dust and they have got me out of my shell and I enjoy life much more. I'm married with two wonderful daughters and a fantastic wife but there are times when I want to be on my own and there are other times when I want to be surrounded. I went through a period when I was deeply alone, after a breakup and it was a corner of hell. I have also had other incidents in my life that shook me to the core and quite simply,good friends got me through. Company is ultimately better than solitude. Loneliness is a deep,deep ballache of the worst kind.


    I think that's where people go wrong. There's a big difference between being alone and being lonely.
    You can be in a social setting, or even a relationship, yet you are very lonely.
    Most introverts like myself, enjoy our time alone, but by no means lonely.
    If you are alone because you don't have people or friends to hang out with, it doesn't make you an introvert.
    I'm an introvert with friends and colleagues whom I hang out with after work, but I pick and choose this activity in very small and spaced sessions. I'd much prefer doing these activities alone. It's a choice, not that I'm shy, not that I don't have friends, not that I feel lonely. Infact it's the opposite, I'm quite content with my own company. When I want to meet a friend for lunch, I do so. But I can easily (and happily at that) spend all weekend by myself and my hobbies and feel so rejuvenated to deal with colleagues or work or friends or whatever other social interaction is planned for the other week ahead


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    #39
    bazz26
    Registered Users Posts: 51,114 ✭✭✭✭bazz26


    bobbyy gee wrote: »
    They live sad introverted lives

    You sound very threatened or bothered by them. You seem insecure.


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    #40
    Strumms
    Registered Users Posts: 24,807 ✭✭✭✭Strumms


    I remember when I was working for the training department of a multinational, i and others would jump on hot coals to get a trip abroad for work. It was all expenses paid, four star or good three star hotel... Barcelona, Madrid, Valencia, London, Rome, Paris, Stockholm... 99% of trips, one week and solo.....

    It was my job to organize them, one older guy just HATED the idea, of being sent to Madrid in May, one of the most culturally vibrant and interesting and fun cities...

    Flight, food, Hilton / Radisson hotel, entertainment allowance expenses, ALL that and food paid for...

    This dude would hate the idea... “can’t stand being away, on my own, away from the guys, I’ll be alone, I don’t know if anybody there”

    I and others, would bite your hand off.


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    #41
    Aglomerado
    Registered Users Posts: 5,761 ✭✭✭Aglomerado


    I'm very introverted and I live alone. Generally very happy in life with my hobbies and solo travel, gigs etc. 2020 has been very different for me on the last two however.

    I'm working from home since March which I enjoy most of the time but sometimes I have to make an effort to get out in order to avoid becoming lonely. Even though office small talk bores me to tears I miss seeing many of my funnier colleagues in person. Phone calls do not cut it!

    I have a good but fragmented (most don't know each other) circle of friends but I enjoy meeting new people through group activities; e.g. hiking. I can come out of myself even with strangers if there's a common interest. It's a more superficial connection than that I have with actual friends however. I notice some people love to make themselves seem more popular by talking about how many friends they have (even superficial acquaintances) but to me a friend is a person who knows everything about me (Even where I have buried the bodies! :D) and still likes me!

    I detest occasions like weddings and birthday parties but I have no problem giving a presentation to 100+ people for work. I'll jump at the chance to travel for work too (Brussels mostly, but I love beer!).

    I'm a little 'odd' certainly but by no means unhappy or not having fun!


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    #42
    MarkR
    Moderators, Regional Midwest Moderators Posts: 11,054 Mod ✭✭✭✭MarkR


    Two pages in, and I've no idea what BRB stands for. Are ye all in a club or something?

    I even searched for definitions!
    Acronym Definition
    BRB Be Right Back (chat/slang)
    BRB Barbados (ISO Country code)
    BRB Brandenburg
    BRB Birmingham Royal Ballet
    BRB Be Right Back
    BRB Benefits Review Board (US Department of Labor)
    BRB Brienz Rothorn Bahn (Swiss railway)
    BRB British Railways Board
    BRB Bond Review Board (Texas)
    BRB Banque de la République du Burundi (Central Bank of Burundi)
    BRB Bar Room Bar (UK)
    BRB Bathroom Break (chat)
    BRB Big Red Button
    BRB Benelux Research Business
    BRB Biometric Research Branch
    BRB Brigade de Répression du Banditisme (French police)
    BRB Builders Registration Board (AU)
    BRB Buckling-Restrained Brace (engineering)
    BRB Big Red Balls (gaming)
    BRB Brazilian Rainbow Boa (herpetoculture)
    BRB Butler Rogers Baskett Architects
    BRB Bright Red Blood (medical)
    BRB Benzodiazepine Receptor Binding
    BRB Bath Room Break
    BRB Blue Ridge Broadcasting
    BRB Business Research Bureau
    BRB Blue Ridge Boogie
    BRB Busy Rescuing Batman
    BRB Black River Boats
    BRB Baseline Review Board (US Navy)
    BRB Budget Review Board
    BRB Briggs Rainbow Buildings, Inc.
    BRB Biweekly Rate Booklet
    BRB Base Rate Boundary
    BRB Bug Review Board
    BRB Brittany Rolled Baits
    BRB Business Reducing Barriers (UK)
    BRB Big Red Band
    BRB Bernard and Audre Rapoport Building (University of Texas, Austin)
    BRB Bayerische Regionalbahn (German: Bavarian Regional Rail; Bavaria, Germany)
    BRB Bongibault Rénovation Bâtiment (French building renovation company)
    BRB Black Raid Bulls (French airsoft club)
    BRB Batteries de Renseignement de Brigade (French armed forces unit)
    BRB Banco Regional de Brasília SA (Brazilian bank)
    BRB Buried Ruins of Bacaba (gaming, Outwar Zone)
    BRB Baguio Realtors Board (Philippines)

    This seems like some clique **** that I'm not up on.


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    #43
    TuringBot47
    Registered Users Posts: 991 ✭✭✭TuringBot47


    People can be content as introverts.
    They may be happy in their comfort zone but it's always good to challenge yourself and push your boundaries now and again.

    I suppose it depends on whether you're an introvert due to confidence, conversation or shyness issues or by choice and happy with your own company.

    Also depends on your age. Introverts in their 20s are probably missing out more than middle aged people.


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    #44
    Potential-Monke
    Registered Users Posts: 13,807 ✭✭✭✭Potential-Monke


    I think most of us are just ignoring BRB, treating it like a - more than anything. To me it means be right back, but that don't make sense, so I'm ignoring it.


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    #45
    kowloonkev
    Registered Users Posts: 2,120 ✭✭✭kowloonkev


    What would introverts be missing out on? Overpriced alcohol and people being fake at social gatherings?

    Introverts are smart and avoid bulls**t. Yes they probably will never be high up in certain careers but probably wouldn't be interested in those careers anyway.

    Introverts are very observant and can see the fakeness of people and have an inward chuckle at it and it's like a radar for knowing who is an ass.

    They would also be less prone to mental health problems and suicide.


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    #46
    y0ssar1an22
    Registered Users Posts: 16,026 ✭✭✭✭y0ssar1an22


    completedit wrote: »
    Discuss

    BRB can't organise impromptu dates
    BRB find social interactions jarring even tho idea of them seems good
    BRB never really getting to know people

    Introversion is good but life seems funner as an extro

    the fact you asked that question with mirth, tells me 1 of 2 things:

    not an ounce of empathy

    trying to billy big balls


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    #47
    Wanderer78
    Registered Users Posts: 28,805 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    kowloonkev wrote:
    What would introverts be missing out on? Overpriced alcohol and people being fake at social gatherings?

    I cannot speak for all introverts, but I would not call extraverts fake, they are also who they are, they're just enjoying themselves in social situations, we all act to some degree, while in such situations
    kowloonkev wrote:
    Introverts are very observant and can see the fakeness of people and have an inward chuckle at it and it's like a radar for knowing who is an ass.

    Yes we can be very observant, but the world also needs the extraverts, this does not mean we are superior than others, all humans can be a$$holes at times, including myself, our ego can sometimes get the better of us.
    kowloonkev wrote:
    They would also be less prone to mental health problems and suicide.

    Interesting point, but I'd largely disagree on this one, I suspect we re actually more prone, but it's hard to know for sure


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    #48
    TheBlackPill
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    It's great being an introvert. You can be riding half of tinder and the wife suspects nothing


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    #49
    Car buyer.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16 ✭Car buyer.


    TheBlackPill wrote: »
    It's great being an introvert. You can be riding half of tinder and the wife suspects nothing

    Or you don't know she suspects


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    #50
    TheBlackPill
    Closed Accounts Posts: 321 ✭✭TheBlackPill


    kowloonkev wrote: »
    What would introverts be missing out on? Overpriced alcohol and people being fake at social gatherings?

    Introverts are smart and avoid bulls**t. Yes they probably will never be high up in certain careers but probably wouldn't be interested in those careers anyway.

    Introverts are very observant and can see the fakeness of people and have an inward chuckle at it and it's like a radar for knowing who is an ass.

    They would also be less prone to mental health problems and suicide.
    Being introverted helps a lot career wise. There is big advantage in not having to be involved in all the social crap, and distilling your interactions with people down to the high yield relationships.
    For example at a work meal doing the extroverted talking to everybody versus spending the majority getting to know the new engineer or scientist.


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    #51
    TheBlackPill
    Closed Accounts Posts: 321 ✭✭TheBlackPill


    Car buyer. wrote: »
    Or you don't know she suspects

    Either way not blowing up in my introverted face which avoids enotional drama. Benefits of marrying an introvert and only swiping the profiles high on the introversion scale


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    Car buyer.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16 ✭Car buyer.


    TheBlackPill wrote: »
    Either way not blowing up in my introverted face which avoids enotional drama. Benefits of marrying an introvert and only swiping the profiles high on the introversion scale

    Doesn't make sense though

    There'll be loads of hidden drama if you're riding half of tinder while married


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    #53
    TheBlackPill
    Closed Accounts Posts: 321 ✭✭TheBlackPill


    Car buyer. wrote: »
    Doesn't make sense though

    There'll be loads of hidden drama if you're riding half of tinder while married

    You expect logic in after hours? It mainly sh1t-posting and thanks-whoring.


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    #54
    mrcheez
    Registered Users Posts: 13,620 ✭✭✭✭mrcheez


    pappyodaniel wrote: »
    What does BRB mean?

    what does funner mean? Was this thread started by a three year old?


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    #55
    TuringBot47
    Registered Users Posts: 991 ✭✭✭TuringBot47


    TheBlackPill wrote: »
    Being introverted helps a lot career wise.

    I'm trying to think of any real situation where that is true but can't. I've worked in I.T. for over 25 years and it's traditionally seen as the home of the reclusive nerd. But you have to work in a team, cooperate, have excellent communication skills, be able to influence people, self promotion etc.

    So you greatly benefit from extrovert skills even if you just turn them on and off as needed.


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    #56
    marklazarcovic
    Registered Users Posts: 6,208 ✭✭✭marklazarcovic


    thanks to this thread ive realized by the posts,that the descriptions mirror me.. im a introvert, and im proud .. society made me this way.

    thanks guys.


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    #57
    TheBlackPill
    Closed Accounts Posts: 321 ✭✭TheBlackPill


    TuringBot47 wrote: »
    I'm trying to think of any real situation where that is true but can't. I've worked in I.T. for over 25 years and it's traditionally seen as the home of the reclusive nerd. But you have to work in a team, cooperate, have excellent communication skills, be able to influence people, self promotion etc.

    So you greatly benefit from extrovert skills even if you just turn them on and off as needed.

    Being introverted means that you are less likely to partake in the endless low yield socialising. when you find socialising difficult one tends to prioritise the more high yield one-on one relationships than playing to the crowd, that is classic extrovert. Reclusive nerd is the extreme of the introversion scale, they have prioritised their human interaction down to the obtaining of food, though a lot love the old Rustler's burger from a vending machine or the self-service till.

    A lot of extroverts have poor communication skills. they just love pressing the flesh. beyond the quick emotional buzz of the multiple interactions, very little valuable communication takes place. For example who has ever learned something useful from a politician attending a funeral?


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    #58
    completedit
    Registered Users Posts: 2,639 ✭✭✭completedit


    y0ssar1an22 wrote: »
    the fact you asked that question with mirth, tells me 1 of 2 things:

    not an ounce of empathy

    trying to billy big balls

    Clearly it was written from the point of view of someone who is an introvert. As if extros sit at home and ponder what it's like to be an introvert.

    Also empathy? It's introversion, not people's experience as a paraplegics.


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    #59
    completedit
    Registered Users Posts: 2,639 ✭✭✭completedit


    BTW, my question isn't as reductive as you think. There's even a famous book called 'Quiet' which is about being an introvert in a culture that values extroversion. A lot of introverts, especially in their younger years feel something is amiss with them.

    There has to be downsides to being an introvert, just like there are downsides to being an extrovert. One of them is that life is more passive as a result; you're less likely to impose yourself/views which is fine but it can give the feeling of just drifting through life.

    I need to read that book. I think unhappiness comes when we wrestle too much against our ingrained essence. Owning introversion is probably the key to getting over that feeling of passivity.


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    amadangomor
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,148 ✭✭✭amadangomor


    Anyone else an ambivert?

    Generally an introvert but can enjoy socialising. At times can be the life and soul of a party. Saying that when I was younger and going out a lot would prefer to go out on a Friday night and then relax for the rest of the weekend.

    Think I have a finite amount of socialising in me and it needs to get replenished.


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    #61
    mrcheez
    Registered Users Posts: 13,620 ✭✭✭✭mrcheez


    I feel the term introvert and extrovert are too black and white.

    Introvert implies negative connotations and that you aren't happy or cannot communicate EVER to large groups.

    Personally I prefer the term "Independent".

    Some people feel lonely without the company of others, I myself can take it or leave it. Perfectly happy on my own or with others as long as it serves a purpose to me.

    I've travelled the world solo and could be the life of the party at hostels when it suited me, and then perfectly satisfied collecting my thoughts privately for weeks on end in a remote camp site in Western Australia.

    I always speak up and never get dominated by "extroverts" but similarly don't actively seek out the company of others unless I'm feeling in the mood.

    Lockdown hasn't made me lonely in the slightest.

    So...neither ex or introvert...just independent :)


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