The 'trampoline wars' FG Off Topic Thread

sullivlo · 15-02-2019 11:16pm

Pter wrote: »

It's hormones and Stockholm syndrome combined. Tis a heady mix. I don't think she is doing it on purpose if that's any consolation.

Oh I know it’s not on purpose! It’s just hilarious how invisible one can become!!!

Baggly · 15-02-2019 11:17pm

sullivlo wrote:

Oh I know itâ€™s not on purpose! Itâ€™s just hilarious how invisible one can become!!!

If she runs a bank in her spare time you should take advantage of the situation and Rob said bank.

sKeith · 16-02-2019 2:43pm

sullivlo wrote: »

I hate the “AIBU” thing on mumsnet etc, but I am having a “AIBU” moment.

I have a friend. We are good friends. She has a child, and since said child was born, it’s like I have ceased to exist. I understand that the child takes precedence over absolutely everything, but it would be nice to be able to finish a sentence without being interrupted to look at something cute the child is doing.

Example. We went for lunch today. The baby is adorable and I really do like her. She’s 1. The baby was chatting to everyone, as they do, but my friend pretty much ignored me and spoke to everyone that the baby looked at to explain all about the baby, ask about their families, and just generally forgetting I existed!!! I reckon I spoke for about 6 minutes in the hour and a half that we sat for lunch.

I understand that I don’t “get” the whole “being a mammy” thing, but it feels fairly crap to be ignored so that “mammy stories” can be shared with strangers.

Unless my conversation skills are that poor!!!!!!!

The reasonable thing to do would be to put a brackets near "AIBU" (am i being unreasonable), like that, so others don't have to google it.

As for new mum, i'd liken it to a friend of yours who doesnt care for bikes meets up with you on a day you just bought a super sick new racer bike, and lots of bike lovers were walking by and complementing you on your sweet new bike.
But, this maybe happens for a day or two with a new bike, and it lasts years with children.
Either learn to like the little bags of blubber, or don't. The new mum has an attachment to the new bag of blubber that means more to her than anything she has ever 'owned' before, like maybe a magic flying multicoloured speed bike would be a close comparison.

Triceratops Ballet · 16-02-2019 4:06pm

sKeith wrote:

As for new mum, i'd liken it to a friend of yours who doesnt care for bikes meets up with you on a day you just bought a super sick new racer bike, and lots of bike lovers were walking by and complementing you on your sweet new bike. But, this maybe happens for a day or two with a new bike, and it lasts years with children. Either learn to like the little bags of blubber, or don't. The new mum has an attachment to the new bag of blubber that means more to her than anything she has ever 'owned' before, like maybe a magic flying multicoloured speed bike would be a close comparison.

I think it's more akin to being out with someone who spends an inordinate amount of time talking to other people on the phone. Obviously pay attention to your baby like, but if you want to spend time with me spend time with me not chatting to strangers or on the phone!
I believe you're not being unreasonable!

Fourier · 16-02-2019 4:11pm

The baby is controlling your friend telepathically, getting her to ignore you is the baby's way of exerting its dominance.

Baggly · 16-02-2019 4:12pm

Fours right. Classic power play

Fourier · 16-02-2019 4:18pm

Exactly and also sKeith above has said the baby is a bag of blubber, this means it's a cetacean and thus has an advantage in water combat. That sounds like a tough opponent. I'm not going to lie to you sullivlo, I don't like your odds. Good luck.

sullivlo · 16-02-2019 4:47pm

Triceratops Ballet wrote: »

I think it's more akin to being out with someone who spends an inordinate amount of time talking to other people on the phone. Obviously pay attention to your baby like, but if you want to spend time with me spend time with me not chatting to strangers or on the phone!
I believe you're not being unreasonable!

This. She had the following conversations while i was there:
- the man beside us: just a quick “she’s fascinated by your beard” type of conversation
- the waiter(s): we were ages waiting to order food because the waiters all had to have a cuddle with the baby
- a woman she knows: twice, 2 minutes the first time, longer the second time
- the women at the next table: entire life story. I know more about those two women than I ever needed
- the owner of the coffee shop: 4 minutes (I made a phone call for this one)
- another waitress: discussing how she looks like someone she knows, and then spent ages finding photos to show her to compare

All of this in 1h30m. I have a lot of RL stuff going on. She knows, but didn’t once ask about any of it.

And Keith - absolutely not like a new bike!! It wasn’t the kid that was the issue - I love the kid. Had it been an opportunity for me to sit and chat to the kid, I would have been fine with that. I was essentially ignored for the entire time we were there.

Banjo · 16-02-2019 4:50pm

Triceratops Ballet wrote: »

I think it's more akin to being out with someone who spends an inordinate amount of time talking to other people on the phone. Obviously pay attention to your baby like, but if you want to spend time with me spend time with me not chatting to strangers or on the phone!
I believe you're not being unreasonable!

I think that's an incredibly unfair comparison, but a lot depends on the age of the baby. It's not usually wilful neglect of adults.

Generally speaking mothers of young babies are subsistance sleeping and have nothing in their head but "baby baby baby" so it's all they're capable of talking about even if they might rather be out talking about and doing and thinking other things. Sulli, Instead of catching up with your friend, offer to take the baby while she has a lie down or god forbid a ****e with the door closed. In years to come she'll remember that you did.

sullivlo · 16-02-2019 5:00pm

Banjo wrote: »

I think that's an incredibly unfair comparison, but a lot depends on the age of the baby. It's not usually wilful neglect of adults.

Generally speaking mothers of young babies are substance sleeping and have nothing in their head but "baby baby baby" so it's all they're capable of talking about even if they might rather be out talking about and doing and thinking other things. Sulli, Instead of catching up with your friend, offer to take the baby while she has a lie down or god forbid a ****e with the door closed. In years to come she'll remember that you did.

The baby is 1. Sleeps through the night, and no matter how many times I have offered she never accepts the offer of minding the child.

When she was still a baby baby, I went to her house every Monday and let her have a shower and watched the baby.

She was perfectly capable of having a conversation with everyone else, she just ignored me!

Banjo · 16-02-2019 5:14pm

1? Feck her so!

Triceratops Ballet · 16-02-2019 5:30pm

Banjo wrote:

I think that's an incredibly unfair comparison, but a lot depends on the age of the baby. It's not usually wilful neglect of adults.

It's not really about the baby though, I have friends with newborns and obviously they pay attention to them while we're chatting. They have to, and they want to, and that's normal. It's the agreeing to go out with a friend and then ignoring said friend in order to have chats with absolute strangers about the baby. Like if you have a baby and want to talk to strangers about it, that's a totally viable option ppl love to talk to new mom's in parks etc. Just don't sit there and ignore your friends to talk to someone who literally means nothing to you

sullivlo · 16-02-2019 5:52pm

Triceratops Ballet wrote: »

It's not really about the baby though, I have friends with newborns and obviously they pay attention to them while we're chatting. They have to, and they want to, and that's normal. It's the agreeing to go out with a friend and then ignoring said friend in order to have chats with absolute strangers about the baby. Like if you have a baby and want to talk to strangers about it, that's a totally viable option ppl love to talk to new mom's in parks etc. Just don't sit there and ignore your friends to talk to someone who literally means nothing to you

Particularly when the friend has bought lunch

She asked me to go out for lunch. I obliged. She spent the entire time talking to strangers about the child. That’s my issue. Not the child.

17-02-2019 12:15pm

I never want to see a zambuca again. Ever

Triceratops Ballet · 17-02-2019 12:38pm

Strawberry Milkshake wrote: »

I never want to see a zambuca again. Ever

SHOTS SHOTS SHOTS SHOTS!!

sullivlo · 17-02-2019 12:46pm

Strawberry Milkshake wrote: »

I never want to see a zambuca again. Ever

I had that feeling the night of my 18th birthday. It never really passed.

Banjo · 17-02-2019 1:08pm

When the fire didn't kill it, that should have been warning enough....

Triceratops Ballet · 18-02-2019 12:31pm

so I'm watching this super cute video of cutie otters eating with their little handies and then into my brain pops "otters rape for fun you know"

DAMN YOU SULLY!!

Necro · 20-02-2019 3:03pm

Work likely think I'm mental now. Got a survey out from the social club about games/activites we'd participate in. Had the usual stuff on it; Draughts, Chess, Darts, Cards, Pool etc.

And in the 'Other' option Necro recommends: Werewolf, D&D and other tabletop RPGs :pac:

Baggly · 20-02-2019 3:04pm

This is how they will find out how much WW you have been playing during work Necro.

Necro · 20-02-2019 3:06pm

Pter wrote: »

This is how they will find out how much WW you have been playing during work Necro.

:eek:

Haha, strangely very little. I do more game planning at work than playing believe it or not. If someone looked at my documents they'd be wondering what the hell drugs I'm taking though :pac:

Triceratops Ballet · 20-02-2019 3:23pm

Oh I'm gonna suggest a work werewolf night!!

We're doing a GOT themed security exercise with a bunch of students this afternoon. Very Exciting!!

Necro · 20-02-2019 3:26pm

Triceratops Ballet wrote: »

Oh I'm gonna suggest a work werewolf night!!

We're doing a GOT themed security exercise with a bunch of students this afternoon. Very Exciting!!

Easy to run, no prior knowledge necessary. Oh and it can be done in a pub which is always a winner.

Was going to bring my cards to the Xmas party but then they decided to hold it on a day I wasn't around

kitten_k · 20-02-2019 3:27pm

I’m on our social committee- I can imagine the others if I suggested that! We have our Q1 social sorted but I may make a joke about it for Q2

Triceratops Ballet · 20-02-2019 3:34pm

Necro wrote: »

Easy to run, no prior knowledge necessary. Oh and it can be done in a pub which is always a winner.

Was going to bring my cards to the Xmas party but then they decided to hold it on a day I wasn't around

ah yeah I was introduced to it though my last job, we used to play at lunch time!! super easy and I've heard a few people talk about mafia so there's a certain knowledge level already. I work in tech so that required nerd factor is there!!

Necro · 21-02-2019 6:20pm

Sweet mother of exam results it's been hectic today.

Going for promotion in two separate competitions at work at the mo.

First one in round 1 (a situational questionnaire) I placed 36 and 72 for Leitrim and Sligo respectively.

Then the second one which is internal to my own place I did an aptitude test last month and got results about an hour ago.

Placed 5 for Sligo and 8 for Mayo..

Interview bound next month now it looks like for that one!

22-02-2019 12:06pm

Best of luck necro!

Your town on lock down today? My mum wanted to go visiting the rellies today of all days and I said not a hope was I driving her.

Necro · 22-02-2019 12:21pm

Strawberry Milkshake wrote:

Your town on lock down today? My mum wanted to go visiting the rellies today of all days and I said not a hope was I driving her.

Not just my town but my road as well. Live beside the graveyard so fun times :rolleyes:

Road closure in place from 10 till 5pm.

Don't do it for any other funerals, wonder why..

Sent wifey and kids to the parents house and I'm staying to mind the place in case of issues.

fixXxer · 22-02-2019 12:23pm

Who's getting buried that would cause issues?

Necro · 22-02-2019 12:25pm

fixxxer wrote:

Who's getting buried that would cause issues?

A certain murder victim from a certain community to be blunt. My house might be on the news if it's covered I could literally throw a stone and it would land in the grave :pac:

22-02-2019 12:52pm

Oh we can’t miss an opportunity to promote our forum.

Stick a banner in your window saying when the next game is on

sKeith · 22-02-2019 1:14pm

Strawberry Milkshake wrote: »

Oh we can’t miss an opportunity to promote our forum.

Stick a banner in your window saying when the next game is on

Made a quick banner

Baggly · 22-02-2019 1:14pm

Would you run the game with me, sKeith

Game like this is going to need election posters.

sKeith · 22-02-2019 1:16pm

Pter wrote: »

Would you run the game with me, sKeith

Game like this is going to need election posters.

Don't know if can handle 3 in a row .....

Baggly · 22-02-2019 1:17pm

sKeith wrote: »

Don't know if can handle 3 in a row .....

no worries sure. I might just commission you for the posters.

Honestly i was a big fan of the slogans.

sKeith · 22-02-2019 1:19pm

Pter wrote: »

no worries sure. I might just commission you for the posters.

Honestly i was a big fan of the slogans.

I just imagined, what would gordon ramsey do, and went with it, even though I only watched a few youtube nightmare kitchen videos as research.

22-02-2019 1:19pm

That’s brill Keith. Now I just need to see Lord Bucketheads before I pop down the polling station.

Baggly · 22-02-2019 1:20pm

Vote for me....ill kill a wolf, not an NRV.

Genius. It was probably my favourite part of the entire game.

sKeith · 22-02-2019 1:22pm

or the 'vote me, i'll evict loughc' one, for the rhyming.

fixXxer · 22-02-2019 2:22pm

Strawberry Milkshake wrote: »

That’s brill Keith. Now I just need to see Lord Bucketheads before I pop down the polling station.

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You guys coulda had T. Shirts but nooooooooooooo

sKeith · 22-02-2019 2:34pm

fixxxer wrote: »

You guys coulda had T. Shirts but nooooooooooooo

That youtube clip with you and elmo sharing stage with May is classic.

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Kolido · 25-02-2019 1:13pm

Necro wrote: »

Presumably most have watched Birdbox at this point? What did people think?

Quite enjoyed it. Decent character development and well paced.

fixXxer · 25-02-2019 1:41pm

Birdbox is next on the list once we finished The Umbrella Academy. Three episodes in now and enjoying it.

Mollyb60 · 27-02-2019 10:45am

Got an email this morning asking about how to get a licence for a 'Sex Cinema'. I have a feeling it's gonna be one of those days. :rolleyes:

fixXxer · 27-02-2019 10:51am

Ah here! I expect some privacy when I send in requests!

fixXxer · 27-02-2019 10:51am

Is what.... that person.... probably is thinking. :-/

Mollyb60 · 27-02-2019 10:52am

Thanks Fixxer ffs. Now I have to go look up legislation!

Necro · 28-02-2019 4:12pm

Sure is quiet around here these days...

Loughc · 04-03-2019 11:07am

Necro wrote: »

Sure is quiet around here these days...

Try being in the Christmas forum in March.... grim :pac:

fixXxer · 04-03-2019 11:34am

Even after the snow yesterday??

Bitterly disappointed we're not getting a BFTE2

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