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Did any of you ever get slapped as a child?

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,568 ✭✭✭Iseedeadpixels


    Slapped across the head, arse, arms, legs etc....
    Kicked across the legs if I didnt do as he asked quick enough....
    Thrown around rooms like a ragdoll.....
    Punched in the head, ribs or stomach if he really was angry....
    Thick leather belt across the arms, legs, or arse....

    I got the worst of it, one sibling never got touched, the others think they had it just as bad....they didnt, he had a deep hatred for me, I suffered in silence for years and only stopped when the Garda got involved, I still suffer anxiety and depression which I manage with medication and a horrible temper and tbh I've blocked a lot of it out, only found out years later that he suffered worse with his Father.

    I have a child but could never lay a hand on them no matter how bad they can get.


  • Registered Users Posts: 432 ✭✭sliabh 1956


    I got a few wallops all right back in the 60's and I deserved them all no doubt loved both my parents to bits, but our home was one of love and fun. I gave a few slaps to my own kids as well and they are both very close to me these days and we sometimes have a good laugh at those times . The difference is I suppose it was a few slaps in my case no actual violence in the sense of being beaten senseless.Looking back it thought me there were consequeces to my bad behaviour so it was a good lesson to learn as i went on in life. By no means am I under playing the awful abuse that was dished in some homes and schools during the past 30 years . I was lucky with my schooling and my Family situations.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,418 ✭✭✭Infernal Racket


    My aunt was a firm believer in sitting her 4 children down and talking through the bad or naughty things that they had done or the disrespect that they had shown. They would all nod at her and promise that it would never happen again. Then when she would leave they would laugh their heads off at how naive their mother was and they'd carry on with the bad behaviour until the next time they were sat down for a little chat. She tried every method of talking nicely and being reasonable and they promised every time that it was the last. This went on for years and years and they were the most obnoxious little sods I've ever met. They all have their own kids now who are equally as obnoxious and as disrespectful as their parents were when they were growing up as they have also received the chats when they misbehaved. My mother used to give me a sharp slap on the back of the leg when I really acted up and I learned not to do it again. I don't go around beating up people now as an adult and my kids dont go around beating or hitting people as adults. Different strokes for different folks I guess.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,055 ✭✭✭Emme


    Slapped across the head, arse, arms, legs etc....
    Kicked across the legs if I didnt do as he asked quick enough....
    Thrown around rooms like a ragdoll.....
    Punched in the head, ribs or stomach if he really was angry....
    Thick leather belt across the arms, legs, or arse....

    I got the worst of it, one sibling never got touched, the others think they had it just as bad....they didnt, he had a deep hatred for me, I suffered in silence for years and only stopped when the Garda got involved, I still suffer anxiety and depression which I manage with medication and a horrible temper and tbh I've blocked a lot of it out, only found out years later that he suffered worse with his Father.

    I have a child but could never lay a hand on them no matter how bad they can get.

    There is a difference between getting a quick slap on the hand or arm to keep you away from a hot surface or slap on the bum if you're being obnoxious and being used as a physical or emotional punchbag for your parents. I was used an an emotional punchbag by both and a physical punchbag by one. Getting told "the beating you just got isn't nearly as much as you deserve you useless bloody b****". I really feel for the poster here. What happened to me never went outside my "respectable" family but being used as a punchbag leaves scars - the physical ones may heal but the emotional ones never do. When I mentioned it as an adult on the advice of a counsellor I was told there were others worse off than me i.e. those who were sexually abused, every kid got told off and beaten anyway and I wasn't beaten or told off enough otherwise I wouldn't be questioning what was done to me!

    Some people don't realise how wrong the treatment they got was until they have children of their own which they would never treat the way they were treated as a child.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,301 ✭✭✭✭gerrybbadd


    Got plenty of the wooden spoon when i was young.

    My mother was also a great advocate of the one slap per word treatment.

    "don't *slap do *slap that *slap A *slap Gain *Slap (last word would be broken into two for the final delivery of two slaps!)


  • Registered Users Posts: 279 ✭✭shaneon77


    5 kids in a small house and I was the worst. I easily did a few things a day that deserved a slap or wooden spoon which duly arrived.
    I resented every one of them and hated my mother for it. It was very seldom that my dad slapped me but as I became a difficult teenager my behaviour got worse and my acts of defiance and lashing out were causing serious trouble in the house and beyond. He lost patience with me and I got a clatter or 2 a few times. I deserved them all and more. I made my parents and siblings lives a misery. I stood up to him when I was 14 or 15 and it ended badly for us both. I got what I wanted and proved my manliness. I never once got slapped after that but sadly I lost his trust that day and it's never really been the same some 30 years later.
    What I did I regret. I have apologized a hundred times but I fcuked up badly that day.
    His dad left when he was a month old and I spat this out as a reason why he could never be a real father, why I thought he never knew how to be a father. I broke his heart while trying to break his nose and kick his head in.
    He didn't deserve that.
    Be careful about hitting your kids. I still believe the odd clip is acceptable but it kills me every time.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,418 ✭✭✭Infernal Racket


    shaneon77 wrote: »
    5 kids in a small house and I was the worst. I easily did a few things a day that deserved a slap or wooden spoon which duly arrived.
    I resented every one of them and hated my mother for it. It was very seldom that my dad slapped me but as I became a difficult teenager my behaviour got worse and my acts of defiance and lashing out were causing serious trouble in the house and beyond. He lost patience with me and I got a clatter or 2 a few times. I deserved them all and more. I made my parents and siblings lives a misery. I stood up to him when I was 14 or 15 and it ended badly for us both. I got what I wanted and proved my manliness. I never once got slapped after that but sadly I lost his trust that day and it's never really been the same some 30 years later.
    What I did I regret. I have apologized a hundred times but I fcuked up badly that day.
    His dad left when he was a month old and I spat this out as a reason why he could never be a real father, why I thought he never knew how to be a father. I broke his heart while trying to break his nose and kick his head in.
    He didn't deserve that.
    Be careful about hitting your kids. I still believe the odd clip is acceptable but it kills me every time.

    That's a sad outcome. In your opinion, what should your parents have done differently with you back when you were young and acting up? Would reasoning with you have worked?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,029 ✭✭✭SusieBlue


    Its something I sincerely disagree with.
    It teaches children that if someone is bigger and stronger than you, you can beat them into submission by using force to get them to do what you want. That violence is a reasonable reaction to anger and frustration. It perpetuates poor communication skills.

    And its also confusing as hell, because we punish children for hitting/hurting each other, telling them its unacceptable. Which makes those who do it hypocrites - ie. its ok for someone bigger than you to hit you when they're angry, but its not ok for you to hit someone else when you're angry.
    I wouldn't hit another adult, I wouldn't hit someone else's child, so why on earth would I hit my own, my flesh and blood?

    I was hit as a child, nothing too excessive, but I remember it making me feel so frustrated...Particularly when I didn't feel I deserved it.
    I was honestly the most passive child, I didn't have and still don't have a temper, I'd be the type to burst into tears when angry rather than lash out.
    But I remember being sent to my room after getting a few slaps and the feelings of injustice and inner rage boiling up in me.
    It made me so frustrated and resentful that I wasn't even sorry for what I was done, meaning the whole thing was pointless.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 82 ✭✭misterme123


    I don't know why people make out that there is a binary choice: slaps on one side, engaging in a complex debate with a 4-year-old on the other. That's just naive.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,208 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    is_that_so wrote: »
    In the context of their life I think they are and I'd expect them to say as much. I favour intervention and support over condemnation. Works better in the long term for everyone.


    We don’t know anything about their life though? And we don’t need to know anything about their life to know that telling a three year old child they’re retarded and threatening to knock their teeth in, is contemptible behaviour. There’s no intervention necessary beyond simply telling the person to cop on to themselves. Usually that’s enough to have a person actually cop on to themselves. Works better in the long term for the child, who in that scenario is all I care about frankly.

    I do at least get where you’re coming from now though, and it’s not unlike the story of the father who was convicted of assaulting his own child earlier in the thread - the Judge in spite of all the parents sob stories had no qualms in telling them that the victim impact statement prepared by the mother made no mention of the impact of the fathers actions upon the child. Same kinda thing you’re doing - interventions and all the rest of it for the parent instead of focusing on the impact of their behaviour on the child.

    It’s wrong regardless of a persons background, and more and more the courts are acknowledging that if an adult does something wrong, any justification which suggests they didn’t know any better is no longer given the weight it once was, simply because it’s largely irrelevant. Consider if you will for example the number of people here who were themselves mistreated as children and as adults they now say that they would never harm their own children. It’s completely contradictory to the old chestnut that smacking a child teaches them that it’s acceptable to hit another person. They themselves are evidence that just isn’t true! In fact quite the opposite appears to be true - it completely turned them away from the idea of mistreating another person! You’re basically just perpetuating a myth.

    What has been discovered though, is that victims of child abuse are more likely to be victims of domestic abuse as adults! I would prefer that you didn’t just take my word for it though -


    People who were abused as children are more likely to be abused as an adult


    Whereas the figures for the numbers of people who commit violence against another person because it’s believed that’s all they know? Well, it’s a myth, but again I would prefer you didn’t just take my word for it -


    Intergenerational transmission of child abuse and neglect: Real or detection bias?


    It’s also worth noting that the most common type of child abuse experienced by victims is psychological abuse, as opposed to physical abuse -


    Prevalence of abuse during childhood by abuse category

    The reported level of abuse experienced during childhood is broadly similar for each of the abuse types1measured (Figure 1). Psychological abuse was the most frequent type of abuse experienced in childhood with nearly 1 in 10 adults reporting psychological abuse as a child (9%), although similar levels of abuse were also reported in relation to witnessing domestic violence or abuse (8%) physical abuse (7%) and any sexual assault (7%).



    It’s worth thinking about the next time you overhear similar sentiments expressed towards their children from anyone, whether it’s in McDonalds or I dunno “Chez Le Well Educated Upper Class” - the background of the perpetrator is the least relevant factor in protecting children from being abused and becoming victims of abuse in later life, and an intervention to protect the child or children can be as simple as telling the perpetrator to cop on to themselves.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,175 ✭✭✭✭Strazdas


    SusieBlue wrote: »
    Its something I sincerely disagree with.
    It teaches children that if someone is bigger and stronger than you, you can beat them into submission by using force to get them to do what you want. That violence is a reasonable reaction to anger and frustration. It perpetuates poor communication skills.

    And its also confusing as hell, because we punish children for hitting/hurting each other, telling them its unacceptable. Which makes those who do it hypocrites - ie. its ok for someone bigger than you to hit you when they're angry, but its not ok for you to hit someone else when you're angry.
    I wouldn't hit another adult, I wouldn't hit someone else's child, so why on earth would I hit my own, my flesh and blood?

    I was hit as a child, nothing too excessive, but I remember it making me feel so frustrated...Particularly when I didn't feel I deserved it.
    I was honestly the most passive child, I didn't have and still don't have a temper, I'd be the type to burst into tears when angry rather than lash out.
    But I remember being sent to my room after getting a few slaps and the feelings of injustice and inner rage boiling up in me.
    It made me so frustrated and resentful that I wasn't even sorry for what I was done, meaning the whole thing was pointless.

    I have serious doubts it leads to any respect for the parents. A parent can be firm, decisive, assertive etc with their children without resorting to hitting them.

    My gut feeling is that it puts up a barrier between the parent and child. I keep hearing people claiming how their parents loved them but how they were occasionally physically 'disciplined'. I can't see how using violence could do anything but intrude on the closeness of the relationship and fuel resentment.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 163 ✭✭PinotNero


    Grover Cleveland spanked me on two non-consecutive occasions.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,131 ✭✭✭Ms2011


    SusieBlue wrote: »
    But I remember being sent to my room after getting a few slaps and the feelings of injustice and inner rage boiling up in me.
    It made me so frustrated and resentful that I wasn't even sorry for what I was done, meaning the whole thing was pointless.

    I remember feeling like this after being grounded or having a possession taken from me so I don't think it just stemed from the slap but more from feeling like you hadn't been listened to or at least that was how it was for me.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,850 ✭✭✭Stop moaning ffs


    janfebmar wrote: »
    I got hit on the head by a catholic teacher in school.

    How do you know he was catholic? What has his religion got to do with it?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,177 ✭✭✭Wompa1


    How do you know he was catholic? What has his religion got to do with it?

    All of the teachers who hit me were Catholic. Most of them Priests or Nuns. Religion has a lot to do with it.


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,850 ✭✭✭Stop moaning ffs


    Wompa1 wrote: »
    All of the teachers who hit me were Catholic. Most of them Priests or Nuns. Religion has a lot to do with it.

    Very odd element of the story to remember though no?
    You dont hear ‘a catholic teacher hit me!’
    Why specifically pick out the religion?

    Another matter entirely if it read ‘a Christian brother bate the living daylights out of us!’
    We’ve all heard that and some been through it.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,691 ✭✭✭4ensic15



    Another matter entirely if it read ‘a Christian brother bate the living daylights out of us!’
    We’ve all heard that and some been through it.

    Christian brothers were paid to do it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,546 ✭✭✭✭Poor Uncle Tom


    Still have marks on my back....


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,850 ✭✭✭Stop moaning ffs


    They were a specialist kind of evil.

    Did they get paid extra for the groping

    They sure got away with it


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,576 ✭✭✭Paddy Cow


    Thumpette wrote: »
    I remember one of the main reasons I got slapped was for being clumsy. I was forever falling and really hurting myself and their response was to hit me for it.
    Thankfully times have moved on and nowadays overly clumsy kids are tested for dyspraxia.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,034 ✭✭✭mad muffin


    Slapped. Smacked. Slipper. Belt.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,850 ✭✭✭Stop moaning ffs


    Quote: janfebmar
    I got hit on the head by a catholic teacher in school.

    What’s his religion got to do with it?

    Still waiting on an answer to this jan?

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  • Registered Users Posts: 582 ✭✭✭Hobosan


    My mother would strike me and it did no harm. In fact it was so effective as a disciplinary device that when she'd act up during her dementia years, I'd give her a good smack aswell.

    Oh wait, I didn't do that because I'm not an idiotic sadist.


  • Registered Users Posts: 443 ✭✭DaeryssaOne


    Never any slaps in my own house but grew up watching my aunt and uncle leathering my cousins for any slight misdemeanor.
    They weren't actual beatings but they also weren't the occasional disciplinary slap and they were often accompanied with psychological abuse particularly on my younger cousin who was a bit of a wild child (but really just an overly energetic 5 year old)

    I was always petrified I'd get a belt too seeing as all of us would be causing trouble together but they knew not to hit me.

    It was many years later when I told my mother what used to go on in their house and she was completely shocked, naively as a child I had assumed she just knew what they were like.


  • Registered Users Posts: 41 RiCriostoir


    Did I what? We had the "5 Fingers" which was the typical slap, or the "Wooden Spoon" Or "THE SPOON". The minute you heard that drawer open you went running.

    Did I ever think it was wrong? No never.
    Did I deserve it? Yeah
    Did it teach me not to do it again? Sure did


  • Registered Users Posts: 582 ✭✭✭Hobosan


    gerrybbadd wrote: »
    Got plenty of the wooden spoon when i was young.

    My mother was also a great advocate of the one slap per word treatment.

    "don't *slap do *slap that *slap A *slap Gain *Slap (last word would be broken into two for the final delivery of two slaps!)

    Imagine what she went through in school if she's incapable of separating the teaching of syllables and corporal punishment!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,153 ✭✭✭jimbobaloobob


    Did I what? We had the "5 Fingers" which was the typical slap, or the "Wooden Spoon" Or "THE SPOON". The minute you heard that drawer open you went running.

    Did I ever think it was wrong? No never.
    Did I deserve it? Yeah
    Did it teach me not to do it again? Sure did


    Will you ever forget it?


  • Registered Users Posts: 41 RiCriostoir


    Will you ever forget it?

    Forget what?:confused:;)


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 71 ✭✭ZilkyG


    "getting a clattering" we called it!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,424 ✭✭✭janfebmar


    ZilkyG wrote: »
    "getting a clattering" we called it!

    I'll never forget it anyway, but it was a lot of decades ago, thankfully schools are a lot different now and teachers would not get away with hitting children nowadays.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,881 ✭✭✭Peatys


    Strazdas wrote: »
    I have serious doubts it leads to any respect for the parents. A parent can be firm, decisive, assertive etc with their children without resorting to hitting them

    It's amazing the amount of people who don't know this. Quick to raise the hand to the defenceless. I don't want to know anything about them. Citing the laws that show it's not illegal yet. Ffs.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,519 ✭✭✭✭whisky_galore


    All it taught me was that it was ok to hit someone smaller than you.

    Really resented the slaps given out in school. Still do. Whatever about at home, getting a wallop from someone who was neither your father nor mother was clearly out of order.


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,003 ✭✭✭Hammer89


    My da spanked me this one time when I was eight or nine. He slapped my bare arse so hard that palm readers could read his fortune by looking at the cheek. It sort of f*cked me up.

    I was at a birthday party and my mam had given me an envelope full of money to pay someone at the party, but it disappeared and I started to panic. My da put two and two together and convinced himself that I robbed the money. I remember begging him in the car home, crying to the point of breathlessness because I knew what was coming. He took me round the side of the house, pulled my little trousers down and walloped my poor arse.

    The enveleope was found on the bouncing castle some hours later. According to my mam years later he cried when he found out that I hadn't taken it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    yup


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,094 ✭✭✭Liamario


    I did, got pinched slapped with belt and poker. I never deserved. It was always done out of anger on their part and their anger wasn't caused by me. I just happened to be the straw. Too many kids and really weren't able for the. And yes, it did do me harm on an emotion level.
    Hammer89 wrote: »
    My da spanked me this one time when I was eight or nine. He slapped my bare arse so hard that palm readers could read his fortune by looking at the cheek. It sort of f*cked me up.

    I was at a birthday party and my mam had given me an envelope full of money to pay someone at the party, but it disappeared and I started to panic. My da put two and two together and convinced himself that I robbed the money. I remember begging him in the car home, crying to the point of breathlessness because I knew what was coming. He took me round the side of the house, pulled my little trousers down and walloped my poor arse.

    The enveleope was found on the bouncing castle some hours later. According to my mam years later he cried when he found out that I hadn't taken it.

    That's **** man. At least he felt remorse for it. Sorry you went through that.


  • Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,947 Mod ✭✭✭✭Neyite


    We got hit as a default consequence of bad behaviour. There were sticks specifically for that purpose in our house.

    It was definitely as a result of anger and poor parenting and I don't say that with the benefit of looking back resentfully from my high horse - my mother admitted that's what it was. It was the only discipline method they knew at the time. The beatings that we got were far more lenient than what they got in their day, we had it soft compared to them. However, once they started to see different parenting techniques emerge in the late 80s' and a bit more understanding of child behaviour and development they did change their methods and came to regret ever using physical punishment, especially when they saw their grandchildren grow up well behaved and be good kids without being smacked.

    If we expect that the childminder or teacher who has our children for a large portion of their every day have enough skill in managing large groups of children yet never lift a hand to our children then we should hold ourselves to that same standard.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,331 ✭✭✭Keyzer


    Got a full force dig in the head once... I deserved it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,094 ✭✭✭Liamario


    Keyzer wrote: »
    Got a full force dig in the head once... I deserved it.

    What did you do that deserved a punch from your father.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,576 ✭✭✭Paddy Cow


    Hammer89 wrote: »

    The enveleope was found on the bouncing castle some hours later. According to my mam years later he cried when he found out that I hadn't taken it.
    Did he not apologise to you at the time?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,576 ✭✭✭Paddy Cow


    Neyite wrote: »

    If we expect that the childminder or teacher who has our children for a large portion of their every day have enough skill in managing large groups of children yet never lift a hand to our children then we should hold ourselves to that same standard.
    That's exactly how I feel about it. If someone wouldn't be happy for another adult to discipline their child by smacking, why is it ok for them?


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 90 ✭✭rireland


    As someone who got slapped when doing something wrong, I support it.

    No child is going to learn by being sent to a naughty step.

    Kids need to learn there is a punishment for wrong actions. Sending them to a step or corner is nonsense. There's no punishment there. If you break a rule in school you get sent to detention or given extra homework.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 90 ✭✭rireland


    Paddy Cow wrote: »
    That's exactly how I feel about it. If someone wouldn't be happy for another adult to discipline their child by smacking, why is it ok for them?

    It's kind of obvious why. A teacher could show bias. We all know teachers have favourites.

    A parent also knows the force required to adequately punish them.


  • Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,947 Mod ✭✭✭✭Neyite


    Paddy Cow wrote: »
    That's exactly how I feel about it. If someone wouldn't be happy for another adult to discipline their child by smacking, why is it ok for them?

    I remember smacking my toddler on the back of the legs just once. It was barely a tap and he laughed in my face before going right back to the very thing I was trying to get him to stop dong so it was obviously a highly effective discipline tool. :rolleyes:

    But I felt awful - I still feel awful about it. I knew that in that moment I smacked because I lost control. Because my anger and frustration were driving it, not his [perfectly normal for a toddler] behaviour. So I went and talked to a wise friend who is also a mother, and I found out a few things to try instead of that and one of them was effective. But I'll never forget that shame in realising I'd done what I vowed I'd never do.

    Our lovely creche manager was blunt in saying that if you couldn't discipline or correct a child's behaviour as if their mother and father were standing right there, then childcare is not the career for you. And I figured if they can manage it, so should I.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,094 ✭✭✭Liamario


    rireland wrote: »
    As someone who got slapped when doing something wrong, I support it.

    No child is going to learn by being sent to a naughty step.

    Kids need to learn there is a punishment for wrong actions. Sending them to a step or corner is nonsense. There's no punishment there. If you break a rule in school you get sent to detention or given extra homework.

    You're talking ****. Maybe your parental technique involves hitting your kids, but most others in 2019 don't. My eldest son was never hit and is constantly complimented on his behaviour.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 90 ✭✭rireland


    Liamario wrote: »
    You're talking ****. Maybe your parental technique involves hitting your kids, but most others in 2019 don't. My eldest son was never hit and is constantly complimented on his behaviour.

    What age is he?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,094 ✭✭✭Liamario


    He's 7 now. His age is irrelevant. Kids are all completely different and can act up at any age.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 90 ✭✭rireland


    Liamario wrote: »
    He's 7 now. His age is irrelevant. Kids are all completely different and can act up at any age.

    7 is far too early to judge.

    How do you punish him then?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,094 ✭✭✭Liamario


    rireland wrote: »
    7 is far too early to judge.

    How do you punish him then?

    Plenty of 7 years old lacking discipline.

    There's no naughty step involved, that only really works when they're younger. But you do need to know what drives them, you need them to know consequences if they don't do as they're told and then there needs to be follow through when they misbehave. It's about consistency and a little bit of exceeding their expectations as to their punishment when they try it on.


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,003 ✭✭✭Hammer89


    Paddy Cow wrote: »
    Did he not apologise to you at the time?

    No.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,029 ✭✭✭SusieBlue


    rireland wrote: »
    7 is far too early to judge.

    How do you punish him then?

    Exerting you control by inflicting physical pain on small children is not an appropriate punishment. Anything is better than hitting them.


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