The Online Dating Thread Part II Mod Warning Read First Post/or Post 7389

KTRIC · 29-03-2012 10:57am

awec wrote: »

So why is she on a dating site?

No idea but she just disabled her profile because there was a guy on the site she previously dated and told him she didn't want a relationship, so for him not to see her profile she disabled it !!! I'm really confused.

I don't know why you would string a guy a long on a dating site to be "just friends" :rolleyes:

andreac · 29-03-2012 11:04am

KTRIC wrote: »

No idea but she just disabled her profile because there was a guy on the site she previously dated and told him she didn't want a relationship, so for him not to see her profile she disabled it !!! I'm really confused.

I don't know why you would string a guy a long on a dating site to be "just friends" :rolleyes:

To me its just a cop out or easy way of saying i dont fancy you. Or could be seeing how it goes and then waiting for something better to come along or meeting up with several people.

Maguined · 29-03-2012 11:09am

chatterpillar wrote: »

But sure he only injured it the night before? Could've been out drinking, and only injured it after he'd been talking to her. Because he rang her after, I'd be inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt here.

You are more forgiving than I am so. She texted him at 10pm the night and he didn't mention it. She posted up here shortly after receiving the text from him around 5pm on the date night if he hurt his ankle the night before I would still expect someone to tell me before 5pm for some consideration. At 5pm you are finishing your day and might have been getting excited about the date all night so to only be told at the last minute he is cancelling when he hurt it the night before still smacks of inconsideration to me.

But maybe I am just getting bitter and cranky in my old age. :pac:

booboo88 · 29-03-2012 11:26am

JimBob777 wrote: »

dont feel sorry for yourself, its not healthy..instead look at the things your doing wrong potentially, choice of pictures, is your profile interesting enough, are you trying too hard to impress someone with it or your messages?
theirs always room for improvement, if somethings not working, nothing to lose by changing it up a bit...
hope this helps

Im not feeling sorry for myself, I just know when something doesnt work, and Im not one for flogging a dead horse.

Armaghmagic · 29-03-2012 11:50am

Is there a way of checking out people with your profession (teacher in my case)?

Also has there been any cases of 2 boards.ie members "getting it together"??

29-03-2012 12:05pm

There's been many cases of boardsies hooking up. But just be wary that it is somewhat frowned upon (when done in "open" - I say open, as opposed to the private forums) as boards isn't a dating site.

Galvasean · 29-03-2012 1:01pm

Galvasean wrote: »

Date for tomorrow confirmed. Looking forward to that.

That went well. Had a few drinks in the sun. Haven't gotten any word back from her after I texted her on the way home saying it would be nice to do something like that again. Will probablyend up adding this to the list of 'enjoyable first dates that did not lead to a second'. Was still a fun though. Not like I had any other plans (audition notwithstanding).

Armaghmagic · 29-03-2012 1:05pm

Deleted User wrote: »

There's been many cases of boardsies hooking up. But just be wary that it is somewhat frowned upon (when done in "open" - I say open, as opposed to the private forums) as boards isn't a dating site.

How do you get onto the private forums.......women are messing with my head on POF at the minute! Meeting up a few times and then NOTHING!!

The Big Red Button · 29-03-2012 1:26pm

Maguined wrote: »

You are more forgiving than I am so. She texted him at 10pm the night and he didn't mention it. She posted up here shortly after receiving the text from him around 5pm on the date night if he hurt his ankle the night before I would still expect someone to tell me before 5pm for some consideration. At 5pm you are finishing your day and might have been getting excited about the date all night so to only be told at the last minute he is cancelling when he hurt it the night before still smacks of inconsideration to me.

But maybe I am just getting bitter and cranky in my old age. :pac:

But sure maybe he was hoping all day that it would improve enough that he wouldn't have to cancel?

I do get where you're coming from, but if I liked the guy, I'd probably give him a second chance!

Honey-ec · 29-03-2012 1:30pm

chatterpillar wrote: »

But sure maybe he was hoping all day that it would improve enough that he wouldn't have to cancel?

That's what he said alright.

chatterpillar wrote: »

I do get where you're coming from, but if I liked the guy, I'd probably give him a second chance!

I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt this time, but if it happens again, I'm cutting him loose!

KTRIC · 29-03-2012 3:54pm

Had a date last night and another date with a different lady tonight. Very keen about this one

ecoli · 29-03-2012 5:41pm

booboo88 wrote: »

Im not feeling sorry for myself, I just know when something doesnt work, and Im not one for flogging a dead horse.

I think it depends on the approach you take. If you see OD as the primary way to meet people you are going to be consumed by over analysing of non responses and profile visits.

Better to live your life as normal and drop in occasionally on your page. Its should supplement your social life not become the focal point.

I approached it this way in the past but since then have lightened up. Only pop on once every few days have a gander around send a mail or two if I come across someone I like but expect a non response (due to fact I would say IMO there is about 1 in five chance of a response). These days If I get converstation out of it or even a date its a bonus but my life doesnt stop because of it.

The more involved in it you become the more it dents your confidence so why let yourself get into that situation

At the same time though what harm is it leaving it up even if you dont check that often. Only takes one random matchup on them sites to find someone worth finding (better chances than the lotto without any work:D)

29-03-2012 7:52pm

Armaghmagic wrote: »

How do you get onto the private forums.......women are messing with my head on POF at the minute! Meeting up a few times and then NOTHING!!

Depends on the private forum. Some you have to PM the mod of and others you have to be invited to.

Larianne · 29-03-2012 7:55pm

Armaghmagic wrote: »

How do you get onto the private forums.......women are messing with my head on POF at the minute! Meeting up a few times and then NOTHING!!

You're not going to be let into a private forum just to access female boardsies. :cool:

POF messes with most peoples head (Have you read this thread?!).

Maybe take a break from the online dating for a while. It does get to most people after a while.

That_Guy · 29-03-2012 9:40pm

Armaghmagic wrote: »

Just wondering would it be easier to meet people off this then get chatting on POF?

Male, 25, Louth

Deal breaker tbh. :pac:

That_Guy · 29-03-2012 9:42pm

Usually Larianne asks it but.....

Who's got a date lined up this weekend then?

tatumkelly · 29-03-2012 10:28pm

Not yet... but I'm hopeful

KTRIC · 29-03-2012 11:33pm

Just in the door from a date and dammmmn , she's fine

intelligent, bubbly and well edumacated . Me thinks there'll be more.

tatumkelly · 29-03-2012 11:34pm

YAY....delighted for you

Larianne · 29-03-2012 11:36pm

That_Guy wrote: »

Usually Larianne asks it but.....

Who's got a date lined up this weekend then?

Damn you!!!!

KTRIC wrote: »

Just in the door from a date and dammmmn , she's fine intelligent, bubbly and well edumacated . Me thinks there'll be more.

Ah, that's great.

Anny Hall · 29-03-2012 11:40pm

Hi there,

Hope you don't mind if I join in here. Have really enjoyed reading some of the posts. Am so glad that it's not just me who finds the whole online thing a minefield!

Thought I had hit the jackpot when first guy seemed great. We emailed everyday for a week and then arranged phone call which never happened and zero contact since. The going suddenly cold thing is a pain but guess to be expected!

One thing about internet can disguise poor social skills easily. Was in touch with this guy who seemed well rounded, lots of interests etc but when we met he was as dull as dish water, with nothing to say for himself! Heart sank, zero social skills.

All in all a mixed bag. Keep expectations low!

That_Guy · 30-03-2012 12:32am

KTRIC wrote: »

Just in the door from a date and dammmmn , she's fine intelligent, bubbly and well edumacated . Me thinks there'll be more.

Glad to hear mate. Best of luck.

Galvasean · 30-03-2012 2:20am

The awkward moment when one of your best friends' little sister views your POF profile...

Maguined · 30-03-2012 9:30am

Galvasean wrote: »

The awkward moment when one of your best friends' little sister views your POF profile...

She is cute isn't she for extra bonus awkward points.

doncarlos · 30-03-2012 9:36am

Galvasean wrote: »

The awkward moment when one of your best friends' little sister views your POF profile...

Hope you didn't click in to her profile or it'll look like your interested!

Galvasean · 30-03-2012 11:03am

Maguined wrote: »

She is cute isn't she for extra bonus awkward points.

It doesn't matter.

doncarlos wrote: »

Hope you didn't click in to her profile or it'll look like your interested!

No no no, girls look at your profile when they're interested in the hope that you mail them back. Boys send 17 messages when interested in a girl. That's how it works!

the_syco · 30-03-2012 11:12am

doncarlos wrote: »

Hope you didn't click in to her profile or it'll look like your interested!

Oh, I'm betting he did, "to make sure it's her" :P

Galvasean · 30-03-2012 11:14am

the_syco wrote: »

Oh, I'm betting he did, "to make sure it's her" :P

More like, "Hello potentially cute thumbnail girl.. let's have a looksie... ah no!"
Like when someone you went out with before changes their profiler and you don't realise it's them and then you look all stalkery >_<

Maguined · 30-03-2012 11:23am

Galvasean wrote: »

More like, "Hello potentially cute thumbnail girl.. let's have a looksie... ah no!"
Like when someone you went out with before changes their profiler and you don't realise it's them and then you look all stalkery >_<

Yeah I must look like a total stalker as whenever bored in meetings in work or work in general I sit back and look at profiles on my phone for a bit of a browse, so many people change their photos regularly enough that I don't realise I have already seen their profile before I open it up. I must have checked out some profiles a couple of times a week by accident.

Semele · 30-03-2012 12:00pm

Rather entertaining date last night with someone I didn't have high hopes for but turned out to be both better-looking and nicer than he'd seemed online. It was only a quick drink as he had to be somewhere else after but there was lots of flirting and a bit of a kiss from him at the end- admittedly very soon but pulled off in such a light-hearted and cheeky way it made me laugh:D No firm plans to meet again but I'm sure we will be...

Got rather excited yesterday at having 2 new messages- checked them and one is from a guy I ill-advisedly kissed at a party 3 years ago (and still shudder at the thought of) and the other was from the guy my friend is currently dating:rolleyes: Gah.

tatumkelly · 30-03-2012 12:51pm

Ah why do people use sites like that if they're in a relationship :rolleyes: Cheaters disgust me.... I'd be happy out with one gorgeous, rich, funny, charming heir to the throne... simple tastes

I came across my best friend's boyfriend on the site before, I'd only met him twice at this stage so he didn't recognise me and mailed me. I rang my friend so fast!!! :eek:

Galvasean · 30-03-2012 1:41pm

^^ Wow, that's horrible. You did the right thing though.

KTRIC · 30-03-2012 1:50pm

tatumkelly wrote: »

Ah why do people use sites like that if they're in a relationship :rolleyes: Cheaters disgust me.... I'd be happy out with one gorgeous, rich, funny, charming heir to the throne... simple tastes

I came across my best friend's boyfriend on the site before, I'd only met him twice at this stage so he didn't recognise me and mailed me. I rang my friend so fast!!! :eek:

What did she say?

tatumkelly · 30-03-2012 2:07pm

She ripped the piss out me for being on POF, and then got rid of him

Larianne · 30-03-2012 4:10pm

That_Guy wrote: »

Usually Larianne asks it but.....

Who's got a date lined up this weekend then?

I may have one tonight.

Maybe.

KTRIC · 30-03-2012 4:48pm

I have one for tomorrow :-)

Larianne · 30-03-2012 4:51pm

KTRIC wrote: »

I have one for tomorrow :-)

Same girl from last night's date?

silvervixen84 · 30-03-2012 5:23pm

I've just confirmed one for Sunday

KTRIC · 30-03-2012 6:38pm

Larianne wrote: »

KTRIC wrote: »

I have one for tomorrow :-)

Same girl from last night's date?

Yup, she hadn't coped on I'm nuts yet thankfully

roro_utd · 30-03-2012 7:15pm

I've a picture of me with 3 other mates and rarely get many replies, do people generally reply to users who have a picture of just themselves more?

Larianne · 30-03-2012 7:18pm

roro_utd wrote: »

I've a picture of me with 3 other mates and rarely get many replies, do people generally reply to users who have a picture of just themselves more?

Yes. I wouldn't waste my time trying to guess who's who in a group photo. :cool:

Dravokivich · 30-03-2012 7:31pm

Would of been the same meself as Lari said above.

If you want to attract someone you need to show them who you are.

foxinsox · 30-03-2012 7:43pm

:-)

Dravokivich · 30-03-2012 7:45pm

Don't know anything about nuns habits, sorry Fox.

Samich · 30-03-2012 10:00pm

No dates, woooooooo.

JimBob777 · 30-03-2012 10:09pm

no dates but im going to a 21st, stealing the 21st kiss should suffice

Armaghmagic · 30-03-2012 10:09pm

Congratulations, I dont have any dates this weekend myself!

Galvasean · 30-03-2012 10:15pm

tatumkelly wrote: »

She ripped the piss out me for being on POF, and then got rid of him

1. Make fun of friend
2. Dump cheating boyfriend

IN THAT ORDER

KTRIC · 30-03-2012 10:36pm

Galvasean wrote: »

tatumkelly wrote: »

She ripped the piss out me for being on POF, and then got rid of him

1. Make fun of friend
2. Dump cheating boyfriend

IN THAT ORDER

3. xxxxxx xxxx
4. Profit

ChannelNo5 · 30-03-2012 10:37pm

Sweet baby Jesus and the orphans!! Took the plunge. Finally got back on POF and Oh my fcukin GOD!!

A deluge! Deluge i tells ya! Of complete weirdo's and a few 22 year olds....

Fresh meat is right! Lots of wants to meet and added as favourites... If that's a line i ain't biting;)

Not had any mickey pictures yet though :rolleyes:

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