Did any of you ever get slapped as a child?

Infernal Racket · 13-07-2019 4:28pm #1

Just wondering how many of you got slapped as a child. I did, by my mother who had hands like leather from years of working outdoors. I never ever got slapped for no reason and never got slapped around the head or face. I got reprimanded for doing wrong and when I did I learned not to do the wrong thing again. Always got the hard hand on the back of the leg and it stung like bejaysus.

It never did me an ounce of harm and on rare occasions I have reprimanded my own kids with a stinger to the back of the legs. Society nowadays will severely frown upon it and point to child abuse and teaching a child that violence is ok and blah blah blah. I honestly feel that if more children had received slaps as punishment for doing wrong when they were kids then society wouldnt be in such a sorry state with generations of young people running around with absolutely no fear of authority or repercussion for wrong doing.

branie2 · 13-07-2019 4:40pm

I did

leitrim4life · 13-07-2019 4:42pm

Slapped, clattered, sally rod, poker and handle of a brush. And i deserved every bit of it.

McDermotX · 13-07-2019 4:44pm

I did.

Done me no harm at all.

Why ? YOU STARTIN' SOMETHIN' ???

jester77 · 13-07-2019 4:44pm

The wooden spoon is where it was at, many a broken one in the process. Must have been good money in the wooden spoon business back in 70's & 80's

Sleeper12 · 13-07-2019 4:45pm

Beaten with a strap at home and in school. The schools had specially made leather straps. I'd imagine the only place you could buy such a thing nowadays is in a sex shop.

branie2 · 13-07-2019 4:46pm

The wooden spoon was very common

CoBo55 · 13-07-2019 4:48pm

Luckily no, his anger had subsided by the time I came along, my previous 4 siblings weren't as fortunate. Now that he's in his dotage we're supposed to play the loving family to this vicious fcuker.

eviltwin · 13-07-2019 4:48pm

Slapped, belted, pushed, hut with objects....ended up in hospital a few times over it.

Unlike a previous poster I didn't deserve any of it but this was the 80's, no one cared.

Infernal Racket · 13-07-2019 4:48pm

Sleeper12 wrote: »

Beaten with a strap at home and in school. The schools had specially made leather straps. I'd imagine the only place you could buy such a thing nowadays is in a sex shop.

Never got the strap treatment, cant imagine it being very pleasant either unless you're into that sort of thing.

Infernal Racket · 13-07-2019 4:50pm

eviltwin wrote: »

Slapped, belted, pushed, hut with objects....ended up in hospital a few times over it.

Unlike a previous poster I didn't deserve any of it but this was the 80's, no one cared.

Sorry to hear that. This is obviously the other side of things which cant be condoned but unfortunately was all too common and still goes on to this day sadly

freshpopcorn · 13-07-2019 4:50pm

Sleeper12 wrote: »

Beaten with a strap at home and in school. The schools had specially made leather straps. I'd imagine the only place you could buy such a thing nowadays is in a sex shop.

My great grand father had a job before at making the straps for the schools!

XsApollo · 13-07-2019 4:51pm

I got it once, well more like a wooden spoon thrown across the room and in to the face.
I never forgot that and I never did what I did again.
One time and thinking back it put manners on me.

NSAman · 13-07-2019 4:51pm

branie2 wrote: »

The wooden spoon was very common

Oh you amateur....did you not file it down after each new one was bought ?

Yep wooden spoon, slapped and the ruler used in school.... did us no harm..:)

Timberrrrrrrr · 13-07-2019 4:51pm

Yup, never too hard and always on arse or legs. Never a single one that i didn't deserve and I'd even go as fas as to say im surprised i didn't get twice as many cos i was a little bollix when i was younger.

Nigel Fairservice · 13-07-2019 4:52pm

My mother would give me slap if I was misbehaving. I got the wooden spoon as well. I remember she hit me so hard with it one time it broke in half. I can still feel the burning sensation, I remember just grinning at her because I didn't want her to know it really hurt :pac:. My grandmother was a very harsh woman who definitely wouldn't have held back with my mother. There was never malicious intent from my mother, I just got it when I deserved it. I don't have kids but I wouldn't slap them.

suicide_circus · 13-07-2019 4:53pm

yes and i blame all my fùck ups, vices and weaknesses on it. handy.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 13-07-2019 4:54pm

An odd slap but nothing severe. The issue with slapping children hinges on the severity. Some seem to have endured what amounted to brutality.

Infernal Racket · 13-07-2019 4:54pm

Nigel Fairservice wrote: »

My mother would give me slap if I was misbehaving. I got the wooden spoon as well. I remember she hit me so hard with it one time it broke in half. I can still feel the burning sensation, I remember just grinning at her because I didn't want her to know it really hurt :pac:. My grandmother was a very harsh woman who definitely wouldn't have held back with my mother. There was never malicious intent from my mother, I just got it when I deserved it. I don't have kids but I wouldn't slap them.

Reserve that thought until you have kids. They can test the absolute limits of your patience

Infernal Racket · 13-07-2019 4:55pm

Kobe Ugly Windbag wrote: »

An odd slap but nothing severe. The issue with slapping children hinges on the severity. Some seem to have endured what amounted to brutality.

Which again I would never condone. I never remember getting multiple slaps at the same time. One from my old dear was usually enough and always perfectly placed

r93kaey5p2izun · 13-07-2019 4:59pm

Yes I did and I lost all respect for my parents over it. I reasoned with my mother so she stopped and we have a good relationship now. I don't think every parent who slaps their child has done irreparable damage, but it's a gamble you take depending on the child you're dealing with. Context of societal norms is of course a factor in the impact too. However from what I have seen, the vast majority of parents who slap do so out of anger and not as some sort of controlled, measured lesson as they so often claim. And in my experience the yobs out causing trouble with no fear of consequences are certainly not missing out on a few slaps at home - I would say they are the most likely to live in homes where a clatter is seen as acceptable parenting.

Infernal Racket · 13-07-2019 5:07pm

Reese Magnificent Space wrote: »

Yes I did and I lost all respect for my parents over it. I reasoned with my mother so she stopped and we have a good relationship now. I don't think every parent who slaps their child has done irreparable damage, but it's a gamble you take depending on the child you're dealing with. Context of societal norms is of course a factor in the impact too. However from what I have seen, the vast majority of parents who slap do so out of anger and not as some sort of controlled, measured lesson as they so often claim. And in my experience the yobs out causing trouble with no fear of consequences are certainly not missing out on a few slaps at home - I would say they are the most likely to live in homes where a clatter is seen as acceptable parenting.

You lost all respect over a slap? What age were you when it happened? Was it for nothing? Just wondering, I'm not having a go at you or anything.

namloc1980 · 13-07-2019 5:07pm

Yes got hit and it was always out of anger on my mother's behalf. Never as a measured disciplinary approach. I now have kids of my own and would never consider hitting them even when they act up and drive me around the bend!

If you must resort to hitting your child then your parenting skills are not what they should be IMHO.

r93kaey5p2izun · 13-07-2019 5:15pm

Gerry G wrote: »

You lost all respect over a slap? What age were you when it happened? Was it for nothing? Just wondering, I'm not having a go at you or anything.

It was the go to method for dealing with any and all poor behaviour so it happened several days a week, sometimes several times a day, for as long as I can remember. I would say it was the exact same as other families around us so nothing unusual in the context of the time and place.

Infernal Racket · 13-07-2019 5:18pm

Reese Magnificent Space wrote: »

It was the go to method for dealing with any and all poor behaviour so it happened several days a week, sometimes several times a day, for as long as I can remember. I would say it was the exact same as other families around us so nothing unusual in the context of the time and place.

That's a shame. I only ever got a slap if I deserved it and believe me I deserved every one I got

13-07-2019 5:19pm

Some adults feel the impact of less than adequate parenting yet they were never slapped. It isn't the ideal I don't think but it doesn't necessarily mean that the child will be affected as an adult.

There are so many other variables at play. Parents aren't perfect but they must be "good enough". In other words do their best to provide for their children's emotional and physical needs with no incidence of abuse.

r93kaey5p2izun · 13-07-2019 5:21pm

Gerry G wrote: »

That's a shame. I only ever got a slap if I deserved it and believe me I deserved every one I got

Perhaps you would think I deserved most of them too? The concept of deserving something is very subjective.

pinktoe · 13-07-2019 5:23pm

The slap was fine, punishment over and done with, the silent treatment however ............ or the I don't know what I did wrong with ya line .......

Didn't get in trouble much but in high infants we had a game where we had to steal and not get caught and I got caught. I would have took a few slaps over the "why didn't ya ask me to buy It, were ya afraid oh I'm such a bad mother" follows by silence treatment

FFred · 13-07-2019 5:23pm

Yes.

But the snide remarks, resentment, contempt and belittling hurt a lot more .

Sad but true.

Graces7 · 13-07-2019 5:23pm

at school, the ruler across the palm, done with great ceremony and delay; only ever once.

best not elaborate on my father

IAMAMORON · 13-07-2019 5:24pm

Probably not hard enough. Freud reckons that's why I am such a pervert.

It is fine as long as it is not abused... imo.

Thelonious Monk · 13-07-2019 5:24pm

Only when I was getting f*cked from behind

Pauliedragon · 13-07-2019 5:24pm

My mother didn't need to be physical. The look and the verbal lashing was enough to give me nightmares.

facehugger99 · 13-07-2019 5:29pm

Yes and I can honestly say, other than the double-vision and occasional headache, it never did me any harm.

Outlaw Pete · 13-07-2019 5:30pm

Often, wooden spoon on the bare arse many a time and never did me a bit of harm, in fact...

Oh crap, gotta go, have an appointment at 6 with dominatrix debbie, it's the only way I can achieve pleasure.

FFred · 13-07-2019 5:30pm

Gerry G wrote: »

Reserve that thought until you have kids. They can test the absolute limits of your patience

I have lots of them and they do test your patience.

But I have never laid a finger on them and I never will.

Musefan · 13-07-2019 6:00pm

A reminder that slapping a child is now illegal in Ireland. There is no good reason whatsoever to slap a child. 50 years of research cannot identify a single positive outcome. If you’re slapping your child, you’re not teaching them to behave appropriately. In fact, you’re teaching them that an appropriate action when being annoyed is to slap someone. Then a child is likely punished for taking the same action and hitting a sibling. You would press charges if another adult slapped you. Hence why it’s now illegal.

Infernal Racket · 13-07-2019 6:02pm

Thelonious Monk wrote: »

Only when I was getting f*cked from behind

Ehhhhhhh

This is it · 13-07-2019 6:07pm

I got a few slaps and a few belts of a wooden spoon. I don't think it did me any harm but at the same time it's not the kind of discipline I'll be using with my son, it shows a lack of control in my opinion.

We teach kids not to hit others, hardly ideal if you're smacking them yourself.

13-07-2019 6:18pm

Yeah, the odd slap probably isn't as bad as the psychological abuse that can still go on..

Fast Twitch · 13-07-2019 6:21pm

Thelonious Monk wrote: »

Only when I was getting f*cked from behind

As a child? Did you read the thread title before you tried to be funny?

Deagol · 13-07-2019 6:38pm

Parents used slapping as a final resort and I always deserved it. In fact, the times when I didn't get a slap I found worse because that meant disappointment rather than anger with me. Was very rare though and I can't remember any instances clearly so obviously meant little to me except to put some manners on me

Teachers at national school used to get the ruler, usually quite deserved. When I went into the headmasters class though he was a fairly vicious bastard and metre stick was used on the hand. Was disproportionate to the crime usually, he should have been pulled up on it but small village etc... only slaps that I have a bit of grudge about.

Secondary school time it had been banned but it didn't stop one old lad giving you a clitter or two around the ears - always fully deserved though so I have no bad memories of it

13-07-2019 6:44pm

The knife (flat side) or the fork across the knuckles at the dinner table was a favorite of my mothers! It sure did sting.

PukkaStukka · 13-07-2019 6:54pm

Saw a twenty something in pyjamas outside a shop in Dublin 1. Her unruly small kids provoked an horrendous, unjustified foul-mouthed tirade, and when that failed to restore order, she issued a beating that a medieval christian brother would've been ashamed of. A part of me wonders if she got the same as a kid. I can think of no other reason for her acting like that.

Plumbthedepths · 13-07-2019 6:59pm

All this teaches a child is physical abuse of another who is smaller or weaker is ok.

Bobblehats · 13-07-2019 7:00pm

Jab of an auld cigarette would put you good n straight

PukkaStukka · 13-07-2019 7:04pm

Plumbthedepths wrote: »

All this teaches a child is physical abuse of another who is smaller or weaker is ok.

Agreed. That's what makes me think the mother is a "victim" as her kids are. A pity she isn't made of what it takes to rise above it

Rubberchikken · 13-07-2019 7:06pm

yes. not a hugh amount in comparison to some and yes maybe it did me no harm physically or mentally but who really knows these things.

have never raised my hand to my kids. how hypocritical would it be for me to tell them its wrong to hit and then hit them for something.

wakka12 · 13-07-2019 7:08pm

I did. Only when I did something wrong, and it was effective way to make me stop doing that thing. I see nothing wrong with it at all

Edgware · 13-07-2019 7:12pm

wakka12 wrote: »

I did. Only when I did something wrong, and it was effective way to make me stop doing that thing. I see nothing wrong with it at all

You like the bit of spanking

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 13-07-2019 7:12pm

Occsaionally. I started hitting back at one point. For some reason, my parents tried to reason with me after that and it worked.

Did any of you ever get slapped as a child?

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