Wedding Faux Pas

16-09-2017 10:51pm #1

Greetings Boardsies,

So i got married today. Upon arriving at the church I noticed my sister was wearing a white dress.

Thought it was kind of an unwritten rule broken.

Neutral thoughts?

Cheers.

Colin

Academic · 16-09-2017 10:53pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Greetings Boardsies,

So i got married today. Upon arriving at the church I noticed my sister was wearing a white dress.

Thought it was kind of an unwritten rule broken.

Neutral thoughts?

Cheers.

Colin

Depends. Were you marrying your sister?

Surreptitious · 16-09-2017 10:54pm

Ditch the dress and wear a suit next time.

16-09-2017 10:55pm

Wedding etiquette. Female guests do not usually wear a white dress.

Hector Mildew · 16-09-2017 10:56pm

Just married today and you're posting here and its not even 11pm!?

Maybe you should pay some attention to your wife and what she's wearing! ��

Allinall · 16-09-2017 10:56pm

All rules are written.

An unwritten rule doesn't exist, by definition.

threetrees · 16-09-2017 10:56pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Greetings Boardsies,

So i got married today. Upon arriving at the church I noticed my sister was wearing a white dress.

Thought it was kind of an unwritten rule broken.

Neutral thoughts?

Cheers.

Colin

I'm more concerned that you are posting here on the night of your wedding than worrying about the guest attire etiquette, seriously, get off your phone and be with your new wife!!!!!

PS, your sister should not have worn white.

16-09-2017 10:57pm

Academic wrote: »

Deleted User wrote: »

Greetings Boardsies,

So i got married today. Upon arriving at the church I noticed my sister was wearing a white dress.

Thought it was kind of an unwritten rule broken.

Neutral thoughts?

Cheers.

Colin

Depends. Were you marrying your sister?

No. I should probably point out i am a heterosexual male marrying a heterosexual female.

Christ that sounds clinical.

16-09-2017 11:01pm

The celebration bit was more of an extended lunch than anything. All dissolved and the drinkers gone their own ways.

Am sitting on the bog as a neutral having heard the case of both prosecution and defence.

So i am looking for neutral opinions.

The wedding has already been consummated btw!

Fighting Tao · 16-09-2017 11:02pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

No. I should probably point out i am a heterosexual male marrying a heterosexual female.

Christ that sounds clinical.

That doesn't clear anything up. So you are a guy...you prefer women. Is your sister a man?

B.A._Baracus · 16-09-2017 11:08pm

You know, it's very much possible he was talking to his now wife about it and decided to anonymously ask people was it weird or perfectly fine. Am sure he'll get down to business

As for my take on it? Honestly never thought about it too much before. But yeah does seem out of place / a thing not to do. I know women like to dress up for big days but it's about the bride. No need to try and "steal her thunder" if you get me?

So wearing a white dress is a no-no. But I base that on the thinking that said white dress was very wedding esque like? eg, lavish etc.

threetrees · 16-09-2017 11:10pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

The wedding has already been consummated btw!

Well I'm glad to hear that the sister wearing white didn't cause an issue in that department!

16-09-2017 11:11pm

Fighting Tao wrote: »

[Deleted User] wrote: »

No. I should probably point out i am a heterosexual male marrying a heterosexual female.

Christ that sounds clinical.

That doesn't clear anything up. So you are a guy...you prefer women. Is your sister a man?

I am more grappling with the question of "Is my sister a b*tch" question to be honest with you!

16-09-2017 11:13pm

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

You know, it's very much possible he was talking to his now wife about it and decided to anonymously ask people was it weird or perfectly fine. Am sure he'll get down to business

As for my take on it? Honestly never thought about it too much before. But yeah does seem out of place / a thing not to do. I know women like to dress up for big days but it's about the bride. No need to try and "steal her thunder" if you get me?

So wearing a white dress is a no-no. But I base that on the thinking that said white dress was very wedding esque like? eg, lavish etc.

Thank you

The dress in question was white, ambiguously white!

screamer · 16-09-2017 11:15pm

I think a bigger faux Pas is being on your phone posting on boards on your wedding night..... You can worry about your sister's dress tomorrow.... And congrats BTW.

seenitall · 16-09-2017 11:16pm

Your sister shouldn't have worn white, like someone upthread already said, it's basic wedding etiquette.

What did she say when you remarked on it?

16-09-2017 11:16pm

You're sister shouldn't have worn white. I find it hard to imagine she didn't know that. Everyone knows that.

Im guessing your new wife is upset. She'll regret spending her wedding night fuming and/or hold a grudge against your sister for ruining her mood on the day.

You should listen to whatever she has to say about it. Validate her feelings by letting her know you understand why she's upset and its completely reasonable for her to be annoyed.

And then for the love of God, tell her it doesn't
really matter anyway, the whole congregation could have worn white and no one could have shown her up or looked better than her because she looked stunning and what's more you wouldn't have even noticed them because you only had eyes for her! Or some such lovey dovey wedding style stuff.

buried · 16-09-2017 11:17pm

The OP is probably dead right to be up on here looking for honest discussion and thoughts from total strangers. He ain't gong to get it from the strangers at the wedding. I think your sister was trying to make a not too subtle statement about something to someone at the ceremony. Is she going out with someone? She could have been trying to send a message to her other half she would like a day out herself as a bride by wearing the same colour. Maybe she was up to something else, I dunno. What did your sister say about it anyways?

Nettle Soup · 16-09-2017 11:21pm

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The dress in question was white, ambiguously white!

Do you mean unambiguously?

B.A._Baracus · 16-09-2017 11:22pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Thank you

The dress in question was white, ambiguously white!

Sheesh. Not good. Sounds like she wanted to steal her thunder indeed.
Oh, was your sister a bridesmaid too by any chance? :eek:

razorblunt · 16-09-2017 11:22pm

Got married, posted on Boards within hours,

Mrs OBumble · 16-09-2017 11:24pm

Your sister and your wife can sort it out among themselves. This may or may not involve handbags at dawn.

Either way your loyalty is to your wife and what she wants. She will give you an opinion on the subject if there's any need for you to have one.

buried · 16-09-2017 11:27pm

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

Your sister and your wife can sort it out among themselves. This may or may not involve handbags at dawn.

White handbags too. Handy for the scrapping in these dark dawn morn's

16-09-2017 11:28pm

Nettle Soup wrote: »

Deleted User wrote: »

The dress in question was white, ambiguously white!

Do you mean unambiguously?

No.

B.A._Baracus · 16-09-2017 11:28pm

razorblunt wrote: »

Got married, posted on Boards within hours,

Give the op a break

We live in a world where if someone was to witness an accident or "some event" people bust out their phones to record and or tweet about it. Posting on your wedding night looking for opinions on something THAT happened at your wedding is not that weird.

Besides, and not to go off topic too much, it's not like it's the bloody first time he'll sleep with her :pac:
A wedding night in reality isn't like two horny teenagers going at it for the first time. A lot of it (apart from the obvious getting down to it) can be just about sitting down, smiling and realizing you are married to the person you love. Getting something to eat. etc. Op, is asking something that happened in his day. Not like he is busting out the xbox one :pac:

Outlaw Pete · 16-09-2017 11:31pm

Greetings Boardsies.

So I'm at a wedding today. Upon arriving at the church I noticed the groom eyeing up my sister.

Thought that was kind of an unwritten rule broken so I shagged the bride while he was messing around on an iPad.

Neutral thoughts?

Cheers.

Pete

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By the way........Congratulations!!

Jawgap · 16-09-2017 11:31pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Greetings Boardsies,

So i got married today. Upon arriving at the church I noticed my sister was wearing a white dress.

Thought it was kind of an unwritten rule broken.

Neutral thoughts?

Cheers.

Colin

Depends......was your wife/spouse to be male or female?

In short, were there 2 women in White at the wedding, and how did you distinguish between them?

Academic · 16-09-2017 11:38pm

Academic wrote: »

Depends. Were you marrying your sister?

Deleted User wrote: »

No. I should probably point out i am a heterosexual male marrying a heterosexual female.

Christ that sounds clinical.

Well, my question still stands. This is Ireland, after all son. :pac:

Victor · 16-09-2017 11:40pm

I think the only exception to the white dress rule would be if the sister was obviously under the age of say, 10 and/or was the flower girl.

freshpopcorn · 16-09-2017 11:52pm

I noticed lately with a lot of local weddings mothers and sister wore white/ivory to wedding. If the bride wore white somebody else in the family wore ivory and if the bride wore white they wore ivory. The bride in a lot of these cases picked out knew what the other person was wearing.

eviltwin · 16-09-2017 11:56pm

Does it really matter OP? Its your wedding night ffs, put a supposed faux pas out of your mind and go and enjoy the rest of your night. This will be so irrelevant in a few weeks. Congratulations!!!!

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