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Gay couple humiliated after being asked to leave Dublin restaurant

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  • 29-10-2015 5:24pm
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    A gay couple celebrating their anniversary in a Dublin restaurant were asked to leave by a waiter after complaints were issued by diners at another table.

    According to a letter published in November’s Issue of Irish magazine GCN, the writer claims he was asked to leave the restaurant because other customers became “uncomfortable” as he held his partner’s hand.

    “My partner and I were in a Dublin city centre restaurant celebrating our second anniversary and we were being physically tactile with each other. Not kissing the faces of each other or anything, but holding hands and looking into each other’s eyes,” the letter read.

    “A waiter came to out table and told us that customers at another table were complaining about us. He suggested that we stop showing each other physical affection.”

    Source: Independent.ie

    In all honesty, this would piss me off too; if people feel uncomfortable with PDA and homosexuality, then that is their own issue and shouldn't inflict their own misgivings on others.


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    Diamond Doll
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    It's a pity it doesn't say what restaurant it is. I would be interested to hear their side of things. And if the couple's version of events is true, I'd like to know where it is to avoid it.


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    strelok
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    that's disgraceful, it's not like they were breastfeeding


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    The Backwards Man
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    The ones that complained are bad enough, but if somebody working for me pulled a trick like that they'd be sacked on the spot. With a boot up the hole on their way out the door.


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    MJI
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    Last time I checked it was 2015. And we live in "post marriage-referendum" Ireland.


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    DEFTLEFTHAND
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    Independent shouldn't be putting this out if they can't verify that it actually happened. They could destroy somebodies business.


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    Penn
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    Can't wait for the inevitable "We have nothing against gay people. Honestly, I have gay friends who use my restaurant all the time! We just ask that homosexuals don't try to act like normal people in our restaurant."


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    Sonics2k
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    DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »
    Independent shouldn't be putting this out if they can't verify that it actually happened. They could destroy somebodies business.

    They didn't name the business?


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    DEFTLEFTHAND
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    DP


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    The Backwards Man wrote: »
    The ones that complained are bad enough, but if somebody working for me pulled a trick like that they'd be sacked on the spot. With a boot up the hole on their way out the door.

    This is the biggest issue with this whole "customer is king" mentality that a lot of service industries have. Someone complains and management are almost compelled to do something about it, even if they don't agree with it.


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    NomadicGray
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    Disgraceful if true


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    darkpagandeath
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    Shocking, Maybe we should edit that film about the referendum and show what still goes on after it was passed... You know the one promoting how tolerant Ireland is.


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    hatrickpatrick
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    Name and shame.


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    The King of Moo
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    I hope the restaurant is named eventually.
    It's ridiculous to give in to stupid complaints like that, and makes me think maybe someone involved with the restaurant were also not too happy with the couple holding hands.

    Otherwise, the appropriate response to the people complaining would be:
    "I'm sorry, but people hold hands in public all the time and the vast majority of people don't find it offensive. No-one here at this restaurant considers there to be anything wrong with people holding hands. We're sorry that this has upset you, but we won't ask the couple to change their behaviour or leave."


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    Princess Consuela Bananahammock
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    Deleted User wrote: »
    Source: Independent.ie

    In all honesty, this would piss me off too; if people feel uncomfortable with PDA and homosexuality, then that is their own issue and shouldn't inflict their own misgivings on others.

    If it makes you uncomfortable, then that is an issue you need to address, not the people involved.

    I'm also curious to know if you'd be comfortable with a heterosexual couple holding hands. If not, why not, and if so why?

    (Just regarding the specific article: I'm very suspicious of articlaes like this where there's no specific names, locations or definite infortmation: are we talking factual event here or urban myth?)

    Everything I don't like is either woke or fascist - possibly both - pick one.



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    smash
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    MJI wrote: »
    Last time I checked it was 2015. And we live in "post marriage-referendum" Ireland.
    Yea, I can't wait until "post abortion-referendum" Ireland so we can have abortions in restaurants....


    Honestly, the referendum makes no difference in this argument. It's a couple who were holding hands. It doesn't matter if they're legally allowed get married now that it's 2015. Even if the referendum hadn't passed they should have been allowed hold hands for christ sake.


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    Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »
    If it makes you uncomfortable, then that is an issue you need to address, not the people involved.

    I'm also curious to know if you'd be comfortable with a heterosexual couple holding hands. If not, why not, and if so why?

    Are you asking me if I have an issue with it? Holding hands? Hell no. Making out? Probably. But I'd feel the same about heterosexual couples too, because I'm single and bitter right now :pac:


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    TerrorFirmer
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    Somehow I feel there's something more to it. Asked to leave because they were just holding hands? In a city center restaurant? And customers called them 'disgusting' as they walked out in shame? It seems highly dramatic. Homer Simpson and the Babysitter springs to mind.


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    GLaDOS
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    On paper it looks pretty bad alright, important to remember we are only getting one side of the story though.

    Cake, and grief counseling, will be available at the conclusion of the test



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    emersyn
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    DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »
    Independent shouldn't be putting this out if they can't verify that it actually happened. They could destroy somebodies business.

    I wish...


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    6541
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    Well its not really nice to see any couple do this be they male or female or fluid or sub terrain or Bosnian or even African Elephant. Do they not know the rule no public displays of affection ! this thread will end well....


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    The Backwards Man
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    Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »
    If it makes you uncomfortable, then that is an issue you need to address, not the people involved.

    I'm also curious to know if you'd be comfortable with a heterosexual couple holding hands. If not, why not, and if so why?
    Ummm :pac:


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    smash
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    TerrorFirmer wrote: »
    Somehow I feel there's something more to it. Asked to leave because they were just holding hands? In a city center restaurant? And customers called them 'disgusting' as they walked out in shame? It seems highly dramatic. Homer Simpson and the Babysitter springs to mind.

    I get the feeling there's more to it too. Otherwise the restaurant would have been named.


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    jobbridge4life
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    6541 wrote: »
    Well its not really nice to see any couple do this be they male or female or fluid or sub terrain or Bosnian or even African Elephant. Do they not know the rule no public displays of affection ! this thread will end well....

    Not nice to hold hands in a restaurant and look at each-other? Imagine if your mind can stretch to it the horror of someone proposing in a restaurant, they'd be strung up.


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    wakka12
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    Im gay and I really find it hard to believe this happened..What restaurant would be stupid enough to pull a stunt like this after the controversy with the cake shop stuff


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    bigpink
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    So what if they were a bit ott and steamy is it wrong for people to complain that are enjoyibg there dinner?


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    The Backwards Man
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    ScienceNerd wrote: »
    On paper it looks pretty bad alright, important to remember we are only getting one side of the story though.
    Anyone that has ever had to eject a gay black midget from a premises for taking a crap in the urinal agrees with this.


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    brevity
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    Disappointing really. The couple aren't the ones that should have been asked to leave, the people complaining should be.


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    jamesbere
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    I've a feeling there's something more to this. Would be nice to hear the restaurants side


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    Keyzer
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    ScienceNerd wrote: »
    On paper it looks pretty bad alright, important to remember we are only getting one side of the story though.

    A sh1t paper at that...

    I'd hold back passing judgement on this until verified and the restaurant in question have right to reply. Articles in the Indo these days are written by chimps...


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    NomadicGray
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    TerrorFirmer wrote: »
    Somehow I feel there's something more to it. Asked to leave because they were just holding hands? In a city center restaurant? And customers called them 'disgusting' as they walked out in shame? It seems highly dramatic. Homer Simpson and the Babysitter springs to mind.

    I hear the guy complaining sleeps nude in an oxygen tent which he believes gives him sexual powers!


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