Trying to Conceive 2016 onwards Chat Thread

Toots · 08-06-2016 08:04PM

Feeling a bit dis-heartened here. I'm 14 DPO and still no sign of my period, tested the last 4 mornings and all negative, not even the faintest trace of a line.

fits · 08-06-2016 08:11PM

Sorry to hear that Toots, it could happen yet though. You certain you ovulated 14 days ago? If so, it wont take long before you know one way or the other.

Toots · 08-06-2016 09:04PM

Reasonably certain, my temps and cervical mucus seem to be pointing that way anyway. It's been a really long cycle though, I'm on day 50 now. My temps have been getting steadily higher the last 4 days so no idea what's going on.

apple26 · 08-06-2016 09:14PM

Toots wrote: »

Reasonably certain, my temps and cervical mucus seem to be pointing that way anyway. It's been a really long cycle though, I'm on day 50 now. My temps have been getting steadily higher the last 4 days so no idea what's going on.

My last two cycles have been 33 days and 51 days. On day 14 of my current cycle I started cramping and had spotting on and off for about 4 days. At this stage I don't know if that was my period or just random spotting. It's all a waiting game unfortunately.

Ruailebuile · 08-06-2016 09:34PM

Tara123f wrote: »

Hi guys...
Our first month ttc , was on pill 14 years with no break so feel this could be difficult. Reading down through the posts, it really shows that it's not something to take for granted that will happen straight away. (Which I naively thought it was )Wishing ye all the best of luck

Wishing you the very best of luck and a super speedy bfp! Many people have been very lucky and it's happened in a few months. If it doesn't don't be too despondent, it's taking a bit longer for some of us but we're not giving up hope

Scousemouse83 · 08-06-2016 10:01PM

Ruailebuile wrote: »

Tara123f wrote: »

Hi guys...
Our first month ttc , was on pill 14 years with no break so feel this could be difficult. Reading down through the posts, it really shows that it's not something to take for granted that will happen straight away. (Which I naively thought it was )Wishing ye all the best of luck

Wishing you the very best of luck and a super speedy bfp! Many people have been very lucky and it's happened in a few months. If it doesn't don't be too despondent, it's taking a bit longer for some of us but we're not giving up hope

Tara123f wrote: »

Hi guys...
Our first month ttc , was on pill 14 years with no break so feel this could be difficult. Reading down through the posts, it really shows that it's not something to take for granted that will happen straight away. (Which I naively thought it was )Wishing ye all the best of luck

Good luck! Wishing baby dust to you! This is a great support!

Scousemouse83 · 08-06-2016 10:04PM

Toots wrote: »

Reasonably certain, my temps and cervical mucus seem to be pointing that way anyway. It's been a really long cycle though, I'm on day 50 now. My temps have been getting steadily higher the last 4 days so no idea what's going on.

So confusing! Especially when you are doing all the right things!

Tara123f · 08-06-2016 10:08PM

Thanks ruailebuaile and scouse, have had 3 months off pill and 3 regular 27 day cycles am happy enough with that. Just gonna see what happens

apple26 · 09-06-2016 04:06PM

My younger sister just told me she's pregnant with her first baby. It will be the first grandchild in our family. I'm absolutely thrilled for her but feel really upset for myself, gutted in fact.

Scousemouse83 · 09-06-2016 04:11PM

apple26 wrote: »

My younger sister just told me she's pregnant with her first baby. It will be the first grandchild in our family. I'm absolutely thrilled for her but feel really upset for myself, gutted in fact.

Oh no it's so hard when your excited but disappointed it's not you. Such a crappy twist of emotions!! Was she trying??

apple26 · 09-06-2016 05:29PM

Scousemouse83 wrote: »

Oh no it's so hard when your excited but disappointed it's not you. Such a crappy twist of emotions!! Was she trying??

I just started balling crying when she told me. I didn't know she was trying but she said they only started trying since January when she came off the pill. I couldn't hide my own disappointment and she picked up on it straight away so I told her that we were trying too but finding it a bit more difficult.

I couldn't be happier for her and her husband but if I'm totally honest I'm also gutted for myself and my hubby.

Scousemouse83 · 09-06-2016 05:33PM

apple26 wrote: »

Scousemouse83 wrote: »

Oh no it's so hard when your excited but disappointed it's not you. Such a crappy twist of emotions!! Was she trying??

I just started balling crying when she told me. I didn't know she was trying but she said they only started trying since January when she came off the pill. I couldn't hide my own disappointment and she picked up on it straight away so I told her that we were trying too but finding it a bit more difficult.

I couldn't be happier for her and her husband but if I'm totally honest I'm also gutted for myself and my hubby.

Oh no I feel so sorry for u, especially as you can't his your emotions when you hear something your not expecting. It might be good she knows as your not keeping everything in.

Scousemouse83 · 09-06-2016 05:34PM

Scousemouse83 wrote: »

apple26 wrote: »

Scousemouse83 wrote: »

Oh no it's so hard when your excited but disappointed it's not you. Such a crappy twist of emotions!! Was she trying??

I just started balling crying when she told me. I didn't know she was trying but she said they only started trying since January when she came off the pill. I couldn't hide my own disappointment and she picked up on it straight away so I told her that we were trying too but finding it a bit more difficult.

I couldn't be happier for her and her husband but if I'm totally honest I'm also gutted for myself and my hubby.

Oh no I feel so sorry for u, especially as you can't his your emotions when you hear something your not expecting. It might be good she knows as your not keeping everything in.

So hard when your journey isn't as easy. Thinking of you

Ruailebuile · 09-06-2016 09:35PM

apple26 wrote: »

I just started balling crying when she told me. I didn't know she was trying but she said they only started trying since January when she came off the pill. I couldn't hide my own disappointment and she picked up on it straight away so I told her that we were trying too but finding it a bit more difficult.

I couldn't be happier for her and her husband but if I'm totally honest I'm also gutted for myself and my hubby.

Oh you poor thing, that's very hard when it's someone so close. I think you are allowed to feel gutted so don't feel bad, she's your sister so although gutted, you are delighted too. It's a very delicate one, I really feel for you.

yellow hen · 09-06-2016 09:39PM

apple26 wrote: »

My younger sister just told me she's pregnant with her first baby. It will be the first grandchild in our family. I'm absolutely thrilled for her but feel really upset for myself, gutted in fact.

I've been there with my sister and best friends. I managed to sort of hide my devastation with my friend but sobbed uncontrollably to my sister. I just couldn't handle it. She was great about it and completely understood. It took us over 2 years to conceive first baby. Best of luck to you... Hope it works out and it'll be all the more special when it does.

Emmal14 · 10-06-2016 03:42PM

Hope everyone is doing well! Away on hols with the hubby very relaxing it's great!! Also coincided lovely with my fertile time i hope (cycle a bit of whack). Has anyone been using pre-seed? Picked up some here in the states and wondering should I get a couple? Found it for $14 and i know the exact same one is 28 at home!

Emmal14 · 10-06-2016 03:42PM

Hope everyone is doing well! Away on hols with the hubby very relaxing it's great!! Also coincided lovely with my fertile time i hope (cycle a bit of whack). Has anyone been using pre-seed? Picked up some here in the states and wondering should I get a couple? Found it for $14 and i know the exact same one is 28 at home!

Scousemouse83 · 10-06-2016 08:13PM

Ladies any of you experience extremely light Af after mc. Stopped already and only one real Af day just spotting otherwise?

Scousemouse83 · 10-06-2016 08:14PM

Emmal14 wrote: »

Hope everyone is doing well! Away on hols with the hubby very relaxing it's great!! Also coincided lovely with my fertile time i hope (cycle a bit of whack). Has anyone been using pre-seed? Picked up some here in the states and wondering should I get a couple? Found it for $14 and i know the exact same one is 28 at home!

I've used it and I think I paid 20 for it.

applesock · 10-06-2016 09:13PM

@apple26 i actually cried reading your post , i would totally be the same. I hope your ok, at least it was your sister and you can confide and she will understand.

Im in my fertile window and very emotional

crying at everything. Im a little frustrated that I'm not pregnant already. A friends wedding is this month, and at the beginning of the year i was saying ah sure il probably be pregnant for her wedding. I know not a great way to think.:mad:

Hopeful2016 · 10-06-2016 09:16PM

Scousemouse83 wrote: »

Ladies any of you experience extremely light Af after mc. Stopped already and only one real Af day just spotting otherwise?

Was very heavy for me after both mc but I guess everyone is different.

Redteacup86 · 10-06-2016 09:21PM

apple26 wrote: »

My younger sister just told me she's pregnant with her first baby. It will be the first grandchild in our family. I'm absolutely thrilled for her but feel really upset for myself, gutted in fact.

You poor thing. My stomach sank for you. Wonderful news for your sister but I can only imagine what a kick in the gut it must have felt like for you. It's so tricky to deal with the conflict of emotion when someone tells you they are pregnant - over the moon for them and secretly a bit devastated for yourself xxx

Scousemouse83 · 10-06-2016 09:57PM

Hopeful2016 wrote: »

Scousemouse83 wrote: »

Ladies any of you experience extremely light Af after mc. Stopped already and only one real Af day just spotting otherwise?

Was very heavy for me after both mc but I guess everyone is different.

Thanks, from dr google that seems the case, everyone is different. Have to get it checked if it continues. Thanks

Scousemouse83 · 10-06-2016 10:04PM

applesock wrote: »

@apple26 i actually cried reading your post , i would totally be the same. I hope your ok, at least it was your sister and you can confide and she will understand.

Im in my fertile window and very emotional crying at everything. Im a little frustrated that I'm not pregnant already. A friends wedding is this month, and at the beginning of the year i was saying ah sure il probably be pregnant for her wedding. I know not a great way to think.:mad:

It's so emotional it's very hard as you want something so much and the 'trying' seems so hard at times. I think a good cry helps, definitely helped me and om not normally a crier!

apple26 · 11-06-2016 12:44AM

Thanks girls for all the kind words; it really means a lot.
I dunno what came over me. I guess I didn't realise I wanted to get pregnant so badly until it didn't happen straight away. Just always assumed it would. It's ironic that we concentrate for so long making sure we don't fall pregnant and then when we want it to happen we struggle. That's life I suppose.

I've posted here before about my cycles being really irregular since I stopped using contraception so have decided to take some action and I'm seeing my GP on Tuesday to see what she thinks. I'm also considering acupuncture as I've heard it can help with regularising your cycle. I'd be interested to hear if any of you have tried it.

Ruailebuile · 11-06-2016 01:03AM

Emmal14 wrote: »

Hope everyone is doing well! Away on hols with the hubby very relaxing it's great!! Also coincided lovely with my fertile time i hope (cycle a bit of whack). Has anyone been using pre-seed? Picked up some here in the states and wondering should I get a couple? Found it for $14 and i know the exact same one is 28 at home!

What a lovely way to spend your fertile time! We've been using it for about 4 months. I got in on inhealth and with delivery costs about 30, so very expensive but supposedly safer than lube so willing to invest

Ruailebuile · 11-06-2016 01:08AM

It's funny, I have spent so much of the past 8-9 months saying that by then I might be pregnant, or if I'm pregnant then... and all of those things/events have passed and I'm still not. I do think it will come to us all, in our own ways and possibly for some of us with more effort than others but we will get there and we'll be all the stronger for it

Toots · 11-06-2016 02:21AM

I'm just back from hols and we'd held off starting ttc until Christmas so that if I got pregnant I wouldn't be too far along to fly. So much for that

17dpo now and no sign of AF but also a whole pile of negative tests.

I wish there was some sort of anti - contraceptive pill, like you could go down to your GP and get it and instead of making you not ovulate every month, it'd give you a nice regular cycle!

Scousemouse83 · 11-06-2016 08:37AM

It's mad all the things we've all put on hold or thought I'll see if I'm pregnant. The optimism is so hard to maintain. Only thing this ttc business has made me realise us we need to move closer to family, after spending time in epu alone as everyone was away I'm definitely moving when we can. But other than that I'm booking things and doing courses in work. Carry on normally and hopefully a surprise will occur! Oh and booking a holiday is the first thing on the list!!!!

bee06 · 11-06-2016 08:49AM

apple26 wrote: »

I've posted here before about my cycles being really irregular since I stopped using contraception so have decided to take some action and I'm seeing my GP on Tuesday to see what she thinks. I'm also considering acupuncture as I've heard it can help with regularising your cycle. I'd be interested to hear if any of you have tried it.

Definitely insist your GP do your bloods even if you haven't been trying for a year. I was trying for about 6 months and getting very long irregular periods with spotting in between and I went to my GP and she said it's just my body getting back to normal after the pill and it can take a year. The next month I was spotting every day and I don't think I ovulated at all so I went to another GP and got bloods done. She referred me to a gynaecologist and turns out I have PCOS even though I have none of the indicators other than the irregular periods and ovulation. On my first month of clomid now and have finally stopped spotting after 3 months! We've been trying 9 months and I'd have been raging if I had waited the year and found out about the PCOS then. I wish I'd insisted the first time I went to the GP that something was wrong.

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