Trying to Conceive 2016 onwards Chat Thread

Jen44

Well girls I didn't get my flashing smiley this morning but I did get a solid smiley!!! The only thing is we didn't dtd the last two nights I went to my friends for a catch up and a few glasses of vino and hubby was asleep when I got home!! Won't get a chance to dtd till tonight with the little one so hoping I'll be covered if we dtd tonight and tmw and that we haven't missed the boat this month!! Turns out the fertility friend app was right with its green box!! Don't know why I didn't get a flashing smiley

Emmal14

9 days late, 2 negative pregnancy tests. Not due back to the gynae until July to hear what she discovered in my mri only know that she was happy, starting to get a lil frustrated!

apple26

Emmal14 wrote: »

9 days late, 2 negative pregnancy tests. Not due back to the gynae until July to hear what she discovered in my mri only know that she was happy, starting to get a lil frustrated!

Isn't it just so frustrating?? I stopped using Nuvaring end of January and had a regular 28 day cycle after that, followed by a 38 day cycle and I'm now on day 51 of my cycle and I think my period has finally arrived today.

I was using the Tesco own-brand OPK but to be honest I just got so fed up of my messed up cycle that I've stopped using them.

For this cycle in think I'm going to concentrate on monitoring CM and try DTD as often as possible.

Here we go again........

Emmal14

apple26 wrote: »

Isn't it just so frustrating?? I stopped using Nuvaring end of January and had a regular 28 day cycle after that, followed by a 38 day cycle and I'm now on day 51 of my cycle and I think my period has finally arrived today.

I was using the Tesco own-brand OPK but to be honest I just got so fed up of my messed up cycle that I've stopped using them.

For this cycle in think I'm going to concentrate on monitoring CM and try DTD as often as possible.

Here we go again........

Seriously frustrating particularly as I came off the pill in Oct and my cycles had gotten to between 29-31 days so fairly regular! Well enough that the gynae was happy!

Really trying to focus on not getting my hopes up even unrealistically!

I feel your frustration... I gave up on opk's too. Gonna try temping this month from whenever AF actually arrives....

Redteacup86

Anyone looking to temp or start temping Lloyds pharmacy are selling their own brand bb thermometers reduced from 6.50 to 1.37. Picked up a spare for myself, cheaper then buying batteries for my old thermometer!

Hopeful2016

Finally a solid smilie after 6 days of flashing ones.

Ruailebuile

AF arrived yesterday. So disappointed. Another month gone and we don't know what else we can do.

applesock

Ruailebuile wrote: »

AF arrived yesterday. So disappointed. Another month gone and we don't know what else we can do.

It's so tough isn't it especially when you know it's going into another month, But hopefully next month be your month.I'm just waiting for AF and said to OH lastnight that I just know this month I'm going to be really sad that we haven't conceived.
But I'm trying to be positive about things.next month another month so I'm looking forward to it might start temping aswel.

Ruailebuile

applesock wrote: »

It's so tough isn't it especially when you know it's going into another month, But hopefully next month be your month.I'm just waiting for AF and said to OH lastnight that I just know this month I'm going to be really sad that we haven't conceived.
But I'm trying to be positive about things.next month another month so I'm looking forward to it might start temping aswel.

Thank you! It really is and it's hard to stay optimistic, even my poor other half is getting so sad too each month there is nothing. I do find temping really helpful and I"m hoping in a few months if we have to go back to the fertility clinic it will give them a good picture of my cycles. Fingers crossed next month the our month!

applesock

Ruailebuile wrote: »

Thank you! It really is and it's hard to stay optimistic, even my poor other half is getting so sad too each month there is nothing. I do find temping really helpful and I"m hoping in a few months if we have to go back to the fertility clinic it will give them a good picture of my cycles. Fingers crossed next month the our month!

We will get there. I was saying about reviewing other options to my OH lastnight , but he's very optimistic saying we haven't been trying that long.which sort of annoys me sometimes , especially because I'm getting older ,but anyway. Oh you have been to fertility clinic already ? Was it just to get all checked out?

Ruailebuile

applesock wrote: »

We will get there. I was saying about reviewing other options to my OH lastnight , but he's very optimistic saying we haven't been trying that long.which sort of annoys me sometimes , especially because I'm getting older ,but anyway. Oh you have been to fertility clinic already ? Was it just to get all checked out?

This was our eight unsuccessful cycle trying, first two were probably not very focussed but still were flying the no pants dance! We went to Merrion fertility in early April just to get the initial tests done, they came back ok - I have cysts but said to keep going. We have said that we are going to go back again in late August if still nothing as then we'll have sat out 12 cycles. My OH was so optimistic at the start but now is frustrated too as we don't know why it's not working. Haven't given up hope that it will but the longer it goes on the harder I find it.

applesock

Ruailebuile wrote: »

This was our eight unsuccessful cycle trying, first two were probably not very focussed but still were flying the no pants dance! We went to Merrion fertility in early April just to get the initial tests done, they came back ok - I have cysts but said to keep going. We have said that we are going to go back again in late August if still nothing as then we'll have sat out 12 cycles. My OH was so optimistic at the start but now is frustrated too as we don't know why it's not working. Haven't given up hope that it will but the longer it goes on the harder I find it.

That's really good you went to get the initial test done. It's something I have been thinking about aswel. I know what you mean first 2 months we just sort of went along. This is our 5th cycle. I know what you mean last month I was sure we did everything we could. This ttc'ing is more stressful than I imagined. I'm obviously very run down , have a cold sore also my skin gone more crazy than usual, googled was a cold sore a early sign of pregnancy ! I know now I need to take a step back now and relax.

Ruailebuile

Oh I hear you! I have spent many the tww analysing every single thing/twinge/pain! I have relaxed a bit now though as I found it made the already long tww feel even longer! It is a very stressful process, much more so than I would ever have imagined. Both my gp and the clinic were very relaxed about it saying we hadn't been trying long - I'm hoping they are right and that we won't be back looking for more tests. It's good to know that there is nothing initially obvious causing a problem.

Redteacup86

Ruailebuile wrote: »

AF arrived yesterday. So disappointed. Another month gone and we don't know what else we can do.

Aw sorry to hear that RB it gets a little bit harder with every passing month doesn't it? Hard to manage the frustration! Hopefully next month will be your month xx

Ruailebuile

Redteacup86 wrote: »

Aw sorry to hear that RB it gets a little bit harder with every passing month doesn't it? Hard to manage the frustration! Hopefully next month will be your month xx

Thanks! It is so hard but I know it's important to keep positive x

Scousemouse83

Hey girls,
Sorry to hear Af arrived for some of you. I'm waiting for Af or to ovulate don't know which one will happen first.
Going back in to work tonight too. Unsure who knows what. Feels like an age ago since I was in work and the miscarriage happened but spent all weekend being told how lucky we were to get pregnant. Just terrified I can't stay pregnant but being positive well trying!

applesock

Im out this month AF arrived with a bang today ! Abit frustrated bit looking forward to next month.

Scousemouse hope work goes ok.

Redteacup86

applesock wrote: »

Im out this month AF arrived with a bang today ! Abit frustrated bit looking forward to next month.

Scousemouse hope work goes ok.

That's the spirit! Love the positivity

Think I o'd today- had a lil temp dip this morning even after a few drinks last night, getting left side pains all day, whopper headache and loads of cm. hopefully will get the temp rise tomorrow now! Ready for this to be our month now, it seems everyone and their mother is pregnant at the moment except me!!!

Emmal14

Scousemouse hope everything goes ok for you tonight! Im 11 days late today, negative test! Think I might just be skipping this month

applesock

Oh Redteacup fingers crossed this is your month.I know what you mean , girls in work announced a few pregnancy , its like when will it be my turn. I dont know if its just me but i get excited when i see an increase in CM, its like its nearly time again and I'm gonna do all i can to make it happen

Ruailebuile

Scousemouse83 wrote: »

Hey girls,
Sorry to hear Af arrived for some of you. I'm waiting for Af or to ovulate don't know which one will happen first.
Going back in to work tonight too. Unsure who knows what. Feels like an age ago since I was in work and the miscarriage happened but spent all weekend being told how lucky we were to get pregnant. Just terrified I can't stay pregnant but being positive well trying!

Good luck! It must be difficult when everyone is saying it's great you got pregnant when you still have the worries. Fingers crossed though

Ruailebuile

Redteacup86 wrote: »

That's the spirit! Love the positivity

Think I o'd today- had a lil temp dip this morning even after a few drinks last night, getting left side pains all day, whopper headache and loads of cm. hopefully will get the temp rise tomorrow now! Ready for this to be our month now, it seems everyone and their mother is pregnant at the moment except me!!!

Ah good luck! Keep busy
Well you are not alone - we are right her with you but I totally empathise - feels like everyone is pregnant except us!

Redteacup86

applesock wrote: »

Oh Redteacup fingers crossed this is your month.I know what you mean , girls in work announced a few pregnancy , its like when will it be my turn. I dont know if its just me but i get excited when i see an increase in CM, its like its nearly time again and I'm gonna do all i can to make it happen

I know what you mean, I got ewcm this month (very rare for me) and I felt like doing a little happy dance in the loo in work! It's the little (gross) things

Scousemouse83

Thanks girls, work was ok, weird not telling anyone or mentioning it.
Tons of ewcm (tmi) so I'd say ovulation is coming. Strange feeling getting anxious if we do conceive it will end badly again!
Mad the worry that goes along with this, Dh keeps saying we are just having sex not bd. No pressure in his mind. And I'm trying that too. Thinking positive like you girls!! Definitely the way forward!!!

Ruailebuile

Scousemouse83 wrote: »

Thanks girls, work was ok, weird not telling anyone or mentioning it.
Tons of ewcm (tmi) so I'd say ovulation is coming. Strange feeling getting anxious if we do conceive it will end badly again!
Mad the worry that goes along with this, Dh keeps saying we are just having sex not bd. No pressure in his mind. And I'm trying that too. Thinking positive like you girls!! Definitely the way forward!!!

Ooh good luck! Are you using any opk's?

Scousemouse83

Ruailebuile wrote: »

Scousemouse83 wrote: »

Thanks girls, work was ok, weird not telling anyone or mentioning it.
Tons of ewcm (tmi) so I'd say ovulation is coming. Strange feeling getting anxious if we do conceive it will end badly again!
Mad the worry that goes along with this, Dh keeps saying we are just having sex not bd. No pressure in his mind. And I'm trying that too. Thinking positive like you girls!! Definitely the way forward!!!

Ooh good luck! Are you using any opk's?

I've half a box left so Im using them up. Wasn't surenifnisnovatw first or get Af so recommended I used them to see. But had ewcm too so think I should have ovulated today or tomorrow.
Heading away tomorrow and can't wait.

Ruailebuile

Scousemouse83 wrote: »

I've half a box left so Im using them up. Wasn't surenifnisnovatw first or get Af so recommended I used them to see. But had ewcm too so think I should have ovulated today or tomorrow.
Heading away tomorrow and can't wait.

Are you on a month off or can you try this month too? That'll be lovely, just what you need.

applesock

Well done scousemouse for getting through work. Sure now it's done and you don't have to worry about it.its crazy all the worries. One thing I'm quiet conscious of is making sure doing the deed doesn't turn into a chore or only having it at the special time of the month!i want to do it because I enjoy but also so it takes the pressure of what ultimately we are trying to achieve. I hope your trip away does you the world of good.

Scousemouse83

Ruailebuile wrote: »

Scousemouse83 wrote: »

I've half a box left so Im using them up. Wasn't surenifnisnovatw first or get Af so recommended I used them to see. But had ewcm too so think I should have ovulated today or tomorrow.
Heading away tomorrow and can't wait.

Are you on a month off or can you try this month too? That'll be lovely, just what you need.

I'm just going with the flow as I feel ok physically so see what happens.
I can't wait to get away!

Scousemouse83

applesock wrote: »

Well done scousemouse for getting through work. Sure now it's done and you don't have to worry about it.its crazy all the worries. One thing I'm quiet conscious of is making sure doing the deed doesn't turn into a chore or only having it at the special time of the month!i want to do it because I enjoy but also so it takes the pressure of what ultimately we are trying to achieve. I hope your trip away does you the world of good.

Glad it's done I'm not close to any off the girls I worked with last night do it was easier than I thought as I wouldn't be sharing with them. So win/win and the girls who know won't say!
I know it's hard to not just focus on the fertile time. Think I'll be ok with that as the shift work dictates dtd than fertile times haha!! I define try don't want to loose myself in the process.
Can't wait to get away!