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Can men and women ever just be friends?

  • 06-06-2016 03:02PM
    #1
    spud82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 654 ✭✭✭


    Or do one of them always secretly have feelings for the other.

    I had an argument with one of my , male best friends two weeks ago. He was acting really oddly and than mumbled something about how men and women couldn't be friends as sex always got in the way, and than he ran off. No word from him since

    We have been friends for years and I hate not talking to him, I think our friendship is over :(


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  • #2
    drunkmonkey
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,501 ✭✭✭✭drunkmonkey


    You could give him the loving squeeze to save your friendship.


  • #3
    spud82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 654 ✭✭✭spud82


    haha i have a partner.


    We have been friends for years but the last night he acted really odd, and then he just ran off in a temper


  • #4
    It wasn't me!
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,034 ✭✭✭✭It wasn't me!


    Yes, they can. Obviously. Anyone who thinks otherwise is mental.


  • #5
    GLaDOS
    Moderators, Regional East Moderators Posts: 23,257 Mod ✭✭✭✭GLaDOS


    Yes, absolutely.

    Cake, and grief counseling, will be available at the conclusion of the test



  • #6
    bodice ripper
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,681 ✭✭✭bodice ripper


    If not, bisexual people are doomed.


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  • #7
    spud82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 654 ✭✭✭spud82


    Well last year my friend split from his long term gf, and since than he has opened up to me about how he feels. I set him up with my friend who he dated for a while but she got a job abroad and they split. Its just ****ty the way he was as he was really odd and moody

    I have a lot of guy friends but he was my best one ;(


  • #8
    HensVassal
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,569 ✭✭✭HensVassal


    spud82 wrote: »
    Or do one of them always secretly have feelings for the other.

    I had an argument with one of my , male best friends two weeks ago. He was acting really oddly and than mumbled something about how men and women couldn't be friends as sex always got in the way, and than he ran off. No word from him since

    We have been friends for years and I hate not talking to him, I think our friendship is over :(


    Call him FFS!


  • #9
    nkav86
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 714 ✭✭✭nkav86


    Yes, if they're both gay


  • #10
    spud82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 654 ✭✭✭spud82


    HensVassal wrote: »
    Call him FFS!

    I did and texted and no answer. I called him several times and no fecking answer:mad:


  • #11
    It wasn't me!
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,034 ✭✭✭✭It wasn't me!


    spud82 wrote: »
    I have a lot of guy friends

    This kinda answers your own question, unless you're really wondering whether the rest are just waiting to ride you...


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  • #12
    ToddyDoody
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,417 ✭✭✭ToddyDoody


    No.(a lecturer in college used to just write 'no' on your / my assignments)

    The sexes need to be sectioned off from each other and only allowed meet at pre-approved events.


  • #13
    spud82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 654 ✭✭✭spud82


    It wasn't me! wrote: »
    This kinda answers your own question, unless you're really wondering whether the rest are just waiting to ride you...

    Ok I guess what I was really asking was does my male best friend like me? Even writing it feels weird, He is like a brother to me.


  • #14
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,740 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    spud82 wrote: »
    I did and texted and no answer. I called him several times and no fecking answer:mad:

    Give him space. He may have feelings for you or is a bit confused.

    I do think it can be tricky at times. One of my best friends is a man. There is no ambiguity. Another good friend of mine I have slept with but there are no feelings for anything more to develop. I recently met another friend for a few drinks. We hadn't seen each other in about a year. A few drinks in and says he "you really do have fantastic boobs". We've also slept with each other.

    So it depends on the dynamic I think.


  • #15
    hairyslug
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,561 ✭✭✭hairyslug


    ToddyDoody wrote: »
    No.(a lecturer in college used to just write 'no' on your / my assignments)

    The sexes need to be sectioned off from each other and only allowed meet at pre-approved events.

    AKA swanky sex parties


  • #16
    Lucyfur
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,513 ✭✭✭✭Lucyfur


    He's probably away riding your sister as revenge.

    Be grand.


  • #17
    Buona Fortuna
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,507 ✭✭✭Buona Fortuna


    It wasn't me! wrote: »
    Yes, they can. Obviously. Anyone who thinks otherwise is mental.

    Or getting ridden senseless by everyone they know:)


  • #18
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,303 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    Lucyfur wrote: »
    He's probably away riding your sister as revenge.

    Be grand.


    The OP will get a text in a while asking where did she leave the remote control... :p


  • #19
    ToddyDoody
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,417 ✭✭✭ToddyDoody


    hairyslug wrote: »
    AKA swanky sex parties

    Possibly. I know the ladies just love those :)


  • #20
    spud82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 654 ✭✭✭spud82


    ToddyDoody wrote: »
    Possibly. I know the ladies just love those :)

    Maybe Ill just have a massive orgy with all my male friends, who is in?;)


  • #21
    Tipperary Fairy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 349 ✭✭Tipperary Fairy


    spud82 wrote: »
    Ok I guess what I was really asking was does my male best friend like me? Even writing it feels weird, He is like a brother to me.

    Yeah obviously that's what you're asking.

    Nobody here can tell you that, but it seems to be what you want to hear. Do you feel you need the ego boost?


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  • #22
    ahnowbrowncow
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,591 ✭✭✭ahnowbrowncow


    Op from all your threads you come across as a complete drama llama.


  • #23
    corner of hells
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,439 ✭✭✭corner of hells


    spud82 wrote: »
    I did and texted and no answer. I called him several times and no fecking answer:mad:

    Put his number up here and we'll call him.


  • #24
    MadDog76
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,162 ✭✭✭MadDog76


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Give him space. He may have feelings for you or is a bit confused.

    I do think it can be tricky at times. One of my best friends is a man. There is no ambiguity. Another good friend of mine I have slept with but there are no feelings for anything more to develop. I recently met another friend for a few drinks. We hadn't seen each other in about a year. A few drinks in and says he "you really do have fantastic boobs". We've also slept with each other.

    So it depends on the dynamic I think.

    I'm calling bullsh1t on this ......... unless you have pictures??? :cool:


  • #25
    spud82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 654 ✭✭✭spud82


    Tipperary Fairy wrote: »
    Yeah obviously that's what you're asking.

    Nobody here can tell you that, but it seems to be what you want to hear. Do you feel you need the ego boost?

    No anything but. I just am going through a lot at the moment and I just feel like **** at the moment, and loosing a friend is the last thing I need


  • #26
    jester77
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,264 ✭✭✭✭jester77


    Sure, just get the sexual tension out of the way first.


  • #27
    spud82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 654 ✭✭✭spud82


    ahnowbrowncow wrote: »
    Op from all your threads you come across as a complete drama llama.

    I can't fecking help it

    Do you think I want to attract drama? Because I don't/

    I have been through a lot of **** the last few years and the only way I can deal with is talk about it. I kept the details of assault in for far too long and it was awful

    No when I feel like **** or something happens I ask for advice, but I am having a ****ty time I can't help it.


  • #28
    Your Face
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,275 ✭✭✭Your Face


    Not when I'm involved.


  • #29
    ToddyDoody
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,417 ✭✭✭ToddyDoody


    spud82 wrote: »
    Maybe Ill just have a massive orgy with all my male friends, who is in?;)

    Or you could just appreciate each other's bodies?


  • #30
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,303 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    spud82 wrote: »
    No anything but. I just am going through a lot at the moment and I just feel like **** at the moment, and loosing a friend is the last thing I need


    Honestly, regardless of their gender, anyone who has been your friend for years, and walks out on you when you need them, probably wasn't going to be much of a help anyway. Hey, you've got plenty more friends, let him off and that's one less stress you have to deal with ;)


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  • #31
    pragmatic1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,573 ✭✭✭pragmatic1


    Yes and no. Friendships between men and women have definite time limits. When one is in a relationship the friendship is basically over due to jealously. I've had close female friends over the years but none as long as my male friendships.


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