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Unwarranted Hostility From Female Colleague

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  • #92
    SB_Part2
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,951 ✭✭✭SB_Part2


    rjpf1980 wrote: »
    Isn't that specific? That's what she does.

    Quantify what being is bitch is? Being cold towards you? How exactly? By not being your best friend and laughing at your jokes or talking about her personal life with you?

    Have you ever thought that maybe, maybe, you might not be that interesting to talk to?

    I'd also bet she's blocked you on Facebook and that's why you can't see her profile. Whether you care to believe it or not, especially here, you're giving off a nasty persona so you're probably doing that in person as well.


  • #93
    OhHiMark
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,106 ✭✭✭OhHiMark


    rjpf1980 wrote: »
    Isn't that specific? That's what she does.

    You sound like an awfully precious petal.


  • #94
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,119 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    rjpf1980 wrote: »
    Isn't that specific? That's what she does.

    Does she criticise your work? Does she get you in trouble with superiors? Does she exclude you from meetings or relevant discussions about your work?

    If the worst she does is looks at you icily and is a bitch then I cannot see how she deserves the level of abuse you've posted about her here.


  • #95
    Story Bud?
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,043 ✭✭✭Story Bud?


    How can you come out with an icy look?


  • #96
    fima
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 338 ✭✭fima


    OP you need to take a serious look at yourself here. This sounds as if it all stems from your own insecurities. Not everybody has to like you! Just do your job and be professional and forget about her! You do sound a bit on the obsessed side Tbh.

    In the past I had a senior position in a company that sounds similar, branches everywhere and people travelling between them. I manged 3 different branches in my time and at each one I encountered a guy, older than me, less senior than me and each one of them seemed to have an issue with how I didn't bow to their presumed superiority. It was also a very male dominated company and a few had a view of me that I was a bitch because I remained professional and didn't melt in a simpering puddle whenever they were near.

    Have a think about your true feelings in this situation. This woman has no meaning in your life so why are you allowing her to stress you out so much? I'm sorry to say but I think it's all in your head.


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  • #97
    K_P
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 577 ✭✭✭K_P


    rjpf1980 wrote: »
    She hasn't behaved in any way that would get her in trouble so pursuing this with HR would harm my position.

    Then you're not being bullied.
    rjpf1980 wrote: »
    To try and understand I snooped just to see was she like this and she has no social media account like most of my colleagues who post stuff about holidays family interests and the like. She rides to work with the same sulk on her face. She seems to be a sad bitter person devoid of warmth. That's not my problem but her icy approach to me is her trying to make it mine.


    You mentioned in earlier posts that you doing your job quickly and efficiently drives her mad. Please be assured it doesn't, it makes her life easier. While you think you've got one over on her by doing all the work you've been given, when you go home at night to try and stalk her online and obsess over what her body language and facial expressions on the bus might mean, please be assured that she's not thinking about you, she's not devising ways to make your life a misery, not googling your name or posting online about you. She's doing just fine. If it makes you feel better to assume she has a miserable life outside of work, then go ahead and do that. But I'd bet anything that if someone asked her "why do you hate rjpf1980 so much?" her response would be "who?"


  • #98
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    Mod Note
    OK OP, we're closing this thread.
    Since the mod note earlier we haven't seen a huge change in the quality of your posts and instead of giving specifics for people to help you with you continue to post in a manner that is more akin to a rant.
    As such PI is not the forum to assist you with your issue, there are other forums here where you can have a general discussion but this thread doesn't fit within PI's remit.

    If you need serious help with her suggest you talk to HR or another manager detailing the series of events as well as witnesses and dates.

    Thread closed.


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