Cash requests with wedding invitations

c68zapdsm5i1ru · 12-05-2016 05:02PM #1

Just been reading this article about a bride and groom in the UK who wrote to a guest who had given them a gift of a cheque for £100, and basically told her it wasn't as much as they'd expected and would she like to reconsider the amount.

Just wondering, in general, how posters feel about wedding invitations that explicitly ask for cash donations towards the honeymoon instead of a present? I usually give a gift cheque if I'm going to a wedding, as it's far easier than traipsing around the shops trying to second guess what the couple need/like. But I think specific requests for money (often complete with bank account details) are rude and crass.

http://metro.co.uk/2016/05/10/outrage-over-wedding-gift-that-wasnt-generous-enough-5873468/

The Sidewards Man · 12-05-2016 05:04PM

If people want to make a profit out of a wedding big deal, get over it is what I say.

howamidifferent · 12-05-2016 05:05PM

Ira Little Band wrote: »

Just been reading this article about a bride and groom in the UK who wrote to a guest who had given the a gift of a cheque for £100, and basically told her it wasn't as much as they'd expected and would she like to reconsider the amount.

Just wondering, in general, how posters feel about wedding invitations that explicitly ask for cash donations towards the honeymoon instead of a present? I usually give a gift cheque if I'm going to a wedding, as it's far easier than traipsing around the shops trying to second guess what the couple need/like. But I think specific requests for money (often complete with bank account details) are rude and crass.

http://metro.co.uk/2016/05/10/outrage-over-wedding-gift-that-wasnt-generous-enough-5873468/

I'd be cancelling that cheque in double quick time. :mad:

Baggy Trousers · 12-05-2016 05:06PM

No trash, just cash!

valoren · 12-05-2016 05:08PM

Nothing spells romance more than treating your wedding day as a business transaction.

jayo26 · 12-05-2016 05:08PM

I dont see how it would be more rude then doing a gift present list.

Some couples depend on cash presents to finish paying off there wedding bills or indeed pay for a honeymoon it would be pretty hard to actually make money out of a wedding unless a parent is paying for it.

I would much prefer to know that whatever I did give them would be more helpful then a few wedding frames or something stupid that they will leave in the corner of a room.

seamus · 12-05-2016 05:08PM

I don't see an issue with a couple requesting cash, but demanding or even suggesting an amount is pretty trashy.

Unfortunately weddings (and births and funerals) have a tendency to reveal the inner narcissist in many people who otherwise manage to keep it stowed away the rest of the time.

stoplooklisten · 12-05-2016 05:10PM

I've stopped giving cash. Weddings are so over rated. Same old crap different day.

c68zapdsm5i1ru · 12-05-2016 05:12PM

jayo26 wrote: »

I dont see how it would be more rude then doing a gift present list.

Some couples depend on cash presents to finish paying off there wedding bills or indeed pay for a honeymoon it would be pretty hard to actually make money out of a wedding unless a parent is paying for it.

I would much prefer to know that whatever I did give them would be more helpful then a few wedding frames or something stupid that they will leave in the corner of a room.

Why not just have a wedding and honeymoon you can afford? That's what people did years ago. They didn't expect the guests to make up the shortfall.

The_Valeyard · 12-05-2016 05:13PM

stoplooklisten wrote: »

I've stopped giving cash. Weddings are so over rated. Same old crap different day.

That's you off the guest list then.

Baggy Trousers · 12-05-2016 05:14PM

stoplooklisten wrote: »

I've stopped giving cash. Weddings are so over rated. Same old crap different day.

They're worse than that!

Avatar MIA · 12-05-2016 05:16PM

Lovely couple. At least they wont have to fight over who owns what present when the divorce is finalised.

FTA69 · 12-05-2016 05:19PM

Sh*te in a bag and post it back to her first class.

jester77 · 12-05-2016 05:20PM

I'd be more pissed that someone would give a cheque, who gives a cheque in 2016. Haven't seen a cheque in over 15 years

Atlantic Dawn · 12-05-2016 05:22PM

I always give cash but if I was asked for cash in the invitation they would get the finest horrible looking brown coloured toaster that same money would buy.

smash · 12-05-2016 05:31PM

"We want a flashy wedding and we want you to pay for it!"

stoplooklisten · 12-05-2016 05:35PM

The_Valeyard wrote: »

That's you off the guest list then.

good! I have enough of candy carts and photobooths.

grummpy grumpy

5rtytry56 · 12-05-2016 05:37PM

"In case YOU were thinking, this is no ordinary "BLINGY"/ TINSELTOWN WEDDING! ""

12-05-2016 05:41PM

I wouldn't go to a wedding where I was being charged admission. You're not a guest, you're a customer.

stoplooklisten · 12-05-2016 05:43PM

We'd love you to join us on our day,
All that we ask is that you pay,
Really if we had our way,
you wouldn't come but still pay

Shawn Michaels · 12-05-2016 05:45PM

That was in incredibly bad taste. Wedding lists are things of the past as a lot of people "have everything".

Personally, I believe in staying silent on the issue, but letting the mothers know that if they're asked, "they have pretty much everything...".

irishgirl19 · 12-05-2016 05:48PM

Dont like the idea of people requesting cash (not even if they use one of those cheesy/cheeky poems asking) 90% give cash anyway!

5rtytry56 · 12-05-2016 05:55PM

"My BIG FAT SLUSH-FUND wedding"

Sofiztikated · 12-05-2016 05:58PM

I can't get over the cheek of yer wan though, "Eh, c'mere, you didn't give enough, stump up!"

Uriel. · 12-05-2016 06:00PM

I see cash requests the same as I see gift lists... Vulgar.

Wedding day... Invite the people you want to share the day with, and forget about gifts. If you can't afford the wedding,save more or cut things out.

wally1990 · 12-05-2016 06:03PM

I'm getting married in 2018 and NOT a HOPE would I ask for cash. Whatever people give they give and I be happy to see all family and friends honestly

I've saved and anything I make in return is a benefit

Hate these people who demand cash and give out about low amounts as gifts

Takes away from the whole day

stoplooklisten · 12-05-2016 06:04PM

Cash for weddings is really crass,
For people out there eating grass,
Come with me and share my day,
I'l upgrade it to bales of hay

harr · 12-05-2016 06:09PM

Always give cash, but as poster said above if they asked for cash they would get a gift about have the value of the cash I was going to give...
If you can't afford your wedding cut back and have one within your means...was invited to wedding last year where the gift list was from brown Thomas and nothing under 200 quid on it....that couple got a small cash gift...normally I am generous enough with wedding gifts...

Avatar MIA · 12-05-2016 06:14PM

harr wrote: »

Always give cash, but as poster said above if they asked for cash they would get a gift about have the value of the cash I was going to give...
If you can't afford your wedding cut back and have one within your means...was invited to wedding last year where the gift list was from brown Thomas and nothing under 200 quid on it....that couple got a small cash gift...normally I am generous enough with wedding gifts...

That's a strange mentality as well. The, I'd give them a smaller gift mentality. Who are these people that you're going to their wedding?

If I didn't think that much of them I'd not bother going. I've better things to be doing than going and playing silly buggers.

12-05-2016 06:21PM

Going to a wedding with a specified amount of cash requested is like paying out for a days entertainment that you have no say in, a wedding service that will bore you to tears, a meal you don't get to choose, a duration you're probably not comfortable with, in a venue you'd rather not drive for hours to, in an outfit you probably didn't want to have to buy, but with no right to complain to the management when it all turns out to be incredibly disappointing.

smash · 12-05-2016 06:27PM

Candie wrote: »

Going to a wedding with a specified amount of cash requested is like paying out for a days entertainment that you have no say in, a wedding service that will bore you to tears, a meal you don't get to choose, a duration you're probably not comfortable with, in a venue you'd rather not drive for hours to, in an outfit you probably didn't want to have to buy, but with no right to complain to the management when it all turns out to be incredibly disappointing.

And you're not even guaranteed the ride!

Cash requests with wedding invitations

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