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Are your parents still together?

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  • #62
    lilsparkle69
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 116 ✭✭lilsparkle69


    Just over 25 years married, together a bit longer than that. They make a great couple :)


  • #63
    pickarooney
    Moderators, Arts Moderators Posts: 36,496 Mod ✭✭✭✭pickarooney


    Mine are 45 years together this year. I have literally no idea how they feel about one another. I can't recall a single argument or genuine moment of affection between them in all the years I've known them. They just... are


  • #64
    Ilyana 2.0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,331 ✭✭✭Ilyana 2.0


    Mine are 27 years married this year. Apparently the key to a happy marriage is having separate living rooms :pac:


  • #65
    RobertKK
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,782 ✭✭✭✭RobertKK


    My parents were happily married for 40 years until death separated them.

    They were a normal couple, happy most of the time, a few rows here and there but nothing would separate them.
    It made our childhood very stable an secure, and they would have us saying the rosary every night as children.
    They lived by 'the family that prays together stays together', and they sure did.


  • #66
    boobar
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,226 ✭✭✭boobar


    Both still alive and over 50 years married, plenty of arguments down through the years.

    Still lack of money and a small house full of kids would test anyone


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  • #67
    Boom_Bap
    Moderators, Music Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,740 Mod ✭✭✭✭Boom_Bap


    It's tough to talk about this, but my parents were murdered and I was there to witness it, I'm not really sure how I escaped alive that night. We had just come out of a theatre and my dad decided to take a shortcut that led us down a dark alleyway. He was kind of a big deal in the city and was pretty confident nothing would happen. But of course that wasn't the case, a guy came out of the shadows, I remember it vividly, it's like he was waiting there and knew we were coming.
    He whipped out a gun and demanded wallets and jewelry, which my folks handed over without hesitation.
    He then pointed the gun at my dad, bang, pulled the trigger and my dad slumped over. Bang, another shot on the way down. He then turned the gun on my mother and fired, that was the scariest part, shooting an innocent woman in front of her child for no reason. I could see the life had left my mother as she hit the ground.
    The gun was turned on me, I thought that was it, I felt my trousers getting warm and wet. But the guy just turned and walked away. I remember everything so clear in my mind except the guys face.
    The gotham police department are still trying to solve the case....and so am I.


  • #68
    Sono
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,776 ✭✭✭Sono


    Nearly 40 years very happily married and they still do pretty much do everything together, have seen rows through the years but they got through them and their love for each other would always shine through in the end.


  • #69
    El_Dangeroso
    Users Awaiting Email Confirmation Posts: 5,620 ✭✭✭El_Dangeroso


    Married 43 years, I got married the same month as they were 40 years later so my wedding was an anniversary celebration of sorts.

    They renewed their vows in a very modest celebration on the day.

    They are my role models for a happy and long relationship, neither of them perfect but always have each other's backs and never ever argued in front of us. All of me and my siblings have really happy relationships as a result and I credit them for that.

    I think the key with them being so happy for so long is just letting the small stuff go and only giving a crap about big things. Also selective hearing helps!


  • #70
    elfy4eva
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,204 ✭✭✭elfy4eva


    Mine don't get along, my mam says they're separated but they're not legally separated and they still live together.
    They're completely passive aggressive toward each other but, neither of them can manage on their own. Bizarre.


  • #71
    Moonbeam
    Moderators, Education Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 19,029 Mod ✭✭✭✭Moonbeam


    They split up when I was about 6.
    I have a relationship with both of them and my stepfather.


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  • #72
    thattequilagirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,158 ✭✭✭thattequilagirl


    Peregrine wrote: »
    Yes. Married for 30 years but I've never seen them be happy together.

    Same with mine.

    One day I said "they must have been happy together at some stage" in front of my aunt, who said "not really, they were both drinking a lot at the time"


  • #73
    Sound Bite
    Closed Accounts Posts: 788 ✭✭✭Sound Bite


    They are married nearly 40 years. Complete opposites but compliment each other. Never heard anything more than a very rare short lived disagreement between them. Still in love.

    I would love to have what they have.


  • #74
    Wanderer2010
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,743 ✭✭✭Wanderer2010


    Nope. Split up about 9 years ago, and to say it was ugly was an understatement. They were in their 60s at the time and things had finally come to a head after decades of putting on a false smile for the sake of us (the kids) but now we had grown up and made our own lives the cracks deepened. My mother hated my Dad for not providing as we were growing up, he resented me because I could never get on with him. Huge arguments (physical at one point), me screaming at him to just kill himself nobody would miss him then the horrible day he packed his bags and announced to me he was leaving. Tears in his eyes, I told him not to leave we could work it out, I turned into a quivering child just wanting to comfort their father. But he walked out and ended up alone in a deep depression. It split the family to this day.

    I needed counselling for 3 years afterwards to deal with the guilt of my actions and the whole situation and how it came to be and I can say now I would never ever open my mouth without considering how hurtful words can be. I still cant bear to think of him leaving but thankfully we are all civil with each other now and even meet up for coffee because of course, you always love your parents no matter what.

    Sorry, didn't mean to go so deep but that's the truth of it.


  • #75
    Turtyturd
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,404 ✭✭✭✭Turtyturd


    Still together now.

    Fought like cats and dogs when we were growing up and were on the verge of splitting up a few times, but they are probably the happiest I have known them to be now.

    My grand parents split up when I was young and even now I can remember how awkward the situation was. Fairly sure my Granda had an affair, and my Granny forced her adult kids to cut off all contact with him. My Mam was the only exception, and it's a decision that I will always be grateful for. He was a big influence on me and spoiled me rotten growing up :D.


  • #76
    Penny Tration
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,687 ✭✭✭✭Penny Tration


    Married 34 years but separated a few years, no legal separation though.

    Good friends though, see each other every day, and they're both happier living apart.


  • #77
    French_Girl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 715 ✭✭✭French_Girl


    No. And they never were.
    My father walked away and chose not to acknowledge me/us.
    It saddens me to say I don't know the man.


  • #78
    enzo roco
    Closed Accounts Posts: 565 ✭✭✭enzo roco


    MRnotlob606 wrote: »
    Sadly my mother left before I was born.

    Id like to dedicate my post to father, who was a roofer.
    So dad if youre up there...




    This thread makes for sad reading about marriage.
    Well except for post2, cause that was bleedn' fabulous.


  • #79
    bisounours
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 156 ✭✭bisounours


    Yes, they were married until my dad passed away. Happily? I used to ask my mother why she married him/stay married to him. (Don't get me wrong, I loved him immensely but also very aware he was a very strong willed man and can be extremely trying at times!) Her response was:
    -he didn't drink
    -he didn't smoke
    -he didn't do drugs
    -he didn't beat her
    -he didn't visit prostitutes
    Thus he made a good husband. That being said, she made sure that I grew up as independent as I am so I would never be in her position.


  • #80
    Olishi4
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,469 ✭✭✭Olishi4


    Turtyturd wrote: »
    Still together now.

    Fought like cats and dogs when we were growing up and were on the verge of splitting up a few times, but they are probably the happiest I have known them to be now.

    My grandparents were always bickering. She always seemed irritated by him and it looked like he used to try to wind her up. I really thought that they just hated one another and had never seen them any other way until my granny was dying. I was so shocked to see how affectionate they became. They did love each other. He was by her side as much as possible and she would ask for him if he wasn't there.

    When she finally passed away, he was devastated. He said he couldn't believe that she was gone. He died about two years after her.

    My own parents are still together. They are childhood sweethearts.


  • #81
    Hannibelle Smeeeth
    Closed Accounts Posts: 123 ✭✭Hannibelle Smeeeth


    Torricelli wrote: »
    Mine are split up 10 years now. It was pretty messy and resulted in myself and my other siblings not speaking to my Father any longer. I think about him every single day, lots of good memories spending time with him as a child. Have met him at a few weddings and funerals since then but it's extremely awkward. It kills me, to be honest.

    To be honest, I'm insanely jealous of my friends whose parents are still happily married. It shouldn't be taken for granted.

    Can you not smooth things over with him? Did he do something really bad? Its quite possible youve answered this already, but i havent read the whole thread :o


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  • #82
    Merrion
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,436 ✭✭✭Merrion


    Nope.
    Uncontrolled trouser snake ruins two families.


  • #83
    Ken.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,898 ✭✭✭✭Ken.


    Here's a lady who's parents aren't together any more.
    http://www.theladbible.com/articles/guy-s-killer-comeback-text-to-his-girlfriend-s-mum-ends-in-her-getting-a-divorce-300316


    So some back story to start. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we've been living together for 1.5. We've had our bumps but for the most part the relationship has been going really well. I've never known him to be vindictive or cruel hearted, he's always been sweet to me.

    I guess the drama started when my sister announced her wedding to the family. My parents agreed to pay for it and my mom has been very stressed, planning the wedding with my sister. She wants the pictures to be perfect and is concerned about my BF. He's had a pretty big scar on his face since he was young, and my mom finds it hideous. I don't know why, she's always had a weird obsession with it that I hide from my boyfriend, but he catches her staring.

    So last week she texts him "How to tell someone they need cosmetic surgery". He didn't tell me about it before he texted back "How to tell someone they're in a loveless marriage and their husband is cheating when he goes on business trips".


  • #84
    smash
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34,808 ✭✭✭✭smash


    Merrion wrote: »
    Nope.
    Uncontrolled trouser snake ruins two families.

    How come comments like this don't emerge when women cheat?


  • #85
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    Well a woman must have cheated, trousersnake didn't cheat with himself


  • #86
    smash
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34,808 ✭✭✭✭smash


    LexieOnRale wrote: »
    Well a woman must have cheated, trousersnake didn't cheat with himself
    Have a think about what you just said there, because it makes no sense.


  • #87
    Arbiter of Good Taste
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,200 ✭✭✭Arbiter of Good Taste


    ken wrote: »
    Here's a lady who's parents aren't together any more.
    http://www.theladbible.com/articles/guy-s-killer-comeback-text-to-his-girlfriend-s-mum-ends-in-her-getting-a-divorce-300316


    So some back story to start. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we've been living together for 1.5. We've had our bumps but for the most part the relationship has been going really well. I've never known him to be vindictive or cruel hearted, he's always been sweet to me.

    I guess the drama started when my sister announced her wedding to the family. My parents agreed to pay for it and my mom has been very stressed, planning the wedding with my sister. She wants the pictures to be perfect and is concerned about my BF. He's had a pretty big scar on his face since he was young, and my mom finds it hideous. I don't know why, she's always had a weird obsession with it that I hide from my boyfriend, but he catches her staring.

    So last week she texts him "How to tell someone they need cosmetic surgery". He didn't tell me about it before he texted back "How to tell someone they're in a loveless marriage and their husband is cheating when he goes on business trips".

    Ouch. To be honest, I'm with the boyfriend in this one


  • #88
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    smash wrote: »
    Have a think about what you just said there, because it makes no sense.


    It does.
    Man cheats. Two families ruined.
    Man cheats from family 1 with woman from family 2.
    Man and woman cheats. Cheaters = 2.


  • #89
    Menas
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,318 ✭✭✭✭Menas


    My parents are still together.
    But my dad died 20 years ago...but as far as she is concerned they are still together and that is fine. I think.


  • #90
    smash
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34,808 ✭✭✭✭smash


    LexieOnRale wrote: »
    It does.
    Man cheats. Two families ruined.
    Man cheats from family 1 with woman from family 2.
    Man and woman cheats. Cheaters = 2.

    Man cheats with single woman... Woman didn't cheat!


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  • #91
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    smash wrote: »
    Man cheats with single woman... Woman didn't cheat!


    The poster said two families were ruined so I assumed that neither of the cheaters were single


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