Are your parents still together?

Torricelli

Mine are split up 10 years now. It was pretty messy and resulted in myself and my other siblings not speaking to my Father any longer. I think about him every single day, lots of good memories spending time with him as a child. Have met him at a few weddings and funerals since then but it's extremely awkward. It kills me, to be honest.

To be honest, I'm insanely jealous of my friends whose parents are still happily married. It shouldn't be taken for granted.

Alf Stewart.

Yeah, and they are the epitome of happily married.

You can see they've been through it all, hard times, good times, funny times, and sad times, but you know they were made for each other, and I reckon they're the true definition of marrying a best friend.

They idolize each other, still go out on "dates", and they even hold hands and cuddle in public.

Fair fcuks to em, says I.

ceadaoin.

No. My father hasn't been around at all since I was a baby. I wouldn't know him if I passed him in the street. My mother got married 25 years ago and he is the man I consider my dad. They are still together.

You should reach out to your dad and try to repair your relationship, life's too short.

HalloweenJack

Separated when I was 1. Don't know that much about my dad but do know from having met him that I don't want anything to do with him. We are just too different as people and as he was never any kind of a father to me, I don't feel like I have to force a relationship with him.

Have a stepdad who came on the scene when I was 16 and I don't have any love for him either.

My ma's an amazing person but she's got **** taste in men.

Yes. They are the reason that I know real lasting love is possible.

BoJack Horseman

They are 35 years married this week.

They love each other.... and they loath each other.

so, to be expected after 3.5 decades!

eviltwin

There were married nearly 40 years until my dad died but they weren't happy.

Wabbit Ears

Legally seperated in 2010. Both are happier apart. Dad became a much much better person, Mam can get as blind pissed as she wants in peace.

callaway92

Ya, married 30 years now. Pretty cool

Mine will (hopefully) be celebrating their 35th anniversary this year. They constantly bicker but deep down I think they're happy, and would probably be lost without each other.

I really hate that they're getting older; even though death is inevitable for us all I can't imagine what life would be like without one or both of them around.

KatW4

My parents split up when I was 7, he was an alcoholic. We didn't see him much until he was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Our mum made us go to see him all of the time but tbh it was awkward for us as much as it was for her. He died when I was 11, 15 years ago this year.

monkeysnapper

My dad left my mum when I was 4 . my sisters are 4 and 5.5 yrs older than me and remember a lot more than I do.

They told me life was unbarrable with the two fighting . I do remember my dad saying he couldn't take us and my mum brought us up on her own .

My mum met somebody els who never bonded with us same as my dad . but eventually we all adapted to life and got on with it . what other choice did we have .

Probably was better that we were young to be honest. I have heard stories about fault on each side as I've got older, I'm 40 now and every time I've just said I don't want to know .its the past .

I'm happily married myself 15 years with 3 great kids and life's great which I've never taken for granted one single day .


Edit .... Touching wood

Peregrine

Yes. Married for 30 years but I've never seen them be happy together.

KERSPLAT!

Nope.

Eircom_Sucks

mine are 42 years married

i split up with my kids mother , but i make it my mission to see my kids everyday , so when they are older they will know how much i love them , me and ex still on good terms and try do something all together be it once a week , why should my kids suffer ?

they only 5 and 3 but i mind them 3 days a week and see them the days i dont have them

little off topic but just hearing some of you who dont know your dad or he wasnt a dad to you , kills me and i never want my kids to think of me that way

The Backwards Man

My Ma died 11 years ago. My Da has a new woman on the go now and they travel the world together. She has a wee dog and I babysat it for them when they went to Brazil and Argentina a few weeks ago. It shat everywhere. Lucky wasn't impressed.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Without knowing the ins and outs of your relationship with your dad id just say, he broke up with your mom, not with you. If you miss him, then try fix it. Life is too short to miss someone when there's no need to miss them. Chances are he misses you too.

Leogirl

They were 40 years married last week. They had some real rough patches- she was an alcoholic who made his life misery. Then she quit 8 years ago+ they now have a wonderful relationship. They are so in love, they have fun together, support each other in everything- they're just ridiculously happy together. I'm so glad he stuck it out+that she went through hell to quit.

If I had a relationship even quarter as good, I would be one happy woman!!

Unfortunately we grew up watching the sh*t stuff+ so we're a bit messed up when it comes to relationships!! Damage was well+ truly done by the time they sorted themselves out.

Pink Fairy

Hahaha
My back story is a little unusual, but no, my parents are not together

osarusan

Married 47 years and still together.

Still deeply in love for each other and the most important thing in each other's lives.

From reading on boards, I've had my eyes opened to some of the miserable family dynamics and relationships that people have gone through, and I'm truly grateful for the family I was born into.

PARlance

My parents ran a shop together, they worked with each other 8am until 10pm, 7 days a week as we grew up.
I'm sure the couple, with the shop in Fr. Ted, was based on them.

Still going strong, still working together and still finding (less) time for a good auld fight.

Fr_Dougal

No, thank god.

Torricelli

PARlance wrote: »

My parents ran a shop together, they worked with each other 8am until 10pm, 7 days a week as we grew up.
I'm sure the couple, with the shop in Fr. Ted, was based on them.

Still going strong, still working together and still finding (less) time for a good auld fight.

"get them feckin' Crunchies outta the car!"

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

To be on topic, my parents were together when my mom died. They'd be 30 years married this year, that's depressing.
Though I think my dad was happier as a widower. Not that he was happier because she was dead, because I know he missed her a lot. But our house was a lot less stress.

failinis

Yes, they have been on and off (separated) but currently "on".
They have been through thick and thin but neither have learnt a thing from the previous "we need space".
If they are happy I want them together, if not...why suffer through that.

Lady is a tramp

My parents are happily married around 32 years.

My own son's dad and I broke up when my son was one and a half. I'm actually just happy he was so young that he won't have any memories of what it was like when we were still together ... he's better off not remembering that! Not exactly the example of a happy loving family that I'd like him to be exposed to.

Cluiche iascairi

Mine are, 35 years now and god only knows how they are still going.. The fights I used to hear every single Sat night, now I'm a bit older I respect my dad for putting up with the abuse my drunken mother would give him.

ElleEm

Mine are coming up to their 43rd wedding anniversary. They are in love and really have each other's backs in every way. They balance each other out. They still go on dates and genuinely enjoy each other. It is lovely.

IvyTheTerrible

My parents are together 37 years and are still in love.
My husband's parents are together longer but tbh I don't understand why.They hate each other and my father-in-law is an extremely difficult person, to say the least. My mother-in-law is starting to talk about splitting up, but I'll believe it when I see it.

happywithlife

Unfortunately yes - 40 miserable years last summer. Me and my sister routinely offer my dad a place to stay should he ever grow a pair and leave the miserable hole of a marriage he has. But we know he never will. Depressing stuff really. It's such a stifling house to visit these days now all us children have fled the nest - horrible atmosphere :-(
Am so jealous when I see some of my friends relationships and their (wonderful) family dynamics

Valentina

My mother died 9 years ago but up until then they were very happily married. My dad is a shell of a man since she passed.

wokingvoter

happywithlife wrote: »

Unfortunately yes - 40 miserable years last summer. Me and my sister routinely offer my dad a place to stay should he ever grow a pair and leave the miserable hole of a marriage he has. But we know he never will. Depressing stuff really. It's such a stifling house to visit these days now all us children have fled the nest - horrible atmosphere :-(
Am so jealous when I see some of my friends relationships and their (wonderful) family dynamics

When you get into your 60s your afraid of making that big leap into the unknown. It's easier to sit in the misery but know that you have a roof over your heads and you don't want to impose on your adult kids and their families

pl4ichjgy17zwd

They never were (apart from the one, obvious, night). He refused to acknowledge paternity, she didn't push for it. Don't know him at all, but have a pretty nice relationship with my mom (now...not so much growing up/my teens). She never married anyone else or even had any kind of man in the house growing up or since.

My brother's father reemarried and it always confused me when I was young how he had three parents and I had one.

Stheno

Mine were until my dad died a few years ago

My mother still posts loving messages to him on facebook on his birthday and the anniversary of their death.

Think they were just shy of their 40th anniversary when he died.

Crumpets

Mine were 35 years married there last week

They're 57 years married this year. Raised an army of children and now get visited by an even bigger army of grandchildren. They never drank (nor smoked) so it's only in adulthood that I realised how lucky we were not to have a parent with an alcohol problem. That's the real evil in so many families.


My Dad was always cool and my Mam the stressed one, which is understandable as she did all the housework/child rearing, and my Dad's income alone kept us all. Since we all left, they are like two little déagóirí going around the place, my Mam making corny jokes and giggling my Dad doing his big laugh. It's like that first love stuff. No stress anymore, except the worry that their time could be up anyday soon. Everytime one of my sibling's rings now I always think something has happened my Dad.

I wish it were possible to live in Dublin these days without both parents having to work outside the home. Most of us have lost that freedom to have something as fundamental as one parent staying at home to support the children.

Witchie

Mine are married 46 years and while there were some dodgy times where it looked like it could end, my dad would pull it back by making my mum laugh and she would forgive his almost bankrupting us all.

Dad had to work in America a lot in recent years and mum would spend some time out there but some here too. Dad came home for good a couple of weeks ago. While he was away he would ring her at least twice a day for a chat, never forgot to send a rose on valentines day and just made her feel so loved despite the distance.

They are an amazingly strong couple who have faced every horror that life has thrown at them (including me!) And battled through with love and respect for each other.

There is something so lovely about seeing them wrapped around each other on the sofa just chatting and laughing and I think their love for each other has made it difficult for me to find someone as I feel it will never be as wonderful as their relationship and I don't want less.

I am so glad my sons have grown up watching this magical couple so that they don't think all relationships are doomed to fail like mine and their dad's.

Stigura

Both long since dead.

The flying mouse

My father died ten years ago, but when here my mother and father were very happy couple together , they did a lot of things together ,went everywhere, had a laugh,I know my ma misses my da terrible and in her mind there still together...and she not doing to bad herself,swims daily and plays pitch n putt 4 times a week, not bad for a lady in her 80s..

enda1

34 years married yesterday!

Calypso27

My parents are 35 years married and they are still very much in love.

Shenshen

My parents split up 25 years ago. I was a teenager at the time, and the day my mother told me she was leaving my father was the happiest day of my life (until I got married myself, that is ).
I had to fight my father for child support for me and my brothers in court (due to some regulations within the German court system, I didn't have to pay for that. My mother would have to front the costs of lawyers and court sessions if she had started the proceedings herself). Haven't spoken to him in well over 2 decades now and hope I'll never again have to. One of my brothers still keeps some sort of contact, but more out of a sense of duty than anything else. None of us can stand him.

Alf Veedersane

They were 38 years married when Mam died. They had so many plans for enjoying their latter years and then cancer called.

They're the reason I knew it was possible to find someone and love them happily and completely for the rest of your life. They were lovely to see together.

My Dad's still heartbroken.

Ande1975

Mine are married 51 years this year. All their kids (apart from me) have emigrated.
Mum continues to wait on Dad hand and foot but calls him a spoiled brat at the same time. They hold hands when out walking and when both got sick at different times, it made me wonder how they will manage without the other so I moved home for a while.

My mum is 75 and loves her GAA and Rugby and will scream profanities at the telly. My father doesn't and has a knack for making lots of noise during a tense game (he's like a toddler really). During a recent 6 nations, I was taken aback when I heard her say 'XXXXX will you ever shut your stupid gob, sit down and be quiet'. Cue fits of giggles from Dad.

I think they'll be fine:)

RhubarbCrumble

Yes, mine are still together, but the only people they're fooling is themselves. I'm not in contact with them anymore. Growing up I was physically, mentally and emotionally abused by both. A couple of years ago I tried to talk to them about it and all hell broke loose to put it mildly.
Anyway, I didn't realise it as a child, but looking at it now, it's obvious they don't have a good marriage and looking back, I think they took it out on me when I was small.
If they had separated I would probably have been a lot better off, but they're married forty years now so they'll stay together for the rest of their miserable lives. They'd never split up because they'd be too concerned (my mother especially) about "what would the neighbours say". It's all about keeping up appearances with them.

My partner's parents on the other hand married over fifty years and are still in love. They get on so well together, are always there for each other and always support each other. I honestly think in anything happened one of them, the other would pass away soon after as neither of them would cope without the other.

chakotha

Nope mine got married 42 years ago and split up 32 years ago.

spurious

Mine were married just short of fifty years when Dad died. She still misses him terribly.

turnikett1

I wish. They're in their 50's now and alone. They're still best friends. I don't understand why they don't just suck it up and get back together!

MRnotlob606

Sadly my mother left before I was born.

melissak

Yes. My mam bosses my dad around a bit but he would be lost without her and she without him. My mam had breast cancer last year and i have never seen my dad so scared. Mam was fine about it and she is usually the one fretting about health stuff. Shes fine now thank god.

beach_walker

37 years married and I really hope I can someday find the love that they share.