Are your parents still together?

Torricelli · 29-03-2016 11:31PM #1

Mine are split up 10 years now. It was pretty messy and resulted in myself and my other siblings not speaking to my Father any longer. I think about him every single day, lots of good memories spending time with him as a child. Have met him at a few weddings and funerals since then but it's extremely awkward. It kills me, to be honest.

To be honest, I'm insanely jealous of my friends whose parents are still happily married. It shouldn't be taken for granted.

Alf Stewart. · 29-03-2016 11:35PM

Yeah, and they are the epitome of happily married.

You can see they've been through it all, hard times, good times, funny times, and sad times, but you know they were made for each other, and I reckon they're the true definition of marrying a best friend.

They idolize each other, still go out on "dates", and they even hold hands and cuddle in public.

Fair fcuks to em, says I.

ceadaoin. · 29-03-2016 11:38PM

No. My father hasn't been around at all since I was a baby. I wouldn't know him if I passed him in the street. My mother got married 25 years ago and he is the man I consider my dad. They are still together.

You should reach out to your dad and try to repair your relationship, life's too short.

HalloweenJack · 29-03-2016 11:39PM

Separated when I was 1. Don't know that much about my dad but do know from having met him that I don't want anything to do with him. We are just too different as people and as he was never any kind of a father to me, I don't feel like I have to force a relationship with him.

Have a stepdad who came on the scene when I was 16 and I don't have any love for him either.

My ma's an amazing person but she's got **** taste in men.

29-03-2016 11:40PM

Yes. They are the reason that I know real lasting love is possible.

BoJack Horseman · 29-03-2016 11:42PM

They are 35 years married this week.

They love each other.... and they loath each other.

so, to be expected after 3.5 decades!

eviltwin · 29-03-2016 11:46PM

There were married nearly 40 years until my dad died but they weren't happy.

Wabbit Ears · 29-03-2016 11:49PM

Legally seperated in 2010. Both are happier apart. Dad became a much much better person, Mam can get as blind pissed as she wants in peace.

callaway92 · 29-03-2016 11:50PM

Ya, married 30 years now. Pretty cool

29-03-2016 11:50PM

Mine will (hopefully) be celebrating their 35th anniversary this year. They constantly bicker but deep down I think they're happy, and would probably be lost without each other.

I really hate that they're getting older; even though death is inevitable for us all I can't imagine what life would be like without one or both of them around.

KatW4 · 29-03-2016 11:51PM

My parents split up when I was 7, he was an alcoholic. We didn't see him much until he was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Our mum made us go to see him all of the time but tbh it was awkward for us as much as it was for her. He died when I was 11, 15 years ago this year.

monkeysnapper · 29-03-2016 11:51PM

My dad left my mum when I was 4 . my sisters are 4 and 5.5 yrs older than me and remember a lot more than I do.

They told me life was unbarrable with the two fighting . I do remember my dad saying he couldn't take us and my mum brought us up on her own .

My mum met somebody els who never bonded with us same as my dad . but eventually we all adapted to life and got on with it . what other choice did we have .

Probably was better that we were young to be honest. I have heard stories about fault on each side as I've got older, I'm 40 now and every time I've just said I don't want to know .its the past .

I'm happily married myself 15 years with 3 great kids and life's great which I've never taken for granted one single day .

Edit .... Touching wood

Peregrine · 29-03-2016 11:53PM

Yes. Married for 30 years but I've never seen them be happy together.

KERSPLAT! · 29-03-2016 11:55PM

Nope.

Eircom_Sucks · 29-03-2016 11:56PM

mine are 42 years married

i split up with my kids mother , but i make it my mission to see my kids everyday , so when they are older they will know how much i love them , me and ex still on good terms and try do something all together be it once a week , why should my kids suffer ?

they only 5 and 3 but i mind them 3 days a week and see them the days i dont have them

little off topic but just hearing some of you who dont know your dad or he wasnt a dad to you , kills me and i never want my kids to think of me that way

The Backwards Man · 29-03-2016 11:58PM

My Ma died 11 years ago. My Da has a new woman on the go now and they travel the world together. She has a wee dog and I babysat it for them when they went to Brazil and Argentina a few weeks ago. It shat everywhere. Lucky wasn't impressed.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 29-03-2016 11:59PM

Without knowing the ins and outs of your relationship with your dad id just say, he broke up with your mom, not with you. If you miss him, then try fix it. Life is too short to miss someone when there's no need to miss them. Chances are he misses you too.

Leogirl · 30-03-2016 12:00AM

They were 40 years married last week. They had some real rough patches- she was an alcoholic who made his life misery. Then she quit 8 years ago+ they now have a wonderful relationship. They are so in love, they have fun together, support each other in everything- they're just ridiculously happy together. I'm so glad he stuck it out+that she went through hell to quit.

If I had a relationship even quarter as good, I would be one happy woman!!

Unfortunately we grew up watching the sh*t stuff+ so we're a bit messed up when it comes to relationships!! Damage was well+ truly done by the time they sorted themselves out.

Pink Fairy · 30-03-2016 12:00AM

Hahaha
My back story is a little unusual, but no, my parents are not together

osarusan · 30-03-2016 12:00AM

Married 47 years and still together.

Still deeply in love for each other and the most important thing in each other's lives.

From reading on boards, I've had my eyes opened to some of the miserable family dynamics and relationships that people have gone through, and I'm truly grateful for the family I was born into.

PARlance · 30-03-2016 12:02AM

My parents ran a shop together, they worked with each other 8am until 10pm, 7 days a week as we grew up.
I'm sure the couple, with the shop in Fr. Ted, was based on them.

Still going strong, still working together and still finding (less) time for a good auld fight.

Fr_Dougal · 30-03-2016 12:03AM

No, thank god.

Torricelli · 30-03-2016 12:04AM

PARlance wrote: »

My parents ran a shop together, they worked with each other 8am until 10pm, 7 days a week as we grew up.
I'm sure the couple, with the shop in Fr. Ted, was based on them.

Still going strong, still working together and still finding (less) time for a good auld fight.

"get them feckin' Crunchies outta the car!"

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 30-03-2016 12:06AM

To be on topic, my parents were together when my mom died. They'd be 30 years married this year, that's depressing.
Though I think my dad was happier as a widower. Not that he was happier because she was dead, because I know he missed her a lot. But our house was a lot less stress.

failinis · 30-03-2016 12:06AM

Yes, they have been on and off (separated) but currently "on".
They have been through thick and thin but neither have learnt a thing from the previous "we need space".
If they are happy I want them together, if not...why suffer through that.

Lady is a tramp · 30-03-2016 12:09AM

My parents are happily married around 32 years.

My own son's dad and I broke up when my son was one and a half. I'm actually just happy he was so young that he won't have any memories of what it was like when we were still together ... he's better off not remembering that! Not exactly the example of a happy loving family that I'd like him to be exposed to.

Cluiche iascairi · 30-03-2016 12:14AM

Mine are, 35 years now and god only knows how they are still going.. The fights I used to hear every single Sat night, now I'm a bit older I respect my dad for putting up with the abuse my drunken mother would give him.

ElleEm · 30-03-2016 12:21AM

Mine are coming up to their 43rd wedding anniversary. They are in love and really have each other's backs in every way. They balance each other out. They still go on dates and genuinely enjoy each other. It is lovely.

IvyTheTerrible · 30-03-2016 12:25AM

My parents are together 37 years and are still in love.
My husband's parents are together longer but tbh I don't understand why.They hate each other and my father-in-law is an extremely difficult person, to say the least. My mother-in-law is starting to talk about splitting up, but I'll believe it when I see it.

happywithlife · 30-03-2016 12:28AM

Unfortunately yes - 40 miserable years last summer. Me and my sister routinely offer my dad a place to stay should he ever grow a pair and leave the miserable hole of a marriage he has. But we know he never will. Depressing stuff really. It's such a stifling house to visit these days now all us children have fled the nest - horrible atmosphere :-(
Am so jealous when I see some of my friends relationships and their (wonderful) family dynamics

30-03-2016 12:29AM

My mother died 9 years ago but up until then they were very happily married. My dad is a shell of a man since she passed.

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