Single life as a guy...

Mister Vain · 15-03-2016 08:17PM

Emme wrote: »

Meetup is a sweetshop for single guys

I wouldn't go as far as sweetshop but it is a great way to meet new people you share a common interest with. I've found it a lot more enjoyable than trying to meet women on a night out anyway.

astonaidan · 16-03-2016 01:13AM

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

There's no way I would have the guts to go up to someone in the street and ask them out, for me the chances of being told to fook off would be too much and anyway there is no way of knowing if the person was even single.

And even if they were single the chances are unless someone looks like Dan Carter the success rate is low.

Its funny in my home town, Id never do it either, but Ive done it loads of time in Galway,Dublin and outside of Ireland, never had the **** of reaction tbh

Galwayguy35 · 16-03-2016 07:50AM

astonaidan wrote: »

Its funny in my home town, Id never do it either, but Ive done it loads of time in Galway,Dublin and outside of Ireland, never had the **** of reaction tbh

Had you much success?

Maybe it's just me but I think when people are going about their daily business the last thing on their mind would be the idea of someone coming over to them and asking them out.

armaghlad · 16-03-2016 08:45AM

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Had you much success?

Maybe it's just me but I think when people are going about their daily business the last thing on their mind would be the idea of someone coming over to them and asking them out.

I think it's creepy. Although I'd say there is a fine line between creepy and "cute". I know some girls who would probably melt at a guy having the balls to do it; others would be more of the "wtf get away from me" variety... suppose it depends on looks, confidence and whether the girl is in the "cute" or "wtf" camp.

ancapailldorcha · 16-03-2016 10:02AM

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Pat Mustard · 16-03-2016 11:58AM

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astonaidan · 16-03-2016 03:09PM

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Had you much success?

Maybe it's just me but I think when people are going about their daily business the last thing on their mind would be the idea of someone coming over to them and asking them out.

Well yeah, but like its more at the bus stop, on train, I find it easier to do than actually the thought of doing it

17-03-2016 12:32PM

astonaidan wrote: »

Well yeah, but like its more at the bus stop, on train, I find it easier to do than actually the thought of doing it

If you're sitting on a train it's easy to strike up a conversation and see where it goes. Walking on the street I'm not sure about because I just don't know how that would work. A guy out jogging ran past me and turned around and ran back to ask me out. That's been my one and only experience of being approached on the street. It has happened on a train and in coffee shops. To be honest it didn't matter to me where it was but whether or not I thought "oh yeah he's kinda nice so why not".

It can take guts and that's something I admire in a person.

astonaidan · 17-03-2016 02:09PM

Deleted User wrote: »

If you're sitting on a train it's easy to strike up a conversation and see where it goes. Walking on the street I'm not sure about because I just don't know how that would work. A guy out jogging ran past me and turned around and ran back to ask me out. That's been my one and only experience of being approached on the street. It has happened on a train and in coffee shops. To be honest it didn't matter to me where it was but whether or not I thought "oh yeah he's kinda nice so why not".

It can take guts and that's something I admire in a person.

Oh its way easier on a train etc, but Ive done it while working in Sydney, I work in construction, was standing with the lads and pretty girl walked by, I caught her eye and just said "youre really pretty" and ended up getting her number
And yes I know LAME but it usually works

17-03-2016 02:44PM

astonaidan wrote: »

Oh its way easier on a train etc, but Ive done it while working in Sydney, I work in construction, was standing with the lads and pretty girl walked by, I caught her eye and just said "youre really pretty" and ended up getting her number
And yes I know LAME but it usually works

No I don't think it's lame. In fact I think it's great.

Irish_rat · 17-03-2016 03:33PM

astonaidan wrote: »

Oh its way easier on a train etc, but Ive done it while working in Sydney, I work in construction, was standing with the lads and pretty girl walked by, I caught her eye and just said "youre really pretty" and ended up getting her number
And yes I know LAME but it usually works

Nothing wrong with that at all, I've done it on a number of occasions in the past. You have to be a cocky git though

astonaidan · 17-03-2016 06:12PM

Irish_rat wrote: »

Nothing wrong with that at all, I've done it on a number of occasions in the past. You have to be a cocky git though

Well..................:cool:

H3llR4iser · 18-03-2016 03:23PM

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

I've tried this a few times but to no avail. I certainly didn't notice a lot of women there.

This is my experience as well. I do have a bunch of hobbies, but they are all very much exclusively male dominated. I wouldn't join something I have zero interest in just to meet women, it'd be absolutely clear from the get go.

I did go out a few times with the "socializing" groups, and even there it was essentially a men to women ratio around 10:1; Which created the classic, ridiculous "clambering over each other to talk to the girl" scenario. Bad luck? Very likely, but still...

astonaidan wrote: »

Oh its way easier on a train etc, but Ive done it while working in Sydney, I work in construction, was standing with the lads and pretty girl walked by, I caught her eye and just said "youre really pretty" and ended up getting her number
And yes I know LAME but it usually works

Cheers to you man, that is spectacular...almost stereotypical in its scenario - group of builders on the street + pretty woman walks by; Have you tried sending your CV to Coca Cola for their next "Diet Coke" advert?

Mister Vain · 18-03-2016 06:24PM

H3llR4iser wrote: »

I wouldn't join something I have zero interest in just to meet women

I'd say the same thing about nightclubs if they're not really your thing either. If you're not enjoying the activity then you're probably not in the best frame of mind to meet someone. It's better to meet someone through common interests, although that can be tricky if its a male dominated thing, but you need to do the things that make you happy.

ancapailldorcha · 18-03-2016 06:32PM

H3llR4iser wrote: »

This is my experience as well. I do have a bunch of hobbies, but they are all very much exclusively male dominated. I wouldn't join something I have zero interest in just to meet women, it'd be absolutely clear from the get go.

Indeed. I did join a local film club but I've been so used to being alone that it was just weird though they were absolutely lovely.

cantdecide · 19-03-2016 12:49AM

With regard to meetups, I've used it and it seems disingenuous to use it to meet women exclusively although I'm sure some do. Like a lot of guys, when you use it as intended, you'll end up in gender heavy groups and personally, going to more general socialising type meetups is too boozy an atmosphere for me to be comfortable- I'm better one to one. It's just a vicious circle.

Mister Vain wrote: »

I'd say the same thing about nightclubs if they're not really your thing either.

Very true. I think we're still heavily attached to our pubbing and clubbing comfort zone in Ireland. But maybe it's the fact my confidence is in the pan at the moment so I'm definitely not going to approaching anyone in a conventional or unconventional way for the foreseeable...

Dickie10 · 24-03-2016 09:43PM

i have seen quite a lot of guys who, before they met there partners/wives were always on for clubs late nights at pubs and the like, i actually thought they were into this sort of thing and ,like me were just not looking for a relationship really. but in fact they were pretty desperate to meet a woman and this was what they were so keen on getting out to pubs and clubs every weekend. when they do meet their partner its really then you realise that perhaps they didnt really enjoy partying hard at all, it kind of like an attitude of " ah sure i have a woman now ,sure why would I be going on thelash, wasting me money and me settled with the woman".

Mister Vain · 24-03-2016 09:55PM

Dickie10 wrote: »

i have seen quite a lot of guys who, before they met there partners/wives were always on for clubs late nights at pubs and the like, i actually thought they were into this sort of thing and ,like me were just not looking for a relationship really. but in fact they were pretty desperate to meet a woman and this was what they were so keen on getting out to pubs and clubs every weekend. when they do meet their partner its really then you realise that perhaps they didnt really enjoy partying hard at all, it kind of like an attitude of " ah sure i have a woman now ,sure why would I be going on thelash, wasting me money and me settled with the woman".

Yeah I certainly wasn't doing it to enjoy the banging choons or the drunken fights outside supermacs. As a young lad in rural Ireland it was pretty much the only way to meet women at the time. But there were times when I thought to myself "what the hell am I doing here?"

Dickie10 · 24-03-2016 11:26PM

really ? i just wonder how many guys are like that?there usually prob the lads that dont get much shifting action or the rest and when they do they hang to her and are not on the scene anymore. i think im in this rut so long even though i get shifting action that i dont know if i could sustain a relationship because it is rooted in my rountine

25-03-2016 11:00PM

Dickie10 wrote: »

really ? i just wonder how many guys are like that?there usually prob the lads that dont get much shifting action or the rest and when they do they hang to her and are not on the scene anymore. i think im in this rut so long even though i get shifting action that i dont know if i could sustain a relationship because it is rooted in my rountine

I know plenty of single men and attached men who go for a few drinks or to a club quite happily. It's just something they enjoy doing.
Also it's not fair to assume that the men who do suddenly stop going to pubs after meeting their partner is because they don't get "shifting action".

Dial Hard · 26-03-2016 12:59PM

Dickie10 wrote:

really ? i just wonder how many guys are like that?there usually prob the lads that dont get much shifting action or the rest and when they do they hang to her and are not on the scene anymore. i think im in this rut so long even though i get shifting action that i dont know if i could sustain a relationship because it is rooted in my rountine

"Shifting action"? Jesus, it's 1996 again and I'm back in the Gaeltacht.

Mister Vain · 26-03-2016 02:23PM

Dial Hard wrote: »

"Shifting action"? Jesus, it's 1996 again and I'm back in the Gaeltacht.

What do the kids call it these days?

Pac1Man · 26-03-2016 07:58PM

Why does there have to be a special word for it? Never understood that!

Doylers · 26-03-2016 08:03PM

Dickie10 wrote: »

really ? i just wonder how many guys are like that?there usually prob the lads that dont get much shifting action or the rest and when they do they hang to her and are not on the scene anymore. i think im in this rut so long even though i get shifting action that i dont know if i could sustain a relationship because it is rooted in my rountine

Im in my early 20s and I never go out looking for a shift. Now saying that one of my friends do and I can't comprehend it. Why does one go out with the sole intention of getting the 'shift'? Were not 13 anymore you go out to have a few with friends and maybe you chat to someone but like the idea of shifting someone drunk doesn't do it for me its like whats the point tbh

armaghlad · 26-03-2016 08:44PM

Doylers wrote: »

Im in my early 20s and I never go out looking for a shift. Now saying that one of my friends do and I can't comprehend it. Why does one go out with the sole intention of getting the 'shift'? Were not 13 anymore you go out to have a few with friends and maybe you chat to someone but like the idea of shifting someone drunk doesn't do it for me its like whats the point tbh

Because some men like women and in what other setting do you get to approach women with the possibility of a shift (or more), a bit of craic and maybe a potential partner? It's called *socialising* !

26-03-2016 09:06PM

armaghlad wrote: »

Because some men like women and in what other setting do you get to approach women with the possibility of a shift (or more), a bit of craic and maybe a potential partner? It's called *socialising* !

But hoping to get a kiss doesn't have to be your sole purpose in going to the pub. You go out with your friends and have a bit if craic. If you get chatting with a girl then great but if not it's still possible to have a good night.

Pawwed Rig · 26-03-2016 11:42PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

But hoping to get a kiss doesn't have to be your sole purpose in going to the pub. You go out with your friends and have a bit if craic. If you get chatting with a girl then great but if not it's still possible to have a good night.

To be fair when I was 19 or 20 the over riding goal of most nights out was girls*. The only time we entered a niteclub was in that pursuit.
Without generalising I would guess alot of immature horny lads would be the same.

*usually with a spectacular lack of success.

astonaidan · 27-03-2016 03:07PM

Mister Vain wrote: »

Yeah I certainly wasn't doing it to enjoy the banging choons or the drunken fights outside supermacs. As a young lad in rural Ireland it was pretty much the only way to meet women at the time. But there were times when I thought to myself "what the hell am I doing here?"

Same as, go out for a hour on friday with my friend play a few games of darts the go home, im happy with it

cantdecide · 01-04-2016 10:49PM

I'm asking out a girl from work on Tuesday coming. It may be a minor diplomatic incident if she says no but I doubt it will go so badly even if it's a negative answer. Either way, I have to know- I'll regret it forever if I don't ask- she's just too awesome and I'll regret it 1000 times more if I don't say something.

Le gulp!

TheBiz · 03-04-2016 08:27PM

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

To be fair when I was 19 or 20 the over riding goal of most nights out was girls*. The only time we entered a niteclub was in that pursuit.
Without generalising I would guess alot of immature horny lads would be the same.

*usually with a spectacular lack of success.

Accurate.
Funny enough the only time I've ever gotten a girls number to keep in contact was a girl I started chatting to in the chipper after an incredibly anticlimactic night.

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