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Best way to meet someone offline

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  • #32
    Penny Dreadful
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,041 ✭✭✭Penny Dreadful


    SarahMollie wrote: »
    THB - it woundnt be my first choice of places to look, because personally I need my own space and don't think it would agree with me to see someone all day and then again in the evenings. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that.

    Granted it works for some people, but I'd always say to make sure its someone you really like if you go for it. .

    It depends on where you work and how big the organisation is. I met my husband at work, there are over 2500 employees here. We moved in together and got married and I was expecting our first baby when he changed to a different job.
    In some ways it is nicer that we don't work in exactly the same place but overall it didn't make any major difference. We have totally different jobs and never overlapped in a work sense. We also made a deliberate decision not to have coffee breaks or lunch breaks together either so when we got home in the evening it was nice to see each other as we'd been apart all day.
    Some other couples here at work spend all of their free time together, coffee breaks, lunch breaks, travel to and from work together, etc. That woldn't be for me but it seems to work for them.


  • #33
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 53,068 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    syklops wrote: »
    I'd be the exact opposite.

    Don't get me wrong, you'd want to be full sure you both knew what it was and that you were walking away with just slightly more pep in your step the next day and no desire to take it anywhere else. With a "relationship" in work you've no idea where or when it might end so that could get messy very very quickly IMO.

    Each to their own though of course, and many a couple met through work and lived happily ever after, so it works for some. I would just be one to avoid such a thing if possible.

    There have been of course many intentional one night stand that turned into more too :)


  • #34
    SarahMollie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,841 ✭✭✭SarahMollie


    Penny Dreadful wrote: »
    It depends on where you work and how big the organisation is. I met my husband at work, there are over 2500 employees here. We moved in together and got married and I was expecting our first baby when he changed to a different job.
    In some ways it is nicer that we don't work in exactly the same place but overall it didn't make any major difference. We have totally different jobs and never overlapped in a work sense. We also made a deliberate decision not to have coffee breaks or lunch breaks together either so when we got home in the evening it was nice to see each other as we'd been apart all day.
    Some other couples here at work spend all of their free time together, coffee breaks, lunch breaks, travel to and from work together, etc. That woldn't be for me but it seems to work for them.

    True of course, different ppl handle it differently. The couple in my office sit less than ten yards apart and hang around each other constantly. In previous jobs I've seen examples of both.

    There was another annoying couple in my last job. They girl used to have lunch with a group of us (about 6 girls used to go for lunch together every day). Needless to say we were quickly dropped like hot potatoes, and on the rare occasion she came for lunch, she'd only talk about him, and some of it was TMI, because he's my colleague also. One day she told us (totally unprompted) that sometimes Ben likes to be the little spoon.

    I nearly lost my lunch.


  • #35
    SarahMollie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,841 ✭✭✭SarahMollie


    beks101 wrote: »

    Stay open-minded. My best mate is with her OH a year, a guy she's known for at least a decade and just never even thought about in that way. He chased her, she gave it a shot for the hell of it and she's never been happier. Don't write people off even if they don't seem like 'your type' without giving them a decent chance :)

    This x1000

    I've a friend who is single and I'm convinced its because she writes people off too easily. She comes up with reasons to say no, yet claims to desperately want a relationship. I think you have to give ppl a chance, you never know how things will work out.


  • #36
    Everlong1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,211 ✭✭✭Everlong1


    Don't know if anyone has mentioned this already, but I would hugely recommend Meetup.com

    Yes, it is an online organisation but it's not a dating site as such. There are meet up groups for every interest and age group under the sun and you're guaranteed to meet lovely people with a genuine common interest. Some of these people will be looking to meet a partner and you can take advantage of that or leave it as you see fit.

    I myself have been on the market for some time now and have met some lovely people through meet ups. Some I've dated but I've also made plenty of platonic friends.


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  • #37
    Everlong1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,211 ✭✭✭Everlong1


    SarahMollie wrote: »
    One day she told us (totally unprompted) that sometimes Ben likes to be the little spoon.

    I'm no virgin, and I'm familiar with the overall concept of "spooning" as in cuddling up to your beloved under the sheets...but I have no idea what this means.


  • #38
    Maximus Alexander
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,080 ✭✭✭✭Maximus Alexander


    I've a number of friends who've had great success with Plenty of Fish (couple of long term relationships). With regard to offline, the only thing for it is to pick up some social hobbies.

    There must be something that you've thought in the back of your mind "I'd like to [learn to do / do more of] that". Well, you can! Maybe you think archery is cool and want to try it, maybe you're secretly into skateboarding, perhaps badminton is your thing, or a drama club, or football, tag rugby, hiking, running, basket weaving, Dungeons & Dragons, I dunno. But the best way to meet a partner is to meet new people over a shared interest - so get out there and do new stuff. ;)


  • #39
    osarusan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,971 ✭✭✭✭osarusan


    Everlong1 wrote: »
    I'm no virgin, and I'm familiar with the overall concept of "spooning" as in cuddling up to your beloved under the sheets...but I have no idea what this means.
    The little spoon is the one who is being held by the other.

    EDIT: (I think, but if she 'nearly lost her lunch', maybe not?)


  • #40
    SarahMollie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,841 ✭✭✭SarahMollie


    Everlong1 wrote: »
    I'm no virgin, and I'm familiar with the overall concept of "spooning" as in cuddling up to your beloved under the sheets...but I have no idea what this means.

    LOL :D

    Its nothing graphic, just cuddling, but I suppose its customary for the girl to be little spoon (the one being cuddled) as normally smaller/shorter etc, and the man being the big spoon (the one doing the cuddling) as its seen as manly and protective.

    I was just saying that she'd come out with all this stuff about her BF that would be grand if I didnt know him, but then I'd have to work with him myself later on, and to be honest, I just didnt want to know about their spooning preferences!

    *there were many other examples of this, but this one just stuck out to be on account of it being quite ridiculous.


  • #41
    Maximus Alexander
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,080 ✭✭✭✭Maximus Alexander


    I like to be the little spoon sometimes. Nothing wrong with that, sure we're all equal.


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  • #42
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 53,068 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I always like to be the little spoon.

    Unless I'm hungover and have no human spoons, then my dog gets to be the little spoon.


  • #43
    SarahMollie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,841 ✭✭✭SarahMollie


    Maximus Alexander wrote: »
    I like to be the little spoon sometimes. Nothing wrong with that.

    Absolutely grand, but in a professional context, I don't want to know!

    Also, there was quite the height differential with this pair, she was only about 5'3, and he's over 6ft, so the whole logistics of it all are just ridic.


  • #44
    SarahMollie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,841 ✭✭✭SarahMollie


    osarusan wrote: »
    The little spoon is the one who is being held by the other.

    EDIT: (I think, but if she 'nearly lost her lunch', maybe not?)

    Occasionally prone to Hyperbole :)


  • #45
    Saipanne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,882 ✭✭✭Saipanne


    thattequilagirl wrote: »
    Right guys, I'm 27/F, and just moved home after six years abroad. I've done the whole Tinder thing and other online options, but I'm wondering what is the best way to meet someone the old fashioned way? My four best friends are two couples in long-term relationships, so when we go out it's not an 'on the pull' scenario.

    I'd really like to meet someone but just not sure how to go about it. Maybe a new hobby?

    Join an amateur theatre group?


  • #46
    121 Gigawatts!?
    Closed Accounts Posts: 33 ✭121 Gigawatts!?


    Any PM's yet OP?


  • #47
    beks101
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,802 ✭✭✭beks101


    I think everyone should get the experience of being the little spoon. It's awesome.

    I love spoonage


  • #48
    maudgonner
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,455 ✭✭✭maudgonner


    The Backwards Man wrote: »
    Do they still do the personal ads in the Farmer's Journal?

    Three words for you.

    Knock. Marriage. Bureau.


  • #49
    ScumLord
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,787 ✭✭✭✭ScumLord


    beks101 wrote: »
    I think everyone should get the experience of being the little spoon. It's awesome.

    I love spoonage
    What about spatulas, where do they fit in?


  • #50
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 53,068 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    ScumLord wrote: »
    What about spatulas, where do they fit in?

    Depends on the size of the spatula ;)


  • #51
    ScumLord
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,787 ✭✭✭✭ScumLord


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Depends on the size of the spatula ;)
    It's long and flat, and slightly frazzled at the end. You know, spatula shaped.


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  • #52
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 53,068 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    ScumLord wrote: »
    It's long and flat, and slightly frazzled at the end. You know, spatula shaped.

    I didn't say what shape! I said what size silly!


  • #53
    Maximus Alexander
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,080 ✭✭✭✭Maximus Alexander


    I like to be the big spatula.


  • #54
    Kevhog1988
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,448 ✭✭✭Kevhog1988


    Im also 27 and im looking at moving home soon. Ill be joining macra for the craic anyway. No pressure to pull at that and sure if you strike up a thing with someone they might even have road frontage!!


  • #55
    syklops
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,966 ✭✭✭✭syklops


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Don't get me wrong, you'd want to be full sure you both knew what it was and that you were walking away with just slightly more pep in your step the next day and no desire to take it anywhere else. With a "relationship" in work you've no idea where or when it might end so that could get messy very very quickly IMO.

    Each to their own though of course, and many a couple met through work and lived happily ever after, so it works for some. I would just be one to avoid such a thing if possible.

    There have been of course many intentional one night stand that turned into more too :)

    You are right of course but I have seen more one night stands become awkward over time than couples who dated for a while and it never went anywhere. Maybe both scenarios are basically mine fields.


  • #56
    yeppydeppy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,168 ✭✭✭yeppydeppy


    Amature drama - there are groups all over the country and it's not all actors they are looking for, they need back stage managers, lighting people, set people, costume people, all sorts - plus it's usually great crack.
    That's how I met my mine.


  • #57
    Saipanne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,882 ✭✭✭Saipanne


    beks101 wrote: »
    I think everyone should get the experience of being the little spoon. It's awesome.

    I love spoonage

    I'm six foot four and 16 stone, even when I'm the little spoon, I'm the big spoon.


  • #58
    syklops
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,966 ✭✭✭✭syklops


    Saipanne wrote: »
    I'm six foot four and 16 stone, even when I'm the little spoon, I'm the big spoon.

    Same.


  • #59
    misstearheus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,151 ✭✭✭misstearheus


    I may just have googled Knock Marriage Bureau, someone kill me now. :pac: They won't be getting 170quid off me anyway! O.P. how about Speed-dating?

    Has any Boardsies met their Hubbies/Wives from Speed-dating?


  • #60
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 2,732 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Deleted User wrote: »
    I always like to be the little spoon.

    Unless I'm hungover and have no human spoons, then my dog gets to be the little spoon.

    Doesn't spooning also become forking? :pac:


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  • #61
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 53,068 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Doesn't spooning also become forking? :pac:

    Well we're both girls, so I doubt it.

    Not really into the whole bestiality thing now myself but whatever you're into like.


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