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Best way to meet someone offline

  • 12-01-2016 10:54AM
    #1
    thattequilagirl
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    Right guys, I'm 27/F, and just moved home after six years abroad. I've done the whole Tinder thing and other online options, but I'm wondering what is the best way to meet someone the old fashioned way? My four best friends are two couples in long-term relationships, so when we go out it's not an 'on the pull' scenario.

    I'd really like to meet someone but just not sure how to go about it. Maybe a new hobby?


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  • #2
    me_irl
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    Well, not being online would be the main thing.

    But really? Join a local class in <insert interest here>.


  • #3
    magicmushroom
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 824 ✭✭✭magicmushroom


    Yep. Def sounds like a cliché but joining clubs etc really is the only way to do it!

    You can meet guys in bars as you know, but it's unlikely to result in more than a drunken snog...no thanks! :p

    I met one of my best friends through a 'gig buddy' type thing and I also made friends through going to my local running club.
    I also went to a few hiking days and met new people there.


  • #4
    Menas
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    Become former supermodel and marry a billionaire like Jerry Hall?


  • #5
    [Deleted User]
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    Have you tried Tinder in airplane mode


  • #6
    [Deleted User]
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    Deleted User wrote: »
    Have you tried Tinder in airplane mode

    :pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac:

    I laughed way too hard at this :pac:


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  • #7
    EndaHonesty
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    thattequilagirl wrote: »
    Right guys, I'm 27/F, and just moved home after six years abroad. I've done the whole Tinder thing and other online options, but I'm wondering what is the best way to meet someone the old fashioned way? My four best friends are two couples in long-term relationships, so when we go out it's not an 'on the pull' scenario.

    I'd really like to meet someone but just not sure how to go about it. Maybe a new hobby?

    In my opinion online is the best way to meet potential partners.
    It's a numbers game though, so you might have to meet a lot of people before you meet a good match.

    I think that hill-walking festivals are a good way too though.
    There always seems to be a good number of single people, and in my experience hill-walking attracts decent people.

    There's a good hill-walking festival in Tipperary at the end of the month, the Glen of Aherlow Winter Walking Festival.

    http://www.galteewalkingclub.ie/winterfestival.html

    So you can get some exercise, see interesting parts of the country, and potentially meet the guy/girl of your dreams... :)


  • #8
    Mr Freeze
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,618 ✭✭✭Mr Freeze


    thattequilagirl wrote: »
    I'd really like to meet someone but just not sure how to go about it. Maybe a new hobby?

    Join a running or a cycling club (if you are into that kind of thing).

    Go to local races and the teas and snacks afterwards. Plenty of people there, easy to break the ice too, ye all did the race. Running clubs might be the better option, more people than cycling clubs usually.


  • #9
    SarahMollie
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    thattequilagirl wrote: »
    Right guys, I'm 27/F, and just moved home after six years abroad. I've done the whole Tinder thing and other online options, but I'm wondering what is the best way to meet someone the old fashioned way? My four best friends are two couples in long-term relationships, so when we go out it's not an 'on the pull' scenario.

    I'd really like to meet someone but just not sure how to go about it. Maybe a new hobby?

    This is tough. We have this situation in our friendship group. As well intentioned as we are, those of us in coupled make crap wing women.

    I know you've said you tried Tinder, but I've heard of a lot more success using POF (including personally, going out with himself over 2 years now )

    New hobby is always a good thing, or maybe volunteering?


  • #10
    syklops
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    thattequilagirl wrote: »
    Right guys, I'm 27/F, and just moved home after six years abroad. I've done the whole Tinder thing and other online options, but I'm wondering what is the best way to meet someone the old fashioned way? My four best friends are two couples in long-term relationships, so when we go out it's not an 'on the pull' scenario.

    I'd really like to meet someone but just not sure how to go about it. Maybe a new hobby?

    An on the pull scenario really only works for 1 night stands. If you are looking for a meaningful relationship with a future, avoid that type of scenario like the plague. I met my partner in work. Anyone you fancy there?


  • #11
    thattequilagirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,158 ✭✭✭thattequilagirl


    syklops wrote: »
    An on the pull scenario really only works for 1 night stands. If you are looking for a meaningful relationship with a future, avoid that type of scenario like the plague. I met my partner in work. Anyone you fancy there?

    Starting a new job Thursday - here's hoping!


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  • #12
    SarahMollie
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    syklops wrote: »
    An on the pull scenario really only works for 1 night stands. If you are looking for a meaningful relationship with a future, avoid that type of scenario like the plague. I met my partner in work. Anyone you fancy there?

    Note of caution on this one. Not that its not an absolutely viable way to meet someone (if you work somewhere with lots of nice men) but in my office, two of the newbies who joined about 8 months ago got together on their training course. They're both well liked as individuals, but I know their coupley behavior in the office at times rubs people up the wrong way (they're oblivious). They had a bit of a domestic at the christmas party, which was at least hilarious for everyone else so I suppose there is some upside! Also, they're now looking at moving in together so will essentially be together 24/7 - I honestly don't know what they'll have left to talk about.

    Dont be that girl!


  • #13
    Figbiscuithead
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    I've met boyfriends on nights out in pubs and also through friends of friends, house parties. Plenty of people meet their partners on nights out - some have more luck than others...like anything, really.


  • #14
    121 Gigawatts!?
    Closed Accounts Posts: 33 ✭121 Gigawatts!?


    I find gigs are good for meeting people too. Everyone is in a good mood and all there to see the same band. Theres a common interest there to break the ice.


  • #15
    syklops
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    SarahMollie wrote: »
    Dont be that girl!

    By "Dont be that girl", I assume you mean, don't be that nauseating lovey-dovey couple.


  • #16
    SarahMollie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,841 ✭✭✭SarahMollie


    syklops wrote: »
    By "Dont be that girl", I assume you mean, don't be that nauseating lovey-dovey couple.

    Oh yes! I didnt want to say don't be that couple, as there is no BF yet :)


  • #17
    syklops
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    SarahMollie wrote: »
    Oh yes! I didnt want to say don't be that couple, as there is no BF yet :)

    Ok, because it sounded like you were saying don't look for a partner in work.


  • #18
    SarahMollie
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    syklops wrote: »
    Ok, because it sounded like you were saying don't look for a partner in work.

    THB - it woundnt be my first choice of places to look, because personally I need my own space and don't think it would agree with me to see someone all day and then again in the evenings. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that.

    Granted it works for some people, but I'd always say to make sure its someone you really like if you go for it. In my last job, there was a girl who dated 4 successive lads in our office and after a while it just looked like a bit of a pattern, and not great for her. Other work relationships, the people didn't have such "form" for dating in the office were looked on more favorably I think.

    Anyway, ramble over, but basically I think if you're going to date in work (or make said dating public knowledge) then you'd want to really like them and think the relationship stood a decent chance.


  • #19
    The Backwards Man
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    Do they still do the personal ads in the Farmer's Journal?


  • #20
    [Deleted User]
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    syklops wrote: »
    An on the pull scenario really only works for 1 night stands.

    "on the pull" if you're looking for a 1 night stand.

    I know people who have met in the pub/in a nightclub who are married or getting married or in long term happy relationships.

    I would be very hesitant about getting together with someone for work for more than a one night stand.


  • #21
    biko
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    Join a computer club.


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  • #22
    whiskeyman
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    I joined a font enthusiasts club and met someone special.

















    She's just my type


  • #23
    SarahMollie
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    The Backwards Man wrote: »
    Do they still do the personal ads in the Farmer's Journal?

    You could take a day trip with some friends to the Ploughing Championships in the summer! Plenty of eligible bachelors I'd say, and it sounds like a hilarious day out, something random and different if you're used to being a city dweller.


  • #24
    biko
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    The Lisdoonvarna Matchmaking Festival is on in September.


  • #25
    Pac1Man
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    whiskeyman wrote: »
    I joined a font enthusiasts club and met someone special.

    Was that Lucida? I heard she was bold.


  • #26
    syklops
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    Deleted User wrote: »
    I would be very hesitant about getting together with someone for work for more than a one night stand.

    I'd be the exact opposite.


  • #27
    [Deleted User]
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    thattequilagirl wrote: »
    I'd really like to meet someone but just not sure how to go about it. Maybe a new hobby?

    I guess it would depend on what makes you - you. I got into my current relationship - and also a lot of my current friendships - by starting pre-gig meet up groups for the music I liked.

    And I did that because I wanted to - not expressly as a way to meet girls.

    I know people who met online - and people off line - I know people who met in pubs and night clubs - I even know of two people who met in a car crash they had! It can happen anywhere any time.

    So what makes you YOU - what do you actually _like_ doing or seeing or engaging with?


  • #28
    UrbanSprawl
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    121 Gigawatts!? wrote: »
    I find gigs are good for meeting people too. Everyone is in a good mood and all there to see the same band. Theres a common interest there to break the ice.

    gigonometry com :cool:


  • #29
    c_man
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    The Backwards Man wrote: »
    Do they still do the personal ads in the Farmer's Journal?

    OP should also check out the personals on Aertel.


  • #30
    beks101
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    Start training for a marathon/half-marathon/10k/triathlon and join a training support group. Friend of mine set up a Tough Mudder training group via Craigslist and met her OH there, they're together years.

    Ask your coupled up mates if they have any nice single friends. Or to invite you along to any nights out with their other mates they might be having.

    Go to everything. Say yes to every invite you get. There'll probably be lots of opportunities with the new job. Go to all the work do's and drinks and nights out and once you're comfortable, organize a few of your own. Befriend everyone.

    Any New Years resolutions like to get fit or learn a new language? Start an evening class.

    Become more active socially. Meet up with your mates as often as possible, follow up on that coffee you've been promising with that girl/guy for bloody years. Most of my exes I met through friends, once you're socially engaged you just never know when a house party will crop up or a trip away or night out or friend of a friend walks through the door and bob's yer uncle.

    Stay open-minded. My best mate is with her OH a year, a guy she's known for at least a decade and just never even thought about in that way. He chased her, she gave it a shot for the hell of it and she's never been happier. Don't write people off even if they don't seem like 'your type' without giving them a decent chance :)


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  • #31
    King George VI
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    thattequilagirl wrote: »
    Right guys, I'm 27/F, and just moved home after six years abroad. I've done the whole Tinder thing and other online options, but I'm wondering what is the best way to meet someone the old fashioned way? My four best friends are two couples in long-term relationships, so when we go out it's not an 'on the pull' scenario.

    I'd really like to meet someone but just not sure how to go about it. Maybe a new hobby?

    I dunno, I met my SO in a pub while pissed off my head. But I've had no problem meeting women in non-drinking scenarios before. I've gotten dates just by striking up a conversation with the cashier at the supermarket or something like that. Once you're confident and don't seem too eager people become pretty receptive to you.

    Take up a hobby, go out with your coupled friends and see what other friends they have, start yoga, go to gigs, wait patiently at the airport for men who's terminal 2 proposal failed, stalk your ex, buy one online from middle-east Asia. All of those things are good.


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