Christmas can be hard

pickarooney · 24-12-2015 06:53AM

No flights to Ireland in the winter is a major downer. I wouldn't go every year but I do miss having the choice.

kneemos · 24-12-2015 07:18AM

iamstop wrote: »

Just be glad you're not spending this Christmas alone in Winnipeg like I am.

https://img.ie/image/jx8

If that link works, good. If not, yeah, it's going to be about -15C on the 25th and about -21C on the 26th.

Goodnight...

Whenever you look at an American city (I know) they always have colossal housing estates with featureless row after row of grid pattern houses,seldom see a park or any sort of amenities.Do you ever end up on the wrong street?
Also will the Red River freeze over?

Clampdown · 24-12-2015 07:44AM

Well you can either be lonely or fight with your family. That's your options. Which is why alcohol sales at this time of year are sky high.

Armchair Andy · 24-12-2015 07:58AM

This thread is fuchin depressing.

24-12-2015 08:27AM

LeinsterDub wrote: »

Is there a condensed version?

Kristopherus wrote: »

OP, is that a sermon, or a rant??????

leavingirl wrote: »

Moan moan moan. Move to a country where christmas is not celebrated then.

After a few years your thread will start like 'Ramadan can be hard'..

Armchair Andy wrote: »

This thread is fuchin depressing.

Mod

If you can't judge the tone of a thread you might want to take a break from the Internet.

The 'don't be a dick' rule applies in this forum.

Diamond Doll · 24-12-2015 09:12AM

Christmas Eve morning and I'm still undecided about going home for Christmas.

It's going to be so depressing either way.

If I stay in Dublin, I get to see my son for a couple of hours tomorrow, but I'll be alone the rest of the day.

If I go home to my family in Sligo, I'll just feel like sh*t because their grandson won't be with me.

I want to stay in Dublin, but I know my family will worry about me. And I guess it would mean it would be the first Christmas ever where all of us aren't there. So I feel obliged to go. Definitely don't feel up for the drive, so I guess I should really book a train. Meh.

Still have to do my Christmas shopping too.

Very unmerry Christmas for me. It's going to be sh*t whatever I decide to do.

Menas · 24-12-2015 09:16AM

Diamond Doll wrote: »

Christmas Eve morning and I'm still undecided about going home for Christmas.

It's going to be so depressing either way.

If I stay in Dublin, I get to see my son for a couple of hours tomorrow, but I'll be alone the rest of the day.

If I go home to my family in Sligo, I'll just feel like sh*t because their grandson won't be with me.

I want to stay in Dublin, but I know my family will worry about me. And I guess it would mean it would be the first Christmas ever where all of us aren't there. So I feel obliged to go. Definitely don't feel up for the drive, so I guess I should really book a train. Meh.

Still have to do my Christmas shopping too.

Very unmerry Christmas for me. It's going to be sh*t whatever I decide to do.

Do whatever pleases YOU most DD. Good luck.:)

ASoberThought · 24-12-2015 09:19AM

I'm completely alone this Christmas and it's a beautiful thing. Nothing to get fussed about other than having a shower and then going to an Indian restaurant tomorrow

whatismyname · 24-12-2015 09:19AM

Diamond Doll wrote: »

Christmas Eve morning and I'm still undecided about going home for Christmas.

It's going to be so depressing either way.

If I stay in Dublin, I get to see my son for a couple of hours tomorrow, but I'll be alone the rest of the day.

If I go home to my family in Sligo, I'll just feel like sh*t because their grandson won't be with me.

I want to stay in Dublin, but I know my family will worry about me. And I guess it would mean it would be the first Christmas ever where all of us aren't there. So I feel obliged to go. Definitely don't feel up for the drive, so I guess I should really book a train. Meh.

Still have to do my Christmas shopping too.

Very unmerry Christmas for me. It's going to be sh*t whatever I decide to do.

Hey Diamond Doll

Sorry it's so tough. I hope it works out as best it can in the circumstances.

I'm not gonna start with the 'It's just another day' crap, cos realistically it's not, when you're faced with the above.

But I hope that you can make the best of the situation, and who knows, that hopefully it's maybe even better than you expect.

I hate that you feel obliged to be there, as it'll be the first xmas everyone isn't. I felt the same for years, and when I finally decided to put myself first and not do something mainly cos I felt obliged to, I felt better for it overall, but it was a very tough decision to take, so I know this is complicated.

Wishing you all the best for the period, Diamond Doll.

I do hope that it's better than you expect - but if it's not, we'll have to look on the bright side, and remember that at least there'll be another 12 months before we've gotta do it again

whatismyname · 24-12-2015 09:21AM

Menas wrote: »

Do whatever pleases YOU most DD. Good luck.:)

Definitely agree, Menas.

So much expectations on people this time of year, but overall I think we'd be better if more people could do this

Happy Christmas Menas.

LowOdour · 24-12-2015 09:22AM

Diamond Doll wrote: »

Christmas Eve morning and I'm still undecided about going home for Christmas.

It's going to be so depressing either way.

If I stay in Dublin, I get to see my son for a couple of hours tomorrow, but I'll be alone the rest of the day.

If I go home to my family in Sligo, I'll just feel like sh*t because their grandson won't be with me.

I want to stay in Dublin, but I know my family will worry about me. And I guess it would mean it would be the first Christmas ever where all of us aren't there. So I feel obliged to go. Definitely don't feel up for the drive, so I guess I should really book a train. Meh.

Still have to do my Christmas shopping too.

Very unmerry Christmas for me. It's going to be sh*t whatever I decide to do.

Is it possible to see your son early in the morning and drive down to Sligo aftrwards? Its a prety crap situation to be in

Hemerodrome · 24-12-2015 09:24AM

Ally Dick wrote: »

Is your mother in her favourite rocking chair Norman ?

I think his mother is Angela Merkel.

whatismyname · 24-12-2015 09:58AM

LowOdour wrote: »

Is it possible to see your son early in the morning and drive down to Sligo aftrwards? Its a prety crap situation to be in

Good thinking!

esforum · 24-12-2015 10:20AM

Graces7 wrote: »

It is what you make of your situation.

Last year a mother and father woke up on Christmas morning, went to wake their 2 year old son for pressies. He had died of cot death.

Tell them to buck up tomorrow morning when they celebrate that anniversary.

MPFGLB · 24-12-2015 12:10PM

LowOdour wrote: »

Is it possible to see your son early in the morning and drive down to Sligo aftrwards? Its a prety crap situation to be in

Good idea ...Roads are usually pretty empty on Christmas Day
If you left at about 12pm you could be there in plenty time

But agree you must do what is right for you....there is too much expectation of people to be seen to be in a certain place and doing a certain thing

If you don't go will the others have a worse time ?? You could Skype or phone etc

My friend has to spend it with her in laws who she cannot stand ...well her husband insists ...thus she hates Christmas ...she would love to be alone with a bottle of wine and a good movie...she doesn;t even want to be with the husband ...I guess he wants all the Christmas razz a ma taz but she wants to just do nothing

FalconGirl · 24-12-2015 12:17PM

esforum wrote: »

Last year a mother and father woke up on Christmas morning, went to wake their 2 year old son for pressies. He had died of cot death.

Tell them to buck up tomorrow morning when they celebrate that anniversary.

That is truly heartbreaking.

JustTheOne · 24-12-2015 12:21PM

I don't get it, all I hear is Christmas is the best time of the year.

Then I keep reading these posts on Facebook and boards moaning its a hard time of the year.

Make up your minds people!!

MPFGLB · 24-12-2015 12:22PM

JustTheOne wrote: »

I don't get it, all I hear is Christmas is the best time of the year.

Then I keep reading these posts on Facebook and boards moaning its a hard time of the year.

Make up your minds people!!

Its the best of times ...its the worst of times

Sam Kade · 24-12-2015 12:33PM

Bongalongherb wrote: »

I understand folk worried about being alone on christmas, but seriously ? I'm sitting here on my own with the wind howling outside with a few beers all on my lonesome, and do you know what ?... It's deadly... No-one to annoy you while you are wrapped up in super-speaker ear-phones with muffles, Yes I said muffles, those big ones, It's just like sticking one Angela Merkel flumletty on each ear perfectly spongy and I must add comfortable.

Christmas can be hard if you allow yourself to feel this way, it's what you make it. I'm basically a hermit and I removed myself slightly from society for the last few months and it's great. no ass-holes in your ear or crying, just put those big Angela Merkel earphones on each ear and play the most beautiful music you can find and fcuk the world of robots.

No matter where you are, no matter who you are, I want you to get those earphones or if you have no earphones just get up and stand up and say........ where's my fcuking earphones at the top of your voice out the window...

Those earphones will fcuk up your hearing eventually, then you'll wish you could hear someone's moaning in your ear.

whatismyname · 24-12-2015 12:53PM

FalconGirl wrote: »

That is truly heartbreaking.

Agreed. Unimaginable.

Diamond Doll · 24-12-2015 01:22PM

LowOdour wrote: »

Is it possible to see your son early in the morning and drive down to Sligo aftrwards? Its a prety crap situation to be in

Can't drive because I seem to have the beginnings of an eye infection in both eyes. I also think I have a chest infection and throat infection but can't see the doctor until next week. Oh and my ear is starting to feel dodgy too.

Anyways I just rang my mum and told her I'm not coming home. She was upset, possibly crying I think but I'm not sure. She offered to come up to Dublin to spend the day with me but I told her not to (I've a big family, they all need her there more than I do, who else would cook the turkey!)

At least I'll see my son, I've his presents all wrapped up and ready to go, and now at least I won't have any regrets about not seeing him on his second Christmas.

I know if I went home, I'd have a crap time and feel really guilty afterwards about not seeing him.

Hokuto · 24-12-2015 01:27PM

I don't like Christmas. I just want to avoid people tbh. Funnily enough I don't mind tuning in to that Christmas radio station...makes me drift off to sleep. The forced cheeriness gets me.

MPFGLB · 24-12-2015 01:41PM

Diamond Doll wrote: »

Can't drive because I seem to have the beginnings of an eye infection in both eyes. I also think I have a chest infection and throat infection but can't see the doctor until next week. Oh and my ear is starting to feel dodgy too.

Anyways I just rang my mum and told her I'm not coming home. She was upset, possibly crying I think but I'm not sure. She offered to come up to Dublin to spend the day with me but I told her not to (I've a big family, they all need her there more than I do, who else would cook the turkey!)

At least I'll see my son, I've his presents all wrapped up and ready to go, and now at least I won't have any regrets about not seeing him on his second Christmas. I know if I went home, I'd have a crap time and feel really guilty afterwards about not seeing him.

I am sorry to hear you are unwell

Take care of yourself and I hope you have a great time with your son.
I am sure your mother just want you to be happy .....so have a happy Christmas

Torricelli · 24-12-2015 04:33PM

To paraphrase Homer Simpson - Christmas, it is the best of times, it is the blurst of times.

Haven't talked to my Dad in about 7 or 8 years after a falling out. I think about him every single day and all those great childhood memories spent with him. It's even harder around Christmas. I miss him a lot.

hairyslug · 24-12-2015 05:06PM

I collected my dads ashes today, I'm struggling to put on a happy face for tomorrow

Diamond Doll · 24-12-2015 05:08PM

hairyslug wrote: »

I collected my dads ashes today, I'm struggling to put on a happy face for tomorrow

My sympathies x

donegaLroad · 24-12-2015 05:27PM

Eugene Norman wrote: »

Yes. We need another big festival end of Jan.

Then the days get longer so we're grand.

the Temple Bar trad festival is on at the end of January.. might shorten the winter

esforum · 24-12-2015 05:40PM

This thread reminds me of............

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whatismyname · 24-12-2015 05:59PM

hairyslug wrote: »

I collected my dads ashes today, I'm struggling to put on a happy face for tomorrow

So sorry for your loss Hairyslug

mad m · 24-12-2015 06:24PM

hairyslug wrote: »

I collected my dads ashes today, I'm struggling to put on a happy face for tomorrow

Very sorry to hear that, puts in perspective me losing 300 euro during week, haven't a clue how I lost it but its gone now....

Christmas can be hard

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