House Guest Stealing Food

R.D. aka MR.D · 15-12-2015 08:08AM #1

Ok, AH, what's your opinion?

So, I just waved off a house guest. He is a friend of my OH and I don't like him very much (he's a bit of a scab, never has money when it's time to pay the taxi, forgets his wallet blah blah blah).

Anyway, he stole some of our food. Now, I normally wouldn't be too cut up about it but it was special food because we are living in Asia and it's something you can't get here. He claims that he planned to replace it but doing so would cost about 70euro because it would have to come from Amazon US. There is no way that he wouldn't know that.

My OH is like 'whatever, no big deal' but I think it's really ****ty.

I purposely didn't say 'help yourself' or any of the stuff I would usually tell guests because he is such a scab. He drank my coffee but I don't mind about that, i'll buy more at the shop 5 mins down the road.

Anyway, what do you all think? Okay or not okay behaviour?

Or do you have any house guest stories that are worse? (it'll make me feel better)

Rachiee · 15-12-2015 08:20AM

Did he eat it while staying in the house? Did he it the whole thing or just half the packet? Or did he stuff it in his bag when he was leaving.
Either way It's pretty poor form to be honest no matter where I stay ( unless it's my parents) I'd never just help myself to the contents of someone else's fridge.
If you guys are living in Asia and it's like an Irish product he really should have known better and if he saw it and was craving it like mad could have asked.
Honestly I wouldn't even take my housemates 20c noodles from Tesco without asking. But then that'd just how I was brought up maybe in his house that kind of stuff was never a big deal.
Seriously though what was it?

R.D. aka MR.D · 15-12-2015 08:27AM

Rachiee wrote: »

Did he eat it while staying in the house? Did he it the whole thing or just half the packet? Or did he stuff it in his bag when he was leaving.

If you guys are living in Asia and it's like an Irish product he really should have known better and if he saw it and was craving it like mad could have asked.

Seriously though what was it?

It was American sweets that my OH's mum sent for Halloween that we were saving to eat on Xmas. ::o

He has been living in Asia too so if he was craving it I could understand but he was visiting here before leaving to go home back to NA. He will literally have anything he wants at his fingertips in 24hrs! :mad:

Hemerodrome · 15-12-2015 08:32AM

I doubt he appreciated the significance of the sweets and they probably seemed to be free to eat if they were at hand rather than stashed away.

SeantheMan · 15-12-2015 08:32AM

R.D. aka MR.D wrote: »

It was American sweets that my OH's mum sent for Halloween that we were saving to eat on Xmas. ::o

He has been living in Asia too so if he was craving it I could understand but he was visiting here before leaving to go home back to NA. He will literally have anything he wants at his fingertips in 24hrs! :mad:

Call him out on it, you have to tell him about it so it doesn't happen in future.
Especially if he's planning to return to Asia and continue living with you.

But....if he's going home for good...just bite you lip for the sake of your OH...and think of it as the price you paid to get rid of him for good.

Either way it's a crap thing to do on his part.

Rachiee · 15-12-2015 08:34AM

Yeah if he's American and has been living there he really should have known how special they were. No matter how bad I wanted something I wouldnt just help myself !! And I have serious self control issues with food, And if I did I'd be so mortified I wouldn't mind paying the 70 Euro !! did he eat them all?

I hate Reeses but if they were Mike and Ikes I'd be devastated

wyndham · 15-12-2015 08:35AM

Get over it. He's saved you some calories and tooth decay.

stoneill · 15-12-2015 08:35AM

Ooohhh look at me, I'm in Asia and I have food.

Arbiter of Good Taste · 15-12-2015 08:37AM

Hemerodrome wrote: »

I doubt he appreciated the significance of the sweets and they probably seemed to be free to eat if they were at hand rather than stashed away.

Irrelevant. You don't start raiding people's cupboards when staying with them. When I stay with people for more than a few days I tend to go out to the supermarket and at least make dinner for them one night. It's only good manners.

R.D. aka MR.D · 15-12-2015 08:47AM

Hemerodrome wrote: »

I doubt he appreciated the significance of the sweets and they probably seemed to be free to eat if they were at hand rather than stashed away.

They were stashed away at the very back of a high cupboard. He literally had to be snooping in the presses (as my mammy says) to have even seen them.

jamesbere · 15-12-2015 08:47AM

Shoot him and be done with it.

Hemerodrome · 15-12-2015 08:48AM

Arbiter of Good Taste wrote: »

Irrelevant. You don't start raiding people's cupboards when staying with them. When I stay with people for more than a few days I tend to go out to the supermarket and at least make dinner for them one night. It's only good manners.

Not at all irrelevant and nobody raided the cupboard, he ate a few sweets.

Samaris · 15-12-2015 08:48AM

Yeah, I'm with the "that's a fairly ignorant thing to do" group. Especially taking something 'special' and hard to get like that. I'd be pretty aggravated at him as well.

If it was a once in a way thing from a friend who might have been thoughtless once, sure, I wouldn't humiliate them or think on it again, but sounds like this guy has a bit of a pattern of this sort of thing.

postitnote · 15-12-2015 08:48AM

Living in student halls a good number of years ago, there was one fella in our corridor who always helped himself to whatever was going in the fridge in the kitchen. He especially liked the fruit juices when he was stoned.

After getting together with the other students on our floor, it was decided that i'd get some apple juice, pour half of it out, piss in it and put it back in the fridge.

While it didn't stop him from stealing stuff in future, finding an almost empty carton of 'apple' juice in the morning was one of the most rewarding passive-aggressive things i've ever done.

Basically, piss over your food.

That'll learn em.

kneemos · 15-12-2015 08:52AM

My only experience of American sweets is a Hersey Bar I bought in Dunnes many years ago.
It was a bitter and unpleasant experience.

Tarzana2 · 15-12-2015 08:54AM

If your OH replaces the food, let it go and think twice about having him to stay again! Just come up with some excuse.

5rtytry56 · 15-12-2015 08:56AM

Time to hand this houseguest a lump of coal as a Christmas Present? Wrap it up well in loadsvof glossy wrapping paper. His hands are already soiled in your own book.

:pac:

Arbiter of Good Taste · 15-12-2015 08:56AM

Hemerodrome wrote: »

Not at all irrelevant and nobody raided the cupboard, he ate a few sweets.

Read the OP's latest post. The sweets were hidden away

stimpson · 15-12-2015 08:59AM

Stash a kilo of heroin in his suitcase when he leaves for the airport. He won't bother you again.

Eugene Norman · 15-12-2015 09:25AM

I feel guilty about the time I took some milk for tea at my sisters house now.

sonny.knowles · 15-12-2015 09:29AM

postitnote wrote: »

Living in student halls a good number of years ago, there was one fella in our corridor who always helped himself to whatever was going in the fridge in the kitchen. He especially liked the fruit juices when he was stoned.

After getting together with the other students on our floor, it was decided that i'd get some apple juice, pour half of it out, piss in it and put it back in the fridge.

While it didn't stop him from stealing stuff in future, finding an almost empty carton of 'apple' juice in the morning was one of the most rewarding passive-aggressive things i've ever done.

Basically, piss over your food.

That'll learn em.

Did this once, but it was crunchy nut corn flakes that the flat mate was stealing.

Insect Overlord · 15-12-2015 09:36AM

I know the feeling, OP. One of my housemates likes to help himself to food that doesn't belong to him.

I had half a plate of home-made chicken goujons robbed with the excuse that "they would go rotten if nobody ate them" (even though they'd only been cooked a few hours).

Then he took a big helping of home-made soup.

The worst was when (twice) he took the chicken from a bowl of pasta bake. Most normal people would at least take a portion of the pasta and vegetables, but this freak just picked out the chicken and then put the lid back on the bowl to hide it! :mad: TWICE!!! :mad:

Arbiter of Good Taste · 15-12-2015 09:45AM

An File wrote: »

I know the feeling, OP. One of my housemates likes to help himself to food that doesn't belong to him.

I had half a plate of home-made chicken goujons robbed with the excuse that "they would go rotten if nobody ate them" (even though they'd only been cooked a few hours).

Then he took a big helping of home-made soup.

The worst was when (twice) he took the chicken from a bowl of pasta bake. Most normal people would at least take a portion of the pasta and vegetables, but this freak just picked out the chicken and then put the lid back on the bowl to hide it! :mad: TWICE!!! :mad:

Some people should not be allowed out in the community

recylingbin · 15-12-2015 09:48AM

I'm worried about your hosting skills if the poor lad had to go scavenging for grub tbh op.

Hammer89 · 15-12-2015 09:55AM

R.D. aka MR.D wrote: »

They were stashed away at the very back of a high cupboard. He literally had to be snooping in the presses (as my mammy says) to have even seen them.

Have you considered the possibility that your OH got a bit of a sweet tooth during the night and just blamed it on this unruly house guest, hence why she does not want you to confront him.

Had you went into the kitchen at 4am you would've seen something resembling Sister Assumpta during the Lent episode in Father Ted.

_Brian · 15-12-2015 09:55AM

We ha a regular houseguest , a relation, and he treated our house like crap. He would eat like a pig, mess everywhere, take huge portions and leave little for the rest of us.

Now he's just not welcome, was explained to his mrs that he wasn't welcome any more.

Some people are just ignorant and will abuse hospitality offered to them. Your better without this guest.

Vic_08 · 15-12-2015 10:00AM

An File wrote: »

I know the feeling, OP. One of my housemates likes to help himself to food that doesn't belong to him.

I had half a plate of home-made chicken goujons robbed with the excuse that "they would go rotten if nobody ate them" (even though they'd only been cooked a few hours).

Then he took a big helping of home-made soup.

The worst was when (twice) he took the chicken from a bowl of pasta bake. Most normal people would at least take a portion of the pasta and vegetables, but this freak just picked out the chicken and then put the lid back on the bowl to hide it! :mad: TWICE!!! :mad:

Some would say that treating constipation is the primary use for laxatives but they are wrong, it is to teach these sorts of people manners.

Eugene Norman · 15-12-2015 10:22AM

Mi casa mi casa is the rule in Ireland.

Eugene Norman · 15-12-2015 10:28AM

We'll be having house guests for Christmas and they're welcome to the (fully stocked) fridge. I mean I hope nobody eats the turkey (unlikely as they'd have to cook it first) on Christmas Eve but the stock of food beer and wine is available for all.

Stops me having to make sandwiches in fact. Make your own. Mi casa tu casa.

Arbiter of Good Taste · 15-12-2015 11:25AM

recylingbin wrote: »

I'm worried about your hosting skills if the poor lad had to go scavenging for grub tbh op.

So you believe staying at someone's home FOR FREE entitles you to do what you want/take what you want?

Do you find you are generally not invited back?

melissak · 15-12-2015 11:30AM

R.D. aka MR.D wrote: »

It was American sweets that my OH's mum sent for Halloween that we were saving to eat on Xmas. ::o

He has been living in Asia too so if he was craving it I could understand but he was visiting here before leaving to go home back to NA. He will literally have anything he wants at his fingertips in 24hrs! :mad:

That's just rude. When I read first post I thought it was regular food in which case it wouldn't bother me but if it was something specific you were saving up that was a novelty from home he is a tool. When I lived in Thailand a friend brought over a multiple of cheese and onion tayou a nd if someone ate them all without asking if would have flipped

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