Drinking on your wedding day

c_man · 02-12-2015 11:52AM #1

What do you guys think of the bride and groom drinking on their wedding day? Proper drinking I mean. Seems like it's inviting trouble to me.

Having never been married myself (yet :eek: ), I sometimes wonder well is the marriage consummated that night or not. If you think about it, it's a long, stressful and exhausting day. Then you pile on a load of drink (not saying every couple does it, but a lot*) and keep it going til 4 or 5 in the morning. Would you not be wrecked? Or even if you get it on, it's not gonna be a stellar performance.

Also, I think it'd be a shame to forget parts of the day. Friend was at one recently, said the groom had to be helped to the altar after having a feed of pints and brandy in the morning "to calm his nerves". Another one, his brother (groom) spilled a fine big pint of stout on his shirt at a pit stop en-route to the church.

Penn · 02-12-2015 11:56AM

Nothing wrong with the main drinks (champagne at reception, wine at dinner etc). But outside of that, best to go real slow drinking until after the band have gone and guests start leaving. You tend to be far too busy going from table to table talking to guests, or guests coming up to you, making sure things are happening as they should, out dancing etc. Add too much drink into the mix and you're asking for a world of hurt.

Once the DJ kicks in and the residents bar starts coming into view, (jager)bombs away!

biko · 02-12-2015 11:57AM

They are hopefully both of adult age and can make their own decisions.
That said I've never been to a wedding where there was drink taken until the reception. That's how we roll where I'm from.

aaronjumper · 02-12-2015 11:58AM

I think they should save the sessions for when they have been married for forty years and can't stand the sight of each other. :pac:

A drink or two is to be expected, I don't think an outright session would be a good idea.
Their wedding though, as long as you're not the one causing havoc let them at it.

dinorebel · 02-12-2015 11:59AM

Couldn't of got married without it to be honest.

c_man · 02-12-2015 12:01PM

biko wrote: »

They are hopefully both of adult age and can make their own decisions.

aaronjumper wrote: »

Their wedding though, as long as you're not the one causing havoc let them at it.

Lads in fairness, I'm not proposing some Stasi-esque government sponsored crackdown on couples drinking!

LDN_Irish · 02-12-2015 12:02PM

I arrived with my best man and he went straight to the bar to get a pint. I drank water until handed a glass of champagne after the ceremony. Then abstained until the dinner and sipped pints throughout the night. Penn is right above, it passed in a blur but not due to drink. Due to the fact that you are spending 5 mins with everyone in the venue just going from person to person and being handed things and then on to the next person.

Turtyturd · 02-12-2015 12:04PM

Surely you have to question if you are making the right choice when you need a few drinks to go through with it.

Vandango · 02-12-2015 12:05PM

c_man wrote: »

What do you guys think of the bride and groom drinking on their wedding day?

If they're stupid enough to get married, then drinking on their wedding day is the least of their worries.

Duggy747 · 02-12-2015 12:08PM

Do the sensible thing and stick to coke.

A couple of lines of it, anyways.

Joe Exotic · 02-12-2015 12:09PM

I got bought a load of drinks so when anyway asked up until the residents bar I simply asked for a long neck bottle of beer.

Nothing worse than seeing a bride or groom totally ****ed at their wedding

Avatar MIA · 02-12-2015 12:09PM

Consummation of marriage no longer a bid deal considering the amount of practice that's the norm now before hand.

Stress wise I think the best man has the worst job of the day. But, drinks before the wedding for the groom, really ?!?

After reception and fire away.

hairyslug · 02-12-2015 12:10PM

I was absolutely gee eyed at my wedding, the registrar threatened to cancel cause she saw me drinking whiskey at 11 in the morning, got into rounds of shots later on in the night and a massive amount of the night is a blur (which I do regret)

I also regret not organising a proper babysitter for the next day,

aaronjumper · 02-12-2015 12:11PM

c_man wrote: »

Lads in fairness, I'm not proposing some Stasi-esque government sponsored crackdown on couples drinking!

I know, I was talking in general terms of being at weddings where the happy couple has decided to start early.
If it was me I'd want to wait, I think it's a good idea but I wouldn't worry about what other people do.

Maybe if I have coffee I'll be understood.

SAMTALK · 02-12-2015 12:13PM

Of course have a few drinks. Think bride and groom deserve it after all the stress of getting everything ready and the cost:eek:.
I wouldnt agree with having drinks before the ceremony though..imagine the hangover hitting in at reception!!!!

helimachoptor · 02-12-2015 12:17PM

abotu 4 years ago we were at a wedding, my wifes friend ( the groom) always a big drinker..

Day before the wedding, the brides dad died
Wedding went ahead
At the wedding, he had to be put to bed at half 11 he was so hammered
Got back up at 1 and chased the wife around to say he was sorry
next day drove across the country for the funeral...

At my wedding, he fell asleep in the urinal trough :eek:

c_man · 02-12-2015 12:20PM

Turtyturd wrote: »

Surely you have to question if you are making the right choice when you need a few drinks to go through with it.

Jim Lahey: "I'm going to let the liquor do the thinking"

Ciderswigger · 02-12-2015 12:20PM

c_man wrote: »

I sometimes wonder well is the marriage consummated that night or not. If you think about it, it's a long, stressful and exhausting day. Then you pile on a load of drink (not saying every couple does it, but a lot*) and keep it going til 4 or 5 in the morning. Would you not be wrecked? Or even if you get it on, it's not gonna be a stellar performance.

2 of my best fiends got married this year (not to each other, separate weddings) and neither of the couples had sex that night. One couple barely drank at all (nerves, full after the meal, too busy dancing and chatting) and the other had a few drinks, nothing major but both said that they were just too wrecked. It wasn't just the women though, the lads were knackered and were happy to crash too. I don't think consummation on the night really matters anymore.

padd b1975 · 02-12-2015 12:20PM

helimachoptor wrote: »

abotu 4 years ago we were at a wedding, my wifes friend ( the groom) always a big drinker..

Day before the wedding, the brides dad died
Wedding went ahead
At the wedding, he had to be put to bed at half 11 he was so hammered
Got back up at 1 and chased the wife around to say he was sorry
next day drove across the country for the funeral...

At my wedding, he fell asleep in the urinal trough :eek:

Full time mad bastard :cool:

Menas · 02-12-2015 12:42PM

I had a fair few drinks at my wedding. But not drunk. When I have adrenelin in the system then drink does not seem to be affecting me as much. Tiredness was what put me to bed!

Avatar MIA · 02-12-2015 12:47PM

Menas wrote: »

When I have adrenelin in the system then drink does not seem to be affecting me as much.

Issh fine, nosh a bovver on me. Hates it (hiccup) when I can't get dr... dunk.

02-12-2015 01:05PM

Most brides and grooms (and their bridal parties) I know would have had few drinks getting ready in the morning and one or two after the ceremony at the stop off pub on the way to the reception then some champagne etc at the reception. Then just a slow few pints at the reception not getting drunk and then when the band is on for a while or when the DJ starts they can let loose a bit more and even more so at the residents bar. Never saw a bride or groom make a fool of themselves at a wedding due to drink.

At the end of the day it's your party what's the point if you an have be drinking during it once you pace yourself and don't get hammered.

KungPao · 02-12-2015 01:36PM

Alcoholism is so romantic.

suicide_circus · 02-12-2015 01:43PM

Marriage ha never scared me.

The prospect of the cringey wedding fills me with dread.

Jayop · 02-12-2015 01:47PM

A couple of brandys in the morning to settle the nerves then tipped away all day but didn't drink heavily till after 3am.i added it up and I had quite a bit to drink but it was one of those days you couldn't get drunk on.

Toto Wolfcastle · 02-12-2015 01:53PM

My dad made me two cocktails while I was getting ready and I had a mimosa too. I'm a serious lightweight when it comes to drinking but I think the excitement helped and I didn't even feel tipsy. I only had a couple of glasses of bubbly at the reception. People should do what they want but I think it would be a terrible pity to get so drunk that you can't remember the day or you make a fool of yourself. Nothing wrong with a few drinks though!

BMJD · 02-12-2015 01:54PM

We had a few throughout the day but nothing mad. Had a few packets of cripps out of the vending machine then went to bed. Saved the sexytime until the following day.

02-12-2015 01:57PM

Ciderswigger wrote: »

2 of my best fiends got married this year (not to each other, separate weddings) and neither of the couples had sex that night.

Christ...before I'd tell a friend about my sex life with my wife. Friends will talk about their sex life with women who are not their wives, but doesn't it break some I dunno...code to talk about sex with one's wife?

michellie · 02-12-2015 01:58PM

SAMTALK wrote: »

Of course have a few drinks. Think bride and groom deserve it after all the stress of getting everything ready and the cost:eek:.
I wouldnt agree with having drinks before the ceremony though..imagine the hangover hitting in at reception!!!!

This! I'm getting married in July(costing us a fortune) and I'm sure none of my guests will be judging me like some here. I won't be pissed as a fart but I will be having a few after the meal.

Feck off.

Irishcrx · 02-12-2015 02:09PM

Nothing wrong with drinking at your wedding , sure the majority have spend a mortgage deposit on it anyway - more fool them.

The money involved for one day is absolutely crazy , it's only stuff - most people would be happy if you got married and had a BBQ it's about the people/family not cause your friends wedding cost X so ours better cost Y. Always found it utter madness tbh.

Don't think I'll ever get married myself and I've always been upfront with people on that , girlfriends , family etc just not for me. Seen to many people in my life make the decision and go pearshaped.

Whatever about the girl having her day and all that , which is perfectly understandable...there's nothing in marriage for the lads really.

* Majority will pay for the wedding and cost them thousands.
* Have less sex for the rest of their lifes
* Get divorced
* Give the house to the wife
* Give their wages to the wife
* Live in a ****ty 1 bed apartment with no money for the rest of their life
* See their kids once or twice a week

Nah , not for me thinks. As said , above is not comments made in the extreme I've seen this happen to several people I know and they are miserable.

Marriage is more a social/family pressure these days than anything that it was originally meant to be, certainly very few doing it for religious reasons , more tax and financial. But as said , lads for very little to gain and literally the roof over their head to lose.

Geuze · 02-12-2015 02:20PM

As it was such a significant day in my life, I had no beer until midnight, just wine at dinner.

I felt that as it is a sacred, serious and life-changing event, it wouldn't be wise to risk spoiling the evening with excess alcohol.

I stuck to the Smithwick's ale after midnight, weak beer.

Drinking on your wedding day

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