How to understand females? Understand this first!

Skoop · 27-11-2015 09:03AM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3hmlPtRu1SQ

27-11-2015 09:53AM

Feeeeeemales

Figbiscuithead · 27-11-2015 10:32AM

Jesus christ! I don't recognise my experiences with female friendships in that article at all. True, I've befriended some out and out cows in my life but it's been so few I can count them on two fingers and I put an end to both, realising the harm they were doing me (one took longer to end than the other, unfortunately). Any sniff of that kind of behaviour and I'm gone. Thinking back now, my female friends have always had my back, even the ones that didn't last due to moving country, job etc. Maybe I'm just very good at spotting decent human beings and have enough sense to run when I notice a woman is telling me I'm fat and is trying to steal my boyfriend.

Women that seem to encounter these kinds of women again and again are similar to the women who seem to end up with bastards again and again and decide all men are bastards as a result. Either these women make the choice to stick around, even when they realise a woman doesn't have their best intentions at heart or they're more similar to these kinds of women than they think - in my experience, if you come across a nasty woman, you can be sure her friends are not the nicest either. Anyway, it's a load of ****e. I know some people take pleasure in reading these kinds of articles because they want to assume the worst in women (and men when men are the topic), but dickhead has no gender.

27-11-2015 11:13AM

Figbiscuithead wrote: »

dickhead has no gender.

This.

Azalea · 27-11-2015 11:22AM

Figbiscuithead wrote: »

Jesus christ! I don't recognise my experiences with female friendships in that article at all. True, I've befriended some out and out cows in my life but it's been so few I can count them on two fingers and I put an end to both, realising the harm they were doing me (one took longer to end than the other, unfortunately). Any sniff of that kind of behaviour and I'm gone. Thinking back now, my female friends have always had my back, even the ones that didn't last due to moving country, job etc. Maybe I'm just very good at spotting decent human beings and have enough sense to run when I notice a woman is telling me I'm fat and is trying to steal my boyfriend.

Women that seem to encounter these kinds of women again and again are similar to the women who seem to end up with bastards again and again and decide all men are bastards as a result. Either these women make the choice to stick around, even when they realise a woman doesn't have their best intentions at heart or they're more similar to these kinds of women than they think - in my experience, if you come across a nasty woman, you can be sure her friends are not the nicest either. Anyway, it's a load of ****e. I know some people take pleasure in reading these kinds of articles because they want to assume the worst in women (and men when men are the topic), but dickhead has no gender.

It's a well worn cliché but well worn because it's true: if you're finding constantly that SO many other people are dickheads, then perhaps it's time you examine your own character.

Dolbert · 27-11-2015 01:04PM

Azalea wrote: »

It's a well worn cliché but well worn because it's true: if you're finding constantly that SO many other people are dickheads, then perhaps it's time you examine your own character.

"I'm only friends with guys, girls are suuuuch bitches" - said exclusively by bitches

27-11-2015 01:09PM

Feckin' wimmen.

I have nothing else to say, because I didn't want to read the article, but still wanted to fit in. So do we hate them or love them? Someone please tell me how I should feel.

the evasion_kid · 27-11-2015 01:16PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Feckin' wimmen.

I have nothing else to say, because I didn't want to read the article, but still wanted to fit in. So do we hate them or love them? Someone please tell me how I should feel.

love them......but hate the gun they're holding in their hand

Azalea · 27-11-2015 01:18PM

Dolbert wrote: »

"I'm only friends with guys, girls are suuuuch bitches" - said exclusively by bitches

... who seem to be unaware of their own genitalia, or irony.

valoren · 27-11-2015 01:19PM

Sismance?

Really?

Bromance. Yes I get that as a portmanteau.

Sismance?

GTFO

Huntergonzo · 27-11-2015 01:22PM

What was the point of that article? Basically all I got was we can have good friends to you know and we also tend to know the names of our friends parents, seemed like a lot of words just for that.

beks101 · 27-11-2015 03:08PM

Christ. I think some people like the author of this article are just perpetual teenagers who never grow out of their own prejudices and unconsciously seek out the people that will prove them right time and again.

I see no difference between my female friendships and my OH and his male friendships, except that maybe we talk about different things. We catch up every so often because it's important to make the effort, we laugh and vent and moan and support each other and sometimes we outgrow each other because such is life.

I hate when people take normal things and twist and contort and exaggerate them through their own prejudiced prism so they sound exclusively like vagina things as oppose to human things. It does bloody nothing for the feminist cause and is probably why the F bomb has become a dirty word these days.

Figbiscuithead · 27-11-2015 03:13PM

Huntergonzo wrote: »

What was the point of that article? Basically all I got was we can have good friends to you know and we also tend to know the names of our friends parents, seemed like a lot of words just for that.

*Puts tongue in cheek* No you can't. Men are idiots and are only capable of relating with people on one level never mind remembering names! Leave the complicated human relations to the women, gentlemen and when I say complicated human relations I mean secretly wanting to gouge each others eyes out. *Takes tongue out of cheek*

Figbiscuithead · 27-11-2015 03:18PM

beks101 wrote: »

Christ. I think some people like the author of this article are just perpetual teenagers who never grow out of their own prejudices and unconsciously seek out the people that will prove them right time and again.

In the article she says, "The good news is that, as women get older, toxic, competitive relationships fall by the wayside. The ones left standing are the ones to cherish."

Ah right, so they grow up like both genders do and get a bit of cop on. Surprise surprise.

maudgonner · 27-11-2015 03:30PM

beks101 wrote: »

Christ. I think some people like the author of this article are just perpetual teenagers who never grow out of their own prejudices and unconsciously seek out the people that will prove them right time and again.

I see no difference between my female friendships and my OH and his male friendships, except that maybe we talk about different things. We catch up every so often because it's important to make the effort, we laugh and vent and moan and support each other and sometimes we outgrow each other because such is life.

I hate when people take normal things and twist and contort and exaggerate them through their own prejudiced prism so they sound exclusively like vagina things as oppose to human things. It does bloody nothing for the feminist cause and is probably why the F bomb has become a dirty word these days.

Thanks beks101, could not have put that better myself.

Huntergonzo · 27-11-2015 03:40PM

Figbiscuithead wrote: »

*Puts tongue in cheek* No you can't. Men are idiots and are only capable of relating with people on one level never mind remembering names! Leave the complicated human relations to the women, gentlemen and when I say complicated human relations I mean secretly wanting to gouge each others eyes out. *Takes tongue out of cheek*

You don't need to put tongue in cheek, men are idiots, trust me I know, I am one.

DEFTLEFTHAND · 27-11-2015 03:56PM

It's not a big deal that there's differences between men and women, it doesn't mean one gender is superior to the other. Don't be ashamed of your femininity or masculinity.

27-11-2015 04:16PM

beks101 wrote: »

I see no difference between my female friendships and my OH and his male friendships, except that maybe we talk about different things.

Yeah - I have found myself the only way to understand the opposite sex is to stop seeing sex and start seeing individuals. And then you find out you understand them just fine. Or at least as fine as we as a species EVER do when understanding another person.

I think the "understand the opposite sex" is a self perpetuating myth. Because we genuinely do have trouble connecting with and understanding other individuals. So when you take a fallacious route to understanding them - such as viewing them by what sex they are - you will fail to understand them.

Then what that does in the mind is say "I tried to understand this man/woman in terms of them being a man/woman - crap I just do not understand men/women".

And then we ramify this in each other by confirming it to each other. One goes down the pub and moans to mates "I just do not understand women lads - I just don't get them" to nods of approval and confirmation from the peers.

The failure is not in understanding the opposite sex however. The failure is trying to understand other individuals in your life - through fallacious generics like sex. Or race. Or creed. Yet we as a species do it so readily.

TheLastMohican · 27-11-2015 04:46PM

Since everybody nowdays is gender fluid - flitting psychologically between one sex and the other - surely we should be able to understand people of our own sex one day and the opposite sex the next day/week/month.

To be honest, I don't believe in this all-too-agreeable virtue signalling. Wherever I came from ....... I'm male and I understand men better than I understand women. But I could not marry/sleep with a fella, so there's the crux! Women can have almost intimate friendship with women but I don't think a hetero man can with men. The nature of the beast, I guess.
The balance of nature probably. If the world was exclusively full of either self replicating females or males ............. the struggle for gene advancement would still flourish, generally by violent means.

Hammer89 · 27-11-2015 07:30PM

Yakkyda wrote: »

Wanna hug?!?

Are you a woman? If so, as soon as I go for the hug you'll probably call the police. I know your game and I'm not playing.

How to understand females? Understand this first!

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