biggest regrets?

steddyeddy · 23-11-2015 01:55AM #1

I was reading about the biggest death bed regrets people have and the same ones come up again and again. Most of them revolve around spending more time with family or telling someone they love them. I think I'll regret the things I didn't do more than the ones I did. What regrets do you have in life?

I suppose mine is not telling that friend I loved her. Years ago now but I sometimes think it would do me good to get it off my chest.

Biggest regrets and what you intend to do about it?

NIMAN · 23-11-2015 01:56AM

Surely if you're alive and wondering what regrets you'll have on your death bed, you could do something about it now, so you won't have those regrets?

Medusa22 · 23-11-2015 01:57AM

I've made a lot of mistakes in my life, but there is really nothing that I would change because they brought me to where I am now and they have made me the person that I am now so I don't have any regrets.

kneemos · 23-11-2015 01:59AM

Medusa22 wrote: »

I've made a lot of mistakes in my life, but there is really nothing that I would change because they brought me to where I am now and they have made me the person that I am now so I don't have any regrets.

But if you did change you'd say the same?

steddyeddy · 23-11-2015 02:00AM

NIMAN wrote: »

Surely if you're alive and wondering what regrets you'll have on your death bed, you could do something about it now, so you won't have those regrets?

Yea true N. OP edited with my regret

ElleEm · 23-11-2015 02:00AM

I was very sick for quite a while and I regretted loads of things (not being more social, slow career progession, stressing out, not having hobbies, etc.). Then I got better and am now living the life I want, filled with the things I missed out on for so long.

matchthis · 23-11-2015 02:01AM

Not replying to this thread

Medusa22 · 23-11-2015 02:01AM

kneemos wrote: »

But if you did change you'd say the same?

Yes, but I wouldn't be the same person.

steddyeddy · 23-11-2015 02:03AM

What you think guys. Should I tell my friend how I felt?

. We live in different countries now and don't feel as strong but I'd like to get it off my chest.

kneemos · 23-11-2015 02:04AM

Medusa22 wrote: »

Yes, but I wouldn't be the same person.

You'd be a different person,but wouldn't know the present person.So you'd be happy with that person and wouldn't want to change.

the evasion_kid · 23-11-2015 02:05AM

Wasting some of my better days chasing the opposite sex or in relationships,time I'll never get back.

Gaygooner · 23-11-2015 02:06AM

Not Coming out a lot sooner

23-11-2015 02:06AM

steddyeddy wrote: »

What you think guys. Should I tell my friend how I felt? . We live in different countries now and don't feel as strong but I'd like to get it off my chest.

Tell her. If she's worth loving then she's worth telling, even at this stage.

Gaygooner · 23-11-2015 02:07AM

If you love somebody set them free, unless she's your daughter and your Austrian

Medusa22 · 23-11-2015 02:08AM

Candie wrote: »

Tell her. If she's worth loving then she's worth telling, even at this stage.

I'm with Candie on this one, but I'm probably the worst person to ask Eddy, I couldn't keep something like that to myself, I'd have to tell someone that I loved them.

23-11-2015 02:10AM

Medusa22 wrote: »

I'm with Candie on this one, but I'm probably the worst person to ask Eddy, I couldn't keep something like that to myself, I'd have to tell someone that I loved them.

Me too. I've sent a dozen I love you texts to family on the back of the sibling thread. If I think it, I say it. There's never a good reason not to tell people they're loved.

Medusa22 · 23-11-2015 02:14AM

kneemos wrote: »

You'd be a different person,but wouldn't know the present person.So you'd be happy with that person and wouldn't want to change.

You're making my brain hurt, maybe this other me wouldn't have ended up in this conversation with you, so maybe I should have regrets :pac:

Ah I understand what you're saying, yes, any other version of me would probably be unwilling to change anything either, but who knows who she could be? She could be a heroin addict for all I know, so I won't wonder about it.

The Sidewards Man · 23-11-2015 02:16AM

Not riding my first cousins years ago at her 21st, all the norm now.

Smidge · 23-11-2015 02:16AM

My biggest regret?
Not being braver.

masti123 · 23-11-2015 02:18AM

NIMAN wrote: »

Surely if you're alive and wondering what regrets you'll have on your death bed, you could do something about it now, so you won't have those regrets?

Easier said then done

23-11-2015 02:18AM

Smidge wrote: »

My biggest regret?
Not being braver.

You're plenty brave Smidge. I really mean that. Braver than I'll ever be.

fin12 · 23-11-2015 02:21AM

I feel like my whole life is a disaster, I cant get a good job because of crippling anxiety but even if I didn't have anxiety there is no career I want to do or feel I'm capable of doing, I feel like my whole life is on hold till I have a stable job, getting very depressed now because I'm getting older. I hate waking up in the morning. I have regrets and will have major regrets if I can't sort myself out.

Smidge · 23-11-2015 02:22AM

Candie wrote: »

You're plenty brave Smidge. I really mean that. Braver than I'll ever be.

Well feck...............now you have me all sappy and you know I hate lovey dovey

23-11-2015 02:23AM

Smidge wrote: »

Well feck...............now you have me all sappy and you know I hate lovey dovey

Ah jeez, you just can't tell anyone that they're one of those everyday heroes anymore without them getting all teary! Pull yourself together woman!

23-11-2015 02:25AM

fin12 wrote: »

I feel like my whole life is a disaster, I cant get a good job because of crippling anxiety but even if I didn't have anxiety there is no career I want to do or feel I'm capable of doing, I feel like my whole life is on hold till I have a stable job, getting very depressed now because I'm getting older. I hate waking up in the morning. I have regrets and will have major regrets if I can't sort myself out.

Medical advice is forbidden here for good reason, but I do hope you're getting help with this, you can be helped.

The Sidewards Man · 23-11-2015 02:26AM

Candie wrote: »

Medical advice is forbidden here for good reason, but I do hope you're getting help with this, you can be helped.

Good posts for a mod wannabe, keep it up.

Smidge · 23-11-2015 02:27AM

Candie wrote: »

Ah jeez, you just can't tell anyone that they're one of those everyday heroes anymore without them getting all teary! Pull yourself together woman!

I'm afraid the warm salty tears would melt my frosty exterior :pac:

eternal · 23-11-2015 02:28AM

Wasting time on the wrong people but you don't know that till it's too late, do you?

Smidge · 23-11-2015 02:30AM

fin12 wrote: »

I feel like my whole life is a disaster, I cant get a good job because of crippling anxiety but even if I didn't have anxiety there is no career I want to do or feel I'm capable of doing, I feel like my whole life is on hold till I have a stable job, getting very depressed now because I'm getting older. I hate waking up in the morning. I have regrets and will have major regrets if I can't sort myself out.

Excellent advice from Candie......
Ask for help, its out there for the taking. Anxiety is something that, until someone has lived with it it can be dismissed as "silliness" etc.
It SO isnt but the great thing about it is it doesn't need to control you and YOUR life. YOU can control it with help.
Don't wait......take control. You deserve more

Tarzana2 · 23-11-2015 02:30AM

I wish I had travelled more and had much more faith in my abilities.

23-11-2015 02:30AM

The Sidewards Man wrote: »

Good posts for a mod wannabe, keep it up.

One thing I'd never do is mod this place.

I wouldn't want to have to deal with the kind of poster who thinks being snide is hilarious, apart from anything else.

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