Crying

eternal · 15-11-2015 03:07AM

Deleted User wrote: »

Today was spent at the funeral of a friend who committed suicide during the week.

There were tears. From men, and from women.

Crying isn't a weakness. Everyone should cry if they need to cry.

I'm sorry for your loss.

eternal · 15-11-2015 03:15AM

I'm a writer and feel immense sadness often and cry a lot especially when I write. It's kind of cathartic I suppose but not the easiest to live with.

LETHAL LADY · 15-11-2015 03:23AM

Someone posted this on boards a while ago and I got very emotional reading it.

The Stolen Child by William Butler Yeats

WHERE dips the rocky highland
Of Sleuth Wood in the lake,
There lies a leafy island
Where flapping herons wake
The drowsy water rats;
There we've hid our faery vats,
Full of berrys
And of reddest stolen cherries.
Come away, O human child!
To the waters and the wild
With a faery, hand in hand,
For the world's more full of weeping than you can understand.

Where the wave of moonlight glosses
The dim gray sands with light,
Far off by furthest Rosses
We foot it all the night,
Weaving olden dances
Mingling hands and mingling glances
Till the moon has taken flight;
To and fro we leap
And chase the frothy bubbles,
While the world is full of troubles
And anxious in its sleep.
Come away, O human child!
To the waters and the wild
With a faery, hand in hand,
For the world's more full of weeping than you can understand.

Where the wandering water gushes
From the hills above Glen-Car,
In pools among the rushes
That scarce could bathe a star,
We seek for slumbering trout
And whispering in their ears
Give them unquiet dreams;
Leaning softly out
From ferns that drop their tears
Over the young streams.
Come away, O human child!
To the waters and the wild
With a faery, hand in hand,
For the world's more full of weeping than you can understand.

Away with us he's going,
The solemn-eyed:
He'll hear no more the lowing
Of the calves on the warm hillside
Or the kettle on the hob
Sing peace into his breast,
Or see the brown mice bob
Round and round the oatmeal chest.
For he comes, the human child,
To the waters and the wild
With a faery, hand in hand,
For the world's more full of weeping than he can understand.

KKkitty · 15-11-2015 03:24AM

Things happened to me growing up that shouldn't have happened. I lost my parents 13 months apart. 2 pregnancies in the same year that weren't meant to be. I became numb so so much. I went through a stage where I thought if I started crying I wouldn't stop.

eternal · 15-11-2015 03:28AM

Yeats was a fascinating poet. He was very involved in the Occult and there is a real sense of wonder and magic in his work.

Hammer89 · 15-11-2015 04:46AM

I remember being on public transport earlier in the year, not long after somebody very dear to me had died, and Everlong by The Foo Fighters happened to get shuffled on my phone. Suppressing tears is very difficult. I had to get off straight away, but the closer I got to the door, the harder it was to hold them in. You know the way when you're dying for a sh*t, and the urge gradually increases as you move closer to the toilet? That's what it was like. Suffice to say I hopped off, walked around for a minute with tears in my eyes, before finding a secluded spot to let it all out. I'm back to talking about crying now, by the way.

blackcard · 15-11-2015 04:47AM

eternal wrote: »

It's an example of expression, don't mean to intrude on the thread. I had and have lecturers I will always remember.

And those people are special, didn't really appreciate them at the time but I treasure them now

Robsweezie · 15-11-2015 08:03AM

Candie wrote:

People crying because of a bit of a disappointment, or because they were pulled up in work over something relatively trivial, I've no time for. Sort things out and behave professionally in a professional environment. Obvious exception for extreme or prolonged stress.

Tell that to poor Sandi thom

Optimalprimerib · 15-11-2015 08:24AM

My last proper bawl was when my dog died. i allocated the song bright eyes to her so for months i could cry en queue by singing a few verses of that.

Before that it would nearly have been primary school, where i was very sensitive and cried alot. in fact it was a source of bullying used by other kids.

I think that forced me to suppress my feelings, so when i was able to let them go, it was a sense of relief for me.

DEFTLEFTHAND · 15-11-2015 08:32AM

Even watching youtube vids of lions with their cubs stirs feels in me. I've had pet cats all my life and have cried anytime one of them died.

ERG89 · 15-11-2015 08:37AM

One of my first memories as a child was being left on my first day at school. No pre school for me.
I cried watching the Lion King when Mufasa died so did about 99% of the kids at the cinema.
I brought my niece to see Santa 2/3 years ago & I couldn't believe the amount of tears by all the kids taken to see him that day but my Mum said we'll you did the same thing when you were small

Growing up on a farm I still hate when a calf or a lamb dies. Just that moment when the mother tries to get them up & you know they're already gone. Even at 26 I often still struggle to keep my composure. I wouldn't cry about a job or now about college as I feel I have control over that.
I probably cry too much tbh. About stupid things I can't control.

Galwayguy35 · 15-11-2015 08:52AM

I cried twice as an adult when the parents died, I didn't like that it happened in public though and people saw me crying.

The first real grief I felt though was when I was 12 and my pet dog followed sheep and although he did nothing to them the farmer insisted he had to be shot.

The loss of a pet can feel just as bad as a person I think.

New Home · 15-11-2015 09:14AM

LETHAL LADY wrote: »

Someone posted this on boards a while ago and I got very emotional reading it.

The Stolen Child by William Butler Yeats

There's a Canadian singer/harpist/cellist, Loreena McKennitt, who put it to music - haunting, to say the least. I think that sharp edge in her voice here adds to it, in this version of the song.

She put a lot of poetry to music, another favourite of mine is her version of The Two Trees, again by Yeats.

And since we're getting neared to Christmas, you should also listen to
Dicken's Dublin

(It contains some of the same voices of the children of 'Give Up Yer Auld Sins' - I'm not sure who came across the material first

) - I always well up when I hear it...

Boom_Bap · 15-11-2015 10:06AM

My daughter is standing on a stool in front of me crying because she can't find the iPad. Snot everywhere.

A friend of mine died after battling cancer as last year. I never really cried or thought about crying when it happened, I think I was too involved making sure Mrs. Bap was OK. I was probably distracted by getting some charity stuff going and editing videos for charity nights.
One day recently, in my car, one of the songs that I used on one of the videos for my friend came on and I just lost it. I guess it was just bottled away somewhere for a few months.

Before that, it was funnily enough when another song came on, it was the first time I heard it since my father passed away. The lyrics meant so much more.

The only other times I can think of are death, childbirth and Forrest Gump.

osarusan · 15-11-2015 10:56AM

Kramer versus Kramer park scene after the custody battle has been lost, where the kid asks his dad if he can come home if he doesn't like living with his mother.

Later in the film when they make french toast again together.

DeanAustin · 15-11-2015 11:52AM

I'm not really a crier but when I read Gillian Treacy's victim impact statement a few weeks ago, I went to pieces. I've read it a couple of times since and cry every time. I guess having a son slightly younger than Ciaran brought home how powerless I could be to protect him.

It's a long time since something moved me so much.

Diamond Doll · 15-11-2015 11:58AM

I cry a lot, I guess, but then I've a lot to cry about. That sounds quite self-pitying. It's not, really, I just genuinely have a lot going on in my life, none of it very good.

I've managed to get to a stage where I mostly restrict the crying to my very regular GP/counsellor appointments. At this stage they just know to have tissues ready, and I don't even bother apologising for it any more.

God, I really would like for this horrible awful chapter of my life to be over, and the next chapter to begin, whatever that will entail.

Robsweezie · 15-11-2015 12:10PM

I didn't cry properly, but I felt a slight tear coming out watching educating yorkshire, when a lad with a stammer overcame it in front of an audience, a nerve wracking situation even without a stammer.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=CFXl27z5sIE

Fleawuss · 15-11-2015 12:18PM

When I heard the great news the morning of the marriage referendum vote. Relief and joy.

kenmccarthy · 15-11-2015 12:30PM

When Sonny Bill Williams gave his world cup rugby medal to that lad after winning the world cup.....brought a tear to the eye.... Legend! !!!!

I was in Paris for the prix in 2009 when "sea the stars" put all comers to the sword in last half furlong...........gotta admit the tears came!!!

Turtyturd · 15-11-2015 12:38PM

Trying to think of the last thing that really got to me and it was probably act 3 of this, when I heard it a few weeks ago.

http://m.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/379/return-to-the-scene-of-the-crime

Also left it playing in the car for my OH while I ran in and picked up our son from school and returned to her in tears.

The song in Act 2 is good to cheer you up though.

waraf · 15-11-2015 12:45PM

I shed a tear at the final whistle when Ireland beat England in Croke Park. I wasn't the only adult male crying in Croke Park that day either. Good times

KERSPLAT! · 15-11-2015 12:53PM

waraf wrote: »

I shed a tear at the final whistle when Ireland beat England in Croke Park. I wasn't the only adult male crying in Croke Park that day either. Good times

I had tears streaming when we won the Grand Slam

DrPhilG · 15-11-2015 02:04PM

Charlie19 wrote: »

If you don't cry after watching the movie 'Marley and me'

You're not human.

Watched that in the cinema, never seen a show take so long to empty out afterwards. Barely an arse moved from their seat during the credits as they were all too busy trying to compose themselves.

I don't think I could watch it again. First time was just a few months after we lost our golden lab and the whole show just brought it all back.

The Dogs Bollix · 15-11-2015 02:21PM

Woke up one night in the middle of August with terrible back pain. Couldn't turn or move, it took ages to try and get up out of bed. Cried that night i was in so much pain. Woke up every night for two months after feeling much the same.

That was sore, i was like a big baby crying most nights.

DrPhilG · 15-11-2015 02:29PM

DrPhilG wrote: »

Watched that in the cinema, never seen a show take so long to empty out afterwards. Barely an arse moved from their seat during the credits as they were all too busy trying to compose themselves.

I don't think I could watch it again. First time was just a few months after we lost our golden lab and the whole show just brought it all back.

PS, for any dog lovers.

Read this poem.

I'm struggling here...

Unknown wrote:

If it should be that I grow weak
And pain should keep me from my sleep;
Then you must do what must be done,
For this last battle can't be won.

You will be sad, I understand;
But don't let grief then stay your hand.
For this day more than all the rest,
Your love for me must stand the test.

We've had so many happy years;
What is to come can hold no fears.
You don't want me to suffer so
The time has come, please let me go.

Take me where my needs they'll tend,
But please stay with me 'til the end
To hold me close and speak to me
Until my eyes no longer see.

I know in time you will agree,
It was a kindness done for me.
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I'm saved.

Please do not grieve that it was you
Who had this painful thing to do.
We've been so close, we two, these years;
Don't let your heart hold any tears.

Samaris · 15-11-2015 03:23PM

I am a crier, and I hate it. I don't cry at pain, and I don't often cry when something awful happens to me personally. But I do cry when I'm given out to, and at times I've had to explain shakily that I'm really sorry, this isn't because I'm actually upset, it's a reaction I can't control.

It's mortifying. I wish it was a case of "cop the f*** on", but it's not. It's something I honestly cannot control and I really wish I could.

Mind you, the last time tears came to my eyes was Friday night at two points - one when I saw the tweet (unsubstantiated at the time) about how the hostages were being shot one-by-one. The second...was a girl; she looked to be either Spanish or French, sobbing her heart out outside the window. It wasn't the sort of usual drunk crying that we often get out there, it was absolute heartbroken sobbing. There was someone with her, or else I'd have gone down. I couldn't help but wonder at the time if she was from Paris.

xLisaBx · 15-11-2015 03:31PM

I'm a bit of a crier, every few months I need to cry in bed for no real reason to let it all out.
The last time I properly cried was during my college exams last year, and probably my Leaving Cert results after that (pure shock).
Babies, losing friends, bullying, movies- things like that never really bothered me.

Ave Sodalis · 15-11-2015 03:34PM

I used to never be a crier. However, because of that, now I am. I've always cried at sad movies though.

I have to cry when I hurt myself. If I don't, I have to make myself cry or I pass out. It's weird, embarrassing and really annoying.

AnonoBoy · 15-11-2015 03:36PM

Whitewinged wrote: »

I've never seen a man cry, not even at a funeral.

How is life in the 1950's going for you?

Crying

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